₦airaland Forum

adenigga:
Source: https://punchng.com/dont-japa-tinubu-urges-youths-to-stay-build-nigeria

Islie:
https://guardian.ng/news/atiku-picks-amaechi-as-vice-president-nominee/

adenigga:
Source: https://guardian.ng/news/tinubu-seeks-improved-tax-compliance-to-fund-infrastructure

givedemwotowoto:
If I Can Feel The Pain, I Wonder What Others Are Going Through – Ruth Kadiri



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coputa:
https://www.thisdaylive.com/2026/06/10/senate-leader-to-propose-six-year-single-term-bill-for-the-president-and-governors/

Rapmoney:
This is one bitter truth you should always remind yourself of as an employee. It is even worse for people who work in organisations owned by one person or a particular family.

Your employer will never pay you what will make you have enough resources to live a comfortable life.

REASONS:
1. You will be in a better position to walk out of situations that you don't like in the workplace.

2. You will be in a better position to resign and start your own business.

Most Nigerian employers are just like the government. They give you just what is enough for you to survive, and not to succeed.

As an employer, you should realize that the people working for you also have their personal dreams and visions. Your business is your vision, and not theirs. So as they work for you to build your vision, the job should as give them the platform to build theirs. If your vision is being built, and theirs remain unachievable, then there is something wrong with you and your business system.

Last week, I attended a webinar where one of the so-called Nigerian industry giants was admonishing workers to be dedicated and put in their best. I didn't have any issue with that, but when he concluded by saying that salary doesn't matter, that what matters is passion and dedication, I shook my head. We have really lost it! You fly first class to different parts of the world. You buy choice properties. Your kids attend some of the best schools abroad. All from the proceeds of your business, and you open your mouth to tell me that salary doesn't matter?

BrickandLace:
It's a shame. So called Nigerian billionaires in every sector are sociopaths.

Bobloco:
•As domestic demand outstrips supply

•Producers stick to export market

•Dealers give catalogue of constraints

•Outlook remains uncertain —Industry Experts


Despite holding Africa’s largest proven gas reserves and recording rising gas production, household and industrial consumers are now faced with significant shortages of Liquefied Petroleum Gas, LPG, also known as cooking gas.

The development is also putting pressures on retail prices of the product.

Financial Vanguard findings showed that some producers are focused on exporting the product rather than meeting domestic demand.

Data obtained from the Nigerian Upstream Petroleum Regulatory Commission, NUPRC, showed that 62 per cent of the total gas output in the first two months of this year was exported, leaving only 38 per cent for domestic market.

Industry analysts said the lopsided supply, which had been in place during the years most Nigerians were not using gas for cooking, can no longer continue, adding that the supply structure was now destabilising domestic market.

Rising demand overshoots domestic supply


Financial Vanguard findings showed that demand has continued to outpace supply, according to the latest industry report, titled ”Nigeria LPG Production & Supply Matrix (2023-2026)”.

According to the report, estimated national consumption of cooking gas increased by 20 per cent to 1.8 million metric tonnes in 2026 from 1.5 million metric tonnes in 2023, while estimated national supply rose to between 1.55 million metric tonnes and 1.65 million metric tonnes in 2026.

This shortage is coming against the backdrop of increased production arising from the entry of Dangote Refinery into the supply end.

The report stated further: “The Nigerian LPG market has undergone a major structural transformation between 2023 and 2026. Historically dominated by imports and Nigeria LNG Limited, the market is increasingly being supplied by domestic gas-processing plants and refineries, particularly Dangote Petroleum Refinery, inland gas processors and NNPCL-linked facilities.”

The figures indicate that demand growth is outpacing supply expansion, despite rising domestic production and increased investment by major operators.

As a result of this supply-demand gap, retail prices in many parts of the country are now between N1,700 and N2,000 per kilogramme, up by over 80 per cent from average N1,100 in the first quarter of this year.

The dealers are saying the increases would continue in the months ahead as key problems cannot be resolved in short term.

Catalogue of constraints

The report warned that “cylinder penetration remains low. Distribution infrastructure remains inadequate. Marine terminal bottlenecks persist. Trucking costs significantly affect final retail prices. Exchange-rate volatility still influences imported LPG pricing.”

