virtual3xpert:
I just want someone to surprise me with a cake. I have never had such experience

If you are within anambra i can do so...

highmood:
Chief Arthur with all due respect, action speaks louder than word. Who takes some of these politicians seriously. We've been hearing, I will I will. Until we hear I have and the indigenes attest to it, then your words may be useless.
Since I was born, I have noticed that most people that voiced out projects like these ends up doing little or nothing. Stop saying it just do it.

Arthur Eze does nlt make empty promises...

The guy is a straightforward philantropist... Though.....
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tobaseye:


That's why I have been bothered. I can claim to love her and still be having feeling for another girl. I can't love two people at the same time.

Marriage requires more than feelings... Feelings fizzle away... Look for a woman that can keep and make a home..

One that will be a support system to you...
A great mother and an adorable wife..

Not all that gilitters is gold ohh
..some na romanian steel.
Finally, good things sometimes do not come in attractive packages..

Study both ladies and see who has the traits to make a good home
feelings should be secondary ohh.....

MARKone:
OCD.. Dude might actually be sick. Them arrest say him dey put dog lease on women. E say him dey "empower" women . When he'll be arrested for public display of imbecility, him go talk say he is empowering babies.

You just made my night... lollllzq

lomaxbien:
November 2015, a man approached me and begged for money to eat...i gave him N500.
30 minutes later I went to a bar with some of my friends...i met him at the same bar with a cold bottle of Goldberg and a plate of asun (goat meat)...i almost fainted.

He is eating of course. were you expecting him to go and soak garri..lol

And why is more emphasis laid on the southern traders? Well, its obvious you have never had the opportunity to run a business before.

I harvest cassava from my farm
Due to the increase in fuel in pay ×2 the normal cost of transportation to the market and you expect me to sell at a cheap rate because recession and dollar increase has nothing to do with cassava.

I bought a bag of rice 8000 few months ago with the proceeds from my cassava, Now that a bag is 19000 you still expect me to sale the cassava the same price i sold it when rice is 8000 per bag...

Next time conduct your research very well before jumping into conclusion.

jeff1607:





let's look @ a poor man's point of view or the lower class


what biz can one do with as low as 20k without issues knowing how much things ve gone up, recharge card biz isn't as rosy as b4, farming needs large capital, properties nko, or is it a cybercafe where 20k can't afford u a pc,photocopier and generator. some peep still de search for free browsing

Thank you my dear... They will be online, behind the screen of a computer and be practicing financial experts. Take a step into the real world and see what it like to set up a business. Even the successful businessmen are gnashing their teeth and crying... If you are still feeding of your parents, you have no right whatsoever to speak of what is financially right and wrong...

ademate:
We Nigerians especially youth, we have myopic and lazy in thinking and vision. We all pursue unrealistic ambition, we want to live like politicians while politicians want to live like God. Pentecostal pastors also had to Nigeria problems saying ungodly prophecies to drawn people or members to their churches, this leads many into sort of crimes call it God Blessing. MMM is a fake business, can any member of MMM call yahoo boiz bad names, No they also involved in cyber crime like yahoo boiz.
Is it bad for any of MMM participants to setup a firm and register it and run eligible business of loan people's money at a single digit rate? When they have billions to garb with. But they want Dollar that is not their father's money

I disagree with you. The Nigerian youths i knlw are not lazy. A larger percentage of them work harder than the ant itself. Its just that a majority of them are so unfortunate to be born in a society where little or no help is given to them. No form encouragement at all. Their efforts are being frustrated daily by the policies of our so called government.
Nigerian youths are very hardworking and smart as well. Next time speak only for thy self.

Toks2008:


My point exactly...there is a certain age you get to that courtship becomes a total waste of time and if it must happen it should not be more than few months.

Courtship is no guaranty of a good union cos people can pretend a lot but you can't be too smart to hide the real you from some friends,Co workers,family members or colleagues which is why due diligence us far more effective than the facade called courtship.

If you like court for a million years...people can still pretend but due diligence of just a month will give you a better picture of that person.

Woe betide you if you happen to ask unfriendly friends and jealous neighbours....

The thing is, no matter how long someone pretends, if you are smart enough you will still find out... You can't hide character for too long...

The problem is that most couples intend to overlook some traits and habits exhibited by their partners.... Some are of the opinion that they will change.... While some are just not observant enough...

