Kalatium: Many single men are beginning to share a similar frustration about today's dating culture. Their complaint is not about spending money on someone they genuinely like. It is about being treated like an ATM before any real connection has even started.
One common mistake many people make is rushing into a physical date after only exchanging a few messages. A phone or video conversation can reveal a lot. If the conversation has no chemistry, no curiosity, and no genuine interest while both people are still strangers, meeting in person rarely changes that.
Many men have shared experiences where they paid transport fares, restaurant bills, or entertainment costs, only for the date to end within minutes because the other person appeared distracted or completely uninterested. In some cases, the next message they received was not appreciation or a second date, but a request for money for food, upkeep, rent, school fees, or other personal expenses.
This is where many people draw the line.
There is nothing wrong with generosity in a healthy relationship. Relationships naturally involve giving, supporting, and sacrificing for each other. The problem begins when financial expectations appear before trust, affection, and commitment have had any chance to develop.
Many women also complain about men who only want casual relationships or refuse to invest emotionally. Healthy dating requires effort from both sides. Interest, respect, communication, and intentionality cannot be replaced with money.
The best first dates are usually the ones where both people leave thinking, "I would like to see this person again," not, "How much did I spend?" or "How much can I get from this person?"
Real relationships are built on mutual interest, shared values, and genuine companionship. Money may support a relationship, but it cannot create one.
What has been your experience with modern dating? Do you think financial expectations are ruining genuine connections, or are people simply adapting to today's economic realities?
I will also blame the men that choose to take a lady an exclusive restaurant on a first date (even if you can afford it) and also those that allow the lady to choose the location. When spend so much on a first date, you've indirectly made yourself a POS machine hence she starts making demands. So, in most cases, I don't blame the ladies.
Sadly we are now in the era of smartphones and stupid people. Later dem go shout say they want revolution...I'm very sure that on the way to revolution, they will start fighting among themselves thereby entertaining the oppressor.
chidiokay: Yiu know what i observe as the election is fsst apptoaching, Tinubu & his boiz have device means thry will do everything politically correct on Paper But reality is stil business as usual
So when th ey cum to Tv nd say we implemented statr police, any oppposition that raise objection
therd question is what will you do differently.
the politics are correct on paper Buh Govt goals are filled with insincerity, they need Nigeria poor. poverty is why adults will queue under sun for i loaf o bread n 2kg rice.
I hope after this, insecurity will come to an end because state governors are claiming that if given the full access to security apparatus in their, terrorism will be brought to an end.
The removal of the fuel subsidy has freed up significant resources, leading to a surge in federation revenues and more funds flowing to states and local governments for infrastructure, salaries, and development. Government revenues have improved considerably, reducing dependence on borrowing to fund recurrent expenditure.
2.Local Government Autonomy
The push for financial autonomy for local governments is a major structural reform. It aims to ensure that funds allocated to local governments reach them directly, thereby improving grassroots development, accountability, and service delivery across communities.
3. Tax Reform
Ongoing tax reforms seek to simplify the tax system, reduce multiple taxation, improve compliance, expand the tax net, and create a more business-friendly environment. The goal is to increase government revenue without overburdening productive businesses.
4. GDP Growth and Economic Stabilization
Q1 2026 recorded growth of approximately 3.89%. The non-oil sector continues to contribute the majority of GDP, indicating gradual economic diversification. Foreign exchange reforms and improved macroeconomic management have helped restore investor confidence and support economic expansion.
5.Banking Sector Reform and Recapitalisation
The Central Bank's recapitalisation programme is strengthening Nigerian banks, enabling them to finance larger projects, support economic growth, withstand external shocks, and compete more effectively on the global stage.
6. Credit Reform
Efforts to improve access to credit through credit reporting systems, consumer lending frameworks, and support for SMEs are gradually expanding financial inclusion and economic participation.
7. Education Access Through NELFUND and Academic Stability
Over 1.5 million students are benefiting from student loan programmes, significantly improving access to tertiary education. Government engagement with stakeholders has also contributed to a relatively more stable academic calendar compared to previous years characterized by prolonged strikes.
8. Health Sector Reform
Increased investments in primary healthcare, health insurance expansion, and initiatives aimed at reducing medical tourism are laying the foundation for a stronger healthcare system including training and engagement of 774 health fellows and rebuilding of health centers across Nigeria
9. Minimum Wage Reform
The approval of a new national minimum wage represents a significant improvement in workers' earnings and purchasing power, especially amidst inflationary pressures.
10. Police Reform and Security Investments
Increased investments in equipment, technology, intelligence gathering, and welfare for security personnel demonstrate commitment to improving national security. Passage of State Police bill also indicate willingness to explore constitutional solutions to insecurity.
