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prince2blinks:
we already no all dis na haba..

Even if you already know the Info, there are many seeing it for the first time they will definitely key into it. You don't have to derail someone's thread just like that. The OP used is precious time, data etc to create a helpful thread. Atleast a little encouragement from posters like you and I will make him appreciate that his time, data wasn't a waste. Better still, put yourself in his shoes.
#Lets stop the self-centeredness

So many people enter into relationships without knowing or understanding fully well why they are entering it, there are also those that enter relationships for the wrong reasons...
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But come to think of it, what really is the essence of a relationship? What's the essence of having someone to call your own? I found this post on princelaj.com and it seemed to really touch a lot of corners on the subject... It is a bit long but it is really worth the read i promise...
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Many relationships fail because they always start on the wrong foot. No doubt relationships are perhaps one of the most complicated things to discern in the world. This is so because in it, we are dealing with another mind other than ours; a mind we constantly try to unravel, one that has its own bearings and premonitions. Hence, we often give up once our desires are not being met or we cannot seem to penetrate through our partner and what goes on in their world. Above all because we are human too, with feelings of disappointments. Thus become downcast.
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It is easy to determine the outcome of a relationship if only we can carefully evaluate our reasons for going into them. Too many a time, we go into relationships for these reasons: either as a result of loneliness, a crave for certain desires to be met or in most cases for
financial/self highlighted gains.
Consequently, we come out of such relationships battered and feeling a lot worse than we were before going into it. If you ask victims of failed relationships why it had not worked as they had planned? You get common excuses which usually are: responsibilities not being met, duties not fulfilled, desires not satisfied, incompatibility among others.
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That then leads to these issues: what are the roles of the individuals in a relationship once they agree to court? Once a lady says the magical word "YES" agreeing to have a relationship, is that a license to take over her responsibilities and become her benefactor; the father figure? Is the "YES" a reason for the man to expect his lady to satisfy him in all its ramifications, to tend to him like he were her baby, living a life like he were the lord over her? In situations where they are not fulfilled, is it a reason to quit such relationship - relieving ourselves of all obligations to the other?
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Like many other things in the world that has gone wrong, relationships have not been spared. They fail because our concept of it is wrong. Most relationships are started all for the wrong reasons; with prejudiced interests often hidden away from the other partner, or delicately concealed all in the bid to ensure we get what we want even if it has to be through deception. Our furnished considerations being our driving force, are with the most ridiculous intents.
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The essence of a relationship ideally is supposed to be to find compatibility, reliance no matter how tangible, dedication, commitment, friendship and above all to find love with someone you're comfortable to being yourself around knowing in your heart, you are supposed to be together. Relationship should not be a contract entered into for the return from it. After all, anyone who loves in the expectation of being loved in
return is wasting their time!
Indeed, such a person has lost even before it is started; for love truly is selfless - a feeling so powerful that it cannot exist in a vacuum. The truth in fact, is as AARTI KHURANA said "it is not about being in a relationship or being married. It is not about having a man at your side at all times. It is not about commitment and promises> Its is all about feeling secure and peaceful at night without having the fear of losing what you have got. It is all about feeling respected, understood and appreciated. It is all about peace of mind. It is all about the right person and the right time. It is all about being loved to the core''
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I know many will be asking: are you saying responsibilities are not supposed to be met or needs not provided for? Now, that sure is not my stand. It is pertinent that we are responsible, have integrity, be a shoulder to lean on and play our roles efficiently by supporting our partner when we can and in the best way we can. But let me ask bearing in mind that we ought to be altruistic in nature; is it an agreement solely for the purpose of self ingrained fulfillment? Is a partner a sponsor of the other?
Some of you will be quick to remind me that love cannot buy you a meal as it is not a legal tender. And sure, you are so right.
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However, there is something you all forget. It is just a relationship not marriage! None of the partners are under any obligation to go out of their means. It is not mandatory to take over the others liabilities like it is a cross; at least not until you are married to them.
None is under any compulsion to be the nice one and shoulder the needs of the other and grant demands or wished like they were Santa Claus. In relationships, our roles are purely that of support and encouragement. We should be allowed to use our discretion in carrying needs and wants. Those should not be the yardstick to why we are courting. It defeats the purpose of discovering each other. Otherwise, it is like a briber to create nebulous effects.
These bills blind our objectivity and erodes our thoughts. All we see are the roses without thorns.
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My mum used to tell me as a kid that no matter who I dated, I must ensure that shelving responsibilities were done equally and balanced. She would tell me if i open the door for my woman to seat in the care, she must return the gesture by opening my door from the inside. Plus a lady who really loves you will want to invest in you as well. She cannot be comfortable doing all the taking; she will want to give as well which makes it difficult for either of you to leave each other. Point is your heart is always where your treasure is. To be candid, someone who loves you and is a responsible person will know when you are in need without you asking and will have it utmost in their heart to make you happy by providing them. But once you make it a condition precedent to loving; they feel used and effectively use you in return. It is said that a woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing while a man's loyalty is tested when he has everything.
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Your relationship should make you a better person without changing you into someone other than yourself; not abuse or use you! Else, you're with the wrong one. So great people, find someone that is in love with your mind, someone that want to UnCloth your conscience and make love to your thoughts. Someone that wants to watch you slowly take down all the walls you have built up around your mind and let them inside.
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lalasticlala, Mynd44.

