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Mine is actually 3 things.

I grew up in a very conservative family, with mostly women. My parent were very religious to the extent that our public image was thought of at all times. There were certain code of conduct that we must always abide by. Well when I left home for school(tertiary) I saw that some young lads would form saint at home and become beast outside home. I saw that certain men of God sef dey run street, certain men of God dey do those things they preach against on the puppet.
And that day I came to realize that over righteousness is a big scam, I won't do bad to anybody oo, but those code of conduct that were instilled in me, I dropped 80% of them cause it felt like I was in boundage.

Now I live life with these principles:
* Love God(what ever God is to you/me)
* Love others as I LOVE MYSELF
* Do good to others as humanely possible
* Never expect much from anybody

Second thing was thinking too much about success academic wise, omoh if you don't come first or second, my mind will print FAILURE, infact through school I was this bookworm guy. Infact social life was almost non-existential. If I had known sincerely I will join the read to pass people and make as much connection as possible.
Being bookworm is good, but emotional intelligence + social intelligence triumphs more. Well this is my opinion by the way.

Lastly was dreaming of the good life, by this age I thought I'd be out of Nigeria and maybe with one slim blonde girl enjoying life. During 2go days omoh see me chatting up girls then promising heaven and earth LOL

Until life humble me, 2 of my close friends DIED. Omoh since then most things no just freak me again, cause life has a way of imprinting lessons in our hearts. I just want to be healthy, have peace of mind, and I leave the rest oo. If it works, fine. If it doesn't work, still fine oo .

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‎Miriangeles you have no right to talk about a man's financial life or finances.
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‎I was so shocked to know that women are notoriously broke financially. Infact ehn any man that allows a woman put pressure on him financially nahim stupid.
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‎What happens to women also getting a life for themselves without being so dependent on men yet having the effrontery to broke shame men or even talk about their finances.
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‎Let me ask you this question:
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‎* Without a man's money in your life, can you function as a stable human ?
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‎Any man that allows public opinion affect him hasn't gone through life thoroughly.
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‎Life has taught me that good health + to love and being loved + peace of mind + sound health is many times better than whatever rat race is social engineered to cage people to hustle for money and feel like your entire existence boils down to money.
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Solofresh2:
You are right that money is a powerful tool. The man in your story used it wisely. But the tool did not make him a man — he was already a man. The tool helped him build. That is the difference. The man is still the prize. The tool is just what he uses.
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‎A man with money but no frame is still a resource. A man with frame but no money is still a leader. A man with both is unstoppable. But if you have to choose one, choose frame — because money can be regained, but respect cannot

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‎At the bolded, you have written words on marble.
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‎Money without Frame is useless cause people no go rate you. Disrespect go plenty.
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‎I wished more men experience what it feels like to be feared as a man.
‎The fundamental truth is a man with money can never find real love, a man with money will be liked cause of what he can provide, if he doesn't have a solid frame, he will be disrespected whether to his face or behind his back.
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‎But I am always happy that time will humble us all.
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‎So I am not pained again when I see some men simp or when I see some women manipulate men cause time will humble us all. Life will happen to everyone, and no be curse, cause life nah turn by turn.
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‎Some people life dey touch them, some life dey cuddle them, some life dey give them full body massage, while some are having their best life ever, some are expecting their big break. naso life just be.

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Mariangeles:
Okay. Money is a tool, and the man with the tool is the prize, because without the tool, a man cannot achieve much.
‎A man with the tool calls the shot.
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‎Aim to have the tool, because without it, you will be oppressed by men like you.
‎And that tool is money 💰💰💰

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‎At the first bolded, a man is always the PRIZE, cause the world revolves around men. Civilization was built by men, going down memory lane, Alexandria of ancient Egypt, Timbuktu of ancient Mali, the mathematical prowess of ancient Persia, the works of Albeit Einstein, the discovery of Isaac Newton, the works of Galileo etc men were and are still at the fore front of modernization and revolution.
‎There are women inventors and innovators, but men were the underlying engine doing all the works.
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‎So money alone doesn't and has never made men the prize, but by virtue of being a man, he is already the PRIZE.
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‎At the italicized, yes money is important. But saying a man can't achieve much without money is like saying a man is almost USELESS without money. I am not disputing the importance of money.
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‎Too much worshipping of money in this country is what is causing all this ...

