Ofunaofu: Everything Is Dawning On Me-Phyna Laments As She Nears 30 Without Getting Married
Former Big Brother Naija winner Phyna has shared how growing older has changed her views on marriage, admitting that she now sees things differently as she approaches her 30th birthday.
In a video posted on her Instagram Story, the reality TV star reflected on turning 29 and said she is beginning to understand life from a different perspective.
According to Phyna, when she was 22 or 23 years old, she thought 29 was still a long way off. Now that she has reached that age, she says many things are becoming clearer to her.
She also admitted that she used to wonder why some women in their early 30s were not married, believing at the time that something was wrong with them.
However, she said age and experience have changed her mindset, and she now realizes that there is nothing wrong with being unmarried in your early 30s.
Phyna explained that many of the women she once judged were simply living their lives, and their marital status did not define them.
She said, “I’m just thinking out loud. I remember when I was 22, 23 then, you know, 29 was so far away, but now this is 29 and everything is just dawning on me.
“I remember that time all those my aunties that were like in their early 30s that they are not married. I’d be like, ‘Auntie, you no go marry? Auntie, you no marry?’ Like then it was looking like the auntie get problem.
“Guys. Guys. We sef don dey touch am o. Auntie no get problem. I swear. Our aunties, they did have problem. No single problem.
Rapmoney: Few days ago, Special Adviser to the president on Media and Policy Communications stated that Nigerians earning 60,000 Naira in Nigeria are better off compared to Nigerians earning about 2,600 Pounds in the United Kingdom. I am not a politician; neither am I a member of any political party in Nigeria, but one thing I have mastered over the years is studying people and patterns. I am going to tell you this for free today. Patterns do not lie. The best way to understand humans is to study their patterns. I have consistently study Daniel Bwala, and with every atom of honesty, inconsistency runs in his blood. The same person that told you that a Nigerian earning 60k in Nigeria is better than a Nigerian in the UK earning 2.6k Pounds will sing another song tomorrow when he is no longer benefitting from the government. That is his pattern!
Sometime ago, I made a post where I encouraged young Nigerians who want to seek greener pastures abroad not to be deceived or distracted by anyone. Some people came from different angles to attack me, but I really do not care because I will keep stating the truth and the obvious.
It is true that not everyone will travel, but it is even truer to say Nigeria is not for every young Nigerian. Not everyone can achieve success no matter how intelligent and creative you are, in a society where there are so many squares pegs in round holes. In a society where you must know someone who knows another person in government or politics to get a job. So what is the essence of education, intelligence, creativity, and expertise in the system? If you knew the number of dumb 3rd Class graduates that are occupying many sensitive positions in Nigeria, you would weep for the country! They are not there because they merit the positions. They are there because someone placed them there. That is how things work in Nigeria. That is why the public sector is a huge mess!
The same Daniel Bwala was living in the UK before he got a government appointment. The problem with many Nigerians is that they don't carry out thorough research, and they find it difficult to think deeply. Go and do your research. Where is Daniel Bwala's wife and children? His wife and children are living in Reading, United Kingdom. His wife works there and his children school there. A man whose wife and kids live in the UK permanently is discouraging you not to travel out. Shouldn't Nigeria be a better place for them to live?
How many Nigerians earning 100k in a month can comfortably save 10k? Let us be sincere to ourselves. How many married men with children in Nigeria earning 300k a month can comfortably save 50k? How many Nigerians even earn up to 300k in a month?
That your brother or sister in Europe, America, Australia, etc that sends you 100k, 200k, 300k...ask yourself if he or she could do that if they were living in Nigeria. Nor be cho cho cho.
The Gospel Truth: Whether you like it or not, many Nigerians will NEVER count the Naira in millions until they leave the shores of Nigeria. You can save this anywhere! Nor be mouth.
Just like I stated earlier, not everyone will travel, but if you are a young person with high creativity and intelligence, and you don't have the usual connection that some few people use in Nigeria, do not allow anyone to discourage you from travelling, or else, you will regret it in your later years when your bones are weak and your sight becomes blurry. You may not achieve much.