Experts give further insight

Despite the efforts of domestic suppliers, a review of reports by the NUPRC and the Nigerian Midstream and Downstream Petroleum Regulatory Authority, NMDPRA, showed that supply remains hindered by poor gas infrastructure, export priority over domestic supply, weak domestic gas pricing frameworks, insecurity and pipeline vandalism, inadequate investment, rising demand, foreign exchange volatility, limited storage capacity, regulatory inconsistencies and continued gas flaring.

An industry leader who pleaded anonymity, said: “Nigeria lacks adequate gas gathering, processing, storage and transmission infrastructure needed to move gas efficiently from production fields to consumers.

“This means that large volumes of gas produced in remote oil fields cannot be evacuated due to insufficient pipelines, processing plants and distribution networks.

“Many producers prefer exporting gas through LNG projects because export markets offer more attractive pricing and stable foreign exchange earnings than the domestic market. As a result, domestic consumers often struggle to access sufficient supply.

“Persistent crude oil theft, vandalism and insecurity in the Niger Delta continue to disrupt gas production and transportation. Attacks on pipelines and related facilities often force operators to shut down production, thereby reducing supply to domestic users.

“The gas sector requires billions of dollars in long-term investment, but uncertainty in policy implementation, regulatory bottlenecks and foreign exchange challenges have slowed capital inflows. Many critical gas projects have suffered delays or remain undeveloped.

“Domestic demand for LPG and natural gas has risen significantly due to population growth, urbanisation and government campaigns encouraging households to shift from firewood and kerosene to cleaner fuels. However, supply expansion has not kept pace with increasing demand.

“The depreciation of the naira has sharply increased the cost of imported LPG and gas-related equipment. Since Nigeria still imports a portion of its LPG requirements, exchange-rate instability directly affects pricing and availability.

“Nigeria’s LPG storage capacity remains inadequate compared to growing consumption levels. Insufficient coastal and inland storage facilities create supply disruptions whenever there are logistics delays, import challenges or production interruptions.

“Frequent policy changes, multiple regulatory agencies and implementation delays continue to create uncertainty in the sector. Operators say inconsistent fiscal terms and unclear regulatory frameworks discourage long-term planning and investment.”

He further stated that despite repeated commitments to end gas flaring, Nigeria still flares significant volumes of associated gas that could have been processed for domestic consumption.

Untold hardship for households, businesses

In their joint response, Barrister Edu Inyang, National President, Nigerian Association of Liquefied Petroleum Gas Marketers (NALPGMA), and Bassey Essien, Executive Secretary of the association, said: “This sad situation has brought untold hardship to millions of Nigerian households, small businesses, food vendors and low-income families who rely on LPG for daily cooking and livelihood.

“It is worrisome that the current situation is eroding the substantial progress made by the government in promoting clean energy usage in the country.

“Our members across the country face challenges sourcing LPG due to persistent supply shortages, high depot prices, logistics bottlenecks and rising operational costs.

“We observe that where the product is available, it is sold at rates far beyond the reach of average Nigerians.

“The current crisis is undermining years of progress achieved through federal government policies, public-private investments and awareness campaigns aimed at deepening LPG penetration and promoting clean cooking energy as a safer alternative to kerosene, charcoal and firewood in Nigeria.

“Many families are reverting to firewood and charcoal, despite the serious implications for public health, environmental degradation and deforestation.

“If urgent and coordinated action is not taken immediately, the current crisis could worsen food inflation, trigger job losses, reduce investor confidence and undermine Nigeria’s clean energy and climate commitments.”

They also called on “the Federal Government, the Ministry of Petroleum Resources, the Nigerian Midstream and Downstream Petroleum Regulatory Authority, NMDPRA, NNPC Ltd, domestic producers, terminal operators, international suppliers and all critical stakeholders in the LPG value chain to take urgent and coordinated steps to stabilise the market before the situation deteriorates further.”

Outlook remains uncertain

In an interview with Financial Vanguard, the National President of the Oil and Gas Service Providers Association of Nigeria, OGSPAN, Mazi Colman Obasi, said: “The outlook is not bright in the short and medium term for several reasons.

