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Jobs/VacanciesRe: Graduate, OND And SSCE Recruitment In A Federal Establishment by ogzille(op): 6:37pm On Apr 09, 2016
Jobs/VacanciesGraduate, OND And SSCE Recruitment In A Federal Establishment by ogzille(op): 8:32am On Apr 09, 2016
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AutosRe: Inspiredautos Is Threatening My Life by ogzille(op): 8:09pm On Apr 02, 2016
ifyalways:
ogzille, how was this issue resolved ?
He later facilitated my trip to retrieve the backup. Subsequently, I had the backup sent to his office address.

I guess he took it up from there.

Thank you for checking up.
RomanceRe: Guy Drinking Yoghurt As Girlfriend Eats Fried Rice In Eatery by ogzille(m): 7:40am On Mar 31, 2016
It is funny how we judge people from a distance:

- He loves yoghurt and he is taking what he loves
- He is not hungry
- He has food at home
- He doesn't like eating out
- He has money for only one plate

Is it your businesshuh Abeg!
Jobs/VacanciesRe: First Bank Of Nigeria Is Recruiting Workers (picture) by ogzille(m): 11:01am On Mar 22, 2016
See the jobs here if you can't see the text on the image clearly:

http://www.myjobmag.com/readjob/23341/jobs/2016-recruitment-at-first-bank
AutosRe: Inspiredautos Is Threatening My Life by ogzille(op): 2:59pm On Mar 16, 2016
The backup CD has been delivered to InspiredAutos office - March 14, 2016
AutosRe: Inspiredautos Is Threatening My Life by ogzille(op): 3:14pm On Mar 12, 2016
lightheart:
There's still the threat with your family members' picture he has.

Then the Panti call thingy, are we supposed to assume you are not needed there again or false all along?

I'd advise you be careful in you dealings with this person.

It is well with you and yours.
Noted. Thank you.
AutosRe: Inspiredautos Is Threatening My Life by ogzille(op): 9:56am On Mar 12, 2016
Update on the topic:

Inspiredm seems to have been advised and eventually came down from his high horse.

He transferred N40,000 to facilitate my trip to enable me get his backup files.

I will do so for him and thereafter request for an address to send the CDs to.

That will be the last interaction with him.

tdikeh:
I notice the previous web designer is best value providers and the new developer is brandnaware, i guess the OP is the earlier.
The OP is just being bitter that his services were terminated and decided to pull a fast one knowing the foolish herd mentality that defines Nigerians.
And he guessed right, Nigerians never disappoint.
Bitter? Smh

Inspiredm is a threat and not a customer.

I am not losing a customer; I am losing a threat.
AutosRe: Inspiredautos Is Threatening My Life by ogzille(op): 9:51am On Mar 12, 2016
barapistis:
Can a nigerian be more foolish than this
I am really shocked too!
AutosRe: Inspiredautos Is Threatening My Life by ogzille(op): 9:50am On Mar 12, 2016
tdikeh:
And thats a crime ? Several other members still follow Inspiredm



This is a classic example of a myopic human being and so are many others on this forum

So because Inspiredm is no longer a member of a free & public forum means he has fallen from grace to grass ?

Same Inspiredm that flaunted almost 20m Naira Cash in Us Dollars as "Weekend spend money" last week in Houston Texas is on grass ?

https://www.instagram.com/p/BCQXWX7ClyE/?taken-by=inspiredautos

Go to Carmudi, Cheki, Jiji, Mobofree and see Inspired autos cars and adverts all over.

Dear Lord, I want to fall on that kind of grass.

People will continue to perish for lack of knowledge.
One word: foolishness!
AutosRe: Inspiredautos Is Threatening My Life by ogzille(op): 3:04pm On Mar 07, 2016
surrogatesng:
@OP whether inspitedm has been banned from Nairaland or not.He is still your client.Or do you want to join the band wagon of people against him.You do not even need to come here and open a thread to further dent his name.Go and do his job for him and go in peace Shikena
Naa! He did not pay me for any task I am yet to deliver.
AutosRe: Inspiredautos Is Threatening My Life by ogzille(op): 3:00pm On Mar 07, 2016
4everGod:
His case with Revlution has been sorted. However, he also tried this Panti approach with revlution but na my efcc connection shut am up...na beg he beg to settle everything.