They are so many Daniels in nigeria. Even most of the people that want to japa. Once the government favors them, they will speak exactly like the Daniel in Aso rock. So it's a mind thing.
Kalatium: There is one question every man should ask himself before calling any woman the 'love of his life' .
If everything you have worked for disappeared tomorrow, if your job was gone, your business collapsed or your income suddenly stopped, would she still look at you with the same love, respect and admiration? What if she starts Earning more than you, will she remain with you?
For a long time, I believed the answer would be yes because love was supposed to be unconditional.
Life eventually answered that question for me, not once, not twice, but eight different times in a period of 10 years. Every relationship was different, every woman had a different personality, from different ethnic groups but the lesson at the end was painfully similar.
Story One: When I Lost My First Job
We had been together for two years and I genuinely believed we were building a future together. When my former company downsized and I lost my job, the first person I wanted to speak to was the woman I loved because I expected comfort, encouragement and reassurance that we would get through it together.
Instead, the conversation immediately shifted to : What would become of the relationship now that I was unemployed. The warmth gradually disappeared, the phone calls became less frequent, the replies became shorter and within a few weeks she had emotionally checked out. Before long, she had moved on with another man. Two years of commitment disappeared almost as quickly as my monthly salary.
Story Two: "I'll Find Someone Else"
Months later i got into another relationship. As of then i started a business i got introduced to and at it was booming. Then came a point, where the business became slow and money was unusually tight. For the first time since we started dating, I could not spend the way I normally did. I communicated this to her and she said okay but just a few days later she called and asked me to send her money so she could buy a dress and shoe she saw.
I honestly explained that I was struggling financially and simply needed a little time to recover. Instead of asking how I was coping or understand me or encourage me to stay strong, her response was, "It's okay. I'll find someone else." Those six words changed the way I see her because I suddenly realized I had been valued more for what I provided than for who I actually was. This was a major trigger that orchestrated our breakup later.
Story Three: Betrayal After Sacrifice
The lady was very lovely that i thought we will get married. She was from a humble background, looked gentle and portrayed herself like the kind that will be faithful to me (ride or die). I paid bills, solved problems, handled emergencies and constantly made sacrifices because I genuinely loved her and believed we were building something meaningful together.
Unknown to me, another man with a bigger bank account had quietly entered the picture and was doking her. By the time I eventually discovered what had been happening, she had already moved on emotionally while I was still investing my time, energy and resources into a relationship that had quietly expired. I felt betrayed and shattered.
Story Four: I Helped Her But She Left [b][/b] This one pained me the most because of extend i went for her. She is in the health profession and graduated without securing an internship placement. She was frustrated about her future because her mates have already started and are already ahead of her. I refused to watch her struggle alone. I reached out to people I knew, made several calls and eventually helped her secure internship in where i did mine previously. While she worked without salary for months, I continued encouraging and supporting her financially because I genuinely wanted to see her succeed.
All of a sudden everything changed. The communication reduced, the effort disappeared and eventually she walked away from the relationship. She gave no solid reasons saying it's not me it's her and she needs to find herself. Later, I got to found out she had already started earning before she broke up with me. Looking back, I sometimes wonder whether she simply felt she no longer needed me as she is now earning or feel i will ask her for money or what . I became an overnight philosopher.
Story Five: She claimed not to have money and later got scammed.
We dated for three years and during that period I never hesitated to support her financially whenever life became difficult. Helping her was almost natural to me because I believed that was what partners were supposed to do for each other. This was the lady i loved the most.
One day I genuinely needed financial help myself and reached out to her after other options failed. She calmly told me she did not have any money. This was my first time of asking her this and since i trusted her, i thought she actually didn't have. Many days later, she was moody and closed off. I asked repeatedly what was wrong only for her to end up crying, saying someone had scammed her with a significant amount of her money. The painful part for me was not that she got scammed. The painful part was realizing she had the money all along but told me she doesn't have anything. She simply chose not to help me when I needed her. I felt betrayed. When i reflected on everything i realized that even when i am in a precarious situation, she won't ever help me. I never took her serious since then.