”First, the problems, especially poor infrastructure and limited investment, cannot be addressed easily. Second, they require huge capital and much longer timeframes to resolve.

“Other issues such as insecurity and pipeline vandalism, foreign exchange volatility, limited storage capacity, regulatory inconsistencies and continued gas flaring also require resilience, commitment and long-term policy consistency.”

Another industry expert warned that unless Nigeria aggressively addressed infrastructure deficits, improved domestic supply incentives and strengthened investment conditions, the country might continue to experience gas shortages, despite its enormous reserves and production potential.

He said: “The combined contribution of NLNG, Dangote, Kwale Hydrocarbon, NPDC Ologbo, Pan Ocean, Seplat, PNG Gas, Greenville and other processors has significantly boosted Nigeria’s cooking gas output.

“Nigeria now has the technical capacity to become largely self-sufficient in LPG supply, but additional gas-processing projects must be brought on stream, domestic gas infrastructure must be expanded, more storage terminals must be commissioned and the nation’s LPG adoption policies must be sustained.”

Analysts warned that unless Nigeria rapidly expanded gas-processing infrastructure, storage capacity and domestic supply incentives, the country might remain trapped in cooking gas poverty, despite its enormous gas wealth.

Data obtained from the National Bureau of Statistics indicated that the price of cooking gas rose by 335 per cent to N1,741 per kilogramme in 2026 from N400 per kilogramme in 2016, driven by limited supply and other market forces.

A breakdown showed that the price of the product increased to N500 per kilogramme in 2017 from N400 per kilogramme in 2016.

The data also showed that the price further rose to N600, N680, N800, N950, N900, N1,000, N1,450, N1,630 and N1,741 per kilogramme in 2018, 2019, 2020, 2021, 2022, 2023, 2024, 2025 and 2026, respectively


https://www.vanguardngr.com/2026/06/why-cooking-gas-will-remain-scarce-expensive-2/

adenigga:
Source: https://dailypost.ng/2026/06/07/well-never-surrender-to-terrorists-bandits-tinubu-vows

Dpsychologist:
Source:
https://africa.businessinsider.com/local/markets/after-cement-and-oil-africas-richest-man-takes-on-another-industry-nigeria-lost/kj31c5j

Odewaleadesoye:
..."I am an explorer. I belong to the wild world"



DAILY POST

fergie001:
https://dailypost.ng/2026/06/02/it-wont-happen-again-in-2027-oborevwori-rules-out-peter-obi-winning-delta/

Reverseng:
‎I was at LASUTH to see a doctor. The registration took 1hr +. Nurses on uniforms suddenly became bus conductors shouting patients names at the top of their voice one after the other. We were more than 50 seated at that registration point. It is close to a new building at LASUTH. Sustainable xxxx...I can't really remember the building name, but that experience left me feeling disappointed in our 'Tech gurus'
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‎At the moment, i need a state of origin certificate to apply for Access bank graduate trainee program currently running.
‎
‎Guess what?
‎I was told to GO TO THE PHYSICAL OFFICE AT VICTORIA ISLAND, to get it, or to go to an office in my village in the southeast to get it. I'm in Lagos typing this.
‎
‎I really hope Access bank HR and other related bodies are reading this, because I might have to decline applying for their Graduate Traineeship. And trust me, I'm smart enough for them to want me to choose them.
‎
‎Parents are working 9-5 jobs, while their children are even more hardworking than their parents, working 7:45am -5pm schools.
‎In a school in Ekiti state, each senior secondary student offer 13 -16 subjects. This is not hearsay. Trust me. I served as a corper in one of the schools. And after school closes by 3:30pm, they're told to wait for a compulsory extra lesson while lasts till 5pm. And it's not a free lesson. It's paid for by their parents. Imagine parents paying for their children suffering. Truly, the love of parents triumphs.
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‎So children spend Monday - Fridays (7:45am - 5pm) in schools learning 13 subjects, and on Saturdays, they're probably completing their notes or doing 13 different assignments, and then on Sundays, they go to church, rest for some hours and resume school on Monday. And one would expect success independent of theoretical speechification from these children.
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‎JSS1 - 3 = 3yrs
‎SS1- 3= 3 yrs
‎That's 6yrs on average