‎DickenClarq if truly you are a female, then well as always I believe there are still sensible women in Nigeria. The population is just 0.01% of total female population.
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‎Iamdbull please change your thoughts, cause your self esteem is shaken. So sorry for you, your thoughts speak volumes on who you are at core.
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‎Empresa you are very correct, I once had a lengthy discussion with a lady from Eswatini(a southern african country), and I just know say Nigerian women no really worth am.
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‎Kalulu44 in as much as I appreciate your opinions, all I can say is please be careful around women.
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‎There are truth to what you are writing, but there are some mindset shift that you need to have.
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‎I don't know if I'm the only man in Nigeria that knows that Nigerian women are mostly broke. The way Nigerian women dey broke ehn, e go shoke you.
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‎Now this same women will have the guts to broke shame men.
‎This is similar to the popular saying of "kettle calling pot black"
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‎One very damaged nairalander I told her real truths and I pray she learns, but I have no expectations.
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‎Many Nigerian men needs to wake up to the realization that they are on average richer and financially okay than many women, so when a Nigerian lady broke shame you, you return the energy.
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‎In summary when a man sees himself as needing money to feel loved, respected and adored, then that man's mindset is broken.
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‎Drops pen 🖊️

If you want to hear the most unbiased truth then here is what I have to say.

People will pay for these three things : a solution, an experience, convenience

The best way to grow a business is to learn from those who have built successful business(es)

On average successful businesses needs at least 6 years to gain initial momentum and 11 years to start seeing considerable revenue and 30 years to be firmly established and rooted.

Now how many married women can brainstorm a solution, an experience worth paying for or a convenience?
How many married women can patiently learn the ropes of business for as long as it takes?
How many married women can stay for the longest to wait for a business to pick up?

Well it's a rhetorical question.

Most people shine best being employees, there is no crime in that.

Katell:
God will continue to bless my father. The best time I make money in life was after my graduation from the university. I got a job with a bank and I was really a "big boy". My father gave me a close monitoring. He warned me against spending on girls (especially those in school), flamboyant lifestyle and cars. He ensures I saved and acquire assets. He forbids me buying a car for 3 years even as a banker. He pushed me into professional exams and master's degree. I was occupied to be too social.

Today, I am not broke, those investments are delivering their returns week in week out. I don't struggle to pay bills. All I need is to check returns on some investments and cash out. Even if i don't work anymore, I can never be broke. These are saving made over 20 years ago.

To my amiable and visionary father, thank you very much sir. I have inculcated same in my children.

You see what you wrote here is what differentiate the financially literate from the financial illiterate.

You see the bolded is one key thing out of many that builds compounding wealth, and at core wealth compounds.

1 million should never be saved in naira, either convert it to USDC or USD, or buy an asset(eg landed asset), or invest in commodity (buy 1 million worth of rice or palm oil at cheaper rate and resale for a profit, continue the cycle again).

But at the end of the day having other source of daily money to sustain life is very important so that you don't use your investment money to fund your everyday living. That way you can track your profits, and investment capital which can be used for re-investment.

TheStoriesOfMan:
Made my first million, then took out 100k to pamper myself.

Na who work go chop.

I use the remaining invest in stocks and bonds.

I know say I dey broke but I happy say my money dey gimme more money.

I know say I no get money like Elon musk, but I know say I get where to sleep, eat and stay.

We go survive. On God.

Just leave it for two years no touch am, by 2030 you go smile.

kiddaz:
Em done reach this level now now. Single mothers not single ladies. All is well

First of all I may not be in the right position to know the entire story, but single ladies or mothers don't have good reputations, why ain't they telling us the real cause of their singlehood?

Lovelink1991:
You are just bragging. Don't forget that without women men are not complete, just because you guys are opportune to have dominancy doesn't mean we should not select.

Well as the popular saying goes "Men WANT women, Women NEED men"

Bendeco02:
No one said you should not select.

The problem is that your gender does that in annoying way.

You can keep your spec to your mind and choose when he approach you not coming online to brag and cap careless when you're not even that your spec's spec.

Do you see men talking down on short women? Or ugly women on social media or offline?

A Girl without any Job will come online and call men earning 100k poor while she depends on only her body to earn.

A fat Girl will see a chubby Guy and insult him. A short woman will come online to brag tall men or nothing. When the tall men will not even choose her.

Who even told some of you that those men you insult of not being your spec even finds you attractive or need you if sex is removed? That 's why single mom are many.

You see what you mentioned here is why I laugh at the statement of multiple women, they all want a rich man but very few of them know or have what it takes to get a rich or wealthy man for themselves.

Only if they know that the rich and wealthy only marry amongst themselves, and they should not be deceived by Nollywood. Also rich men due to having more disposable will have multiple women around them.

QuinQQ:
When it comes to marriage, yes. But when it comes to sex and relationship, women of child-bearing age are BY FAR the price.

Do you know that many men womanize cause of lust? And do you also know that yes a man may simp cause of lust or low self-esteem, but when the man has suffered sufficient shege he will have to move on with life. So to that simp, women were prize to him not to all men. So even in relationships men are still the prize cause the women are manipulating the simps to survive.