11. Strengthening Foreign Reserves and FX Stability
External reserves have risen significantly, reaching multi-year highs. Improved reserve levels enhance the country's ability to defend its currency, meet external obligations, and attract foreign investment. Exchange rate volatility has also moderated compared to earlier periods of severe instability.
12. Infrastructure Development and Completion of Abandoned Projects The administration has accelerated work on major highways, rail projects, dams, airports, and energy infrastructure. Several previously abandoned projects have been revived, improving connectivity and supporting economic growth.
13. Power Sector Reform One of the most significant reforms has been the decentralization of electricity generation and distribution. States and private investors now have greater authority to generate, transmit, and distribute power, effectively breaking the long-standing monopoly structure. This opens the door for increased investment and improved electricity supply.
14. Improved Electricity Metering Metering coverage has reportedly improved from roughly 40% to about 60%, reducing estimated billing and increasing transparency for consumers. While challenges remain, the progress is noteworthy.
15. ₦4 Trillion Power Sector Bond Intervention The planned ₦4 trillion bond infusion is expected to address liquidity constraints within the power sector, settle legacy debts, improve market confidence, and support long-term investments in generation, transmission, and distribution infrastructure.
16. Foreign Direct Investment (FDI) and Investor Confidence Economic reforms, FX market adjustments, and regulatory improvements are gradually rebuilding investor confidence. While FDI inflows remain below desired levels, Nigeria is increasingly being positioned as a destination for long-term investment.
Apart from 1 & 5, the rest are all wrong. It's like bringing down the passing mark of an exam to 30 over 100. You now score 27 over 100 and you're saying that you're doing well. This write up doesn't match the realities on ground.
This one wey we never still see him picture till now...I hope he would not be slammed with 10years imprisonment because personally, I no come trust our courts again
A lady has gone viral after sharing her controversial stance on domestic violence. According to her, no matter the situation, a man should never hit a woman back—even if she starts the physical confrontation. In the trending video, she explained that she would rather face divorce, police involvement, or any other consequence than be physically assaulted by her partner. She argued that men should walk away, restrain the situation, or seek help instead of retaliating. Her comments have sparked intense debates online, with many people sharing different opinions on self-defense, gender equality, and domestic violence.
But let another woman hit her brother first. I want to check something
[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=139777642]“Date multiple men, let the winner be announced in church” — Lady says
A lady has triggered widespread reactions on social media after sharing her views on heartbreak, dating patterns, and long-term relationships in a video that has since gone viral.
In the video, she advised women on what she believes is a more effective approach to relationships, contrasting it with the idea of staying committed to one partner for too long without clear outcomes.
Advice on dating patterns The lady argued that heartbreaks often occur when individuals remain in long-term relationships with a single partner, suggesting that such situations may lead to disappointment later on.
Full statement from the lady
“The reason why your heart is always shattered, always broken is because you dated one boyfriend. Ba my mum dey date one man. You can’t tell me nothing. That is why you dated a man for 10 years, he will still leave you and marry a girl he meets in three months. Date multiple men, let the winner be announced in church.”
Online reactions Her comments have since sparked mixed reactions online, with some users debating whether modern dating requires multiple options, while others criticised the advice as controversial and unrealistic.
Many social media users also pointed out the differences between traditional relationship values and evolving dating practices among young people.
The video has added to ongoing conversations about commitment, loyalty, and relationship strategies in contemporary dating culture, especially among younger Nigerians navigating long-term partnerships.
The reason why you keep getting heartbreak is because you are dating one guy, date multiple men so your heart won’t be broken” — Lady pic.twitter.com/FOvGnFwoz1
"APC for life. 15,000 Naira per vote, don't whine me."
-A young woman who voted APC in Ekiti governorship election yesterday celebrates that she sold her vote to APC vote vendors. pic.twitter.com/oMK9sZz7hX
— OurFaveOnlineDoc 🇬🇧 🇳🇬 (@OurFavOnlineDoc) June 21, 2026
And someone would want to tell me that Tinubu won't win in 2027? Just look at the supposed voters
nairalanda1: So recently, Peter Obi made a comment that he was going to improve our power supply by 10000mw, which would take us up to 32000 mw...which should be enough for us to get light 24/7 (subject to the Siemens project working)...and the response was tinubu supporters making fun of Obi as a man without ideas, while Obi supporters praised their man as being wisdom incarnante.
Except that Obi did not tell us how he plans to do it.
Which essentially begs the question, how do we vote for a guy who promises us something, but does not tell us how to do it.