6 years of depression, bought and paid for by parents for their children. And I haven't even included the stress from university lecturers who were forced to study a particular course by their parents or society, and after realizing the disappointment of not following their dreams, become sadists, amongst others, who aim to frustrate students with their chants of  "A is for me, B is for your HOD, C are for my loyal students. You can distribute the failures generously amongst yourself"

So you see. It's a snake that eats its own tail.
The university lecturers were once children. The tech Bros and Girls too were once children. But now, each and everyone is either focused on milking these children, who they once were, or ignoring them completely, with silly comments like "school made me tough, if not, I would not be who I am today"

No. Being who you are made you come as a child to suffer in the Nigeria education system so you can be sensitized, through suffering, to create a platform to reduce the suffering of others when the time comes.

What happened to using technology to alleviate the suffering of children through the introduction of a passion+brain-friendly scheme, across all levels, from Primary to University.

1) Mondays- Wednesday = Classroom

2) Thursdays- Fridays= Online lectures

3) The presence of equipped and numbered guidance counselors whose job is to study a child and try understand where their passion lies, so that their education will be tailored to what they find joy doing. A hairdresser has no primary business learning geography, neither does a DJ have any primary business learning 'almighty formula'

This tailored form of leaning reduces the number of subjects that students are exposed to and secondly, it reduces the 7:45am - 5pm jobs that students work in schools. Now schools can comfortably close by 12-1 pm, even on Mondays because of the reduced work load of the students.
And mind you, when this efficiency has been created in learning, the free time of children should not be filled with more schoolwork/assignments because of a pathetic saying that "an idle mind is the devil's workshop"

6) A course in AI/ prompt engineering to enable students appreciate the fact that suffering isn't hardwork when they're able to swiftly generate an AI picture with precise prompt engineering, compared to a conventional graphics designer that spends decades on it.

7) Ban the physical submission of notes or handouts, especially for marks.

Also ban lecturers from physically selling handouts to students. A lecturer with an Innovative solution, be it in paperback, should copyright or patent it and lease it to students through the school education authority who thoroughly screens and approves it for sale at a very subsidized fee to students in ebook format. The sheer volume of students demands in campuses around Nigeria should compensate for the price reduction. There should be a digital right management thoroughly applied to the ebook to disable copying and mass production.
These amongst other solutions

To wrap this post up, Nigeria has become a nation where suffering is being seen as hardwork. We've become so used to seeing as "suffering= good person/hardworking" and "not suffering= bad person/lazy"
But suffering is not hardwork. The morality of continued hardwork is the morality of slaves. I've written about this here on nairaland.
Do find time to look it up, at your convenience of course.

I'm open to hearing your suggestions on how schools can be efficient, especially in Nigeria so that the coming generations don't go through the suffering we passed through while in school

Dpsychologist:
Synopsis: She Slapped Him In Public and Everybody Defended Her. But What Happened Next Changed The Mood Instantly.

One thing I've noticed about human beings is that many people love consequences in theory until consequences actually arrive.

There was an argument in a market earlier yesterday between a lady and a man. Voices were raised, tempers flared, and before anyone could properly intervene, the lady suddenly slapped the man. This is not a playful tap o, it is mot the kind of slap people dismiss as harmless. It was a loud, angry slap that immediately drew attention from everyone around.

Predictably, the crowd reacted the way crowds usually do.

People rushed to the man's side, not to ask what happened, but to restrain him. Some told him to calm down. Others reminded him that she was a lady. A few even looked at him as though he had already committed an offence simply because he was the man in the situation.

Unsurprisingly, he didn't react.

He adjusted his clothes, sat down quietly and said nothing. The tension gradually disappeared. People returned to their businesses. The lady looked victorious. The spectators concluded the matter had ended exactly the way they wanted it to end.

Then came the twist.

A few minutes later, when nobody was paying much attention anymore and the atmosphere had completely relaxed, the man stood up, walked over and delivered series of slaps of his own that reconfigured the lady's brain.

The shock was not even the slap itself.

The shock was how quickly public opinion changed.