Lovelink1991:
No I will agree to that, there are women men are dying to have too. They are there not because they cannot take care of themselves but they need someone they can call a husband at their age likewise men too. There is an age you get to you will hunger to have a partner that is why they are there and men still have theirs too

No matter how we want to look at this, once a woman has crossed a certain age, she becomes less desirable for serious commitment. Its just something that happens, well there are exceptions, but it's just the way it is.

QuinQQ:
It's a simple matter of economics 101 and biology.
ECONOMICS:
Supply and demand: almost all men in the world want to have sex with a childbearing age woman all the time. Number of such women is limited. When you minus those on period or nursing or pregnant... Why do you think it is men that have always paid for sex?
BIOLOGY: We are hardwired to want our genes to survive. We are not conscious of this wiring but it drives so much we do. Best way for a man is to impregnate as many women as possible. A woman can only have very limited number of children so best way [b]for her is to find a man that will STAY[/b]and help her raise and protect her few offsprings to adulthood (MARRIAGE!)

Also, ONE man can impregnate countless number of women, while a woman can only have few children, making men much more disposable and women needing to be protected - if we want our species to survive!

At the first and second bolded that is very true.
Testosterone is a major hormone in every healthy man.
But you see that same hormone, when a man uses it in the right source gives him enough energy to get things done.
Testosterone is what gives men the physical power and mental capabilities ahead of women.

Now I will ask this singular question for you to see the bigger picture: note that I'm not in any way saying condescending things against women. No

Would any woman be happy knowing that a man just wants her for SEX?
See those hookup girls are damaged beyond repair, and any girl that thinks she can offer sex to the highest bidder or to whomever she wants is DAMAGED.
Also same for any man who thinks cause he has testosterone in excess he should now begin sexing aimlessly, these crops of people are damaged.

I love SEX, yes cause I'm a healthy man, but I really don't think I will see a woman of child bearing age as PRIZE cause I want to bone her, even she won't be happy knowing fully well that I just want to bone her and leave.

One fundamental truth in heterosexual relationship dynamics is what men and women want in relationships have always being different. Reason why one of the GOATED relationship advice is " what you want in the other person, starts with YOU".

You want her to respect you, do you respect her?
You want her to give you attention, do you give her attention?

Lovelink1991:
You are right. Less desirable by the lesser age not among the age that are ahead of her.

I will agree with you on this. I fully acknowledge your thoughts.

But subconsciously a man(45+) will pick a decent, humble and respectful younger lady (28-32) ahead of a more aged woman(35+).

That's why most women from decent homes, with a working family know that if they choose to get married they should do it while younger.

There is no one size fits all and it mostly depends on what you want to achieve or do with the laptop.

For a regular user, any entry level chip is okay. Intel i3-1215U or AMD Ryzen 3 is okay. Integrated graphics is okay. 8GB minimum RAM, 256 GB NVMe SSD.

For video editor, at least 6-cores/12-thread chip. i5-13500H or Ryzen 5 7640HS, you must use a dedicated GPU with 4GB VRAM minimum, 16GB RAM at minimum, 512 GB NVMe SSD.

You see that for this two people, what they want in a laptop is very different.

Also note that battery life for a high performance laptop is different from that of a normal everyday mini usage.

100naira:
Which laptop can one get for daily use, durable lasting battery and decent RAM/Storage

Now on the question of which laptop can one get?, I will assume that you are a mini user, HP EliteBook or Lenovo Thinkpad brand is sufficient. You can easily get HP and or Lenovo parts in the market, also upgrading components in HP laptop is easy in Lagos.

So go with HP Elitebook family.

Fiscus105:
Redpiller is delusional, all atrocities they claimed women doing, men are doing it as well.

As woman disappointed, man does.

Some Woman pay good deed with bad, so does some men do.

Some girls wicked, the same way boys weekend.

Reason why they now make woman character as if it's gender exclusive, is worrisome.

Lastly, every of teaching, doesn't what it, .......you don't need to be told, to take care of yourself before girlfriend.

You don't need to be told, to stop doing good for gf you know, she is not resprocating your good gesture among others.

Omoh the way you explained this thing ehn, NEPA took light out of shame.
Wetin be boys weekend, make wuna dey calm down

This is the same country that caused Darwin to talk about evolution, cause a lot of weird things happens in that country.

Especially the Galapagos.

I would love to experience the weather there, climb the tallest point on earth there to feel if its really hot. Also would love to stand on both hemisphere.

I would also love to experience 12 hours of sunlight and night.

Also if the weather there and geography affects human body lol

Nice2023:
The most surprising facts today is that,many in our parents age are better compared to the present day children.

At a certain age,many of them built their houses while in this generation,they are still waiting for jobs,seeking opportunities here and there and some may end up not having the job las las.

However,times have changed seriously,it is painful to see many of our parents still taking care of their children who are supposed to take care of them at old age still living with them,with no income,no means of survival for himself,I mean what a surprising world.

