Olarewajub:
Happy Weekend!!!
As i promised few weeks ago, these are tips to go about public speaking as an introvert base on my personal experience. I remember how i felt when i was told i would have to deliver a sermon in church as the Youth were being celebrated that particular Sunday ; i had no option than to accept. Looking back, i will be forever grateful for the opportunity. Here are the tips;

1. Preparation: As an introvert, preparation is the most important tool and key to a successful public speaking adventure. If you have been informed about giving a presentation publicly, you need to start preparation quite early and not wait till the night before the preparion. Late preparation might work for extroverts but definitely not for an introvert (maybe except you're a pro). One thing i’ve come to realize concering public speaking as an introvert is that you actually end up saying just 60% of what you intended saying, so you see need to “overly prepare”. If you are to deliver a speech for 30minutes, my friend prepare for 1hour atleast to be on the safe side. I had to prepare for a whole week prior to deliver a 35minutes sermon. During the course of your preparation, go online and get quality materials relating to the topic you'll be presenting. Preparation is not just only about getting a good piece of material but ability to communicate your ideal verbally. Stand in front of your mirror and evision yourself in front of the crowd and practice your speech. Failure to do this is detrimental. Remember every speech you give can make you better or psychological demoralizes you. Next time you have a speech to deliver, start preparation early enough.

2. Fear: Everyone whether introvert or extrovert experience or had fear at some point in time when given the task of speaking publicly. When i was informed i was to give a sermon, i became scared of how i will be able to face such a mammoth crowd. I didn’t start preparing and i made myself forget about the ordeal because of fear but it later dawned on me i needed to face the task. At a point i told myself “why the fear?” What fear actually does is that it kinda limit us and make us feel that the possible is impossible. Next time you’re scared about public speaking, tell your self “if Susan Cain can deliver a 19minutes TED Talk, then why can’t i deliver a great speech publicly”. You must programme your mind for success and not failure. Place your hand on your chest and say “all is well”.

3. Start somewhere: The truth is that you don't just jump from nowhere and start delivering public speeches; you gotta start small and from some where. Do you actually think i would have been able to deliver a sermon to a whole congregation if i haven’t been doing something similar ? Prior to delivering the sermon, i’ve been teaching Sunday school for over 3months. I’ve learnt how to relax my nerves, relate with my audience, maintaing and feeingl more confidant while speaking from teaching Sunday school. Delivering a sermon to the whole church, i simply saw myself teaching Sunday school. If you’re a student or a worker start getting yourself involve in small group discussion with you colleagues if you intend to give a great seminar presentation someday that make you achieve success and promotions. Don’t deceive yourself by saying i’m introvert i can’t engage in group discussion because i’m an Introvert. Bill Gate former ceo of Microsoft who is an introvert did a lot of presentation when he started Microsoft. Start small with a solid foundation. Experience matters a lot.

4. Control Your Heart Rate: Everyone of us can relate to this point. By the time you stand on podium in front of everybody to deliver your speech, you might start experiencing palpitation (irregular and sound heart beat) which will subsequently affect your speech and your facial appearance. To avoid this, practice the act of breathing diaphragmatically (inhaling and exhaling deeply just like babies) just before your speech. Make sure to have adequate night rest. You can decide to drink plenty water few hours to your presentation, so that your body can maintain homeostatis. Note that you will experience diuresis (excessive urination), that is more reason why you have to do this not less than three hours before your presentation inorder to allow your body get rid of excess water in the form of urine . If you drink excess water just before your presentation, you’re in for trouble and embarrssment and definitely on your own. Also make sure to rest adequately before the presentation, ensure you are not owing sleep any allowance.

5. Voice: As you begin the presentation, your voice might betray you by being a little bit shaky which is quite normal when giving a presentation in public for the first time. The problem with this is that it sends a message to your audience that you are not confident and this can be really embarrassing. This goes simultaneously with a racing heart. The remedy for this is to prepare adequately and over come your fear. Don't allow your audience to know about your fear, appear and act confidently with a smile. Also another thing you need to note about is your voice pitch. I had serious issue with the pitch at which my voice sounded while speaking publicly as it was always fluctuating especially whenever i'm using a mic. The solution to this problem is to always learn how to keep the mic close to your mouth like very close. Your audience need to hear you audibly. If you own a PC, you can download the software “Audacity” and use it as a voice trainer.

6. God factor: Like seriously, Yes. Pray to the god you serve to help you in giving a successful presentation. I'm thankful to God for the confident he gave to me that day.

These are the tips i have for now. Your questions, contributions and criticism are welcomed. All these tips are subject to modification as i intend to post this on my blog.

Olarewajub:


The aim of this Lounge is to know our strength and weakness as introverts so that we'll be able to compete and cause positive changes in our (extroverted) society. For example, if you are shy, you can ask other introverts here about tips to overcome timidity, and also for anyone currently faced with any challenge, we can all support and see how to assist that individual by proffering solutions and lots of other benefits . It's a pity that majority of the introverts that have been to the Lounge just come here to announce their introversion and leave, thereby making the Lounge aimless and pointless . I'm still thinking on how to solve this menace. Got any idea?

Titugirl:
I lost interest coz i heard the process is really rigorous

athorello:
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Windflower:
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Melsan:
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Melsan:
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charley94:

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Melsan:
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Melsan:
Guys only

charley94:

just fooling around

Melsan:
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charley94:
Random question
How many of we guys here currently have a girlfriend.
And if any one does can you explain the process of how getting one was like

charley94:

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Gaybu:
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charley94:

how do I get this book

Windflower:

Waow,how I wish I could just dissapear there and take a walk to clear my head.

DonOms:


I completely agree. In my own case, I don't even really like guests. I'd rather I'm meeting them outside my home unless they're very close like family. Home to me is like a personal space I don't feel comfortable sharing.

Titugirl:
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