The same people who had watched the first slap without much outrage on why the lady slapped him suddenly became defenders of morality. The same voices that were silent when the man was hit became very loud when the woman was hit. People began shouting. Some tried to hold the man. Others demanded explanations.

What made the whole scene remarkable was not the violence. Violence is ugly regardless of who starts it.

What stood out was the inconsistency.

Nobody had physically restrained the woman when she struck first. Nobody had gathered around to lecture her about keeping her hands to herself. Nobody seemed particularly concerned about violence until the recipient of the violence changed.

This is where many people get themselves into trouble.

Some individuals genuinely believe that being a woman automatically shields them from physical consequences, even when they initiate physical aggression. They mistake restraint for inability. They assume every man, regardless of temperament, upbringing or self control, will simply absorb the humiliation and walk away.

Most men will.

Some won't.

That is why the smartest rule remains the oldest one: keep your hands to yourself.

Once an argument becomes physical, you lose the ability to control how it ends. The moment you decide to hit someone, you are gambling on their reaction. Sometimes you win that gamble. Sometimes you discover too late that the other person was willing to return the favour.

The real lesson here is not that retaliation is right. It is that people should stop treating physical aggression as acceptable when it comes from one gender and unacceptable when it comes from the other.

If hitting someone is wrong, then it should be wrong before and after the comeback. Not only when the score becomes level.

attackgat:
The commercial city of Aba records total compliance to IPOB's sit order today 30th May

fergie001:
Lere is an aide to the FCT Minister, Lere Olayinka

Lere Olayinka


@QueenBee


@DonAzag

What do you expect when the chairman of INEC commented under the post of an APC chieftain, that victory is sure. Just read the new electoral act and you will see that INEC is an extension of APC. However, it's left for the people to push back with all their might.




@peculiarpat1

fergie001:
David Adeleke

Davido


Davido

dre11:
Chairman of the Nigeria Governors' Forum, AbdulRahman AbdulRazaq said the governors were actively engaging with the Federal Government and organised labour to arrive at a wage structure that is fair to workers and sustainable for government finances.



https://www.channelstv.com/2026/05/30/govs-propose-%e2%82%a6100000-as-new-national-minimum-wage/

Freshtruth:
Today, Nigeria’s celebrity beggar, known as Lekki Street Boy, will attempt the world’s longest beg-a-thon, ending on May 31.

He will be begging strangers for 24 hours straight on TikTok Live, with an estimated target of ₦20 million.

If he succeeds, he will become the first man to beg online nonstop for 24 hours.
https://www.facebook.com/100063752402145/posts/pfbid02vyC1wzKnupECj9VqtqxHAYXVY9GFNXX2YuL3i7kC5koSRcrqQnFxxb2cGfPFXmECl/

Bossladyy:
https://verynigerian.com/atiku-polls-1390276-votes-amaechi-248455-in-26-states-as-adc-adjourns-results-collation/

DoWhatThouWilt:
Source: https://gazettengr.com/tinubus-harsh-economic-reforms-necessary-nigerians-should-make-sacrifices-shettima/

kingjayzeelan07:
https://m.lindaikejisblog.com/2026/5/nigeria-is-de-at-d-letas-not-deceive-ourselves-once-you-are-counting-in-naira-you-are-poor-clergyman-paul-adefarasin-video.html

ogododo:
The Nigerian Association of Liquefied Petroleum Gas Marketers, NALPGAM, has raised alarm over the soaring cost of cooking gas in the country, warning that the continuous increase in price could spark public outrage against operators of gas filling stations.

The association disclosed that cooking gas now sells between N1, 500 and N1, 700 per kilogram, while marketers pay between N25.2 million and N26.2 million for a 20-metric-tonne truck of liquefied petroleum gas, depending on location.

Speaking on the development, NALPGAM National President, Mr. Edu Inyang, appealed to the Federal Government to urgently intervene and stabilise the supply and pricing of the product to prevent further hardship on Nigerians.

According to him, the current situation has placed millions of households, food vendors, small businesses and low-income earners under severe pressure, as many Nigerians can no longer afford cooking gas for daily use.

“It is sad and rather very pathetic to inform the general public that Nigerians have woken up to buy cooking gas, which should be a social item, at a prohibitive cost of over N1,500 per kilogram. We feel that if the situation is not immediately checked, citizens may rise against owners of gas filling stations”, Inyang said.

