sunsweet33:


I think this is the bone of contention…how many parents bother to bond with and understand their kids?

The way you are approaching it is from a nice angle but just know that majority of African parents are not as enlightened as you. They merely see their relationship with their child as a means of control and subjugation rather than an expression of love.

If we even look closely it seems that this guy is even lashing out after a lifetime of being misunderstood!

That's the very firsts thing that struck me when I first read the post.......but the girl is the more foolish person here. I don't know her....I had to use Google to discover her. In her mind let them do what they want she will not sacrifice anything for this event.....emphasis being on the wedding ceremonies ...... She will deal with the consequences later. She is obviously desperate and there is nothing wrong with that......it's the handling that matters. All she needed to do was to in all humility cultivate a tight relationship with some other members of the family especially the boys mother. It would take time but then it would work......and if it doesn't work you move on. This option is like living your life walking sometimes on thorns and nails and then other times on eggs.

Don't underestimate the successes of private detectives in Nigeria. I am still amazed at what they can achieve. And the family is supposedly a well known and well to do one.

I don't envy her at all.

greypencils:
The girl is pregnant hence the desperation. The family took that drastic step because they don't trust her intentions. She is older and thus manipulative. It's also about the background. Some people have dirt poor backgrounds that no matter the amount of wealth they acquire, their past sticks out like a sore thumb. For example, how do you clean up an illiterate mother or father that can't communicate in English? If ones siblings have been unfortunate not to go to school and not cleaned up too, you can't hide them forever. It's just you, the shining light out of the dunghill, nah! They will classify you as part of the dunghill no matter how much you cleanup.

Great thinking here expressed in words.


Your reasoning is so apt.

Angelfrost:


When an adult son or daughter has taken a decision despite being advised otherwise by his or her family, it's best they let them be.

He or she is an adult, not a child!

Every man reserves the right to be foolish by choice... He should be allowed to learn the easy or hard way.

Dear Nigerians, know your limits... Life no suppose hard.

You are very correct here. But if you have a child and have bonded with him enough and are willing to protect him as much as you can then you will understand that parents do not have anything against any particular girl or boy introduced into the family.

They do however have a checklist that they use to scale the new entrant. There is a minimum score that must be met before consideration.

I have seen many marriages contracted against the parents involvement and non of it ended well.

The least you can do is to listen to your parents advice and appraise it objectively. They are most likely speaking/advising based on experience and finally what they see sitting down (with clear eyes) is what you will never see atop a mast (especially with love tainted glasses).

greypencils:
Old money will accept new money if new money is highly cerebral, intellectual, exposed and from a middle-class family background, not dirt poor.

One of the best posts here.

In times past it was very difficult to make a lot of money. Those who succeeded were so conducted themselves in a particular way and came very easily to shame. They also tried to ensure that nobody close to them soiled their reputation.

The Patriarch of that family had to strong willed in order to keep his proteges in line including not limited to wielding the big stick when necessary.

What this man would have done is to buy time and get one or two people who are lieutenants/confidants to the Patriarch over to his side and then seek a middle course of action that can lead to a somewhat amicable solution. It doesn't have to be a battle always.

He has too much to lose. In medieval Europe that family will destroy the girls business and the young man will be emasculated.

Holluwhakemmy:
Obi tried congratulations to him. Peace

Honestly, with benefit of hindsight, it would have been better if Reno had kept his trap shut than cause the unearthing of the above.

My respect for this man has further increased.

While most politicians want to lay claim to being the initiator of legacy projects we must also give credit to those who finish these projects, to those who maintain and even those who renovate and rehabilitate infrastructure.

I am simply awestruck by the achievements of this man. No wonder he kept saying "go and verify".

His enemies or traducers better do proper research before hitting the media space. Recall how attempts were made to rubbish him with tax evasion? His visit to the tax office is historic.

Jakande was a great Governor and focused on the problems of Lagos at that time.

Tinubu was a great governor too. His achievements can never be underplayed.

