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funny, how men think, fyi girls sleep with a man quickly because they are Hot and want to. The after cry and clinging is to deceive the man into thinking we did it because of love not because i wanted his dick inside me at that point in time.

Stupid man goes away with a big ego thinking he has dumped another heart, meanwhile she is already doing another guy and giving him the same i am an innocent girl story.

Yep great response from your wife, note that she is not using his helping as a requirement for sex as some ppl have said but helping a woman around the house makes her body more responsive when its time for sex/ lovemaking.

She could easily have had sex with you before now but she may not have enjoyed it because she was not feeling loved.

Naija men, pls be romantic/ helpful and dont assume your wife must give you sex just because you want it.

OMG! That one guy should be that fine, sorry for my bf if i ever meet him,

lol! Dude is finding it hard to get a gf, so he's pissed off with ladies.

Reminds me of all the guys i knew from 9ja who cdnt get one gf, they come to London and cos some cheap white girls r flockin round them , they start to claim that they dont do black girls anyways, lol lol lol

Thats y girls will keep lying to these insecure and immature 9ja men, who want to sleep with the whole world but still want to marry a virgin.

Ur head dey turn if u want to break up with her cos she told u the truth, in fact its better u do and let her find a man who is man enough, cos she will never be able to tell you the truth ever again even if you guys keep dating.

Yeye! 100+ times, she even tried that she was counting, how many girls have lost count? instead of focussing on her more important characters, u r using sex to judge the poor girl!

Neither of them. The fact that u r thinkin about which one to choose shows that u dont love either. When u meet the one, u will not b tryin to choose d better one!

Wow, all these Nairaland stories about guys practically buying the world for girls, including basic recharge cards, are there no girls in Nigeria that work again?

D same way many young girls think its alright to have multiple partners and aristos and play guys when they are young, after all their husbands will cheat when they marry.

Guys should know that if you sleep around, you and ur sons will still marry this same girls that have been around, when they are tired and want to "settle down". The only girls that i finished school with that show a blind eye to their husband cheating are the ones that did men big time in school, they are probably tired of men anyways so no big deal as long as they get the "security" (9ja mentality) of a married home and pretend to be good wives.

Only a stupid man will be happy if his wife does not mind when he cheats, that means she doesnt give 2 f$$$s about you as long as u are the tool to pay d bills and she wears your ring.

What goes around definitely comes around, its men playing about that has turned d western society to what it is where the woman have the upper hand in a mrariage etc, The men should keep cheating , you know when the women do their own na him dey sweet pass.

pro01:
Isn't it obvious that, just like most females, you lack the power of reason? I'm tired of all the illogic one gets from y'all. You did not try to negate my stance, instead you are chasing shadows by talking about "insecurities" and "hurts"! Do you have a brain? Did i allude to being hurt? Ha ha. What the faack does 'insecurity' mean? Stating the obvious? Its nauseating how you girls use words s.t.u.p.id.ly out of context and reason in like manner. No wonder there are very few successful naija female advocates. Can they ever argue sensibly? No.

Abundant experience all around the place shows how unreliable your female pu.s.si.e.s are.  Your fake 'virtues' melt away like wax when a dude steps in with material game. I dont give a faack if you claim 'all girls are not the same'. Deceive yourself all the more if you so wish. I know the STARK difference between when I used to rely only on looks & lip to get y'all, and when I eventually backed up the game with material bling. Its almost laughable infact. Cheap, unreliable love-peddlers. Read the main post itself and identify the attitudinal connection you share with the poster. Woe betide any man take takes you girls seriously. I'm not peeved by all your b.s, just that I like pointing them out so unsuspecting brovas would learn. Hate it when I see dudes in love (with a 'girlfriend' i'm humping.).

This guy, u really r d one lackin in reasonin, i will repeat myself that[b] i do not and will not[/b] negate ur comments because neither i nor any female owes any man anything. I care for my bf but if he messes up, i will dump his arse quickly for another!

Myself and many ladies i know r financially independent so even if we r with a rich (or poor) guy, its because we can not cos he is givin me stuff, but u wdnt know about anythin like that when u keep following 1000 naira girls about.

but lookin at ur pic, no wonder girls r messin u about, any girl has to get sthin if they ve to date u and wd dump u for a richer guy asap!

Knowin u will definitely respond as u always whine like some old woman, am out of this old post 4ever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

pro01:
@post
why am I not surprised? You are all love-peddlers. All a random monkey needs to appear "so handsome" and "sophisticated" in girls' eyes is to pull up in an exotic ride and have pockets bulging with filthy cash.

Even the girls here that are urging you to be careful and all that. . .na lie. At least they might not dump their boyfriend for the new Mr. Rich, but it's certain that they'd gleefully give him pu.na.ni.