OP You have absolutely nothing to fear when it comes to inspired..a toothless dogs bark is worse than his bite.

Get a lawyer or if you like I can give you my efcc lawyers contact and he will nail the bagger. Since he is threatening your life and you have it on record then thats all the proof you need.

4evergod aka naijadeyhia is at your disposal.

NB I will be needing your services for a website because I see u are pretty good. Pm me your rates
Thank you for the advice. I am waiting for his move of any sort. I will PM you.
AutosRe: Inspiredautos Is Threatening My Life by ogzille(op): 2:58pm On Mar 07, 2016
blank:
That fraudsteris a highly demonic personality.

Make sure you report him for threat to life.

Btw, you did a good job on his website.
Sure, will do. Thank you very much.
AutosRe: Inspiredautos Is Threatening My Life by ogzille(op): 3:47am On Mar 06, 2016
Thank you very much for your advice. Will do as advised and will keep the house posted.

This is really an eye opener for me.
AutosRe: Inspiredautos Is Threatening My Life by ogzille(op): 3:43am On Mar 06, 2016
Thank you very much for your feedback.

I will take the necessary steps as advised and I will update as he takes his next action.
AutosRe: Inspiredautos Is Threatening My Life by ogzille(op): 4:02pm On Mar 05, 2016
This number just 08137207459 called me telling me to come to Panti Yaba on Monday.

I asked what for and he didn't say a thing.

I asked for him name and he said "Don't worry" and cut the call.
AutosInspiredautos Is Threatening My Life by ogzille(op): 3:47pm On Mar 05, 2016
I developed Inspiredautos website and have been managing it for him since 2010/2011.
He pays N10,000 annually for the hosting and I never charge him any support fee.

Sometime last year, I took a business decision to decentralize my quasi hosting service to enable each customer own the root hosting accounts and make purchases from their offices if need be.

Inspiredm's website was billed to expire on February 02, 2016.

Three months before this date, I sent him email reminders informing him of the need to act fact before the expiry.

In the email, I told him that I intend shutting down our hosting service and offered him two options to enable him seamlessly move to a new host.

Option 1: Pay us the sum of N12,000 to cover for the internet cost for downloading and uploading several GB of data to a new host

OR

Option 2: Look for a developer to handle the migration for you.


He went for option 2.

I received an email requesting for details to enable him transfer. I sent him the website database and provided him with FTP details to transfer. Also, I pushed his domain to his new developer as requested.

After Feb 02, 2016, he was yet to move his files. As expected, the website went off.

He contacted me and after talks I offered to give him one month FREE extension after which the account will be cancelled to enable him work things out.

Afterwards, Inspiredm did not call me and surprisingly did not do anything about his website.

As expected again, the website went off by March 04, 2016 again. This time it was not reversible.

He called me again. I was very sad that he allowed the whole process linger without taking any action.

Luckily for him, I backup my whole server offline periodically (he doesn't pay for this. I use my resources). the last valid backup was in December 2015.

As usual I gave him the three options that are available:

1. Since, the backup is in another state. He may cool down when I travel, I will get it for him so he will not lose the files.

2. If he is in a hurry, he can finance my trip to enable me get it for him.

3. Develop another website (which I told him is not a good choice).

He chose Option 2 and said that we should work together. That we have been working in peace all along. He also requested for me to send him all it will cost to setup the website again.

Immediately, I went online to check hosting cost on Namecheap and flight ticket to the East.

After confirming prices, I sent him this:

1. Hosting account - N25,600 (An account will be created for him on Namecheap and payment made using his account).

2. Flight ticket on Aero / Arik (Return) - N40,000

3. My fee (time spent for travel, internet service to deal with the large upload and service charge to setup the website again) - N65,000

(1) and (2) above are actual prices so I expected him to negotiate (3).

What did I see next, curses and threats; saying that He will deal with ruthlessly.

I was shocked to say the least.

Where did I wrong this man??