Obi is a phenomenon.

His performance in Anambra as governor was above par.

But for me the most important record for the man is the fact that nobody has been able to challenge his claim of a corrupt free status as a two term governor.

This challenge has been up for over two years and has been avoided even by his biggest antagonists.

Confirmedzombie:


How did Labour Party outshine PDP in the last election.

How many governors, Senators, House of Reps, House of Assembly does labour party have compared to PDP.

Una go just open mouth waaaa dey yan rubbish.

Come 2027, LP will lose all their seats except for Alex Otti who might win a 2nd term.

Read your post again and think through your words objectively and with some reflection of your education and enlightenment.

The contemporary Labour Party was until last year one of the least attractive platforms for consideration.

The party's best outing prior to Peter Obi was with Mimiko. A single individual brought the party back to national reckoning and you don't think the man is worth some recognition.

Like him hate him, history of political evolution in Nigeria will never be complete without Obi featuring prominently.

Jibwillz:

He's baiting you to the point he'll suggest a dispatch delivery and demand upfront payment.
That's how they roll
My interaction with one

I kept asking him where his shop address is and he kept avoiding that part of our interaction.

I insisted that I would only buy a laptop after inspecting it physically.

One has to be really careful with sellers here.
We live in very perilous times. Everyone trying to make a kill at the expense of anyone who is inexperienced enough to part with his hard earned money without due diligence.

My advice is that we concentrate on buying laptops from only verified sellers here. People who have received great reviews and there are quite a few of them here.

On the Electronics area the Alaba Connect Moniker has proven time and time again that he can be trusted with even large ticket purchases. He has raving reviews to back this this up. I am a satisfied customer myself.

The Mattress guy is also very above board. You can deal with him with your eyes closed and you will exactly what you bargained for....and even more.

The lady Uniquewise is a Merchant. She is a transaction facilitator. She interfaces between Property owners/sellers and prospective buyers. Her prices will therefore be a bit higher than the direct owner/seller. But you can count on the quality of what she brings to the platform. Above all, with her ............what you see is what you get.

That is my very personal understanding of the activities going on here.

It's a great thread with a lot of myriad interpretations of the concept of clearance. However it's a useful thread for both sellers and buyers.

Let's try to keep it that way.

olulambert1:
Same thing when I called him
When he eventually reached out he proposed picking up the laptop at night which I declined
The guys is a potential scammer

Has anyone here bought anything from him prior to this advert?

My exchange with him was riddled with uncertainties and a blatant refusal to respond to my questions directly.

Imagine that for such a delicate transaction we would have to meet at a bus stop.

Japex:
Dell Latitude 7480 laptop.

Specifications:

* Core i5, 7th Generation
* 2.5 GHz processor speed
* 16GB RAM
* 256GB SDD
* Webcam
* Fingerprint
* HDMI
* Keyboard Light
* Graphics Card
* USB Type C charging capacity
* Very Good Battery (above 5 hours)
* Windows 11 Pro

No Fault. Very Neat. No Single Scratch.

Price: 150k

Whatsapp: 080..99..99..46..24

Hello, I called you repeatedly yesterday to no avail.

Inosky:
Greed that all! They want to make all the money at once. ShopRite bread is 1500, and street long loaves here is 1,700. Greed, greedy greediest

Your comparison is without basis.

justmi1:
If you think bread is expensive, enter marker buy ingredients and bake your bread or eat something "cheap", saying this respectfully

Smart response. Bakers are only putting together raw materials bought from the market. They don't produce wheat, sugar, margarine or even salt. Neither do they refine diesel or Gas.

justmi1:
If you think bread is expensive, enter marker buy ingredients and bake your bread or eat something "cheap", saying this respectfully

Smart response.

Silentgroper:
Maybe we should start doing it the revenue boost way .. mix up the wheat flour with cassava flour make the Godforsaken bread ... That's if it can be used to make bread though

This has been tried before with some measure of success. The ratio of Wheat flour Vs cassava flour is the important variable here. It will take a lot to convince the generality of Nigerian consumers to switch to a hight content cassava flour bread.

