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[quote author=Antihypocrite post=115488361]I have been married for 3 years now, I have known my wife for 5 years altogether. She was and is still the best thing that ever happened to me.

I don't know where to start from, I can't come to terms with the fact that my wife is leaving.

Guys, I think the problem started last year after some hoodlums stole my bike. That was my major source of livelihood apart from some home lessons that I used to do, but stopped due to health reasons.

It's been difficult financially and I honestly don't know what else to do.

Shortly after my bike was stolen, I got a loan from lapo and added with my little savings to enter palm oil business. I wish I had not done so as I ended up losing about 80k because the guy I worked with cheated me whole heartedly.

My wife had to get a job as a teacher in a private primary school. I told her it was just temporary as I was working to raise money for her start a poultry.

In order to clear the lapo loan, I had to do odd jobs and take loan from loan apps. My wife's little salary of 20k became the major source of feeding while I battled to clear the loan.

Sometimes I would borrow from friends to pay the loan app to be able to borrow a higher amount from the loan apps again. This was a mistake and a trap cos now I am so much indebted to these loan apps. I am even owing some friends and right now I am unable to pay back.

I have been in debt for over 8 months now to these loan apps. They have tarnished my Image to all my contacts.

I even stopped going to church because most of my church members who received messages from these loan apps did not even care to hear me out. They believed the loan apps that I am a fraudster on the run.

My wife started feeling ashamed of me. She stopped associating with me in public spaces. I know she has tried. Nobody deserves to pass through what she is passing through.

This afternoon when she came back from work, she told me that she would be going back to her parents house

She said that it is best she goes back to her people until I am able to sort my self out.

Guys I have tried to be strong for so long. Right now I don't think I can hold on anymore. I have always believed that things would turn out well, but right now I am in a low place. I don't know how long I can hold on again.

Last month I tried to even get a security job that pays 25k monthly. But I feel so discouraged to do the job. How long will I work to clear a loan of 320k that keeps adding interest daily.

Thoughts of suicide have been crossing my mind today. I really need help

What can I do? I don't even have the energy to pray. *Has anyone ever been in my shoes?* If yes how did you come out?


[/Has anyone ever been in my shoes?]

Yes, I was a victim, though my loan was not upto 320k.... My dear Brother, You need God. Talk to God, summon courage to pray and have faith.

How i was saved from them,
First: Delete there apps on your phone, eat good food and have rest of mind, they can come after you physically. Plan your life and re-strategies on how to make things work has God will be assisting you genuinely.

Let go of the loan people for now, if they call you, tell them youer working on it, while youer working on bringing the best of you.

After sometimes when you have half of the loan, pls pay up and write a letter of disengagement with them.

The Lord will settle the rest for you.

Most importantly, Go back to God genuinely because he has seen you suffering.

I Love You and God Loves you more. suicide is not the solution to loan app wahala.

hollandis:
How does a housing project already have bed ? I swear if I see this man on the road I will slap him

That is a sample apartment.... it can be sold with the furnishing at a cost.

Parachoko:
https://www.channelstv.com/2022/07/29/apc-senator-backs-call-to-impeach-buhari-over-insecurity/

BIRDS OF SAME FEATHERS FLOCKS TOGETHER.... WHO IS THE DECEIVER?

Ndaife:
Greetings to you all, Please I'll like to know if customer service job can be done remotely for firms in other countries from Nigeria.
Looking at situation of things in the country, it is evident that one needs a side hustle to meet up with needs.
A friend recently to me about this remote job stuff and I'm picking interest in it. I'm not into tech, but rather have been in customer service for years.
All the remote jobs I'm seeing online are requesting the applicants to be residents of the country.
That keeps me wondering if one can do this from Nigeria.
Please your advice, suggestions and experience are highly needed here to guide me.
Gracias..

Depends on the company

gaby:
Life no balance....

While Nigeria dey burn down and some people dey reason where the next meal wan come from.

It is well oh...

pls, let them enjoy there lives.... They are not the cause of the menace nigeria is facing and they are not in position to put things right.


ENJOY YOURSELF AND PRAY FOR NIGERIA.... Its not nice you dont enjoy yourself and you still letter suffer here in Nigeria.

this buhari is insqne.... i suggest he resign and go back to grave where they woke him up from

SARSCoV2:
Peter Obi`s supporters always looking hungry. You can barely find a healthy person in his support base.

The people in the video need food and not Peter Obi!

Just as at yesterday, It was drunkards that were campaigning at the bar.

Wonders shall never end!

So, Youer expecting the well fed that doesnt have the kindness and love of this nation at hand to campaign thru there phones and laptops?
I'm not with anybody but because youer against Obi doesnt mean all is campaign/followers are hungry, The Tinubu of Lagos and Anticle of North, dont have indiscriminate scavengers has there followers too?

I come in peace.
tankiew

Agabaidu1234:
My Experience With my boss at the office today.

Am a serving corps member with one company serving.

At first, I usually carry my boss bag from the office to his car whenever we close (in the evening) but in a recent time he promoted my kind gesture to always call me from the office to pick his bag in the morning not minding whether am busy or not which has being getting me infuriated before now, but I keeps being calm.

The last stroke that broke the camel's back happened today. He called me outside as usual, I picked up the bag from him and he equally went further to tell his friend to equally handed over his own to me, to bring them all to the office although the friend told me not to bother myself, which really got me really mad boldly written in my countenance � and he noticed it which he asked me at the office and I express my displeasure to him in that regard of carrying his friend bag together with his own and he attempted to defend himself by bringing in irrelevant ideas and admonishment, of which I took flimsy excuse that I was not feeling fine and left, but trust me it was still as a result of the anger.

Now, my concerns is that, am I being foolish trying to be nice and at the same time being humble to always doing that for him willingly because I started it which he took it to be daily routine,? And again I want to stop doing that to him from today's on even when am called upon, if he thinks I do them all for him as a result of ignorance or that am being naive( what do you think � that my plan may result to) .
Am talking about a guy who should be in his early thirties( 30) here.

Please �, what's actually your advise to me in this circumstance.

Dont start what you cant finish, Hes your boss and youve showned him kindness and he's using it as a right on you.

Be very sure of his displeasure which will come with some official maltreating and hatred from him to you. Dont forget, You might need his references after your service.

I sense this your boss is all this low class bosses, whom by opportunity became owner of a company?

My Boss wont allow you carry his bag, wait till he pass or stand and be greeting him when your job is waiting for you.

Dawn91:
See your dirty floor... See the dirty wire.. you probably live in a self contained... I put it to you that you are a liar and probably live in Ajegunle...

Wh

ufotunang:
It's good you gave her 2k to help her

at has dirty floor and wire has to do with his/her complain?

If you dont have anything to say, Why not look n pass?

Nairaland Monitoring Officer

4ckyou:
end time pastor.

please where is mummy G.O been long I heard from her

Mummy G.O is in Dubai... Chilling with the Lord...

Firstly, you need to forgive yourself and do not despise the gathering of the brethren to help you erase your past gradually and study to show thyself approve, keep reading the word of God, listen to edifying Christian songs and share with brethren that can explain better and most importantly, ASK GOD TO HELP YOU ERASE YOUR PAST COMPLETELY... keep up with spirit filled brethren... The lord will help you.

I have been trying, but carnality thoughts keep drawing me back[/quote]