- I have been loyal to you for 5 - 6 years with zero benefit
- You were informed and reminded (with records) that your account will expire.
- When your account expired, you begged and you were given a month grace.
- You did nothing and you lost your account.
- There is an offline database backup for you which you never paid for.
- You were given an option of being patient till I travel to reduce the cost for you.

Where did I wrong him?

If he is patient, my plan is to get the backup and give to him when I go for Easter break but he said he wants the website up and he wants me to do it right away.

I am willing to cancel all my engagements for Inspiredm yet, what I get is threat.

He went to Facebook to get the picture of my mother and sister saying they will suffer too.

All I kept on saying was " Seek knowledge, be wise " as I was shocked to my marrow.

This is really so petty coming from someone that claims to be classy.

Please, house advise me on what to do.
Please, Mods take to home page after verification if need be as someone needs to advise this guy.

Thank you.
AutosInspiredautos Is Threatening My Life by ogzille(op):
I developed Inspiredautos website and have been managing it for him since 2010/2011.
He pays N10,000 annually for the hosting and I never charge him any support fee.

Sometime last year, I took a business decision to decentralize my quasi hosting service to enable each customer own the root hosting accounts and make purchases from their offices if need be.

Inspiredm's website was billed to expire on February 02, 2016.

Three months before this date, I sent him email reminders informing him of the need to act fact before the expiry.

In the email, I told him that I intend shutting down our hosting service and offered him two options to enable him seamlessly move to a new host.

Option 1: Pay us the sum of N12,000 to cover for the internet cost for downloading and uploading several GB of data to a new host

OR

Option 2: Look for a developer to handle the migration for you.


He went for option 2.

I received an email requesting for details to enable him transfer. I sent him the website database and provided him with FTP details to transfer. Also, I pushed his domain to his new developer as requested.

After Feb 02, 2016, he was yet to move his files. As expected, the website went off.

He contacted me and after talks I offered to give him one month FREE extension after which the account will be cancelled to enable him work things out.

Afterwards, Inspiredm did not call me and surprisingly did not do anything about his website.

As expected again, the website went off by March 04, 2016 again. This time it was not reversible.

He called me again. I was very sad that he allowed the whole process linger without taking any action.

Luckily for him, I backup my whole server offline periodically (he doesn't pay for this. I use my resources). the last valid backup was in December 2015.

As usual I gave him the three options that are available:

1. Since, the backup is in another state. He may cool down when I travel, I will get it for him so he will not lose the files.

2. If he is in a hurry, he can finance my trip to enable me get it for him.

3. Develop another website (which I told him is not a good choice).

He chose Option 2 and said that we should work together. That we have been working in peace all along. He also requested for me to send him all it will cost to setup the website again.

Immediately, I went online to check hosting cost on Namecheap and flight ticket to the East.

After confirming prices, I sent him this:

1. Hosting account - N25,600 (An account will be created for him on Namecheap and payment made using his account).

2. Flight ticket on Aero / Arik (Return) - N40,000

3. My fee (time spent for travel, internet service to deal with the large upload and service charge to setup the website again) - N65,000

(1) and (2) above are actual prices so I expected him to negotiate (3).

What did I see next, curses and threats; saying that He will deal with ruthlessly.

I was shocked to say the least.

Where did I wrong this man??

- I have been loyal to you for 5 - 6 years with zero benefit
- You were informed and reminded (with records) that your account will expire.
- When your account expired, you begged and you were given a month grace.
- You did nothing and you lost your account.
- There is an offline database backup for you which you never paid for.
- You were given an option of being patient till I travel to reduce the cost for you.

Where did I wrong him?

If he is patient, my plan is to get the backup and give to him when I go for Easter break but he said he wants the website up and he wants me to do it right away.

I am willing to cancel all my engagements for Inspiredm yet, what I get is threat.

He went to Facebook to get the picture of my mother and sister saying they will suffer too.

All I kept on saying was " Seek knowledge, be wise " as I was shocked to my marrow.

This is really so petty coming from someone that claims to be classy.

Please, house advise me on what to do.
Please, Mods take to home page after verification if need be as someone needs to advise this guy.