Then again you need large investments in milling to process cassava flour that will produce the quantity required by our rather numerous bakeries.

Why not try to find out how many metric tonnes of wheat is brought into the country on a monthly and annual basis? You will be shocked.

You can't replace wheat with cassava in the short or medium term.

Kingzmate:
JUST DEY PLAY

SO AGEGE BREAD BACK THEN NA IMPORTED 98% RAW MATERIAL

JONZIN TALK

You will be shocked to know that the emboldened is the case and has always been.

We have never achieved wheat production to a commercial degree. All we have had is media blitz about dry season wheat, cassava flour bread etc.

So long as we don't grow wheat enough locally bread will always be expensive. Wheat is the base raw materials constituting over 70% of the total raw materials used.

It worsens when we add other costs like diesel, packaging, emoluments.

Do you have an idea of how much it costs to make just one set of stainless steel bread pans? What about equipment spare parts?

scanner1000:
Good afternoon everyone.

Please I want anyone with good effective ideas to help me think about what else I can do to help my financial situation. I'm currently running POS business with small amount of money and it not lucrative as before and the economy crisis in the country also make it worse for me
I'm a graduate and I was unable to get good job before doing dis my current Pos business.


Please any good advice or ideas on what to do that can help my financial situation.

It could be online business that won't affect my Pos business because dat only source of income I'm getting money from

[b]PS[/b]not yahoo or illegal business

Where is your location?
There are a few things you could add to the POS business temporarily.

You will however have to learn a technical skill or a peoples skill for the long haul.

BondRiv:
Liars. They will say anything to justify their greed. Making people buy a loaf of bread at N1,400.

You are indeed very lucky if you can still see a very good quality family size loaf of bread for 1,400.00. It's not very likely.

I am in the industry and I can tell you that over 40% of bakeries have closed down during this period.

Bread making is not as profitable as it appears.

The cost of flour is at its all time highest.......55k - 60k depending on variables such as location, brand and type.


Sugar has no control mechanism whatsoever. It's almost a monopoly. The prices rise arbitrarily. Some story about international prices.

Margarine is almost beyond reach. The European types are almost 4k per kg while the Asian ones are 2k per kilo.

Other materials are also dependent on Forex....indeed almost all of them. Then you have the issue of electricity.

Many bakeries are driven by diesel. I still buy diesel at between 1,600 and 1,700 per liter and it takes over 5 litres of diesel to round off the production cycle for one bag from Mixing through baking to Packaging.

Beyond that you must still deal with packaging prices, delivery costs and of course salaries.

motta:
08022636669(presido)

Just tell him from Motta .

Thanks Bro!

motta:
08022636669(presido)

Just tell him from Motta .

Thanks!

motta:
very stable i have been using it for the past 6 months
i only scan 2 weeks ago when i heard dey have added more stations.
Formerly it was 300 + stations after scanning it became 400+ stations .

When I did mine it was 45k for total package

I am interested in this. Can you refer us to the person who did yours? No need experimenting with other people.

segunk1:


Baba if you are not using a smart tv pls leave that sh!t, Gotv and Dstv is rubbish, just get an Android Tv-box woh! You will thank me later.

Tv-box prize is around 30k and above depending on the features.

The world is moving, leave their decoder for them jare.

Bros, its not too much to ask how does the android TV Box work? Can I get Netflix using it?

I have not subscribed for any pay TV for over two years. It just doesn't make sense. Poor electricity supply is the beginning of your problem.

This opening just came up this morning.

It may interest one or two candidates here.

Good morning!

MurphyInc:
We are always available for your Tech need.

Quite an interesting thread.

Any number we can use to reach you?

udemzyudex:


Have you check via external connector and disk management to see if it accessible or not?

Pls can you explain the bolded. I have no clue whatsoever.

