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badoh:
How much is the wife also earning? People fail to understand that life has two sides. You should not look down on people earning meagre salary because some are not lucky to be on the good side of life. Some children are better positioned today because they were born into a rich home while some found themselves born into poverty. You need a lot of calculations, luck, selflessness, luck, connection and God grace to bring your family out of poverty. No one is happy to be living in poverty, it's what life presents to them.

You're so right. I'm within that age range, and used to earn something substantial as a freelance writer until something happened.

I don't even know what...but right now, I'm earning nothing. Using Airtel's free 50MB data to write this: that's how low I've sunk.

GOD is using my better half, but we're neck deep in debts. Even if I want to learn anything, no one teaches things for free, and that's very okay. Knowledge should be sold.

And even if I want to learn stuff from YouTube, where's the money for data?

Na GOD Hand I dey now. I'm even looking for menial jobs to do, but can't find.

Men...😩

Novice1:
Come Easy Go Easy.

Nigerians and the love for quick, easy money.

There is always a price tag.

A James Hadley Chase fan, I presume....🤓

This movie never came out at all...


Or if it did, I can't find it anywhere to download.


And it was made years ago...😏

Sirchiboy:
Scrap business

How can I engage in this business, please?

IMO01:
Any crypto project that says you should pay to earn plz jakpa

PocketFi is asking us to pay some TONs. The amount varies by the number of $witch you have mined.

Something we have been mining since 2024 oh... chaiii...😫

Dpsychologist:
Note: This thread will explore The Psychology of Giving and will discuss on When Spending on Women Becomes Simping.

Money and relationships have always been intertwined, but in the modern dating landscape, the dynamics of financial transactions between men and women have taken on a new form—"billing culture."

Some men willingly spend on women, while others refuse. Some see it as an investment, while others view it as manipulation. The deeper question is:

At what point does spending money on a woman become simping?

To break this down, let’s analyze four different men—John, Tayo, Chukwudi, and Alhaji Abbas—and their financial decisions when faced with a woman’s request for money.

The Financial Spectrum of "Giving"

1. JOHN (₦50k in account) – Rose asks for ₦5k

His thought: "It’s a small amount; I won’t feel the loss."

His action: Sends the money.


2. TAYO (₦500k in account) – Bisi asks for ₦50k

His thought: "It’s not too much; I can afford it."

His action: Sends it out of goodwill.


3. CHUKWUDI (₦3 million in account) – Ada asks for ₦120k

His thought: "It’s not a big deal; I won’t feel it."

His action: Sends anywhere from ₦90k to ₦120k.


4. Alhaji Abbas (₦500 million in account) – Aisha asks for ₦5 million

His thought: "₦5m is like pocket change to me."

His action: Sends ₦5m or even ₦10m because he can.

The question is:
"Why would a man send such huge sums to a woman who isn’t his wife, girlfriend, or at least someone he has slept with?"

When we look deeper, the real issue isn’t about the money—it’s about why the man is giving.

Understanding the Psychology of Giving Money to Women

1. Giving Money Because You Can Afford It Doesn’t Make It Right

A lot of men justify sending money with the mindset of:
"It’s just 1k, 5k, 50k, or even 5m… I won’t feel it."

But here’s the truth:

A bad financial decision remains a bad financial decision, no matter how small.

Spending money on a woman who hasn’t earned it builds a dangerous precedent.

It teaches her that she can get money from men without giving anything in return.

At this point, it’s not about whether you’re "rich enough" to send money—it’s about whether the money is being given with purpose or out of manipulation.

2. Women Are Not Naïve—They Know What They’re Doing

Let’s be real. Most women understand exactly what they’re doing when they ask for money.

They don’t go around randomly begging every guy in their contact list.

They selectively target men who they believe will comply.

This is why the same woman who asks one man for money will never ask another man—because she knows who will give and who won’t.

It’s a calculated move, and any man who doesn’t understand this will keep falling for the trick.

3. The Dangerous Mindset of "It’s Just 1k"

A lot of men defend their spending by saying:
"Bro, it’s just 1k, 5k, 10k… nothing big."

But this mindset is dangerous for two reasons:

First, it’s not about the amount—it’s about the principle.

If you believe giving 1k "doesn’t matter," you’ll believe giving 5k "doesn’t matter."

Then, when you get more money, 50k will "not matter."

Before you know it, you’re the guy sending 5 million because "it’s small compared to my wealth."


Second, it creates a pattern where women see you as a financial resource.

Women test men all the time.

If you send 1k today, tomorrow she’ll ask for 5k.

If you send 5k, she’ll try 20k next.

Before you know it, you’re funding her lifestyle, and she’s rewarding you with nothing but "thank you, dear."


This is how a man slowly turns into an ATM without realizing it.