Thank you.
BusinessRe: Naira Gains 30%, Sells For N250/dollar by ogzille(m): 10:51am On Feb 25, 2016
All these rise and fall seem to be so artificial. Even banks still bill at N299.60
CareerRe: Can Your Salary Ever Make You Wealthy? by ogzille(m): 9:21pm On Feb 15, 2016
LeksideOLM:
I heard this from a very rich man...

He said" your salary can never make you rich, it can only sustain you.is only what you invest with your salary that will be be left for you"...

You cannot be earning 500k per month nd be living a 50k salary earner lifestyle...
Or will a 500k earner will still be sitting on the street canteen to eat? Or neglect the latest designer in town? Never....

The more you earn or have, the more you spend...

#Myopinion#
The more you
Not particularly true. You can be earning 500k and live a 50k lifestyle.
BusinessCan You Be An Entrepreneur? A Quick Test. by ogzille(op): 9:39am On Feb 07, 2016
Would you accept a job with no base salary?
Would you like to get paid 100% on commission?
Or would you think that job is a poor option and look for something safer?

Many people say they want to get paid based on their performance, but few are willing to bet their livelihoods on it.

Business owners make that bet every day.
If the business makes no money, they make no money.
It's a strong incentive to hustle, create value for customers, and do whatever it takes to make it work.

So, if you cannot bet your livelihood on your performance, then you better sit back and continue being employed or search for a new job on MyJobMag.

Happy Sunday.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Total Oil And Gas, Young Graduate Program 2016. by ogzille(m): 2:12am On Feb 04, 2016
This advert is not for Nigerians.

Find full advert below before it was edited:

Are you a young graduate and seeking for a rewarding professional international working experience? Through our Young Graduate Program AMO, we offer you an 18 months opportunity in our subsidiaries, within the Africa Middle East, to discover one of our three main business lines (commercial , finance, technical). Within the framework of our diversity policy, the Young Graduate Program aims at improving the representation of the young graduates (Bac+5 having less than a year's work experience after graduation) of African or the Middle East origin within our subsidiaries in this region.

- Sénégal / Juriste recouvrement contentieux : https://careers.total.com/front/fr_FR/web/guest/fiche-offre/-/offrePortlet/detail/10058819/CDD
- Sénégal / Ingénieur projets : construction réseau : https://careers.total.com/front/fr_FR/web/guest/fiche-offre/-/offrePortlet/detail/10058818/CDD
- Sénégal / Ingénieur projets : études, suivi travaux, maintenance : https://careers.total.com/front/fr_FR/web/guest/fiche-offre/-/offrePortlet/detail/10058817/CDD
- Liberia / Finance Assistant : https://careers.total.com/front/fr_FR/web/guest/fiche-offre/-/offrePortlet/detail/10058600/CDD
- Burkina Faso / Assistant Contrôleur de gestion : https://careers.total.com/front/fr_FR/web/guest/fiche-offre/-/offrePortlet/detail/10058599/CDD
- Burkina Faso / Ingénieur construction et maintenance : https://careers.total.com/front/fr_FR/web/guest/fiche-offre/-/offrePortlet/detail/10058598/CDD
- Mayotte / Inspecteur commercial réseau et diversification : https://careers.total.com/front/fr_FR/web/guest/fiche-offre/-/offrePortlet/detail/10058498/CDD
- Mayotte / Inspecteur commerce général et communication : https://careers.total.com/front/fr_FR/web/guest/fiche-offre/-/offrePortlet/detail/10058325/CDD
- Congo Brazzaville / Inspecteur commerce général lubrifiants : https://careers.total.com/front/fr_FR/web/guest/fiche-offre/-/offrePortlet/detail/10058329/CDD
- Congo Brazzaville / Responsable de dépôt mines : https://careers.total.com/front/fr_FR/web/guest/fiche-offre/-/offrePortlet/detail/10058326/CDD
- La Réunion / Responsable Travaux : https://careers.total.com/front/fr_FR/web/guest/fiche-offre/-/offrePortlet/detail/10058852/CDD

You can also submit an open application on the "apply now" button.

