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The man said oti to oti to maá koba mi and the lady audibly said NO.

My God... This is a shame to womanhood, this one don disgrace women.

But truth is women love sexual pleasure than men. She and the man fit dey run things before, now opportunity don show. Body con dey scratch her

Merry100:
Some people often mistake independent women for anarcho-feminists.

Not all women seek financial assistance or support from men, and some men do not even like that. A lot of men express their love through financial gestures and prefer to provide for their partners, regardless of whether she is independent or not.

Sometimes, what one view as ideal may not be ideal for someone else.

Not sharing your problems with your partner or allowing him to help you financially can create doubts in his mind. Personally, I don’t seek financial assistance or even communicate my problems with my bf. I only share my experiences with him after the problem has passed. But this didn’t sit well with him, and he later expressed his feelings about it.

He made me realize that it doesn’t give off a feminine vibe and that, at times, it makes him feel like he isn’t the "real man" in my life.

Unlike me, he seems to be a good communicator. If he weren’t, our relationship would have crumbled, and, as usual, I would have simply assumed that we weren’t just compatible.

At the first bolded, men we naturally like to provide and protect those we care about.

Second bolded, it's a biological thing.

Third, he might feel you are getting help else where.

But you see the difference is when the woman starts with unnecessary billing without being a person of value. When such occurs, that woman becomes a burden. And by default men love peace of mind.

So a woman that is not offering tangible value to a man should never expect anything from such man.

Simple

pocohantas:
It still does, but there is time and season for every. Your good looks and CGPA would be nice until your final year. A grown woman seeking to start a family may not care about your 2.1. Except she is in academics or has a longterm projection that would need your educational qualification. It just depends on the season of your life.

When I was in banking school, there was this guy with a hot brain. Not fine at all, but babes were flocking around him because na him dey breakdown hard courses for us. He got posted to head office and some still kept in touch as his unit was an integral one. E dey fix issues for us. Years later and babes were in their late 20s Wetin we dey use im ICAN do? Nobody send baba again. That ship has sailed.

But then, I like that we are in agreement that women all over the world love comfort.

And men all around the world loves women who are respectful, can give peace of mind, no unnecessary nagging, good cook and good oza room vibes.

Struggling guys dey see for this dating game

tensazangetsu20:
I do not know what happened over the last six to seven years, but it seems that women of this generation no longer care about a man’s potential. This is not just a Nigerian phenomenon; I have noticed it here in Chile as well. When I first arrived and began attending church, there was a lady who was friendly toward me. After a while, she asked what I was doing in Chile. I told her I was studying. Then she asked if I was working or had a job, and when I said no, she stopped talking to me and kept her distance. A few months later, after I found a job, she saw me and asked if I was working now. I said yes and mentioned my salary, and she started being friendly again. When I began taking my car to church, her entire countenance changed, as if she was determined to become my wife.

Back when I was at university, girls would at least go with guys who had good grades as a sign that their future would be bright. However, that seems to have changed. Having good grades no longer guarantees anything, and it appears that these women now know this, so they look for a guy who either has it or does not have it at all. I believe this is one reason why Nigerians in countries such as Canada, the United Kingdom, and Australia struggle with dating. Why would a girl date an African struggling student on a scholarship when there are students on the same campus arriving in Dodge Hellcats, Teslas, BMWs and Mercedes?

Well we can't generalize at the bolded. But I think main stream media has really altered and destroyed moral values further.

The media praises those who have money and or wealth.

Then most guys are the cause of the problems, they created a beast and now it's difficult to tame the beast.

Most men will dole out cash to a woman simply because she is beautiful or she has bodily assets(if you know what I mean), and so women have been conditioned to now think that because they are women and beautiful with nice bodily figures, men should monetarily reward them.
So either you have money to splurge on them or not, their is no in-between.

It's just a f*cking mentality. Really the male gender needs to be very focused in life and give very minimal attention to the female gender.

I guess with time this whole nonsense mentality will stop.

Modified:

I also noticed this some years back, circa 2017 and later. Women were focused on guys with potentials, either those who were academically bright, or those who had jobs or those who had ambitions.

Infact then women were more of the I'll grow with my man kinda mentality.

But now, if you no hold bar for hand the way some broke ass lady will look at you, will make you wonder if no be God create you.

Makamatic:
One of harry boys sir , his favorite coder .... harry himself na king oo . only last year , they brought in $280k amongst themselves as earnings . I'm not talking about bounties , hackathon , airdrops from working on project etc . All based in nigeria oo bros .

So help me God, I am attending the next Blockchain Week event this year.
I saw the live feed, Harry was their...

That was how I saw Sheddy at Devfest '23, dude was riding Range Rover 2023.

I off

Suicideboy:
Dey play


You never see Ada devs



if you day work for defence companies, you're making much more than all these crypto devs

You will just be surprised to find out that being good at what you do(commitment to the process), being in the right environment and knowing the right people is the difference between living the dream life and being whee you are

TheWitchKing

Done

TheWitchKing:
Sure.

Done

TheWitchKing:
He bought Caribbean passport

I know the guy was on Nairaland before doing mostly PHP.

Some people dey earn for this tech no cap, all those people shouting Mafia are all dunce.

Please I wanna PM you, am I permitted?

perezski:
The same teaching you demonised brought me my wealth and fortune. Shey u just dey buy your first car. When 21st century teachers are earning millions every month from teaching international exams online and earning good paycheck from Cambridge schools across Nigeria. No job is worthless. All you need are the required skills and staying informed. Some teachers are earning more than your so called tech.guys .Dont play

You see that Cambridge you mentioned I can testify to it.
I know one of the senior managers of Cambridge in West Africa, the man is living the dream life on a low, infact every person working with him, from his distributor to his warehouse person are earning well.