4. The Real Reason Some Men Spend—They Hope Money Will Get Them Sex

A lot of men won’t admit it, but let’s be honest:

Most guys who send money to women they aren’t dating are secretly hoping it will lead to sex.

They may say:
"I’m just helping her out, bro. It’s not that deep."

But deep down, they’re thinking:
"If I help her now, she’ll see I’m a good guy and reward me later."

The reality? Most women don’t work like that.

The guys who give them money are not the ones they respect.

The guys they respect and sleep with are often the ones who don’t give them money easily.

This is why many rich men still get played.

They think throwing money around will make a woman value them, but in reality, it only makes her see them as a financial opportunity.

So, Is Sending Money to a Woman Always Simping?

Not necessarily.

There are contexts where giving is reasonable:

✅ If she is your girlfriend or wife and has shown loyalty.
✅ If she has proven her value to you over time.
✅ If the relationship is mutually beneficial.

But if she is just:

❌ Some girl you met on Instagram.
❌ A woman who texts you only when she needs something.
❌ A girl who hasn’t given you anything in return.

Then you’re a simp, and you’re being used.

The Harsh Truth: Women Don’t Value Men Who Are Too Easy to Extract Money From

A woman will never respect a man who gives her money too easily.

She may smile and say "Thank you."

She may act grateful in the moment.

She may even promise to "see you soon."

But deep down, she does not rate you.

Women admire men who:

📌 Have self-control over their finances.

📌 Do not allow emotional manipulation to dictate their spending.

📌 Are not afraid to say NO.

The more easily you give, the less she values you.

Final Verdict: Stop Justifying "Small" Spending—It Adds Up

Many men fall into the trap of thinking, "1k is nothing," but they don’t realize:

1k today.
5k next week.
20k next month.
100k when she says she’s "stranded."

Before you know it, you’ve wasted thousands on a woman who sees you as nothing but a financial resource.

Meanwhile, the guy she’s actually sleeping with hasn’t sent her a single kobo.

The Smart Man’s Approach:

1️⃣ Never send money to a woman who hasn’t proven her value.
2️⃣ If she asks for money early, it’s a red flag.
3️⃣ Understand that money will never buy you respect or attraction.
4️⃣ If you must spend, spend on things that improve YOUR life.

At the end of the day, the most valuable thing a man can do is protect his resources, his energy, and his self-respect.

Stop justifying "small" spending—it’s a slippery slope.

Wow....well done. Thanks for opening my eyes to this.

I'm a die-hard giver...but have learned a lot and even experienced some of the things outlined in this write-up.

Thank you! Implementation = activated immediately!!

bigpicture001:
Have you read the book with the title of ur sentence..? "Believe this you'll believe anything"..?

Written by James Hadley Chase...😁

Bro...

Many movies of the early to late '90s will never be on YouTube. I don't know why the producers choose to do this.

Till today, I'm still searching for BRUNO AND THE LAW, DIAMOND RING 1 & 2, STATE OF EMERGENCY, LOVE WITHOUT LANGUAGE 1 & 2, BACKSTAB, and other related movies, but no dice.

This is the period when producers of these movies should upload them to YouTube, if not for anything, but for posterity.

Besides, these producers will still make good money from YouTube if they upload such movies.

However, you also need to consider the quality of the cameras used in shooting movies back then. Can they do well on YouTube today?

Ogiame:
Congratulations to the Winners...

But for me, I love how the AMVCA is organized with notable and meaningful categories.

I would really appreciate it if DSTV can dedicate a channel were they can be showing old Nollywood movies, sitcoms and family programs like;

Everyday People,
Domino,
Thrift Collector,
I Need To Know,
Hills and valleys,
Basi and Company,
One Love,
Extended Family,
Checkmate,
e.t.c

Exactly! I had that thought once, too. Shows how we need this. There are plenty of TV shows DsTv can re-run such as:

The Masquerade (Chief Zebrudaya and co)

The New Masquerade (keep resting in peace, Jegede Shokoya, Ramota, and co.)

Riddles and Hope

Ripples

The Village Headmaster (Both old and new)

The Bala Miller Show

Behind the Clouds (continue resting in peace, Nosa)

Bassey and Company (both old and new)

Tales by Moonlight (headlined by Funmi Adams - where's this woman?) (For kids)

Story Land (for kids)

Speak Out (for kids)

Etc.

Ruuchiinaa:
You are right. I am just thinking out loud if someday, someone somewhere, will also disclose that ABBA's songs were mimed as well

Ah...

I hope nobody will come and tell me ABBA is not a real music group, too?

That means all my childhood na scam be dat... musically speaking... choiii...

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One of these guys wishing her to rest in peace did it.

Hope that person, too, will live forever and not die one day.

Nonsense...why waste such a beautiful person? On top wetin? Man? Her business?

If the cops do their work, they will nab the person who did it...

Hmmm...

The good old days...

Electricity was more stable...my dad hardly missed any episode back then..