Due diligence is mostly done to ascertain the family's medical, marital and ancestral history...

crackhaus:

The thread has been ruined from the beginning. Everyone seems to be typing what they think and not what they really know with 100% certainty.

No sources, no links, no references, no nothing.

Chinua achebe's things fall apart can give an insight to what pre colonial igbo setting looks like.

Then before westernization, there was no form of documentation, and Nigerians are not much of history researchers...We get to know some these practices from Stories pass down from generation to generation

bukatyne:


Hmmmm...

IS the peppersoup effective? Did you know anyone who didn't do it and turned out well?
Doesn't this pepper soup thingy fatten someone?

Fatten: Not sure

Effective: not sure(maybe when i have mine, i will try it out)

bukatyne:


Special antenatal/post natal care for the wives? Special rites men were not involved in? Tying of stomachs, special pepper soups etc.

Was there any traditional 'kegel'? Focus on restoring her body to pre-pregnancy size?

Special pepper soup yes, Yam some local spices like uda and uziza, herbs and yam is prepared for the woman. they said it helps to wash away bad blood.

Then in my locality, i don't know about others, the man is expected to slaughter a fat fowl for the woman, this will be used in preparing the yam pepper soup for her.

Then, ( My aunties and some other women i know did this) she is expected to sit on a low stool for at least a week after birth... They said it helps in closing up the vagina.... I don't know true this is....

bukatyne:


Are these women discriminated against? Were men willing to marry them then?

I don't know... But the ones i have seen since i became of age never left the marriage.

bukatyne:
What about childbirth, after child birth care, religion, etc.

Child birth is handled by the local midwives... Religion is mostly our African traditional religion. Amadioha, ogwugwu, igwe ka ala etc.

cococandy:

That's what I said. Both poly and monogamy were practiced precolonially (at least in my side of igboland)
but monogamy became the more common to the decline of polygamy after we adopted western culture.

well maybe, but in my part of igboland, its had to see a family whose ancestors did not practice polygamy.

bukatyne:


So she can give the kids to the family & walk away.

Woaw!

She has... In a situation where she takes the kids along, the family has the right to claim the kids whenever they want to. Every other child/ren she has after the bride price is returned do not belong the family..

cococandy:
happy new year to you too. We are fine thank you
exactly. Yes they were reabsorbed accordingly.

something like that. However I've heard conflicting accounts of this aspect. So I guess it does depend on individuals



Monogamy was widely practiced as well as polygamy. The reason why it seems like monogamy was more common (in my opinion) is because igbos were very adept at absorbing the western culture. So polygamy went out of fashion fast same as idol worship and myriads of other traditional practices. I doubt many people really remember 100% what was authentic Igbo culture.
The last polygamous men in both sides of my family were my father's great grandfather and my mothers great great grandfather.

She said the pre colonial igbo woman. Monogamy became rampant when we embraced westernization

bukatyne:


But the children which she was contracted to birth will belong to another man thereby defeating the purpose of marrying her in the first place.

No, she is not permitted to take the kids. Unless, the family doesn't want the kids...

bukatyne:


Woaw!

So basically, the 'wife' couldn't remarry...

She can if the bride price is returned...

bukatyne:


A wife next in command or her first son takes over?

At these women who birth for other wives, do they ever remarry? If yes, how are theit previous kids regarded @cococandy

If no, how do they satisfy their esx,.ual, emotional, financial etc. needs?

Whoever paid the brideprice owns the kids.

bukatyne:


A wife next in command or her first son takes over?

At these women who birth for other wives, do they ever remarry? If yes, how are theit previous kids regarded @cococandy

If no, how do they satisfy their esx,.ual, emotional, financial etc. needs?

Whoever pays the brideprice owns the kids.

bukatyne:


A wife next in command or her first son takes over?

At these women who birth for other wives, do they ever remarry? If yes, how are theit previous kids regarded @cococandy

If no, how do they satisfy their esx,.ual, emotional, financial etc. needs?

If the children are still tender... She is incharge. She oversees eveything that happens to the husband's properties until the children are of age. If the children comes of age.

Sealeddeal:
Igbo women do take part in decision making. Even in resolving crisis. Have you not heard of Umuokpu or Umuada?

They do not take part in major decisions made in the community. Decisions on things war,land disputes etc,they are not consulted.