This Pro whatever guy is all over d place bashing girls, i thought i was angry, but ur insecurity is so alarming. Guys like u are d ones crying out desperately for love because u ve been hurt before.
U need to get over it man, if a girl or girls have hurt u in d past, dust urself up and be a man, mayb u r not up to scratch urself is y u keep getting hurt.

All u probably need is to take girls off your mind for a while, do good to your fellow human beings male and female expecting nothing in return so u can have a fulfilled life that does not revolve around girls and their ways.

Every girl is a seperate human being and noone owes u anything, as per u sleeping with plenty girls, thats a critical sign of insecurity and loneliness, ask any therapist! your posts just dey make me and my friends here, both male and female laugh

They just want to be sure their man can afford to take care of them and will happily supplement his income to ensure the smooth running of the home.

ThoniaSlim:
What do you also bring to the table?

Every woman is a Gold digger. We just use different tools, some use cranes, some tractors, others straws and the rest, spoons. (Glory Edozien, 2009)

When I was younger I believed in unconditional love.

I dated guys with empty pockets, stingy a$$ dudes who would rather pretend to be broke than loan their mother 10 bucks. But it didn’t matter to me. Everything I have ever wanted, I have bought with my own money. So whether a guy spent money on me or not, had a good car or not, or lived with his parents at the age of 30, I wasn’t bothered. Instead I believed in ‘building with my man’. The naive little girl in me actually believed that ‘if you are with a man when he has nothing, he will always remember you when he has something’.

Fast forward a couple of years and throw in the speed bumps and punches of life, and I am a completely different person.

Well maybe not totally different, just wiser and smarter. Wise enough to know that a stingy man in his 30’s will be an even stingier man in his 40’s and that the only loyal mammals on earth are dogs not humans. Smart enough to realise that it is important for a man to have his own things and be financially capable of taking care of me and our future children and not be ashamed to let him know that his ability to fulfill those roles impact greatly on our relationship. Let’s be honest girls, men waste no time in letting us know what they want in the kitchen or in the sack. They don’t bat an eyelid when they say ‘oh this girl is not my type’, ‘she is too fat’, ‘she is too thin’, ‘she isn’t yellow enough’, ‘she can’t cook’, ‘I don’t like her mother’, ‘she is an aje butter’. So why is it that when we are seeking to legitimately secure our future and those of our children we are automatically labeled derogatory terms such as ‘gold digger’.

However with every good bunch of grapes there is always the sour one which makes you think the rest maybe just as bad! Take for instance a guy I went on a date with some time last year (lets call him Uche). We met up at a swanky bar in London and he was absolutely stunned when after scanning through the drinks menu filled with expensive drinks that I opted for lemonade (£5.60) instead of something pricier. He told me of a girl who he had met for the first time at a similar priced bar who had ordered a bottle of Louis Roederer Crystal Rose Champagne on his tab—a £500 bottle of champagne. Although he claimed he could easily afford it, he made it clear to her that he thought it was outrageous for her to order such an expensive drink. The poor girl was so embarrassed she changed her order to a bottle of mineral water!

Another friend of mine recently broke up with his girlfriend because, as he put it, ‘he was tired of being her daddy’. According to him she asked him for everything under the sun. Money for hair extensions, cloths, bags, shoes, petrol, make up and would get very upset or even withhold ‘extracurricular affairs’ if he delayed payment. The final straw came when she bought a set of matching gold earrings, necklace and bracelet worth N450, 000 and sent the trader to his office to harass him for the money!

So yeah, I agree. There are ‘some’ girls who put the ‘gold’ in gold digger but these are extreme cases. Most regular women folk aren’t walking around like the devil, seeking a man’s money to devour! They just want to be sure their man can afford to take care of them and will happily supplement his income to ensure the smooth running of the home.

Every man should take pride in being able to afford to take care of his woman. Personally I cannot be with a man who does not see me eye to eye on this issue and I am not ashamed to say so. Nowadays before I date a guy he must pass the financial acid test. Good job, good car, nice flat, generous with dollops of ambition and drive! Gone are the days when I was fasting and praying for a man to buy his first car only for him to put another woman in the front seat. Anh anh, my mother didn’t raise no fool! I will fast and pray with you for that promotion, while the AC of your current car is blowing me in the face. I will get up and seek the Lord early in the morning for his salary increase when I have recovered from our romantic getaway in Dubai . I will cook the best tasting Egusi soup known to man while I am in his fully fitted kitchen and furnished home. I will hold his hand through all of life’s ups and downs while he treats me like the princess I deserve to be. And if all these make me a gold digger, then I’ll say it loud and hard, I am digging for gold and I’m proud

Naija men too dey deceive themselves. A girl is winkin at you using you as a tool because you have money and u r happy sayin they r chasin after u.