IsellSmartTvs:

ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS
THE CROWD THAT APPLAUDS YOUR CORONATION IS THE SAME CROWD THAT WILL APPLAUD YOUR BEHEADING.
PEOPLE LIKE A SHOW.

This wasn't necessary at all Sir.

Deep inside you I am sure that you know that this was a bad transaction abinitio. You have built a reputation for yourself over the years. I considered you a different Alaba Seller especially with your quality of expression.

I also expected that you would have resolved this matter a long time a go and received the attendant applause.

Do note that these posts will always be attached to your moniker........forever.

My external hard drive is no longer accessible from my laptop. I tried other systems and only got the same results.

I was advised that it has crashed.

2 questions here:

Can I have it repaired?

Can I access/recover the stored files?

It's a 1 Terrabyte Hard Drive from Seagate.

Very useful thread.

MikaelDare:
Novateur Nigeria(Alongside their other brands Print Anything and Signage Kings) in Abuja.

Though the good part is that they try to pay Salary early to ensure it doesn't enter the new month, also you'll learn and grow if you're willing to.

But the management style is poor, the management most times contradicts themselves in giving directives. The pay is poor, and people are expected to show up everyday from 8-5 being overworked and overstretched, and even work overtime mostly without compensation. There are so many unnecessary deductions done on staffs salary, most times for ridiculous and absurds reasons(Sometimes up to 40-80 % of staffs salary could be deducted in a month, On One or two occasions 100%). Staffs are usually harassed and shouted at for every little matter. There is a high rate of turnover as Staffs have to leave as they can't cope with the toxic atmosphere, giving more work to the already overworked staffs remaining, and the circle continues perpetually.
Leaving the organization is also usually an issue, even though they will claim otherwise, but most employees knows that they usually have an issue when people want to go and inform them, no wonder most people who leave take off without informing them. In my case they refused to pay my last salary because they didn't want me to leave when I left. They held that the salary up till today.
Virtually all employees who leave are usually recorded as "absconding" even after sending them written resignation via email.

Then the worst part of it is that when reference is requested from them for past employees, they give employees bad/negative reviews/reference (Which is why most people leave without telling them since they will get a negative review anyways)

Funniest thing is that they don't even see anything wrong in their management style, they think the employees are the problem(When 80-90% of employees who begin every year with them leave before the year runs out)
A look at their review on the employers rating site, "Glassdoor" will give you a perfect picture of how staffs are treated.

I disagree with the email approach to resigning. Perhaps it wouldn't be so bad if it was a100% remote job. If it was a full time physical,onsite job or even a hybrid job then you have to follow due process and resign in person and with full respect to the statutory or mutually agreed upon notification time frame.

It can't be that hard to leave a on a good and even note.

Olumighty123:


What kind of pillow did you get from him, fiber? How much

I think it was a fibre pillow but definitely not the memory type and he said so himself.

But it's fine. Just right for my neck.

About the price....it was cheaper than the big brand pillows. But you know pricing is also not something steady at the moment.

Jagznation:


Which babe talk true....cos this excitement is not ordinary

I really don't know if you are being sarcastic but I can tell you for free that I met this guy and he is quite cool. I saw the mattresses. Please note that I didn't buy them but recommended someone who bought one unit based on my avowed reassurance.
It's over six months and the buyer keeps thanking me for saving him the difference he would have spent on a better known brand that may or may not have delivered the value he has gotten from this little known brand.

And by the way I have bought pillows from him and can testify to the superior quality. I am buying some more soon and then a mattress.

Abbeyb1ack:
100% legit dealer
payment on delivery 100%
what you order=what you get
more deal sir

One of my best transactions ever. This guy is just the bomb and the mattresses are super.

chukel:
please can you share contact of this mechanic. Thanks

Yes I can but you must understand that he doesn't travel for work outside Enugu metropolis.

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Many thanks for this response.

Quite surprising though.....no office in Ikeja, V.I or any other central location.

Thanks nonetheless.