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Sweetlemon: We hear them all the time. These are things our big sisters, aunts, and mothers drum into our heads while growing up. Now all grown up, spiritual mentors keep warning us about them in our fellowships, church/mosque services, etc. But all my almost 30 years on earth has shown me a lot of realities.

Disclaimer: This article is in no way whatsoever against waiting till marriage for sex. It only separates fantasy from facts. If you want to remain a virgin till marriage please do. If you want to stop having sex till marriage, please do.

1. A Man Will Love You More After Marriage/ A Man Will Marry You Only If He Loves You:

Ha! Mbanu! A man (even women) doesn't love his wife more after marriage. Why? Marriage is an eye opener, it is after marriage that you know EXACTLY who you have married. If it turns out you married the right person for you, then the loves grows, but if it turns out to be one chance, OYO l' wa.
Do not marry a man that doesn't love you. This is because the bitter truth is that Many men do not marry for love. Many marry because they need a helper. Because their parents are on their necks, for traditional titles/more respect in the society, even for business purposes. So don't get all mushy and swept off your feet just yet just because one guy just proposed to you.
Always remember this, getting married is a destination. Keeping your marriage is a whole new never ending journey. Do not confuse the two of them.

2. A Man Will Respect/Love You More When You Make Him Chase You Longer:

This one is a very popular myth my mum was always singing into our ears *rolls eyse*. I have this cousin who had this toaster that was on her case for about five years, we were all "aww", "eh ya this guy really means it" etc. But immediately they had sex, his behavior towards her changed. I have heard of relationships that started with sex on the first date that led to marriage.
See, my sisters, a man that will love you will love you. When a man really enjoys having sex/making out with you, you are already half way there. You just need to work on other areas such as his likes, interests, etc. I'm not saying you should open leg like remote-controlled TV o. Just be yourself and allow your intuition and body chemistry guide and guard you. Don't set any time, let things flow naturally. What will be must be.
Chikena!

3. A Man Will Marry You If You Refuse Sex Till Marriage:

Like seriously! Na only you waka come? Na only you get toto? Puleeeze! A man doesn't marry just because he wants sex! He can get sex anywhere. You hear me so? Anywhere! It doesn't have to be from you! Let's even look at it this way, fine you hold out till marriage, after finally getting it after marriage what next? Is it your toto that will sustain the marriage? You must be a learner! I know some unhappily married women who married as virgins. I know some bad girls who married men most virgins dream of.
Like I said earlier, A man that wants to marry you will marry you.

4. If A Man Loves You He Won't Want To Have Sex Till Marriage:

Ha! You obviously do not know jack about men! See, as a general rule, men love sex. In fact, when a man hits on you, he wants sex as part of whatever package he wants from you. Whether na one night stand, side dish, contract, or marriage. If he doesn't, chances are that something is seriously wrong with him. Babe shine your eyes, if your intending husband has never had an erection while both of you are alone. Ha!
Even if you do not want to have sex with him until marriage, make sure that chemistry is there. Make sure you see a sign of hot and steamy nights to come after marriage. Thank me later.
Sex is not love, but love has a lot to do with sex. You can have sex with someone without loving that person, but you cannot love someone without wanting to have sex. The difference is that while sex is demanding, love is patient. A man that loves you will wait till the right moment to do it and will still love and respect you afterwards, a man that loves you will make love to you, he will make it as good as possible for you. But a man in lust will want it now...........and he will chase you until he gets it and when he gets it, pele o!

5. Men Only Like Good Girls/Good Girls Get The Best Men/Good Girls Marry First:

This one doesn't need long talk, all my mature single sisters in church can testify to this. See, men like good girls that have fire underneath them. So if you are a good boring girl whose life revolves around church-fellowship-work-home. Ah! My sister, even the brothers-in-the lord these days will call you a total bore!
I'm not saying you should start clubbing o. Mba o! Just saying you should spice up your social life a lil bit more. Go out and meet more people, don't be afraid of looking and feeling sexy. You definitely can be sexy without being trashy.

Like I always keep saying, a man that will love you will love you. The man that has made up his mind to marry you will marry you, even if his mother threatens to commit suicide. Trust me, a man that is emotionally, mentally, and financially ready for marriage does not have to date you for up to a month before he knows that he's going to put a ring on it. Men, I mean men are very practical and they know what they want. Adam knew Eve was from his ribs the very second he set eyes on her. It's great to have a good character, you will definitely get more responsible suitors with your inner beauty. But a man that will love that biitch will love her regardless. See, marriage is all about fate, when your own time is right, it will happen. Marriage is about finding that person who wants to spend the rest of his life with you just the way you are. So don't feel like life is unfair when Pamela, the same girl you've been preaching to marries before you. Every one of us has different time tables in life. And always remember, It's not about when you marry but how well you marry.

