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olamoses75:
Kings, what's stopping you from setting a high standard? Is it identity crises or low self esteem? You've to understand that men are the price, even though the society is forcing the opposite down our throats. Take your dose of pills today!

luminouz:
Be like say poverty has bastardized your existence sotey money is the only thing in your brain. I hope you don't use your family members for ritual with this sick obsession of yours.

You don't belong here... Why not go somewhere nice and quiet and stick your opinions where the sun doesn't shine?

Opistorincos:
50k

luminouz:
Lol....
This is how you know that women are never logical. See that one talk of mental health as if she knows what she is saying!!!🙄🙄🙄

F1re:
What's up guys, trust you're doing fine.

There's this lady(27yo, virgin) in my School, I'm a Teacher by the way(23yo), that became very obsessed with me, we once met at a Tech event where I was part of the Speakers, we didn't talk then, till she came to my School for an assignment, she saw me and reintroduced herself to me, I was like 'oh okay, what's up?' you know trying to be friendly, we got talking about stuffs, she told me she wants to learn how to code and if I can help her out, I said Yes, because I have free time on my hands, so she started coming around and I started teaching her the basics, she collected my Mobile Number and chatted me up, at a point she kind of become obsessed with me, she's always the one to chat me up first, calls me and give me chocolate during our lessons and all, bro i started having feelings for her, but I keep them in check and just flow with her.

She then travelled to Abuja at a point and things slowed down, I wasn't invested in her that much so it didn't bother me much, after she came back we continued our lessons and all, mind you, these lessons are more like 30% lessons and 70% gists(Relationships, Sex, Marriage, Life in general), I'm a good conversationalist so I got her to open up to me and all.

Then something happened last week, which is the main reason I'm writing this, she came to my office and I was sent on errand, I told her to wait for me that I'll be back and all, she said she promised she will, I didn't even ask her to swear lols, but when I came back, I found out that she had left already, it hurt me so bad, I was surprised at myself like why I'm I hurt like this because of this little stuffs.

And from that day till today, she haven't call me, I didn't check my Whatsapp either from that day, because I decide to switch my Whatsapp line due to disturbance of other low value people on my contact list, but the point is, she ghosted me, and she didn't come to work(she's not a Teacher, kind of working with an NGO, so their work isn't obligatory like mine), I didn't call her either because there's no reason to.

Now, the problem is I can't get her out of my mind, I'm a big fan of Stoicism and I've got help from applying some of its concepts in my life, but this time around it's just difficult, my mind will just be wandering towards all the good times we had and the 'Stupid' mental projections I was having in my brain about us, I'll forever not gonna call her or text her though, but I want to forget about all of that and get back to work, like I was before she came into my life.

Also, I've never kissed or touched her, because I've got some principles I live by and I'm currently working on some stuffs that will put me out in public soon, I'm very careful about my reputation, I've also never spend a dime on her, she's even the one that was begging on buying me stuffs when she came back from Abuja the other time, had to decline the offer.

Is it scarcity mindset? I don't know, but I've never been the one to chase girls right out of secondary school, they always come to me, just that right now, I don't have an active social life and I'm all by myself so I don't have any girls around that I talk to.

What do y'all have to say about this.

I'll tag my favorite posters here: Pansophist, Karlifate, luminouz, smartb0y, reminderz, caveadullam, olamoses75, please I could use some of your help, thanks.

blaquemyc:
Sorry for not calling you as I said I would last night, I had to travel early in the morning.

blaquemyc:
Will call you tomorrow morning. I'm not moving southward, up north rather

blaquemyc:
latest on Monday as I may be traveling again on Tuesday or Wednesday

blaquemyc:
how much will it cost to waybill it to me and how fast can I get it

blaquemyc:
Olamoses75, good evening, I was out of my city hustling hence my not contacting you since. Hope the redmi 9t screen is still available, if yes, please how do we deal cuz I'm in Kaduna.

Tranquility2345:
A man wey get money use him money to fukk your own gf and it’s a thing of pride to a poor man like you say you no dey drop money but having her for free while another man dey drop money wey you and the dirty gf dey share.

Omo, the way poor men reason get as e be o. Tomorrow this same poor man go come dey complain say women too like money and that his wife left him to be with a rich man. Chai poverty is a bastard!

Jennyclay:
It’s so glaring it was a self defense because being in a heated argument with a Nigerian man is very dangerous

They are all violent in nature, they are quick to raise their filthy hands or carry cutlass to butcher someone’s daughter

Bunch of woman butchers!!
Evil men!!

imustsaymymindo:
Man. You are right. But unfortunately, many men would never get to this level of the game because of the factors involved.