I beg to differ in a way, statistically Gen Zs are living in the wealthiest times in human history, Gen Zs have access to wealth than previous generations. This is not to say that the income inequality gap is also at its broadest in modern history.

But many Gen Zs are very myopic, I remember growing up, once my dad collects salary or earns a profit, he budgets his money. My dad was the person I learned saving and investing from. Many Gen Zs today cant start small, which is very bad. A Gen Z would prefer to spend 800k to get a phone, when he can invest that money in landed asset and build the house small-small. A Gen Z can also invest money in stock market or mutual funds or hold stable coins, but no, they prefer to dorime with any little cash they have.
Most Gen Z dont believe wealth takes time, but in reality wealth compounds.

I am happy that the smart and intelligent Gen Zs are silently stacking their wealth and making exploits even in this present Nigeria. Well those frivolous Gen Zs can continue their play, time will always humble us all. So yes times have change, but the world economy has grown bigger such that if GenZs were strategic, they would win big and maintain such profile.
So in summary our generation is medically, academically, scientifically, financially better than that of our parents.
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Ciscogod:
As I’ve grown older, I’ve come to realize that my dad loved us more than anyone else. Thank God it wasn’t too late for me to understand and appreciate that.

Men, take care of your parents—especially your father. In many cases, he is the one man who genuinely wants you to surpass him and achieve greater things in life. Sadly, many of us only come to this realization after he is gone.

If your dad is still here, cherish him, appreciate him, and make time for him while you still can.

My parents were and are very instrumental in my success as a young man
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emmaodet:
Because the standard of living has risen astronomically than your parent's own.

Most of our parents didn't drive cars throughout their service time, No pressure to change phone or wife's own, no pressure to send kids to private schools, many lived in 2 rooms alone and not flats etc.
All these saves money that can be channeled into doing projects like house building.
Many ladies won't even take your marriage proposal serious if you are not staying in a flat today and if possible have a car.
If they try what we are doing now, many of them will die broke long before reaching 50 years.
Our standard of living and taste will not allow us to have disposable income to fund projects.
We can't eat our cakes and have it.

You have hit the nail on the head.

Only if Gen Zs know the amount of wealth that can be built with hard work, consistency and discipline.

I ask why someone will comfortably live in a run down house and own an expensive phone, or wear expensive clothes?
I ask why women who aren't financially capable will broke shame a decent struggling young man?
I ask why women don't know that their window to get married closes at 27? and after that they are free to pursue their academic, financial exploits in their matrimonial home.

But its all good, time will humble us all. Two things that are inevitable is death and passing of time

To every parent out there that have raised their children with love, care and discipline, God bless you all.

This is my one and only post here, and you are free to form whatever opinion you have as that would be on you.

You said we have a lot of poor men, let me tell you this truth today as someone who have lived more than 2 decades in three geopolitical zones in this country Nigeria and in one other West African country(short stay).

More women are poorer than men, in other words for every poor man there are 7 to 8 poor women, that means women are mostly poorer than men. Now globally women are notoriously poorer than men, so you see that your gender has more likelihood of being wretched and poor than my gender.

This is not gender war, but data backed by every day happenings.

A man can have 100k in his account and say he is broke, but a woman will have 20k and have a nonsense and misplaced superiority complex.

Most men will comfortably have 50million sitting in their accounts with multiple income sources, yet live a very simple and minimalistic life, yet your gender will flaunt with an iPhone 14 promax that was gifted to her or she stole and have the effrontery to call my gender broke.

Know today that your gender have no right to broke shame men, cause you all are mostly broke and proud of your brokenness.

Well what is good for the goose is also good for the gander, broke women should be placed on permanent birth control measures, so that they don't conceive and give birth to children they also can't train as they have NO ECONOMIC VALUE and are useless. They also don't deserve sex, and the government should take the children away from them if they conceive peradventure.

If you continue having this mentality, I promise you, you will learn at a very old age and it might too late by then.

As I said I have no words for you, but I am writing it here for other women that have this misplaced mindset to change and know this is wrong at core.

luminouz:
1.That a man who puts any woman on a pedestal, all in the name of relationship or love, while neglecting his own growth is a perpetual loser.
Even women hate such men.

2. All women are like that. Yes, including your precious mother and sisters. That they are not extorting you like your gf does not make them immune to AWALT. Infact, many simps who grew up like that were indoctrinated by their women and sisters by playing the long game of financial benefits and attention till old age. Don't get me started on the girlfriends. This thread go long.

3. YAAYG!!! It sounds like YAAAY and G right!!! But it means You Are All You Got!!! As a man, no one is coming to save you. Your worth comes from your usefulness or ability to provide a particular thing the society wants. You are not only on the lowest rung of the pecking order but also highly expendable. Your resources and time must be guarded jealousy in this regard so you can retire early and live a good life. Don't fall for the 'REAL' man scam perpetrated by women. That's a con technique to swindle you of your resources. There is nothing like a real man. You are either a man or you are a woman.