Required skills

Education
- A bachelors graduate, with technical, business or finance backgrounds
- Be fluent in French and / or English

Experience
Programme destiné aux jeunes diplômés avec moins d'un an d'expérience professionnelle post diplôme
This program is dedicated to graduates with less than one year post graduate experience

Skills
- Be geographically mobile
- Have the right Total attitude attributes, being innovative, easily adaptable to different environments, flexible, open minded and a good team player

https://careers2014.total.com/front/en_US/web/guest/fiche-offre/-/offrePortlet/detail/10057567/Fixed-term


If you need jobs for Nigerians, use www.myjobmag.com
Car TalkRe: See The Monster Car That Got People Talking by ogzille(m): 6:35am On Jan 19, 2016
Mprex:
how do you enter this one biko huh
Ladder
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Massive Recruitment At Accion Microfinance Bank Limited by ogzille(m): 2:07pm On Jan 18, 2016
jaid23:
I still dnt get why a standard Accion Mfbank won't have its own website for job seekers and be directed to google docs to create a profile.. Its bizzarre..
I smell a lil bit of GNLD though. undecided
sinistermind:
Why applying through Google forms?
It is not GNLD. We verified before posting on www.myjobmag.com

You can also visit their website at: http://www.accionmfb.com/Careers/Jobs-Internship.aspx
PoliticsRe: We Have Declared Ambode Enemy Of Ndigbo – Ohanaeze by ogzille(m): 10:37pm On Jan 11, 2016
Even though I am Igbo, this sounds silly. These old men should go relax.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: 2016 Graduate Recruitment At Gtbank by ogzille(op): 10:17am On Jan 05, 2016
Apply fast to ensure you do not get "Mailbox full" at any time
Jobs/Vacancies2016 Graduate Recruitment At Gtbank by ogzille(op):
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Jobs/VacanciesRe: 2016 Dangote Recruitment (5 Positions) by ogzille(op): 9:37am On Jan 05, 2016
Follow www.myjobmag.com for job updates.
Jobs/Vacancies2016 Dangote Recruitment (5 Positions) by ogzille(op): 7:35am On Jan 05, 2016
The Dangote Group is a diversified and fully integrated conglomerate with interests across a range of sectors in Nigeria and Africa. Current interests include Cement, Sugar, Flour, Salt, Pasta, Beverages, Noodles, Poly Products, Transportation and real estate with new initiatives in the Oil and Gas, Telecommunication, Fertilizer and Steel sector of the economy.

Dangote Cement P.L.C. is the biggest quoted company in West Africa and the only Nigerian company listed among Forbes Global 2000 Companies. The Company currently has several cement production plants in Nigeria in addition to presence in 14 other African countries. To consolidate its current strategic expansion drive and as part of our growing vision.

Sales Officer

Job TypeFull Time
QualificationBA/BSc/HND
Experience2 - 3 years
Location Lagos
Job FieldSales / Marketing

Project Description:
The Sales Officer will drive the implementation of the Go-to-Market strategies of the company and be available for all other duties and tasks that may be assigned by the Sales leadership in the region.

Job Responsibilities:

Responsible for identifying and developing core talent, including mentorship at the Market Developer level
Coach and develop the team of direct reports while ensuring a culture of learning and development exists throughout DCP
Responsible for relationships with accounts serving as the connection point with Sales area leadership in Operations
Regular interaction with store level and local supply chain leaders
Accountable for selling in and adherence to calendar mar
Desired Qualification/Preferred Competencies :

Minimum of 2 – 5 years’ experience within an FMCG/Customer Service environment
B.Sc/ HND in any discipline.
Must be a strong team player but must also be self-managed
Must be persuasive, persistent and possess a good business acumen
Very high action orientation and pragmatism towards sales achievement as well as readiness to take on responsibility
Must possess a strong inclination towards execution as well as knowledge of the local environment

Market Developer

Job TypeFull Time
QualificationBA/BSc/HND
Experience2 years max
Location Lagos
Job FieldGraduate Jobs / Internships Sales / Marketing

Project Description :
The Market Developer will be required to achieve Fixed Coverage Plans, Call Frequency & Merchandising Objectives through regular visits to all potential sales outlets while maintaining the highest standards of performance.