Which leads me back to Tinubu. IN 2023, tinubu said...if you vote me and I do not give you constant power supply, vote me out in 2027.
Naturally tinubu supporters were praising their man as being a tough minded leader, etc, etc....while Obi people are now calling in the receipts. Man has not done as promised so he should be kicked out.
Which leads me to my point.
Tinubu and obi never/have not told Nigerians how they intend to improve power supply.
The truth of the matter is, we have a plan, laid out by the experts, about power supply. A decent , strong plan....cost reflective tarrifs, ending power theft, and rolling out metering.
But neither tinubu nor obi, nor even atiku or any potential candidate would mention that because it does not win votes. (Sowore would probably announce a plan to give 24 hour light a day at N1 per kwh).
Nigerians , regardless of political party, like hearing populist language. If a leader came into office and started doing the things the experts have said we should do, he would be voted out. Or chased out. You will see the Fulani herdsmen marching with the Igbo farmer, the Yoruba trader marching with his Hausa counterpart, and there would be riots.
And the leader would be voted out.
That is why whoever takes office, won't be allowed to improve power because Nigerians think that electricity should be free of charge.
When in reality, it is not possible.
Electricity costs money. If you won;t pay for it in cost reflective tarrif, you will pay for it in generator and inverter monies. That is what Band A taught us.
And on that Band A, the idea of tinubu was not original. India has a similar system, present for decades, that commercial and industrial properties would pay a cost reflective tarrif and the profits would be used to pay for subsidising the poor farmers and rural people
And after doing that, has power supply in India improved? (No.).
Infact India is planning to make everyone pay cost reflective tarrfs in five years time.
SO, if it didn't work in India, how e go work in NIgeria?
The only way we can get free power is to take massive loans totalling nearly 2/3rd of our budgets for the next ten or more years...and while it may give us enough light, it would also put us in heavy debt for it.
In 2025, Prof Barth Nnaji, who is definetly not a Tinubu supporter put it well
I have been saying the above for years, but people here abuse me, so I may as well quote the actual expert, who is a qualified engineer, a former ministar of power, and an owner of a GENCO.
And he is not the first or the last to state that this needs to be done. PwC have said it, several experts have been saying it, a BBC report said it, and so forth.
Yet, Nigerians and their candidates choose to believe the fiction of corruption or some evil Western zionist overmind does not want to give us light.
It is easier to believe conspiracy theory fiction
Like NIgerians, like candidates.
Good afternoon.
I expcet to be abused and to be told about other countries that somehow magically give free power(the macs won't add that those countries pay for it with heavy taxes, or heavy debt).
Fine write-up. Government in saner climes do subsidise many basic amenities which includes, power, transportation, social welfare and health which helps the citizen. May I also bring to your notice that in a country, road transportation is absolutely free. You don't pay a dime. Can 24 hour electricity supply be done in nigeria? YES. Will corruption, tribalism, religion, nepotism, and greed allow it to happen? NO.
"Tragic Deaths of Two Nursing Students in Imo & Anambra + Heartbreaking Betrayal Story | Justice Updates" "Shocking Real Life Stories: Wendy, Vivian & Chinasa – What Really Happened | Latest News Report"
in this detailed and emotional real story report, we cover three heartbreaking incidents that have shaken communities in Eastern Nigeria in 2026. These stories highlight important issues around student safety, relationship boundaries, and the need for justice. Story 1: The tragic case of Wendy Achumba, a dedicated nursing student at Our Lady of Mercy College of Nursing in Umulogho, Obowo, Imo State. The promising young woman from Abia State was found deceased in her off-campus residence, sparking outrage in the community. Police have made arrests, and investigations are ongoing. Story 2: The sad loss of brilliant nursing student Vivian Chilaka in Alor, Anambra State. The award-winning student lived alone and met a tragic end on June 14, 2026. Her landlord has been arrested as a person of interest, with investigations continuing at the State CID. Story 3: The emotional story of Chinasa, a single mother and trained nurse from Nkpor, Anambra State, and Ife, the hardworking bricklayer who supported her education and child. After years of sacrifice, rejection led to deep heartbreak and a tragic outcome. Police arrested the suspect, and the case is under investigation. These stories remind us of the importance of safety for female students, clear communication in relationships, gratitude, healthy boundaries, and community vigilance. We do not condone any form of violence. All cases are under active police investigation, and we pray for justice through the proper legal process.May the souls of the departed rest in peace, and may their families find strength and comfort.
1. There are alot of sex-starved men out there these days and once a woman is within their reach, they forget "self control.
2. A caveat to the women; DONT ACCEPT HIS GIFT OR MONEY IF YOU DONT HAAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM OR LOVE HIM.