4. Women are Adult babies. Treat them as such. Don't trust what they SAY, only what they DO.

5. Repeat Points 1-4 and carve them in your heart.

I will say mine is more of realizations.

To buttress your points:
6. If you are attracted to a lady, give her your contact details(mobile or whatsapp), if she rate you, she will reach out, if she doesn't, you can easily forget about her.
7. Never be attracted to a lady that doesn't work to earn a living, that doesn't understand the value of money, and for the first 90 days of any relationship let her know that you are not freaked by sex, apply all this you have conquered 90% of subtle and frontal manipulation.
8. Never play with your finances when it comes to a lady, they wont remember your financial helps.
9. From the start of every relationship, list out what you expect, what you want, what you like and dislike, all the terms and conditions of the relationship, list it out, that way no one will be unduly invested, if it wont work, you will know from the get go.
10. Every woman that love you will test you, control your mouth and your emotions, master the art of solitude, keep little to no friends, smile a lot but keep your cards to your chest and trust me, every woman that crosses your path, will fear and respect you.

Drops pen

Tenrack:
this is beautiful. I would love to engage you in a conversation outside this forum if that's fine by you sir.

Yeah we can reach out via Session app - my ID is 05e30de07dd2ed9e74ac4b4e3602064d9495688615a41196134c5bd12f2d21d054

Tenrack:
thanks man. But I don't know much about the app. Is it one I need to download on playstore? Lemme get to it swiftly.

No pressure brotherly, I rarely use WhatsApp due to my data privacy concerns, so I switched to those apps. But here is fine since its anonymous here, just mention me on a dead and old thread.

Fiscus105:
Redpiller is delusional, all atrocities they claimed women doing, men are doing it as well.

As woman disappointed, man does.

Some Woman pay good deed with bad, so does some men do.

Some girls wicked, the same way boys weekend.

Reason why they now make woman character as if it's gender exclusive, is worrisome.

Lastly, every of teaching, doesn't what it, .......you don't need to be told, to take care of yourself before girlfriend.

You don't need to be told, to stop doing good for gf you know, she is not resprocating your good gesture among others.

Omoh the way you explained this thing ehn, NEPA took light out of shame.
Wetin be boys weekend, make wuna dey calm down

I experienced this same thing in one of my guys apartment in one of the South Western states. At first I thought maybe it's restricted to just one network provider, but no it affected all networks.

Here is what we did(I couldnt stay there long):

* Kept the router outside the house
Its most likely the thick wall and the pan that is affecting network, since then I dey appreciate abestos roof and ventilated apartments.

GlobalWay:
Ok, buy stralink I think it

Funnily enough Starlink wont solve it totally, the major culprits are thick walls, small ventilated areas and metal roof.

I don experience that thing.

yemmit90:
May be you are the type thet buys baby food 20k twice per week, unnecessary weekly shopping, use 50k to cook soup, use 150k for power units to enjoy 24/7 AC and other wastefulness at home. Sometimes, those who are clubbing or carrying women are even spending wisely than some men who don't

How can you be earning 1m naira per month and still be complaining with a family of 3. You better cut your expenses now before it too late for you. On

I find it really hard to believe this types of cock and bull story.

But then I still know that people that complain like this have a highly inflated lifestyle.

I have seen family men earn well below that and their family was doing very okay.

Lifestyles like this never leads to financial libration.

To the OP read the following book :
1. Psychology of Money (1st Read)
2. Richest Man in Babylon
3. Rich Dad Poor Dad

I feel once you are financially enlightened you won't complain like this.

In present day Nigeria, if you earn 750thousand plus monthly and you don't have a decent returning cash flow after 1 year on that salary, you are not financially literate.

Take that to the bank, cause salaries can never make you rich, and I'm not saying you should quite your job, but you need to financially position yourself to have a decent cash flow or even multiple cash flows.

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Incognito403:
‎Stop giving blanket statements.
‎1M isn't serious money at all especially if you have a car or need to use public transport frequently.
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‎Moreover, you'll need to work for.at least two years before you can save up emergency funds.
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‎That money has no room for vacations oo.
‎That money only gives basic life nothing extra.

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‎Sincerely at the bolded that is a fax pas, a lot of people will literally worship you if you hand them a 1million one time payout. Now imagine a recurring 1million payout
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‎Now you mentioned owning a car, I don't know if I'm the only Nigerian that sees owning a car not as an asset but a liability, I see car as a comfort accessory not an everyday lifestyle need.
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‎Really I have nothing to tell the OP cause I know at the core, it's a lifestyle problem.

NewMayor2026:
It's not bullshit post. It's not easy to save 3M from 1M salary.