Nice move... Airtel has already started the trend with the post i read today, with their new introduction of 3GB for 1,000 which work for all device...

Thanks OP.

Give your Life to Jesus Christ, they will say No. Hell fire straight for two of them, if the Native Doctor no repent, him to Hell fire without Hold-Up or Traffic Jam...

Give your Life to Jesus Christ, they will say NO. Hell fire straight for two of them, if the Native Doctor no repent, him to Hell fire without Hold-Up or Traffic Jam...

Good old days... When i was still in Indonesia

Selfishness and Self-centeredness doesn't promote one in anyway, it seemingly promotion is an illusion, it demotes you later-on, without knowing why. Before you know it, you're in another SHILOH, lying flat, with bottle waters (the big size). Telling God ''Pick my Call...''

skywalker240:
op u are a learner,...


No be love ooo


Na money money,kudi,ego,dollar,pound,yen,euro,rands,francs, Igho.

Having and spending all those currencies you mentioned on her is not all there is.
In the long run, the most important things are what will keep and strengthen your relationship with her, (the way you treat your woman, your Attitide/Character towards her).
#Many know the truth, 'but chose to ignore' it, and do the opposite.

chigoizie7:
Why would I treat a woman that I will later break up with so that she will not forget me?

If i may ask, Can you Date a Girl you know you can never marry? If yes, why are you in the RELATIONSHIP?

Too many people say that women do not really want a nice guy. You firmly believe from your bad experiences that most women actually enjoy being treated
badly. I can assure you this is not true.
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Your words and your actions can have
effects on a woman that will last her a
lifetime. That cruel comment you made
about her mother, that day you were so
angry you called her out of her name,
those times you ignored her for no reason at all, the times you chose not to text or
call and decided your friends, work were more important than she was, the times you didn’t open her car door, or walk her to her front door like a lady, she carries
those in her mind. And she carries them over to the next man.
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Women remember every nice thing you do or say in the same way they remember every pitiless thing. When you are good to a woman — even if it ends for whatever reason — she will always remember you. You may never know that, but she will. She will think about the way you made her laugh or the way you dried her tears. She will remember the way she could speak to you for hours. She will remember that you made her feel like a woman, that even when she was wrong, you still made her feel like a woman. You will be the standard for all of the men in her life that follow. If they can’t compete with you or do better, they become bottom of the barrel. You are the man whose shoes no one has yet to outshine. Continue to be that man because there is a woman who is going to adore you and appreciate you for everything you are worth.
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A woman may choose to stay with a man
who treats her badly because she fell in
love with him during a time when he
was pretending to be pleasant (somewhere in the beginning stages of
their relationship). However, she won’t last with a man who is malicious for the
rest of her life. Over time, every mean or
hurtful thing that man does will begin to
build up inside of her like boiling water.
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That woman who was once in love and
who once catered to her man’s every
whim will begin to fall out of love. She
will become less caring, and less
nurturing. Her heart will grow colder. He
won’t see it, not until it is too late. He is blind and will continue to mistreat her.
An ignorant man will seal his own fate.
He will think its okay to treat his woman
this way. She loves him so she is sure to
stay. That man has no idea that his
woman has an icy storm brewing inside of her heart. Where love once lived is a
heart now torn apart. She loves him so
much or so he believes. He knows she
will stay, but what he chooses not to see
is her mind has already broken away.
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So you have an option. Treat your women
right or don’t, but when you end up alone
and can’t figure out what was the matter
just remember that woman whose heart
you shattered.
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You can never take away the words you
said. They will live with her until the day
she is dead. So watch your words and be
kind, not cruel, or you may end up sad
and lonely.
There is only so much one heart can
handle; only so much one girl can handle
before she breaks. Most women truly do not want much. It isn’t a lot to send her how you still love her (because some guys can't even remember the last time they send their girlfriend an SMS Love/friendship message). It isn’t a lot to call her on your free or less busy time. It isn’t a lot to take her out on dates and spend one on one time with her. It isn’t a lot to watch your Mouth. It isn’t a lot to treat her like a woman. She will love and adore you for it as time goes by.
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There is a saying that ''Whatever you give
a woman, she will give you ten times
more.'' That saying couldn’t be truer. So if
you want to be adored, respected and
loved, you must stop being vicious, selfishness, and rude acts.
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Nice guys do not finish last. Truly nice guys get the girl in the end. At the end of the day, no matter how much money you make or how many muscles you have, a woman looking for real love is going to find her worth, along with a man who deserves her. Your money will be spent,
and your looks are sure to go, but if you
have a good heart, love can flourish. So
be the nice guy or risk losing your
women to men who are far better than
you ever could be.
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This does not mean that you allow
yourselves to be treated badly either, but
it means opening your heart to good
women. It means being a compromising
person. It means being forgiving, and
nurturing… The kind of man who would make a good husband and father. Do not
be a doormat for a woman who does not
appreciate you; however, if your woman
loves, adores and respect you, be kind to her because if you don’t, you will lose her in the end... You and I know you can't forgive yourself if you use your own hands to trow away the Best person you could ever have...