I used to hate NTA because of their grainy display...

Most favorite characters:

1. Giringory Akaborgu, a.k.a. the honorable poor man of Ethiopia...🤓

2. Chief Doctor Jegede Shokoya, the youngest millionaire of the whole universe.

3. Clarus... something... something Tortoise....🤣🤣

The good old days....

Well, the Holy Bible has said it is not wise to say, "Why were the former days better than these?" 😩


It is well....

moboladipine:
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Deco7:
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Must be able to work on variety of projects

You must be able to write articles manually on a consistent basis without using AI

Must be able to write exceptional Youtube scripts and crytocurrency articles

Hi. I'm interested in this offer. Kindly reach me at the email address below:

ebenko.kom@gmail.com.
09075108375 (not WhatsApp).

Looking forward to hearing and working with you.

E.O.

This one is small. Come to Ajah and see the mad queues at GTB, Wema, Providus, etc...

Emefiele is not a human being at all....the last time Nigerian currency was changed was not as challenging as this...

POS operators too are cashing out big time, claiming they also bought the cash...

Maka-whyyy?

So, if I go market now, the local market women go use POS to collect money?

I don't know who made that senseless buffoon the CBN governor....

moscobabs:
Where's Evangelist Niyi Adedokun?

Evangelist Ojo Ade?

Funmi Aragbaye?

Late Bayo Adegboyega?

Dunmi Olanrewaju (opelope Anointing)?

Baba Ayewa?

This man called "Telemi"? I forget his name.

Telemi....his name is Timi Odukoya...the OP's list is incomplete, anyways...

Revolva:
The moment Sheggz and Adekunle almost exchanged blows during the heated argument,


Sheggz and Adekunle engaged each other alongside Bella and Diana, it started when Adekunle made known to Sheggz that he wasn't an intellectual, that was why Sheggz got angry.

The whole issue started when they were all talking about schools, and money when the topic of schools came up and Sheggs decided to not talk about money, but choose to talk to Bella about family, work, and football, and then Adekunle started firing back to him about the Schools he went to, and started calling out Sheggs and calling him not to be an intellectual and that caused the whole fight drama between both Adekule and Sheggz.

Perhaps from the beginning of the Show Adekunle may have liked Bella, but Bella is closer to Sheggz but not him, maybe he is a bit jealous of Sheggz,

Also Diana had to confront Bella, and asked her Why would her boyfriend Sheggz be talking to Adekunle like that and that made Diana and Bella have a little face-off. Then Bella faced Rachel with some accusations over Food problem in the House as well

It was all a rumble with words between Level 1 Housemates and it all got settled later.

You're obviously a fan of Shegun, a conceited m*fck*r who thinks all the guys like Bella and all the girls like him...na Doyin f-up...

This was NOT the genesis of the issue. Shegun had been prodding Adekunle since the first week of their stay in the House...

It came to a head yesterday because of food...

OP, get your facts right and don't be biased if you want to go far as a self-appointed journalist...

Objectivity wins all the time .....go to Twitter and YouTube to see where the whole thing stemmed from...

I only wished Shegun had agreed with Adekunle to forfeit the #100 million prize money. Adekunle needs to brush that Shegun's mouth real good....

MuslimIgbo:
Good.

Waiting for Elon Musk to launch his data services too. The way MTN is ripping us off
I subscribe ₦1,500 6gb weekly package at least, 3 (THREE) times in a week.
Dem no gree give me DATA FOR ME again

I thought I was alone on this vehicle oh...the way MTN sucks the 6GB no be here....

And to worsen everything, the DATA FOR ME they show me every time, na #10,000 for 40GB....on top wetin?

New007:
Weldone o. See the things you want from a person you intend to pay so so little...


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* Excellent writing and editing skills
* Ability to learn fast and must possess a PC (please don’t apply if you don’t have a PC)
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Why are we this wicked in Nigeria? Who did we offend? Father Lord, by your boundless mercy, please make a way for us.

AMEN! My brother, see wickedness of the highest order. And they get paid hundreds of dollars for such jobs oh, yet see what they're want to pay Nigerians like them who're also hustling to make ends meet....

Wahala Dey by P Square

Money No Dey Lagos ( I don't even know who sang that sh*t. But it keeps replaying in my mind when someone plays it on their mp3 device)

Plenty younger and competent people dey....

Falz

Macaroni

Rinu

Yusufu

Etc....

dontrulee:
1. It's just a fucking dog!!
2. I can kill you with a pencil.
3. With great power comes great responsibility.
4. You've been declared guilty.

Number 1: John Wick

Nonexisting:
*if you want to shoot, shoot, don't talk*
*I want to know your plan b, not plan a recycled*
*Never shoot a man in the presence of his son or you will live expecting a vendetta all your life*
*Steal my money, I will cut your hands but fucck my wife and I will kill you before she confesses*

Number 1: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

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