‎I am just laughing this Sunday morning, normally I read and move on, but the comments I'm seeing here are amazing.
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‎Now in 3 years 1million salary gross is 36million, now after statutory deduction let's imagine his total net is 34.5million. I am factoring tax deduction, HMO deduction, penalty deduction from work, etc.
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‎Now 3million is just 8.33333333% of 36million(I factored in decimal precision)
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‎Even at 34.5million, 3 million will still be in the 8 point something range percentage.
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‎So in three years 3 million savings is really little compared to his main salary even after deductions are factored in.
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‎So bro, this is clearly one of the three likelihood.
‎1. it's either this is show off or notice me
‎2. he has an inflated lifestyle
‎3. he is servicing huge debt and his financial life is a mess
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BucketHat:
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‎Bro,for this hurricane Tinubu regime, you be king ooo.
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‎You use 5.5 milli open shop for your wife .......
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‎You're blessed oooooooooo
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‎Your wife sabi business wella before you invest over 5 metre?

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‎The last question is really important cause left to me if the wife is not business oriented, or a strategist, that money is a waste
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‎If money too dey OP hand look at the following areas to safely invest in
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‎1. mutual funds, government bonds, Treasury accounts
‎2. lock the money in stable currency
‎3. Commodity market like sales of rice, beans, palm oil, sugar, salt.
‎4. Liason and strategic partnership with political figures already in power in your local government or state level (the ROI on this is almost instant lol)
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‎Some have food but cannot eat, some can eat but have no food
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I would say the horse ploughing is off, first its ploughing in wrong direction, the plough is not correctly attached to horse.
Looking at one branch of the tree, its against the wind The sheep have no shadow.

That object close to the house, normally shouldn't be there.

The shadow of the dog doesn't shows the tail, should at least show since the tail is also upright

brain54:
Moderate girls have the best chances...


Because they balance things up between the two other groups.


I call them the balancing crew.

Seriously though a man can say he likes or prefers a woman with big juggs but end up with a woman that has microscopic features, especially when his consideration and intentions isn't any longer just sexual.


That's why I said in the end different things combine and add up to make a woman a man's spec.


Besides I think most men's spec change over time especially as they grow older.


Short of my epistle is that they is and always will be a man for you irrespective of slim, moderate or full option!

At the bolded you are very very very correct.

You see the Ayra Starr body type girls, they are spec anyday anytime.

Moderate in every area. Now crown it up with caramel skin and leggings style legs, that's a blast combo.

But then some men actually appreciate the physical features and would love for some emotional, social and core intelligence.

Also I dont understand women that think artificial enhancement in any form is attractive, gosh it isn't.

I love it all natural, same way I barb clean low cut and trim my stubble beard is how I want my women to be natural.

Abeg plait all back I dont mind, wear plain no branded tees, clean natural color trousers or fitted skirt. Go easy on the earrings, I prefer studs.

It's not even too much to ask

SixSeven:
Is there a biological reason why men tend to look at a woman's behind just the way they see her front?

Humans tend to appreciate what they dont have, or what doesn't come easy.

In the case of bum/butt/bum bum, the female have it bigger than the male due to hormones which triggers storage of fat and omega3 in that area which in turn is helpful during pregnancy, child birth and caring for the little ones especially when backing the baby.

Also it's visible to the human eyes as well. One truth I want to spill today is other women notice their fellow women bumbum, infact they jest amongst themselves about it. Even till today I jest and compliment my female friends bout their ass, cause even they themselves love their asses big.

IbrahimSola:
You see that laying out what you want from day 0? It doesn't work 90% of instances because for Christians, the Bible has already told them that they should love their wives. And this kind of love blinds the men easily and at the start they tend to do the exact opposite of what you advise here. They hate to hurt her feelings unnecessarily. And WOMEN HATE ACCOUNTABILITY. Nothing scares women like a countability. They do everything to avoid it, while putting pressure on the men to be accountable.

The point here is that one way or the other, men still cower to the antics of women. But yes, men should stay conscious and look out for some tell tale signs.

Women have used social media to their own advantage while painting the men as sinners and women as angels. It's a complicated loop that each man should learn how to break and take control.

Actually my kind of person is I don't give a f**k about trivial things, so if we are going to be in a relationship or whatever, you have to know what I want from the get go, if you are not happy with it, you are free to walk away, at least that way we aren't playing games and it saves us wasting of time and unnecessary stress.

More young men are waking up sha in real life.

Funny how that number is her WhatsApp and mobile number.

Tracking her location is a very easy thing, not to mention that she can be blacklisted

In her minds now, she will be like the man should man up and let the 100k go just like that, something a woman can never do.

Sonnobax15:

Some people carelessness is indeed worst.

Whenever I want to make any transfer,I make sure I confirm the figures and the name of the account before pressing "SEND"

Please stop this blame game, this not even valid, what shall it profit her to refuse to refund.

occfx:
Na phone spoil genz.