Job Responsibilities :

Achieve the daily and monthly Call targets by ensuring complete and proper coverage of the allocated area; ensure that all outlets are visited in the correct sequence, follow the planned call in each outlet and make sure that they are well stocked with Dangote Cement always.
Determine the amount of bags required for next week and arrange with distributors to order the load accordingly.
Maintain a good relationship with the customers at all times.
Develop sales
Desired Qualification/Preferred Competencies :

0-2 years Post-Qualification experience within any industry
First degree/HND in any discipline
Must be intensely self-driven but be motivated to work within a team
Must be persuasive, persistent, accountable and ready to take on additional responsibility.

Area Sales Manager

Job TypeFull Time
QualificationBA/BSc/HND
Experience7 years
Location Lagos
Job FieldAdministration / Secretarial Sales / Marketing

Project Description :
The primary responsibility of the Area Sales Manager (ASM) is the direct Management and Leadership for an assigned Sales Area. In this role, He/She is responsible for the direction, execution and proper reporting of outcomes to the appropriate levels of Management to ensure expected revenue target are achieved. The ASM is also responsible for Customer Acquisition and Retention.

Job Responsibilities :

Delivery of Business Plan
Lead DCP to identify opportunities, establish goals and objectives and deliver business plan goals.
Define Look of Success (LOS) and ensure understanding through effective communication.
Establish accountability of team members and track/report results.
Coach, Teach, Train or Hire for skill sets that will drive business forward.
On-going dialogue and honest assessment of team members for effectiveness and capability.
Desired Qualification/Preferred Competencies :
The successful Candidate is required to have the following competencies:

Excellent PC skills ( MS Word, Excel, PowerPoint)
Excellent driving record will be required (a 7-year Motor Vehicle Record will be verified)
Ability to work a flexible schedule as required
Proven Leadership ability/People-Management skills
Sales Management/Advanced Selling skills
Excellent attention to details
Excellent Problem-solving/Analytical skills
Must be resourceful and have a good

Risk Officer

Job TypeFull Time
QualificationBA/BSc/HND
Experience5 years
Location Kogi
Job FieldAdministration / Secretarial

Project Description :
Responsible for Risk Management activities for a subsidiary of the Group – mainly monitoring risk(s) relating to Credit and Operational Risks. Support the Identification, assessment, mitigation and management of risks for the company through focusing on risk management via a defined enterprise wide risk framework - thereby ensuring the risks are mitigated and monitored in accordance with the company’s Risk Policies.

Job Responsibilities :
Operational Risk Activities

Work closely with the Group Operational Risk team in ensuring that losses arising from failed or inadequate internal processes, systems, people and external events fall within the Group's risk appetite, and is in alignment with the organization’s corporate strategy
Provide support to departments within the business unit in the identification of operational risk issues, and designing controls to mitigate risks identified
Desired Qualification/Preferred Competencies :

HND/Bachelor’s Degree
Minimum of 5 years of relevant experience within manufacturing or banking is preferable but not a must
Good interpersonal skills with strong verbal and written communication skills
The successful Candidate is required to have the following competencies:

Deep Knowledge of creating and executing policies and procedures.
Up to date Risk management practices and industry knowledge
Process analysis: Core Business Processes Skill/Compete

Insurance Coordinator

Job TypeFull Time
QualificationBA/BSc/HND
Experience5 years
Location Lagos
Job FieldAdministration / Secretarial Insurance

Project Description :
Summary of Job:

Review all existing covers to ensure there is no gap in cover and recommend appropriate policies where necessary.
Obtain/ review all necessary documentation required for insurance covers
Liaise with head office to ensure all insurance covers/policy documents/payments are current.
Job Responsibilities :

Review all policy and other documents for accuracy and correctness- sum insured, clauses, exclusions, and other terms/conditions
Prepare and update premium payment schedules
Ensure timely notification of all claims to head office- within 48hrs of occurrence
Collate all claims processing documents within 7days. (Completely eliminate issue of incomplete documentation)
Vet all claims processing documents submitted for proper substantiation
Render necessary support to all claims adjusters
Desired Qualification/Preferred Competencies :

HND/Bachelor’s Degree
Minimum of 5 years of relevant experience within manufacturing or banking is preferable but not a must
Good interpersonal skills with strong verbal and written communication skills

Method of Application
Use links below to apply on Dangote's career website

https://careers.dangote-group.com/Openings.aspx
RomanceRe: Why Guys Shouldn't Try More If The Girl Rejects Them by ogzille(op): 11:18am On Dec 25, 2015
You want the guy to retry so you can humiliate him further?