Cheers!

forum like dis will misguide a lot of people....... Guy , u are wrong.... Follow d Godly path . God has already given us do's and dont's ........95% of men outside there wants just sex from a woman.... D ladies out there are not secured..... And it will still get worser than this.... I just pity some ladies outside there, they just wanna have fun too. Wen u get a man , just settle down for him instead of tryin to be d hottest chick and some of them turning their bathroom to studio

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Ngwakwe: My Brother Uche Abraham, haven't I being begging you to come back home with those children since the day the NW & NE Governors declared those Northern States, Sharia compliant.

I am still praying that your life and those of our people be preserved as you people quickly pack those bags down to Lagos State, Abuja or preferably to anywhere in the former Eastern Nigeria.

Expecting to see you people alive as to celebrate a happy reunion.

lagos na ur papa house. are u an indigene? una won turn lagos to una home town. y nt advice him to take his bags to to IMO, Enugu, anambra.

what do u mean when they come to lag? who can stay and fight them? is it d Yoruba? am a Yoruba too, we love our lives more than anything. nobody wants to die. just pray they dnt enter here .

oh my God. so, some fools really believe this story. we really ve a problem in this country. very soon I will compose an article and photo shopped some pix. I know many naira fools we believe. always use yr brains whenever u read something. naijaloaded mumu

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Katsina is still the best. Although, am frm lagos. Bt, dat place look like heaven. very beautiful. Yar adua did a wonderful job there. The best so far

To Bleep her.

fela and notorious big. Only Allah can bring them back to life.

Amskeeno: hi bro Olowu, plz get me beta info of da factory, cos am very interested. May God bles n ease ur ways too. Best regards!
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Dnt worry amskeeno. Early january. I hope u have atleast OND . Its a gud job. Just to supervise about 25 factory workers. .. Its nt hard at all.

A factory supervisor job at ijora. 15k. I used to work there before i went for service. Am still searching for jobs too. Bt, i cant go there again because i need to maintain my respect. Am a graduate with certificate nw.

Plz is there any1 that can help me list five public universities in the u.s.a that does not request for toefl or sat. Am going for an undergraduate studies in economics. Incase am ask d name of universities i applied for. Plz reply.

well, its my first time. i pray it works. do they usually ask 4 the waec of a thing. my other question is when they ask me " the proof coming back after my studies" what is best to say? cause i said i would like to be a business manager(self employed).

i didnt write ftoefl/sat. my school does not request for it.am using my transcript. seems am going to go with my poor waec result and i will also explain to them why i never used my gce(lost certificate). I pray it goes my way.

plz guys . i need help. am having an interview few days frm now, and it seems my chances are getting minimal. i have problem about my waec. firstly, i have a lost certificate i.e gce 2004. secondly , i have a combined result. in the gce2004, i had my english as D7 and other subjects are complete. but in my waec 2004, ipassed english and other two subject. plz what shoould i do. how do i defend myself, how should i prepare my academic documents. am going as an ND holder. an undergraduate degree. should i go with waec 2004 and gce 2004. dnt forget, gce 2004(lost certificate,good result with english as D7), waec 2004 (i have the certifiate, poor result with english as C6) the guru's in the house advi me plz. after the interview i would like to share my experience too. my e-mail is oloworulz@yahoo.com

I just hope they will accept my waec scratch card,even though my waec is no where to be found. I pray they issue my f1 visa next month.

Hello, plz i need testimonies, i lost my waec certificate,and my f1 interview at d american embassy is coming soon. How can i go abt it? What should i do. Would they they deny me visa?

Can u enlighten me abt my interview?

Sha money, are u sure if i can get a scratch card,then am good to go . Am talking of GCE 2004, i was thinking of sueing an avidavit b4. Have u seen som1 wit my situations b4? Plz help me. Am really scared. I dnt want to be bounced back.

Hi guyz, i need help big time. My f1 visa interview is oct 31,and am preparing,but i ve a combined waec and gce certificate,but my gce original certificate is lost due to the renovation at my house in my absence.Am an OND HOLDER with other document intact. Am going for a bsc degree in economics. Plz help me what can i do abt my waec?