He attributed the rising cost of LPG to persistent supply shortages, high depot prices, logistics bottlenecks and escalating operational costs faced by marketers nationwide.

Inyang warned that the development was undermining years of progress recorded in Nigeria’s clean energy drive, noting that many households were already reverting to firewood and charcoal due to the high cost of cooking gas.

According to him, the trend poses serious risks to public health, environmental sustainability and the country’s clean energy targets.

He further warned that failure to urgently address the crisis could worsen food inflation, lead to job losses, cripple small LPG retail businesses and reduce investor confidence in the sector.

NALPGAM therefore called on the Federal Government, the Ministry of Petroleum Resources, the Nigerian Midstream and Downstream Petroleum Regulatory Authority (NMDPRA), NNPC Ltd., domestic producers and other stakeholders in the LPG value chain to take immediate and coordinated action to stabilise the market.

The association recommended increased domestic supply allocation, transparent product distribution, removal of bottlenecks in importation and distribution, as well as strategic interventions to make cooking gas more affordable and accessible to Nigerians.

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2026/05/cooking-gas-hits-n1-700-kg-marketers-warn-of-looming-revolt/

backbone503:
Eat smart. If you don't want to die yet, eat good diet. But no forget se na God dey balance all diet.

adenigga:
Source: https://dailypost.ng/2026/05/23/blackout-hits-presidential-villa-nnamdi-azikiwe-international-airport-other-parts-of-abuja

oarowosola:
I met her sometime around April or May last year, and from the beginning, things seemed fine between us. Like every relationship, we both made sacrifices, and even though I don’t like keeping score in relationships, I know I gave a lot of myself into it. Over time, though, I started noticing certain habits and behaviors that became harder and harder for me to ignore. At first, I kept convincing myself that maybe I was overthinking things or expecting too much, but eventually I realized that I was simply becoming exhausted.

One of the biggest issues for me was cleanliness and basic responsibility. I’m not a perfect person, and I can be nonchalant too. I’m someone who enjoys my own space and doesn’t constantly need attention or communication. If someone is busy and doesn’t check up on me for a while, I honestly don’t take it personally. But what bothered me was the imbalance. She could disappear for days or weeks whenever she was occupied and expect me to understand, but if I withdrew into my own space just to protect my peace, she would become upset about it. That double standard was one of the first things that started weighing on me emotionally.

The first time I visited her house, I was shocked by how untidy it was. I’m not obsessive about cleanliness, but I believe there should be a basic level of order, especially when you know someone is visiting you for the first time. When she came to my place for the first time, I made an effort. I cleaned my house , mopped the floor, arranged the bed, and even bought small things just to make the environment more comfortable. It wasn’t about trying to impress her with money; it was simply intentionality. I wanted her to feel welcomed.

But each time I visited her place, the environment remained the same. One particular day, after she stepped out, I decided to clean the entire house myself just to prove a point. While sweeping, I found sugar inside the couch, rotting cashew scattered around, and several things that clearly caused unpleasant odors. I cleaned the parlour, arranged the bedroom, organized her bags, and put everything in order. When she came back, she thanked me, but I remember telling her that it shouldn’t get to the point where her boyfriend had to clean her entire house before it became livable. I told her clearly that if I visited again and the place was still in that condition, it would probably be the last time I came there.

Unfortunately, nothing changed. On another visit, the smell in the house was so terrible that I kept trying to trace where it was coming from. Eventually, I discovered a sack beside the couch she had been sitting on. Something inside it had gone bad, and the odor was unbearable. I carried it outside myself because I couldn’t understand how someone could stay in that environment comfortably. Later, when she went to make yam and eggs, I followed her into the kitchen and found another terrible smell coming from plates that had clearly been sitting there for days. Instead of cleaning the sink first, she simply pushed the dirty dishes aside and placed the yam directly on the dirty sink to peel it. In that moment, I felt completely traumatized and emotionally checked out.