Story Six: I Was Always the One Giving
This relationship forced me to reflect on something I had ignored for a long time: reciprocation. I was having this mentality that when my woman needs help, I will always show up immediately without thinking twice. Whenever she faced a challenge, I considered it our challenge. However, looking back today, almost every meaningful sacrifice came from my side and i was shooting myself on the foot.
I began to notice that whenever I genuinely needed emotional support, encouragement or even small acts of kindness, there was almost always another excuse, another reason or another delay. I don't like to keep score but i can't help but noticed she has never did anything worthwhile, even when monetary aspect is kept aside. She is always asking and taking but have never giviing and she is 30. Loving someone should never feel like carrying two people on your shoulders while pretending the weight is equal.
Story Seven: The ₦100,000 I Never Saw Again
This relationship was still very new when she called saying she had an emergency and urgently needed ₦100,000. I explained that the money had already been set aside for something very important, but because she was my girlfriend, I agreed to lend it to her after she repeatedly promised to repay me.
The money never came back. Whenever I reminded her, she started making me feel guilty for asking for money i send to her oooo. At one point she even asked why I was behaving as though she were a stranger. That moment taught me that borrowing money should never automatically erase accountability. I ended the relationship out of disgust. This was the shortest relationship i had ever been.
Story Eight: The Experiment That Changed Everything
After everything I had experienced, I recently decided to quietly test one relationship earlier this year after the lady was claiming she is not after a man's money. So I deliberately reduced how much I spent while making sure nothing else changed. I still called regularly, stayed emotionally available and continued showing genuine affection. The only thing I reduced was the money.
The result shocked me. Almost immediately I was accused of no longer caring, no longer trying and no longer loving her like before. Nothing about my character had changed. My attention had not reduced. My commitment remained exactly the same. The only thing that changed was my spending, yet that alone completely changed how I was treated. That experiment taught me one lesson no relationship expert ever could.
My Overall Reflection
Before anyone misunderstands this post, let me make something very clear. I am not saying every woman behaves this way because that would be dishonest and unfair. These are not all the ladies i have been in a relationship with but this is a result of majority of those i have been with. I know there are loyal, supportive and emotionally mature women who genuinely stand beside their partners during difficult seasons.
My concern is that I have personally experienced this pattern repeatedly as well as others, and many men quietly carry similar stories without ever talking about them. Society constantly reminds men that their value lies in what they provide, while very few people ever stop to ask what emotional support men receive in return.
A man is expected to provide, protect, remain emotionally strong, solve problems and carry responsibilities without complaining. The moment he experiences financial difficulty, many people begin questioning his worth instead of asking whether he is mentally exhausted, overwhelmed or silently struggling with responsibilities nobody else can see.
Money is important. Bills are real. Responsibilities cannot be ignored. Every serious relationship requires financial responsibility from both partners.
Genuine love, however, should never disappear simply because someone enters a difficult season. Every human being will eventually experience moments when life does not go according to plan. Character is not revealed during comfort. Character is revealed when circumstances become uncomfortable.
Today I no longer judge relationships by sweet words, romantic promises or social media displays. I pay attention to how people behave when there is nothing material left to gain because hardship exposes intentions that comfort successfully hides.
My biggest lesson is one I will carry for the rest of my life.
Money can attract attention. Money can attract admiration. Money can even attract temporary affection. Money cannot buy genuine loyalty.
If someone's love expires the same day your money stops flowing, then perhaps what you had was never really love.
It was simply a transaction wearing the mask of a relationship.
So let me leave you with one honest question.
If you lost everything tomorrow, would your partner still choose you, or would they quietly begin searching for someone with a healthier bank account?
As a man, it is important you know and understand that you're loved based on so many conditions, and the day you don't meet those conditions, the love ends. Honour God, value your money, take good care of yourself (because no one else will) and don't forget to be good to good people.
Seun: A new report from the Cambridge Programme on AI Science & Policy has revealed that Boko Haram is already using artificial intelligence for attack planning, weapons troubleshooting, explosives design, drone operations, logistics and operational security.
renderme: The Governor posted on his official twitter page and appeared on the Channels TV news program 'Politics Today':
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“We will use this opportunity to thank our service commanders, the Nigerian police, DSS, the military, and of course, the president (Tinubu) for pushing really hard to get this done.”
