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splendidfav:
September 1

September 16

nnasino:
18 september

Sept 16

Mzjhulz:
Sept 17

Am Sept 16th...

Let's know each other better

Wonders shall never ceased.

End times happening everywhere.

77 Tattoos on the body, even on the joystick...

Janeyinspires:
This post did fried some minds ,jiggaz

Preaching about God's goodness,love and grace is the good news.And we need the good news to make people 'change their minds'.

Whoever that's gonna read this post should be open minded about it.

You're right Zoka

May God grant him eternal rest.

I just hope we have such a man in the history of Nigeria again.

Forever in our mind.

Is Fayose the only young and vibrant politician we have in Nigeria for president?

If greediness and hunger for power is not in his DNA, after being a governor before and still a governor now, and he is yearning for president... haba!

Let's be praying for a God fearing and visionary leaders for this country.

God bless Nigeria.

May God restore peace in this country.

Oh my God! :oWhat is really happening in Christendom?

That's why I do ask in my mind: Will Jesus meet Christianity when he return

May God's mercy prevail over judgement.

echobazz:
September 20th

I'm September 16th

fathomberry:
This should work!!!!
Nice one OP

Thank you sir.
I appreciate your gesture.

It is so comforting to know that we are not alone in our failures. Others too, have needed and claimed God’s forgiveness when they failed. King David failed God through his adulterous relationship with Bathsheba and the murder of her husband. Peter failed by denying Christ. Thomas doubted Christ. Saul (Paul) also assisted in the murder of Stephen.

Yet none of these lives represented total failure. Each of these men sought for forgiveness. They didn’t give up. They kept on and left a track record of faithfulness in spite of personal foul-ups.

What is the solution for the fear of failure? How do you encourage a partner whose feelings of failure are triggered by the most significant of circumstances? We have found that one of the most powerful principles in building one another’s self-esteem is: Try to give your spouse the freedom to fail. When you give your spouse the freedom to fail, you begin to remove the pressure to perform for acceptance. You free your mate to take risks and try again. You free him/ her in order to excel. Failure then become a tutor, not a judge. In the presence of freedom, we learn from failures instead of being intimidated by them. In the absence of condemnation, confidence in hoe God can use you mounts.

If you would like to give your spouse the freedom to fail, six gifts are recommended herein that will begin to release him/ her. But, keep it at the back of the mind that you, too will possibly fail by taking back some of these gifts. Failure is a part of learning for both of you.

1. The Gift of Compassion.
Every person’s life has a context, during childhood, your mate may not have experienced a relationship in which he/ she had the freedom to fail. Perhaps his/ her “failure” taught him/ her to expect rejection, disapproval, and anger from those in authourity or peer-pressure even in the plural environment, then would have felt that such is the natural consequences of failure. Whereas, parents, coaches, teachers, peers, friends and other significant people had contributed a personal heritage of either success or failure.

The more fully you grasp the context of your mate’s journey to adulthood and express compassion for where your mate has been, the more freedom your mate will admit failures to you.

Whatever his/ her background, your spouse needs your compassionate, consistent, and tireless belief. Learn to talk about the context of his/ her life and together gain understanding of past mistakes as present ones. Don’t leave your spouse alone to deal with his/ her failures. Tell him/ her that you are unlike those who have rejected him/ her; your commitment and patience, then such would learn how to take risks and fail without fear of rejection.

2. The Gift of Continual Affirmation.
According to a writer, Henry Ward Beecher, he says: “Compassion will cure more sins than condemnation.” The bible also stated in the book of 1 Peter 4:8; “Love covers a multitude of sins.” Continuous, ongoing, unbroken approval in the face of many mistakes and failures of life will build your mate’s self-esteem.

3. The Gift of Disassociation.
Most people don’t know that they fail ant not a failure. They have not learned to separate their worth as person from their performance. Many find it difficult to have their ideas, work, aspiration or accomplishment criticized. They feel that others are criticizing and rejecting who they are, not just what they have done.

A teacher once told a mother that her son was a dull student, but the mother chose to believe in her son rather than listening to the voice of this “authourity.” As a result, that son grew up in a home of loving acceptance, secure in the knowledge that he was a person of value.

In spite of all these, he continued to fail. In fact, he failed 10,000 times on one project before he, Thomas Alva Edison, perfected the world known “Electric Bulb.” Whereas, his close association with failure caused Edison to comment, “I failed my way to success.” His mother’s belief in him was the fuel for his inventive spirit.