Beyond cleanliness, I also started feeling unappreciated in the relationship. On her birthday, I called her early in the morning, posted her on my WhatsApp status, and celebrated her the best way I could at the time, even though I was broke. Yet she still complained that I didn’t make her birthday special enough. Meanwhile, on my own birthday, there was no call in the morning, no thoughtful gesture, nothing until later at night when she casually said she forgot because she had been going through a lot. What hurt me more was that I had actually bought her gifts for her birthday, including a designer bag and matching slippers I personally made for her. It wasn’t really about material things; it was the imbalance in effort and thoughtfulness.

I also noticed the same imbalance in everyday life. Whenever she visited my place, I was usually the one cooking, cleaning, and taking care of things even while working from home as a shoemaker. Most times she would just sit pressing her phone while I handled everything. She barely cooked for me throughout the relationship, and eventually I stopped going out of my way because I started feeling taken for granted.

Money became another issue. She would borrow money and either delay repayment or never complete it. As a shoemaker, the money I receive for jobs is not pure profit because most of it goes back into materials and production. Yet I still found myself lending her large amounts from jobs I was supposed to complete quickly. Even when she paid back partially, it felt emotionless, almost like she didn’t recognize the inconvenience it caused me.

The final straw happened recently when she visited me during a very busy work period. She suggested we spend the night in a hotel even though my house was already comfortable, and I agreed. I paid for the room, and when food was ordered later that night, I still ended up paying almost everything despite already spending heavily on the hotel. The next day, after returning from the market exhausted from buying materials for work, I expected to at least meet food at home since all the ingredients were available. Instead, I walked into a kitchen with bread wrappers and milk sachets scattered around while she had already eaten without cleaning up after herself. I still ended up cooking for myself.

The following morning, after she made food during the night, she left the kitchen in complete disorder again. Pots, plates, and leftovers were everywhere while I woke up early to continue working. Rather than cleaning up, she sat watching TikTok videos. Eventually I had to pause my own work to clean the kitchen myself because I couldn’t stand the environment anymore. At that point, I realized I was mentally exhausted.

What made everything clearer for me was understanding that this wasn’t just about dirt or money. It was about incompatibility. I realized I was constantly carrying responsibilities that should have been shared. I’m not against people hiring cleaners or getting help. I also take some of my clothes to dry cleaners. But there’s a difference between getting assistance and being unable to handle basic responsibilities yourself. If someone who is meant to clean your house doesn’t show up, there should still be a basic ability to sweep, organize, remove trash, and maintain a healthy environment. I couldn’t understand depending entirely on other people for something so fundamental.

At some point, I stopped seeing peace in the relationship. I started feeling drained instead of supported. Even during intimate moments, she would make comments like, “If you leave me, I will haunt you,” and although she may not have meant it literally, those kinds of statements only made me more uncomfortable emotionally.

Eventually, I accepted the truth that we are simply not compatible. I don’t hate her, and I’m not trying to paint myself as perfect. I just know that I can no longer continue in a relationship where I constantly feel emotionally exhausted, unappreciated, and burdened. I’ve reached a point where I no longer want to argue, explain, or force things to work. I’ve already made up my mind that the relationship is over, and at this point, I just want to walk away peacefully and move on with my life.

What do you think? Be nice please

Google file photo used for illustration

dominique:
Hull City make dramatic return to Premier League

Hull players celebrate on the final whistle in the English Championship play-off final football match between Hull City and Middlesbrough at Wembley Stadium in London on May 23, 2026. Hull won the game 1-0. (Photo by Paul ELLIS / AFP)

Hull City were promoted to the Premier League in dramatic fashion as Oli McBurnie’s last-gasp strike sealed a 1-0 win over Middlesbrough in the Championship play-off final on Saturday.

McBurnie punished a mistake from Middlesbrough goalkeeper Sol Brynn to bag the lucrative winner in the final moments of the second half at Wembley.


https://www.vanguardngr.com/2026/05/hull-city-make-dramatic-return-to-premier-league/

fergie001:
See Previous story


https://www.facebook.com/share/p/18X4dBQLrE/

Kobicove:
So you prefer the federal government to fold it's arms and watch the local airline industry collapse?

QuinQQ:
HE DID NOT REQUEST HER TO PAY!!!!
He just wanted to cheat the poor waiter!
If he requested she pay it, different. Otherwise huge red flag!