I believe the concept you have with those girlfriends of yours spending on you is closely knitted with the game of dread. Many think dread/indignation is a game tied to only emotions but it can be financial as well.

Many men won’t play the game of financial dread because of the natural provider instinct that inhibits them, and the risks involved.

You’d notice this kind of experience with your gfs happens mostly with broke guys because they are the ones that can think of dread using financial means as many of the inhibitors not to do so is absent. He can easily play moody because of lack of money, which suddenly poses a danger to the relationship, but due to the guy’s abundance of options, the girl wants the dread to go even if it means getting money from another guy to salvage the situation.

This strategy is the same as what a woman would do when gold-digging a man of his resources. The problem with men trying out this strategy is the fact that it is too risky. It is not something you stop. Once you start applying financial dread, it must continue periodically. There is no “this girl has tried for me…let me return…” or “this kind of girl deserves commitment” or “I am rich now…let me take care of her”. A female golddigger would never do that. She would keep at it.

And worse for men, a woman’s money means more to her. So, if you dare stop dreading her financially, you’ll be dealt with.

This is the reason most men would never get to this level of game. It is a risk too much and most can’t keep up fighting the provider/commitment inhibitors.

To excel in this, financial indignation must be the woman's choice of drug, and you must forever be her drug dealer.

Note: Any woman you have played the Financial Dread on must not be shown commitment. She must end up as your Alpha widow for your sanity.

Vicboy1:
You said you dated countless of them
For which tribe abeg cos such girls are very rare in the east here
If you like play mind games from now till tomorrow if you no get money igbo girl no still send you if you no get money,some will only give you sex but most won't give you there heart or money . the only game I know that works for a lot of girls is the pity game

blaquemyc:
how do we deal? Whats ur location? I for chat u up but na smal phone i de use so.

olamoses75:
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blaquemyc:
how much are you selling it? Mine went blank after the phone fell down.

blaquemyc:
Redmi 9t screen needed, original or follow come as we call it here.

Vicboy1:
Which little girl are you talking about
I never said money makes girls to like you , but atleast it will draw them to you

Most Independent girls in nigeria are so hypergamous ,majority will date guys that are in there level financially or above there level financially
If u think to get a girl that will agree to go into serious relationship with you when you have no money is easy then have a rethink

Opistorincos:
I have one. ATT unlocked. Has mild screen burn. fingerprint works 50% of the time.

olamoses75:
Hello Everyone, GENUINE LOVE SEEKERS is a NEW closed whatsapp group ,for matchmaking of singles(never married, divorced, widows, single parents) ready for A Serious relationship which only leads to marriage.
Kindly join us if you are seriously seeking a life partner.
* Please NOTE, this is not a fun group to cure boredom .
* It is not a sex group.
* It is not a chat group
* Age bracket 25 upward for male, 22 - upward for female.
Chat up 07067004037 to be added if interested.
* Thorough questions will be asked before adding members

olamoses75:
Hello Everyone, GENUINE LOVE SEEKERS is a NEW closed whatsapp group ,for matchmaking of singles(never married, divorced, widows, single parents) ready for A Serious relationship which only leads to marriage.
Kindly join us if you are seriously seeking a life partner.
* Please NOTE, this is not a fun group to cure boredom .
* It is not a sex group.
* It is not a chat group
* Age bracket 25 upward for male, 22 - upward for female.
Chat up 07067004037 to be added if interested.
* Thorough questions will be asked before adding members

Kei144:
I joined this thread too late. Most people that have visited this thread don't know, and cannot know, what Adeboye is saying. The topic of this thread is not ordinary church ministration of lifting people up, rather it is a very harsh prophecy. 2024 is the year of end time. It is the year in which the latter rain of the Holy Spirit will come down. Those who key into the latter rain of the Holy Spirit will start doing all the works that Jesus Christ did during his earthly ministry and even greater works than Jesus Christ did (Jn. 14:12). People will walk on water. These greatly anointed people will feed thousands of people from small quantity of food. 2024 is also the year the enormous great dragon of Re. 12:3 will come into the world. End time tribulations will begin this year. There will be a great famine and the world economy will collapse. USA will fall in 2024. Adeoye's prophecy is basically saying that the people of God greatly anointed by the latter rain of the Holy Spirit will feed thousands during the great famine. And he says that it will happen before this time next year; that is obviously in 2024.

Elvis2kay:
me and my colleague we're both shouting Amen in the church,. My question now is, who will beg each other first?