And to those saying 300k is bad in Nigeria, please let's be realistic. 300k is still good money if you are frugal.

You can still save and buy land with a monthly 300k.

shomutuski:
Can you create an upwork account? I work for an MDM company in Mineapolis remotely, I think we can work something out.

Okay after creating the upwork account what next?

I'll DM you via email so that you can get my WhatsApp number

Modified:
I have sent an email via nairaland, please acknowledge it

shomutuski:
Remote work

6.4m monthly after taxes

I don lock in dey grind DSA, used Splunk and Microsoft XDR and Sentinel, grinding Vyper for smart contract. Please connect me ... Even if nah to intern with you sir

Drella:
Also check Tech guys working with tech startups(not even foreign startups) and non-tech companies. Patricia, a crypto startup, was paying software engineers 1 million monthly. These are guys with about 3 years of experience.

Comments like this go dey make you think say, you are doing something wrong in your application process.

Anybody wen sabi all this thing should please share format .

Omoh I just dey this corner dey think.

Please someone should connect me with high paying jobs oooo.

I am willing to pay for mentorship...

tensazangetsu20:
Data structures and algorithms grind starts immediately

Hey bro, please how do you grind this DSA, this is my second attempt at this thing.
The first time, I could only solve some medium questions, like 2 then.

But now I have done like 10+ medium questions, will start attempting hard questions.

But the truth is I have never completed a question in 45mins. The last few ones I did, it took me two days before I understood the question (though the question is medium, but in my brain it is HARD).

How do you do it ?

I mean how do you understand, write your pseudo code, solution and time and space complexity in 45mins or less.?

Here is my progress repo, at least to keep myself accountable
https://github.com/praiseolotu/50_Days_DSA

mokset123:
What about COREN

For COREN I think you need to have a degree in anything engineering, but I don't have that

Mod abeg help me push to front page ...

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OmArts:
https://careerom.com/job/nigeria-customs-service-2025-recruitment/

I saw state of Origin certificate here.

That means we need to go the state liaison office to get this?

But NIN should be enough nah

Bharri:
Is it advisable to apply for the Superintendent Cadre with a PhD or M.Sc?

Most times it's advisable to follow the instructions given.

Good morning all.

Trust we slept well?

To those that are experiencing issues with filing the form.

Here is another tip, a friend of mine tried this and it worked.

Step 1: Clear your browser cache or history. (If you still have some important cache that you want to keep, then just delete the cache of the custom recruitment website).
Step 2: Please ensure you have fast internet connection, she did hers yester night, and the internet speed was averaged at 79kb/s.
Step 3: Once in, quickly paste in your State of Origin and the LGA of the state of Origin.

I believe it will also work well.

Sometimes those browser cache/history can impede the flow.

Note: this is for those newly filling the form, but experiencing network glitch

AnonymorseGuy:
House pls there's something important I want to find out. I'd apply during d day, filled out all d necessary requirements and when I clicked submit it simply blanked and cut off. So I assumed it was bad network and had to wait till this early morning to try again only to click submit and they are telling me the phone number is already in use. Does that mean the first one submitted? Is it advisable to try with a different phone number with same details to be really sure? Thank you

You can try use another number, cause you'd need to download the Acknowledgement Form.

TheElites19s:
Please after success applications, I was unable to print out my acknowledgement form, I don't know how I can access it.

Any body with way out should please assist me on it

So to do this just click on a button at the top and select Save as PDF.
It will be saved to the Downloads folder on your mobile device.

Now this is to those that are still fnding it hard to pick LGA of their State of Origin. So here are steps to by-pass the hurdle.
1. Ensure you have good internet connection. 30kb/s is a good average.
2. Once the page loads, quickly fill in the State of Origin drop-down and then the LGA drop-down, after you can fill the rest.
3. Please quickly also select the passport image you want to use as well.
4. Proceed by filing the rest.

Nawa oooo.....

Her life her problem.

But how come a derica of rice is about to hit 1000naira?

It is a normal thing to have stage fright, if you want to remedy the phobia, do this.
1. Take a deep breath while on stage
2. If possible take bottle water, so that once you forget what to say or if the tension is building up, you drive water to relive yourself.
3. Focus your gaze on some selected audience.

Try it thank me later

Wetin be this?
Shey nah eye dey pain me, abi wetin be this?
With what is going on in this country, you want to wunjor another person son abi?

Fear God Goodlady.

Save up and buy the car yourself.

pansophist is it possible for people who are ectomorph to gain muscle?
I am ectomorphic by body type, in my early 20's, 6ft tall.
I consume more of carbohydrates like rice, yam, poundo yam etc, though I like beans, but more of carbs.
I drink beer on average twice per week, before I do push-ups but not anymore, I just do aerobics exercise like trekking to get my heart pumping.
You mentioned that the fat(muscle) comes with age, but most of my former school colleagues had good muscle build when they were in their late teens and early twenties.

Goodlady sensible guys like myself very well understand what you are insinuating. You see most ladies when dating and even after marriage will just be dry, I mean they don't know how to spice up the relationship.
After marriage them go dey tie wrapper up and down, and be wearing Mary Amaka style of cloth when will their husband.
And you know men we like what we see, we are attracted to boobs and butts.
So you are very correct. I think the title you chose is misleading, hence the backlash.
You could have written something like Guys want ladies that can spice up their relationship life

To the OP your mom doesn't like you.
At 20 any money you get should be for you, with some little household contribution.
If you move out with this salary, sakpa and shege will be your friend.
Let's be realistic.

Please if anyone knows of cybersecurity jobs, please post am here ooooooo. At least that will ginger people to learn as there are jobs for their skills.