"When we came into office, we did not promise you miracles that would appear from thin air."
- Senate President Godswill Akpabio says while representing President Bola Tinubu at the inauguration of the seven-kilometre access road bypassing the second runway of the Nnamdi Azikiwe International Airport, Abuja.
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"When we came into office, we did not promise you miracles that would appear from thin air."
- Senate President Godswill Akpabio says while representing President Bola Tinubu at the inauguration of the seven-kilometre access road bypassing the second runway of the Nnamdi Azikiwe… pic.twitter.com/VH8Dghc8iE
— Vanguard Newspapers (@vanguardngrnews) June 19, 2026
As usual it will be shrouded in secrecy. The company to handle the distribution will belong to either a Senator or a serving Minister, and as usual, money will exchange hands... Where logic ends, Nigeria begins.
I came across a viral post some times back where a woman listed strict “rules” women should follow to avoid looking cheap or too available when dating. The reactions were intense, and honestly, it opened up a bigger question about how people are approaching relationships today.
The original post sounded more like a strategy manual than a dating guide. It suggested things like not texting first too quickly, not picking calls on the first ring, avoiding instant replies, not oversharing too early, not using pet names too soon, and not asking for money or support in the early stages. The core idea was simple: men are always testing, so women must stay mysterious, controlled, and slightly distant to remain “valuable.”
Many people strongly disagreed with this approach. Some argued that love is not a game with rules and that anyone who needs a checklist for dating is already approaching relationships with the wrong mindset. Others said real connection does not need calculations, delays, or emotional withholding, and that genuine interest should not be treated like a weakness.
After thinking about it deeply, the truth seems to sit somewhere in the middle, but not in the way social media usually frames it.
Where the advice goes wrong is when it turns human connection into a performance. People are not identical, and relationships are not competitions. Assuming every man is “testing” or that every fast reply reduces value creates unnecessary pressure and paranoia. It also turns simple actions like showing interest or excitement into something shameful, which is not healthy.
It also misunderstands attraction by reducing it to scarcity and mystery alone. Real attraction is not built on confusion or emotional distance. It is built on clarity, comfort, mutual interest, and consistency over time. When people start overanalyzing every text or response time, they are no longer building connection, they are managing fear.
At the same time, some parts of the advice accidentally point to real truths, even if the reasoning behind them is off. It is true that losing your identity too quickly in someone else can be unattractive. It is also true that rushing into emotional attachment without knowing someone properly can lead to disappointment. It is healthy to maintain your own life, your own standards, and your own boundaries. It is also important to notice whether interest is mutual or one sided.
The problem is not the observations. The problem is turning those observations into rigid rules.
Real relationships do not operate like instructions. They operate through communication and emotional awareness. If you want to text someone, the real question is not “will I look desperate,” but rather “is this coming from genuine interest or anxiety.” If someone does not respond consistently, the issue is not whether you broke a rule, but whether the connection is actually balanced.
Healthy dating is not about playing hard to get. It is about being real while still being self aware. You can be interested without being obsessive. You can be available without being dependent. You can be expressive without losing your boundaries.
One uncomfortable truth many people avoid is this. If someone is genuinely interested in you, basic communication will not scare them away. If normal interest pushes someone away, the issue is usually not your behaviour, it is incompatibility or emotional mismatch.
On the other hand, constant game playing might attract people who enjoy chasing, but those same people often lose interest once the chase is over. That cycle is exciting at first but rarely stable in the long run.
At the end of the day, real compatibility does not need scripts. When two people genuinely connect, communication feels natural, not calculated. You are not counting hours before replying or analysing every word. You are simply engaging, learning, and building something gradually.
So the question is not really about rules versus no rules. It is about fear versus authenticity.
Are we dating to build something real, or are we trying to avoid rejection at all costs?
Would be interesting to know how others see this.
From my experience in dating, women make rules for a guy that they don't like but won't mind taking a bullet for a guy that they like.
Reference: There should be no windows, no bargains, no red lines, nothing. The security forces should go after them. Anyone of them lucky to be alive should be interrogated, stripped of Intel, sent before a serious judge and capital punishment conducted, all within a specific minimal time frame.
The government needs to set up special courts if necessary, liaise with the NJC to appoint competent judges to handle these cases rapidly and ensure through the Legislature that all cases of banditry are 'Federal' cases so there are no biases and death warrants are 'Federal'.
The government needs to match this disaster with all the seriousness it can muster. Enough of pussyfooting.
Sadly, we aren't seeing the seriousness on the part of the government
Biodun556: He was on his way to his hometown when the hoodlums captured him.