They do not care anything about u but only d money and stupid married men r flashing their gfs, who prob go to puke after every session they have with you. No wonder, younger girls will tell you that their 9ja husband will cheat on them so they must catch their trips while they r young. What goes around def comes around. I wish this men wd stop contributing to immorality in the society.

To ur question, incase u havent figured it out they are not attracted to you as a man cos men r available everywhere, they just want d money.

LOL @ d guys, all of u be begging behing closed doors and come in public acting like some man heros. At least he was bold enough to say he begged. At least we established that it wasnt because of money as most men wd have jumped and said she was a gold digger. D gal prob got tired of you, u keep gpoing and find another one.

I agree with the poster, most 9ja men think when they offer u assistance, the next step is for them to ask to 'know u berra', even when u r obviously not interested.   We do need help at some point or the other and the fact that a girl asked for help or that a guy offered to help her does not mean she runs about playing a damsel in distress.

Abroad, if you are just carrying a heavy bag minding your own business, a guy (or girl) will offer assitance and go there own way.

omega25red:
@ poster

you want equality but you walk around playing the damsel in distress and using your looks to get what you want and you think eventually you wouldn't run into someone who will want to know why your husband is not fixing your tire or picking you up from the airport ( i know you didn't mention that you had or didn't have one) but seriously can you blame someone for taking advantage of your vulnerability to see if they can be the hero you are looking for??

wow, was going to reply but it seems the poster don kolo finish.
When a weak and insecure man buys a woman stuff in return for her love, he then complains that she left him for a richer guy?! You give a girl love and respect and you get that in return, and to break it down to you Love + Respect is not equals to money, it means exactly that Love and Respect.

You should be happy Nigerian ladies still want to marry you, despite all the odds, You want d society to be like that abroad where men AND women don't care about marriage and the ladies always get the favour and upper hand if there is any split between a couple and having the last laugh. All of that is the end result of men taking women for granted.

Women are opening their hands to any man and you are happy to say it, that means they r using you as a tool to achieve what you perceive is social status (marriage) rather than marrying you for who you are. poor men!

My ex is back now talking marriage, but reading posts like this, i would probably show him pepper, so he has no mouth to go out to say, i was d one pressuring him and if he goes, life goes on,  some1 else will always come, i get asked out more by single 30 something yr old men looking for wives than even younger guys.

chidyke77:
I hv heard frm a lot of ladies especially those that are already running out of time that they wl welcome any man that propose to them wt open arms and heart irrespective of d persons occupation as long as he wl marry her,some wl even sponsor the wedding to make sure there wont be any obstacle. So frm ths u hv to be convinced that women are more happier because they dnt wnt to remain single in their fathers house thereby receiving insults and disrespect frm their family,friends and younger girls.
I hav seen a divorce woman that said she's happy at least she's no longer a lady bt a woman wt a child because she knew that her divorced husband was'nt the type she needs just that she's fast approaching menopause and earnestly needs a child frm a marriage. Ths is their major reason and nt bn more responsible or not.

Yes it is!

Olisa4all:
I gues your generalizin based on your personal experience. .

Men r funny, behind closed doors, they act like idiots, begging for a kiss, with their dicks standing painfully. In public, they start to feel maho like gals r chasing after them.

You should be happy any girl want to marry you

Duniverse:
you definatly right

I dont see y ppl r bad mouthing this lady with a problem. Just like men get tired of one woman, women get tired of d same man too! Its about rekindling whatever u found attractive in d first place. @ poster, u prob need to take a relaxing holiday with the man, try new styles and places to have sex with him. Find out what turns u on and get d man to do it.

all this rush for marriage, ppl dont know its not always glamorous.

hey, research ke? is that not against NL rules?

Devonian:
@ Olugirl:

I like your honest answer. It's in deed really possible to lost count, and UK girls that's participated in this type of survey which was conducted on another forum/site truly and honestly lost count. Nonetheless, they were very helpful in furnishing the research team with in depth information during in depth interviews. I noted you're in London. Will you be available for an in depth interview? It doesn’t have to be face-to-face or 1 on 1. We conduct recorded telephone interviews. Or, if you’re not comfortable with that, we can do so via a dedicated chat room. This research team is particularly keen to hold in depth interviews with Naija gals who, like yourself, had lost count. And, we’re more than willing to compensate for your time.

With the number of married men i had hitting on me while in 9ja, dont think will ever get married, cos if i even smell my husband cheating, i will do double!

i blv in marriage only when both parties honour it, but if some man can't or won't, i cant be bothered, luckily i have a great career going and hats why i like the UK, even my 55 yo boss has a boyfriend.

i have lost count and am not yet even married, cos am not ready yet!