Iamdbull: I see a lot of men deceiving and lying to themselves by calling themselves the prize especially the broke ones, but sorry to break it you, until you make enough money and you can provide and cater for the needs of a woman you can't be perceived as a nman and you might have to bend your knees for things to work out!
Unfortunately the country we found ourselves men have been robbed of this privilege of making enough to have control of the opposite sex.
So the question is how can we change this ? How can we make money? The only hope the country has left for young men now is yahoo, sporty, newsspend•com or doing unskilled work where one is grossly underpaid!
Mann we can't continue like this money is a must!!
If she's keeping money and providing for her before dating you then that's hookup disguised as a relationship. Women make rules for the men they don't love but move mountains for the men they love.
FULL TRANSCRIPT ONLINE INTERVIEW BETWEEN MARTINS VINCENT OTSE (VDM) and ADEYEMI ADENIYI MATHEW ON TUESDAY JULY 7, 2026
Adeyemi: No be small thing o. That is why I said let me reach out to you so I can make some clarifications about the brouhaha going on in Nigeria today.
VDM: So, go on!
Adeyemi: Yeah! You see... this whole thing is confusing as in, very, very confusing. When the Presidency through the Chief of Staff (to the President) said the person does not exist, I wondered, ‘how come?’ The agency that found its way into the national budget, how? That both the Senate where we have so many experienced senators, 360 members of (the House of) Representatives would detect that this is a fake agency; then (the budget) transmitted to the President to assent (sic) his signature, how could his Chief of Staff not be aware that the said agency is inside the budget? That is why I’m confused and that is what gave me the audacity to come out to do a rebuttal of his disclaimer like two weeks ago.
VDM: The fact that, that budget... that agency that they said does not exist found its way into the national budget means there is something going on. And you are saying you are very confused. So, I have questions for you. You were the DG of this said agency. At some point, were you the one that prepared the budget?
Adeyemi: No, sir. I’m not the one because when the preparations for budget (started), I was invited by the Nigeria Police Force, Department of Monitoring.
VDM: Which year was it?
Adeyemi: 2025
VDM: Who was the IG then?
Adeyemi: IGP Egbetokun
VDM: Okay, go on.
Adeyemi: So, I was invited to come and respond to a petition from the Chief of Staff to the President, questioning my activity of the said agency (sic). I honoured the invitation. They asked me so many questions: how the agency come to being. I gave them... I got the appointment letter from XYZ. ‘Who helped you to get the appointment letter?’ I gave them the number, the name, everything. Now, back to your question, I was in detention.
VDM: Oh! They locked you up that day?
Adeyemi: For good 23 days. I was arrested or invited on the 27th of October and released on the 19th of November.
VDM: So, basically, that budget that appeared in the national budget, it was not you that prepared it.
Adeyemi: I was in detention. That was the period for the preparation of budget.
VDM: That means it was not you or your people that prepared the budget.
Adeyemi: I did not and nobody went for the defence. That is why I’m confused that, how come that the budget that nobody defended it could still find its way to the national budget. By the time I came out of the detention on the 19th, I was charged to court on the 27th of November and the said office space had been reallocated to another government official. So, I’ve not been going to the office since that 27th of October. That is why I’m confused that, how did the agency find its way into the national budget?
VDM: Femi Gbaja was the one that wrote the petition against you. It takes somebody very influential to get that that budget to the national level. So, whether they like it or not, it has been established that, that agency actually existed. Yet, what we all need to put heads together to find out: there is corruption somewhere – 100 per cent, there is corruption. But now, I want to understand some few things. Let’s start with this: did you at any point in time meet with Femi Gbaja one-on-one to discuss this whole thing?
Adeyemi: No.
VDM: Did you speak on the phone to discuss this whole thing?
Adeyemi: Yes, like three times I’ve once spoken to him through my late friend, Dolapo Tanimola.
VDM: How are you sure it was Gbaja? Did you speak to him on video call? Anybody could have collected that phone.
Adeyemi: No, it was not on video call.
VDM: So, every transaction that was done was through your friend and that your friend is late.
Adeyemi: Yes.
VDM: Do you have all the documents as to all these things that you are talking about, posted online.