How can you help your spouse learn to fail without feeling like a failure? Try not to discuss a problem in your marriage or family with accusing words such as: “You never….” or, “Your ideas are always…” and all sort. Those kinds of extreme statements verbally link your mate with his/ her performance, insinuating that such is a failure. Instead, use your words with discernment in order to assist him/ her see the distinction between person-hood and performance.

When you discuss issues with your spouse, begin by expressing your commitment and loyalty as a person. Then give your spouse the benefit of the doubt. Remove the accusing edge by saying, “I may be wrong, but did you… (fill the car with fuel, balance the checkbook, pick up your socks, etc.).”

Always tell yourselves the truth: esteemed and valued by the Creator, gifted, and yet limited. Most importantly, help your spouse separate himself/ herself from failures. Focus on each other as a person, too, not just on performance.

To be continue…

https://oluspicyinspires./2017/08/19/how-to-build-relationship-through-failure/

The one that will ask you for your rent for buying Ileya or Xmas ram, even when your rent is not due.

amicable09:
It won't teach any morals, it will only instill fear.

This approach is totally wrong and should be condemned. What sort of sexual harassment is that? Which offence warrants this kind of punishment? Dressing

There are a thousand and one ways of getting residents of the state to dress decently, not this one I see here.

Good morning sis...

You're right though, but a similar occurrence was witnessed @ Epe T-junction years ago when the dreaded combat team of QRS stopped a lady with huge revealing boobs and the bike man was ordered to suck her boobs in broad day light. No one was allowed to take pictures.

Ever since such acts have been reduced cos those QRS team patrolled the Lekki Epe Expressway 4 to 5 times a day.

"To whom brain is given, sense is expected "

#300 per plate on my street here @ Ibeju Lekki, but I prefer cooking than buying foods.

99% of sickness is through what we consume.

I hope this will teach them some morals.

God bless our erudite Pastor. I believe miracles and wonders shall happen at the Convention.

I'm already packing my bag, on my way to the Redemption Camp.

Okay.
Maybe someone below has something to say.

toseen7:
l
Instrumental Intro of Africalypso is madt!

Wether madt or whatever, twas a remix from one of Lagbaja's old album.

So why the mention?

May God have mercy on them. I pray they embrace salvation asap before its too late.

#Say_No_To_Homosexuality

Africalyspo by Lagbaja for SIM 1
Eyo by Asa for SIM 2

I love em so much.

Hmmm dats a good move. It is always good to follow your heart.

Maturity comes when you stop posting every details of your life on social media.

What an educative write-up.

No wonder why some of my HDD got damaged.

REST IN PEACE BABA ADEBAYO FALETI...

I remember one of your Yoruba Literature book titled Bashorun Gaa.

I read it when I just entered JSS 1. Such an educative book.

We will all miss you.

"Didun ni iranti olododo..."

How do interested people get in touch with you. You posted advert placement without any form of correspondence for feedback.

Do the needful.

The Perverts.

The Recharge Cards Beggars.

Nice one Op

ladyF:
Ermmm... You forgot to add the size of his...ermmm ermm

It's LadyF again.

Size of his what?!

You better say it and let the devil be ashamed

Ericnrm:
But if this was a scenario involving a politician and his friend you won't say it was "God's Doing" Nigerians and hypocrisy sometimes,why must we just deceive ourselves like this

Why are you so naive in reasoning and bringing politics into this?

It seems you are from another planet using politics scenario as if you don't understand how the political system is being manipulated in the world, especially Nigeria. "Omo wa ni, e je o se..." (Its our son, let him do it) Go and ask your grandparents to enlighten you about Nigeria political history.

Its like taking panadol for someone headache is your destiny.

Mention me again and thunder fire you and your generation!

OP you've done well and God will surely reward you accordingly.

Av helped some people in such way as a school administrator.

Besides, early this year, God used me to help two of my FB friends to get jobs (Diamond Bank and NBC), but since then, no call or text message whatsoever, but I was fulfilled in my heart. And I didn't let that to stop me from helping ppl if I can.

Bro, don't be discourage by those ppl seeing your effort as unprofessional thing. God will surely reward you.

God has used you to help your teacher and you don't know where your children would be in future.

Keep doing the good work God has bestowed in your hands.

Stay blessed.