Great.

A person can be either selfish or dumb. But when both those attributes are seen in one person I don't know what to say.

You expressed your feelings of not liking him. He respected that and never contacted you again.

That's it.

Stop expecting guys to run behind you after you have rejected them.

If you are a lady and you are in the habit of doing this then you are selfish and dumb.
RomanceWhy Guys Shouldn't Try More If The Girl Rejects Them by ogzille(op): 11:12am On Dec 25, 2015
Once I approached a woman I know from friends. I got to know her a little and all was going great. So I got her number and after a few text message I called.

I was direct and asked her out.

She said - Well, erm, I got a boyfriend you see.
Me - Oh, cool. Hey, it's fine. You take care and it was great meeting you anyway.

What happens next should be made into a god damn Hollywood drama movie. This is how it went....

Evening the phone rings..

Her friend - Hey how you doing Adam?
Me - Oh great. Just going out though
Her friend -Ok but what happened with (name)
Me - Nothing. Why?
Her friend - She said you showed no interest. I thought you liked her.
Me - Huh? I asked her out. She said she got a boyfriend.
Her friend - She hasn't got a boyfriend. She was wondering why you didn't persist?
Me - WHAT?!?!

3 hours later...

Another of her friends - Hey Adam I thought you two were good for each other

Me - What you on about?
Her friend 2 - You know (name). She was all talking about you for 2 weeks. Excited.
Me - (confused)
Me - But she said she has A BOYFRIEND!!!
Her friend 2 - Yeah but all girls say that....you know...
Me - No I don't. If a woman says she got a boyfriend, she has a boyfriend. That's how I take it. What the hell. You and your friends are crazy.

I swear, this went on for sometime and it turned me off with her so bad, I never wanted to ever date her. Ever. If that's how she was then man, forget it.

It be like this.....

Her - I wanted coffee
Me - But I asked if you wanted a drink but you said no
Me - Yeah but you know, I really meant I do want coffee
Me - What YOU ON ABOUT? I asked and you said you didn't want any?
Her - But I really meant yes.
Me - ?!?!?!?!?!?!

When we guys hear no, or got a boyfriend, it means no. It means for us to keep our distance. It means the woman is not interested because I have tried persisting before and I had enough of the BS that comes with it.

You know, some women want attention.

Some want just to feel they can attract a guy but nothing. Some want to drag the BS along for a little longer.

But it doesn't wash with me or many guys.

A no is a no.

So I don't call a woman who doesn't call back. I don't text anymore if women don't text back. I don't wonder about signals....what if and how come. I don't wonder if she might be interested or if I should push it and try again.

I don't mean to sound arrogant but...

The world is full of women. Amazing women. Women of passion, purpose, goals, ideas, creativity and values. By her saying no...it has now freed me to approach other women and I saw it as her being honest.

So awesome. I can move on. I mean no one out of their mind will say no when they mean yes - and yes to mean no.

2+2 = logic!

But you see sometimes logic has nothing to do with what is going on. It's emotions, fears, insecurities, perceptions and a whole lot of stuff I cannot see in a woman's head. All I know is to make sure she feels safe, comfortable and I am not over stepping her boundaries. That she knows I can move on and walk away.

That it's no problem for her to say no or yes. It's ok if I get a no. I'm a man. Strong enough and have higher purpose to let rejection get me down. I solid, rock solid and I'll take a no as a no.

When I hear no, when I see or I don't get much of a response, when I hear any word about boyfriend, or ex boyfriend then like most guys we move on. I see it that if I try anymore I am making the woman feel uncomfortable.

I have self respect and I got to move on.

Playing hard to get may work on some guys but for guys who got self worth and got a lot going on life.....they move on.


The woman got asked, she said no and I haven't got a court order over my head because I didn't take no as...no.

That's why.

Guys, you don't need a drama queen and run away from friend zone with this advice.

Culled from Quora.

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