Believe me that many GenZs played that game. Or should I say Pre 2003 GenZs

Of particular mention is that After round one, I always picked FIVE and I too slap hands oo.

Then you see [b]HIDE AND SEEK[b/] omoh a lot of atrocities were committed with that game. Bad boys use am doing crazy things.

Then this one that we do then was knock on someone's door and run away, but when they caught me and one other guy, we helped the woman wash plate LOL

Capernum:
This genz generation have missed too much. They have been cheated by phones.

I am GenZ and I played 5 out of those games.
Well I can confidently say Pre 2003 GenZs still played some of those games, I played it with my little sister and some older GenZ while growing up

Love800:
Just be precise with your thoughts towards women. Don't ever bend your wish for dem cos they don't send you.

Word on marble. Never sugar coat words with women cause they hate accountability. What you want, what you won't accept, what you deserve, from day 0 state it to her.
It will save you in the long run.

Rapmoney:
As a man, you need to be brutal in your choices of life. You need to choose you first. You need to be at least 85% selfish.

As a man, always put yourself first.

You see this things you wrote here is my mantra henceforth.

Rapmoney:
It is more about protecting your interest to succeed.

💯%

How women have master the art of resource extraction from men is something to study. They are on average broke and without money cause they spend frivolously.

Samantha125:
So if a man finds me sitting somewhere minding my business and offers to buy me lunch, should I then turn down my chance of enjoying free food?

Yes oo, don't turn down free food ooo. I'd do same oo.

But the truth is new generation guys that understand OT won't even bother buying things for a lady, when no be say nah ment.

Most men are now waking up to the reality of being careful with their finances and putting themselves first and only spending on their bloodline, make everybody sort themselves.

So please enjoy the resources of SIMPle men while the men with OT protect their resources and frame.

No bad blood

FreeSpirited:
If a woman will try use my eyes do she gets at old age, I will marry a new wife at that old age that will take care of me. Men believing that marrying a second wise is a taboo is the reason women have flex over them.
I won't tell a woman to be nice or evil, but trying to eat your cake and have it , with my money o, won't work.
The prayer is for you not to be broke or depend on a woman for sustainance.... A man of means should not allow anything short of respect from a woman.

I am happy that men are now voicing out against the manipulation that women have hold on men for the longest of time. Gosh I am happy seeing this and this is not only happening on social media but real life. Omoh e sweet me

Kaido:
You are a real nigga.

Being brutally honest and calling out women's bullcrap is the way.

I once heard my mom telling someone that I hate women just cuz I have low tolerance.

My chances of marrying a woman is low.

Omoh peace of mind and self sufficiency is the goal ooo

Understanding women is the beginning of freedom for every man.

kingthreat:
I met an old friend and all he was doing was hyping his wife. When I visited them together, he kept on adoring her in front of me like he was paid to do it. Financial crisis recently hit them, he now does Uber while his wife via other connections was able to japa alone. I don't know if he's still adoring her or maybe he has hopes that she will connect him to join her.

His usefulness expired and so she left him behind, he wasn't informed 😂

marlow1962:
As a man, the only people I will love unconditionally is my kids and myself.

This is the foundation of FREEDOM.

Manculated:
I didn't even need to read anybody's book to know about Women. I knew about Women because I GREW UP among Women😂

Plus I have always had this Manly Traits right from when I was young. So in summary, my own na Follow Come😂

The funny thing is I always promise to check out Esther Vilar works but it always skip my mind. I will check it out someday.

Bruhhh!! See there are some truths you discovered that will make you live life calmly without stress and argument.
Till tomorrow I keep asking how Esther was able to succintly write that book in the early 1970s and the truth is still valid till today.

See ehn if I born boy tomorrow, from age 10 my son(s) must understand what I understood in my 20s about women. Its not even about hating women, it's just about evading their manipulative tactics that they(women) have MASTERED for long time.

Same here I also have this trait of not giving a f**k and maybe I just didnt see need to chase women cause I lived with women for a long time, maybe when i lived with my uncle was when I started having time for women cause my uncle nah flex man

SixSeven:
You should read The Polygamous Sex too. Another book that will blow your mind.

I am reading that this weekend. Esther cooked in her books. I wished more men can just read her books.

spiceadole:
Instead of a man to spend my money, I rather go to jail.
God forbid ooooh

I hear this a lot, even though your gender will say, "If you spend on a man, he will relax and bla bla bla", but you lot are willing to accept from a man.

One thing I have come to know about women is women see men as work machine that is dispensible when not useful, women are stingy and consumerist, they spend more money than men, women withhold sex for manipulative purposes, women arent thinking about men the way men are thinking about women.

Now knowing this, I plead with every man reading this to please be stingy with your resources, rarely help women who wouldn't do same for you when your chips are down.