In a video released a week after bandits held Rabe and his wife hostage, they asked the government to release three members of their gang in captivity.
Also terrorists holding school children and their teachers in Oyo State were said to have demanded the release of their members before the children would regain their freedom.
But in a statement issued by Bayo Onanuga, Special Adviser to the President on Information and Strategy, on Saturday, he said, “While the terrorists have done their worst, the President wants them to know that the government will never bow to their demand to release their members.
“As I said on June 12, Bandits, kidnappers, and sponsors of terror should now surrender or face the full force of the Nigerian State. These windows of surrender will not remain open forever. And no mercy will be shown to those who trade in the blood of Nigerians.
“As Nigerians, we must stand united and be assured that the enemies of our nation shall soon be history. We will triumph over terror and continue to build a more prosperous nation.
“General Abubakar’s death should further serve as a defining moment in our battle against terrorists and insurgents, never to negotiate with them on any terms, but to continue to treat them as the greatest enemies of our dear nation, who should never be spared.”
The President commiserated with the family of the retired General, especially his wife, who is still being held against her will.
He also extended his condolences to the Katsina State government and the armed forces.
Reference: See what I am saying. You have allowed the actions of others dehumanize you, strip you of your remarkable values, the end result of which is a broken society where everyone is scattered and easily picked off by predators.
I now live by 3 principles and it has helped me alot. 1. I'm good 2. I'm good to myself 3. I'm good to good people.
RandDigital: "Those countries that have come out to say that they don't support South Africa, they hate us, they want to see us fail, they want Mexico to beat us ...
We are supporting you to support other teams. We, in fact, we are begging you to support other teams, because if you don't, and you support us - few years from now, you'll be reminding us that you supported us at the World Cup (like apartheid), then you're going to say you have to bring in your people illegally in our country, and they have to live here."
The shawarma is simply the evidence. The real issue is what it revealed.
For four years, one person had quietly made it a habit to think of two people every time he bought food. He never saw generosity as a transaction. He never calculated whether he would get the same treatment in return. He simply shared because he cared.
Then one difficult week arrived. This is not a year, not even a month o, just a week and it revealed a lot about her.
When she bought food only for herself, turned her back, and ate alone, what hurt was not the shawarma. It was the realization that the spirit of the relationship might not have been as mutual as he believed. In a single moment, he discovered that what he saw as "us" may have been viewed as "you and me" all along.
This is why people are reacting so strongly to the story.
Most people are not imagining themselves missing a shawarma. They are imagining all the sacrifices they have made for others, only to discover that the same energy disappears the moment circumstances change.
One of the hardest lessons in life is realizing that some people appreciate your effort without ever intending to match it. They enjoy your generosity, your kindness, your loyalty, your support, and your consistency, but they never see those things as responsibilities they should reciprocate. To them, receiving becomes normal while giving remains optional.
The truth is that relationships are not built during seasons of abundance. Almost anyone can be loving when everything is going well. Character reveals itself when sacrifice becomes necessary, when convenience disappears, and when somebody must choose between their own comfort and showing up for another person.
A relationship does not become one sided overnight. It usually happens gradually, through hundreds of small moments that seem insignificant on their own. One person keeps giving. The other keeps receiving. One person keeps understanding. The other keeps expecting understanding. One person keeps making adjustments. The other keeps benefiting from them.
Eventually, a moment arrives that exposes the imbalance.
The shawarma was simply that moment.
Men can learn something from this. Consistency is admirable, but generosity should not blind you to reality. The goal is not to find someone who enjoys what you provide. The goal is to find someone who values you enough to stand beside you when you have little or nothing to provide.
Women can learn something from it too. The strongest relationships are not built on what someone can do for you. They are built on reciprocity, consideration, and the willingness to show up when circumstances are less than ideal. Sometimes the smallest gestures communicate the deepest loyalty.
At the end of the day, everybody wants to feel chosen, appreciated, and valued. Nobody wants to discover that their importance in a relationship was tied primarily to what they could offer.
The saddest relationships are not the ones where love ends.
They are the ones where one person eventually realizes they were investing in a partnership while the other was simply enjoying the benefits.
What do you think? Was this story really about shawarma, or was it about something much deeper?
My OG used to tell me to always "act broke" once in a while... I did it for 2 months and realised that even the people I called friend, even my babe, them run leave me, from refusing to take my calls to stylishly avoiding anything that will make her visit me. At that point, I started being on the lookout for myself and started valuing myself more. I don't care if they say I'm stingy or something.
Romance › Re: First Dates Are Becoming Job Interviews And Men To Pay Before Love Begins by Omalicious1: 2:24pm On Jun 28