Because Ex-xon Mobil sacked her...

Rejoice with those who are rejoicing. Her husband/spouse will now be saying ''Shebi i tell you say........''

Diddyydiva:
Op needs to start selling bread too





how can you write such a long epistle if you have a job

Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. I thought you learnt something, instead you only read to comment.
#Modify your post please because you are too BIG/MATURED for what you posted up there.

Truth is that 90% of people who venture into marriage know those things OP mentioned even more, but trust some human beings, they just want to do things ''In their own way,'' (mostly negative) forgetting that what is wrong can never be right and will never be...

Mutuwa:
(some) things appreciate when you loose them.

Honestly speaking... Am in LOVE with your Moniker. The Moniker they make me laugh sotey i go dey mess uncontrolably

With the way things are going and looking at the statistics of various clubs performances in their domestic leagues in Europe, i think Barcelona has the best performance ratio an i just personally think with this, they will do it again with 'ease' because they are very, very in-form right now...
#TeamBarcelona

Bae insisted we must wear whites...

Thanks OP for sharing this thought.

It's painful though if it's True. But wait, what will now happen to their GP? Can they dash it out?

See how valentine is changing the vocabulary of our ladies "my boyfriend is taking me out for outing"

IHate9ja1:
Brushing twice
Forget Oral B "green gel",macleans,closeup toothpaste. Use good brands colgate,Oral b "white gel",sensodyne
and buy mouth wash alongside with a good toothbrush (soft) change it every month or less if the bristle are falling apart!

Thanks Doc.

It's the First time i will be sitting on the Front Roll in Church from 8am - 8pm, so that i will pay close attention to things happening inside than those happening OUTSIDE...

brainy4oli:
So pls OP, let the professionals do their job. Ur job is to enlighten people to come to us. Thanks.

Hello Doc.
Please what are the simple ways of taking care of the mouth to stop/avoid/cure normal Mouth Odour?

Decker:
...You have to show these girls something else about you that's more than the swag and the sex. Something more concrete and endearing.

Nice advice.
For learning sake, something more concrete and endearing like?

A friend told me, of when Nathaniel
Bassey came to their school for a worship
session. And everyone was trying to take
photos of him, and with him. Losing
interest in the main stuff.
He said: ''If you came here to take my photos, you're floating" Unfortunately, Many couldn't understand his statement
Someone once wrote in his articles, that if you are opportune to meet a great person, don't rush for a selfie, Ask
them how they got to the top.
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A popular Pastor is invited for a teaching,some member will take away their destinies with Selfies. Everyone is anxious for a selfie with a celebrity. No one wants to ask them questions of how they made it. The selfie syndrome has so eaten up most youngsters that, even when someone is dead, They'll be right there, taking selfies, while others are crying.
In Church, While Sunday school is on, a lot of front cameras do not rest. At the place of work, they go to work early, sit on their boss's office and take a selfie,then post on Faceboke and the likes and ''Just chilling in my office''...
You ain't thinking of having your own office, all you think is important, is taking
photos in another's office.
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I'm not against selfie though. But how long will you keep taking photos of a person who isn't progressing? How long?
Nobody becomes successful for taking selfies, But if you work towards success, people will volunteer to even snap
you, rather than you snapping yourself.
I love photos, I love taking images, But I
listen when I needed to. I would prefer
Asking Ben Carson how he made it in life,then taking a selfie with him and posting it on Facebook for the world to see.
Yes. It will be the best to do the two...
Selfie generation, work on your life, If you continue sitting down to take selfies with celebrities, You will wake up to hate how you'll look and what you've not achieved in life.
Work on your life, Selfie and Everybody
will be important then.
Remember, am not against Selfie and those taking it.
lalasticlala, Mynd44, Ishilove, Obinoscopy

Provided she is not from Mbaise

Odion Ighalo

titosantana:
I will be celebrating it with my bae in my room. We will be in our world, we will make love like we've never done. I'm currently rehearsing some new styles.

This is not all there is. Life is much more important than what you're venturing into in this your early age. Lets just do things responsibly that's the message.

hurting:
Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.

Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit.
Pls help a brother.

'Maybe' she wasn't the one destined for you in the first place.
The fact that you think things are wrong around you now, is not an excuse for things to be wrong with you.
Cheer up; she never believed in you in the first place. Thank God it happened now rather than later.
Somethings might look like disappointments on the surface but are actually blessings in disguise.
It is well brother...