I must confess that even I blame and critic men for cheating, but now, I dont blame again. I blame and critic men for marrying multiple women, but now it is very needed to prevent oneitis.

As I am like this, all my disposable income will be spent on myself, my dad, then my mum and my blood children.

Women are callous, men needs to be.

Women have mastered the art of suppressing loving emotions, they have mastered the art of suppressing sexual needs all for MANIPULATION.

Aje nah Me First e go be henceforth. I am not even arguing with anybody, but MEN PUT YOURSELF FIRST, YOUR RESOURCES MUST BE SPENT ON YOURSELF AND YOUR BLOODLINE. That is the mantra for 2026 and henceforth.

Same women that wouldn't help themselves financially. Women only support themselves to promote their manipulative shenenigans, but when it comes to the other womans benefit, they are callous.

I have understand women to that extent, and I thank God and God bless Esther Vilar, you opened my minds.

This is skit .... Content based economy

BItt:
Is Love Real once you cross the Age of 25? Of you are just looking for sex or financial and material benefit?

Sometimes it's good to ask ourselves sincere questions. This will give us a heads up of the reality we are faced with.

Deep down the female folk just want someone to shoulder their responsibilities and they try to interpret it as love. But once the man is unable to meet up with those Responsiblites or be adequate, they run to the next man.
Perhaps, the society we live in determines what is love.

For the men, love is so attached to sex and often her physical features. Or maybe they do not know what love is other than giving their earnings, time, support and security to a woman they are attracted to sexually.

All these facts starts to surface in your mid 20s and you realize people are just opportunist and not as if they love. They are just after an advantage to gain.

I cant speak for others, but I experienced the realest love when I was 17 and 18. The girl was my age mate sef.
In the adolescence years I think that is when the purest love is seen, like the intimacy, care and vibe is raw and natural with zero filters, after 21 like this, everywhere becomes blur blur blurship

Emdi1914:
These breed should thank God that He Gave them a Vagina..., Some of them have characters that are not of this world, very strange characters.
Infact,most men would not even marry if not for vagina. God just used vagina to imprison some men.

You see this thing ehn at the bolded, lust or high sex drive plus ego, is man's greatest shortcoming.

Remove sex and ego and men will live life to the fullest.

Because of konji men be doing stupid things, cause of man's ego, he wants to impress even at his detriment.

What is the way forward likdis

SixSeven:
One of the things I've learned about women is that they are insatiable. So if you like provide her heavens and earth, she fit still say e no reach, say na Mars she want. So brother, do your best and leave the rest to God. Don't overkill yourself. Try to enjoy life and only take care of what is within your control. Anything else, is worry that you cannot control.


Another reason women keep demanding is because they don't wear the shoe where it pinches. She is asking you for these things while you are worrying about how to provide. It's normal. Just understand that women, most of them are like children. When you see how children behave and ask for things, it's because they have nothing to worry about. As a father, what do you do when your child says papa take me to Dubai tomorrow? There is your answer.

How Esther Vilar wrote this things cleanly and clearly, that woman is a gem.

Every young man from age 9 must read that book Manipulated Man regularly.

To the smart nairaland men, please if you born boy, train them in the art of spotting women's manipulation and putting themselves first.

I read that book last year, but it never late sha.

JESHAL007:
The brutal reality is that there is virtually nothing you can do to make a woman attracted to you. If a woman categorized you as a sexually unattractive man after meeting you, no amount of game, Redpill sense, or masculine frame is going to change it. The best thing to do is to forget about her and keep it moving. Trying to win her over with "dating drills" and Redpill game is a waste of time, or worse, a self-inflicted humiliation

This is GOATED. From day one when I am talking with a lady, I let her know I am looking at her bum giving off sexual vibe, if she then later categorize me as sexually unattractive I sharply JBF her.

It's still funny that even handsomeness sometimes no dey make women sexually attractive to you.

Vicboy1:
You are right, and even if you want to create attraction, do it that first day she saw you .

I really don't know if you can create that attraction, cause women attraction is different from men. Sometimes your flashy things might not attract her, maybe just interest her.

I might be wrong tho.

JESHAL007:
It's not gender bias it's an overwhelming reality, women have the upper hand in the sexual market place, an overwhelming 70% of divorce is initiated by women in countries that keep record, women initiate most breakups, I'm not saying men can't be the source of issue in dating, relationship and marriage, but in most cases it's women , remember they by default for existing have an abundance of hornny men who want sex or relationship with them, they have the advantage

Like so true, if you don't have intimacy with a woman another man will, if you are stingy with your resources with her another man will be so generous with her.
Truly who rules the world -- GIRLS

Nmjkjjjk

Truly hardwork pays.

And one thing I have come to realize is the dividends and rewards will not come instantly.

I watched this woman and Funke while growing up, now after years of consistency, they are big name now.