Adeyemi: Yes.
VDM: So, something is definitely wrong somewhere but the truth is that, that agency... there is no way anybody will tell me the agency does not exist because they must explain... It is somebody (who is) powerful and influential that might have put that thing there. Everybody’s office that needs to be investigated. If the Chief of Staff is coming to say he is not the one, it is possible (that he is not). In Nigeria, anything can happen.
Adeyemi: Of course! Yes.
VDM: Do you think there is a possibility that he doesn’t know anything about it, or do you think he is lying.
Adeyemi: I wouldn’t say he is lying and I wouldn’t say he is saying the truth. That is why I requested... if you saw it from my press conference, I said I plead with Mr President to set up an investigative panel to look into this whole issue and unravel the truth, so we would know who are (those) involved.
VDM: That is a good one. Now, what is your next step? What do you want to do now about this case? What are you going to do now?
Adeyemi: I am willing and ready to help security agencies or panel set up by Mr President to unravel the truth. In fact, any moment from now, I will go to the DSS or Police to submit all the documents I have. It would help them to investigate and look into this matter.
VDM: I like that. So, you will just go on your own, like that.
Adeyemi: Of course! Since I don’t have... I will go. You will see. Any moment from now, I will go.
VDM: It will be good if you come to Abuja.
Adeyemi: Why not? I will come. You will see me. I will go to any DSS or police (office) to submit my documents... all what I have. They should authenticate it; they should verify it. Then, they should unravel the truth.
VDM: That will be a very good step to actually find out the people that are involved in all of this. Like I said, no matter what anybody wants to say in this country, somebody (who is) influential is behind all of this. It can be Gbaja; it is possible that it is not Gbaja. It is possible that it is some people in his office. It is possible that it is some other people in some other offices. And it is possible that it is him. So, your next step is the best: taking your evidence that you have with you and walking into a police station to say ‘take’. I like your idea. That is a very smart one. You go there and give it to them; to also assist them in the investigation. That is a very, very perfect thing to do. I really don’t want to ask you about the money because, according to what I heard, they said you said you gave that money to your friend.
Adeyemi: Yes.
VDM: When was your friend killed?
Adeyemi: I wouldn’t say ‘killed’. Let me correct you. No investigation has revealed that he was killed. He was involved in a fire accident (sic) in an hotel at Utako.
VDM: Have you ever had aby attempt on your life before, anywhere, before this whole thing started?
Adeyemi: Yes. Precisely Sunday, 7th September, 2025, I was attacked at Zuma Rock along Zuba road. If you know Zuma Rock very close to Madalla, that is where I was attacked by gunmen, which I attached the video to my press release the other time.
VDM: That agency, what did you plan to do with it, because if you could spend N400million so that you go get that kind of office, how did you expect to make your money back? I feel like you all arranged the whole thing to get shares out of it. What was your plan?
Adeyemi: I don’t really have negative plans. It is all about passion for the country. That agency is to bring in foreign investments to Nigeria. I want to write my name in gold. That is why I have a passion. When you have a passion – let me use desperately to serve, you can do anything. That is the reason why I paid that money; that if that would be a stumbling block for me, let me just get and do my part for the country. So, that is just it. That agency is to bring foreign investments to Nigeria and make Nigeria a preferred destination for investment. You might have come across my little efforts. I have worked round the inter-ministerial agencies: I have worked with them, I partnered with the EFCC - virtually all the MDAs – to collaborate with them to make Nigeria the preferred world destination for investments. So, it is not about personal interests... to work around, even beyond the shores of Nigeria.
Rowdy Session in House of Representatives as Lawmakers Clash Over Motion to Summon President Tinubu
The House of Representatives was thrown into a rowdy today, with heated debate over the alleged non-funding of constituency projects across the country.
First, Nollywood actress Uche Ogbodo and her husband, Bobby Maris, reportedly unfollowed each other on Instagram. As if that wasn't enough, an alleged leaked voice note has now surfaced online, it captured a heated argument between the couple.
The audio, which has been making the rounds on social media, allegedly features Uche shouting during the exchange, leaving fans wondering what is really going on.
Is this just another couple misunderstanding, or is there more to the story? 👀
Watch the video, listen to the alleged voice note, and tell us what you think in the comments! 🍿
The couple have indeed fueled speculation after reportedly unfollowing each other on Instagram, though neither has publicly confirmed a breakup or authenticated the circulating voice note
Reference: But this is just too early in the life of this administration. The big ticket heists usually take place in the second term after power has been secured.
If this is happening now you can just imagine what will be set in motion once the elections are done and dusted for them and all they see ahead is 'political pension quest'.....or political ROI....or political insurance premiums....
Is that not when we usually hear about CBN contracts and IOU's being traded in government circles to procure ghosts.
It's really sad...a man once said that having observed Tinubu's team, they aren't interested if he succeeds or fails, their major concern is just about themselves
fergie001: Joe Abbah is a former Director-General of the Bureau of Public Service Reforms (BPSR)
This scam, if properly investigated will open a large can of worms which will not only involve the COS but also some top ranking government officials. However as Nigerian as I am, I can predict 2 things; Either the case would die a natural death or Adeniyi will be arrested and tagged a scammer and be death with.
Yes, because the man had said that his life is in danger. Especially considering the fact that the middleman between him and the COS died a mysterious death. Baba gats hide.
Tareq1105: Money has exchanged hands. Watch how EFCC will spoil the case by itself. We were told that Buhari/SGF wrote a letter to CBN Gov to release $6.2m for election foreign observers. Now they said emefiele didn't benefit from it. Meaning that he didn't confirm from Buhari/SGF but just released the money. It's okay to say that after all the other guys have ran away.
I've always been of the opinion that Emefiele didn't act alone.
Obavoh: Yesterday, my Boss made us work under the heavy rain and refused to pay us our salary until we complete the work.
When I got home, the dinner my wife cooked would not be enough for the children to eat so I went out to buy ₦300 akara to hold my belly until the next day.
Before I said let me remove my clothes and take my bath, my children had pounced on the small akara I bought.
I would have harmed my children last night if not for the fear of God in me because that was the only money I had in my pocket.
I went to bed angry and hungry. My wife tried to calm me down and make love to me but I cursed her and we ended up fighting.
Pls thank her so much and just keep making her proud.
But the FG have been bragging how much they've been able to have in their foreign reserve na...I can still recall that even the President boasted that he had exceeded his targeted revenue for the year in August...this makes me to ask WHERE IS THE MONEY? Someone somewhere isn't telling the truth.
naptu2: BBC Yoruba interviewed Iya Ibeji Oni MoiMoi who built a house, bought a car and trained her children up to university level from the proceeds of her moimoi business which she started with 500 naira.
Through my moin-moin business here in Ilorin, I have been able to build a house, buy a car, pay my employees, and sponsor all my children through university. — Iya Ibeji Oni Moinmoin, speaking during an interview with BBC Yoruba. pic.twitter.com/ViYsJb8zFO
— Inside Ilorin NG 🇳🇬 (@InsideIlorin_NG) June 28, 2026
Ofunaofu: Look At Me Today, My Mother Sold Akara, I Carried Bananas On My Head To Markets In Plateau- Dare
A video that was posted on the official X account of Mic on The Podcast on Saturday, June 27, 2026 has captured the moment Sunday Dare, the Special Adviser to President Bola Ahmed Tinubu on Public Communication was saying he has sold Akara before.
This came after the First Lady of Nigeria, Oluremi Tinubu listed some businesses that Nigerians can begin with small capital.
In the video that surfaced online, Sunday Dare stated that there is nothing bad in selling Akara or roasting corn. He said he hawked bananas to several markets in Jos.
Sunday Dare President Tinubu's Special Adviser on Media & Communications
My mother sold akara and bananas. I carried bananas on my head to the market in Jos. My mother sold oranges, and through this, they were able to train me.
- Sunday Dare, SA to President Tinubu on Media and Public Communications, on recent remarks by First Lady Remi Tinubu. pic.twitter.com/1S1loERp9Z
Celebrities › Re: Everything Is Dawning On Me-Phyna Laments As She Nears 30 Without Getting Marrie by Omalicious1: 10:16pm On Jul 11
