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silentdon:
No..

you see thats d problem.

silentdon:
Thank you. Her husband doesn't want the donor stuff, he doesn't even want to hear such. He's been unsupportive nd insensitive.
Thinking of making her sign some papers that'll secure my involvement in it..

has her husband check him self too?

silentdon:
Hello family section guys, you guys have been doing a lot of good works, this is my first post here nd I know I'll be glad I posted this.
I'll try to be as simple and short as I can be...
There's this girl, she's 25 and married but has been unable to conceive. Tho she Got pregnant (wch she aborted) before she married, she has been unable to repeat the feat with her husband after over a year of marriage. She's done all investigations trying to ascertain the cause of her infertility (frm HSG to hormonal assays, to hysteroscopy nd all) but they have all come out normal.
Now to the issue, she was my girlfriend in the past (we've long forgotten eachother since when she became seriously engaged as I was not even thinking marriage at that time) and she now wants me to get her pregnant. She knows me well and believe I can keep everything secret. Honestly, I don't mind because I'll just see it as being a sperm donor but yeah, there's a but..
What I'm also concerned about is the fact that I'll be sleeping with a married woman nd I've always said I'll end my marriage if my wife does that.
I really wanna help her, she's someone dear to me nd truth is, she's been ridiculed for it. I'll like to have different school of thoughts and opinions on this issue, anybody with an experience on a similar issue should also please share your wealth of experience (esp possible repercussions ) here. Thanks.

let me understand u... Her last aborted pregnancy was from u?

5minsmadness:
I don't curse. I didn't curse you. I was angry you agreed with someone that was apparently insulting your father by calling him analog.
Check my other posts to see if I am the insulting type.

Anyways apologies if you were hurt.

that was d way u perceived it, in my opinion, he wasn't insulting my dad, e was jst empathic, stating d obvious, if u read well u wud see he cited his own parents as an example
all-in-all if i am not tolerant of pple opinion online wia wud i?
Thanks for ur tym bro.

5minsmadness:
Buy zinc tablets. Take it daily for one month. Also look for ORIGINAL Shea butter and rub the affected areas. Do not shave too close to the skin during this period. The bumps will disappear. Whatever remains is most likely going to be permanent.

you are good i love ur knowledge. Thanks for the tips

I think berem hasn't seen this thread yet. Pls guys don't get hurt by what she will say here when she comes. Her case is actually chronic.

Ishilove:
I understand. There's this hunger for the word of God which
Is biting at your soul. When you attend catholic services, the hunger isn't satisfied. You feel you've been stagnant but now you're feeling more refreshed.

I understand. I've been there

i respect u ma, thank you.

nwekesimon68:
Idioticc gay. Thunder will soon fire u. You are an ingrate ur parents shud have killed u wen u were useless baby. No worry i will catch you.

what is this one saying? Why are u antsy?

5minsmadness:
OnyeEgo1 let me tell you a story.

My sister joined a certain popular fellowship when she entered university. They were on fire, preaching the word and jumping and praising. We come from a quiet but deep Christian family and my sis hadn't experienced pentecostal worship like this before.

She jumped head on into the fellowship. She rlwent for all the meetings and and prayer sessions and programmes, etc. She felt she had finally found the place to nurture her spiritual life.

As is the way with most of these fellowships they started preaching about 'dead' churches. How the members could only be saved by coming to a 'living' church like thiers. How anybody who was against joining the church was fighting them spiritually. How Christ came to set father against son and mother against daughter etc etc.

By the time sister came home she was on fire. Refused to go to church with the family. Anybody that questioned her was against her spiritual growth. That our parents were archaic, old school, etc. Nothing we could say could dissuade her instead she took us as attacking her faith.

Finally we let her have her way. When we go to church she will go to her own. When we pray she will pray her own. You can imagine how the tension in the house was.

Then she went back to school and soon we heard she had donated her phone to the church. We couldn't communicate with her and had to buy her a new phone. She sowed that one to the ministry also. Then money issues came. She started looking very stressed.

Cut a long story short she's wiser now. She has realised that following God is a PERSONAL DECISION and not dependent on any pastor. Finding salvation is work done by THE INDIVIDUAL and not any particular church.

After all your vexing, no pastor can replace your father. No fellowship can replace your family.
Over and out.

hello sir, in as much i appreciate ur sincere concern, i am not ur sis or ur sis Me. The body of christ is a family, don't lemme start preachin. Tanx anyway

Ishilove:
If the OP has found a deeper, more meaningful relationship with God outside the Catholic church, then by all means let him explore it to the fullest. The bible says we should work out our salvation with fear and trembling. Salvation is an individual race which should be influenced by no one except the holy spirit. If your church does not change you, change church!!

That being said, OnyeEgo1, honour your parents so that your days will be long on earth. Also be as meek as the dove and wiser than the serpent. As long as you are still dependent on your parents, they will continue to have control over certain areas of your life. For now attend your new found church when you can, and on Sundays go to the catholic church so that peace will reign.

Above all pray. Commit your dad into God's hand and pray for wisdom to handle the situation well.

Let me also remind you that if you are good or bad, at the end of the day it will come back to YOU and you alone. You will be made answerable for your actions, whether good or bad. Not your dad, mum or sibs; YOU. You can only be the devil's errand boy if you allow him manipulate you.

Be wise.

thanks sis, so many pple misunderstanding me here, my father remains my closest friend. Moreover i am a religious person, inshort dia was a tym in my life i was not going to church, buh for once i can hear d pratical truth, somhow i found wot i am craving for.
I remain a catholic, a proud one 4 dat. But i need growth, which is now truncated, over n done with.
I appreciate ur sincere concern, i wish i had dis in diary section wia comments like dat of one person insulting her father is not allowed.

5minsmadness:
Just cos someone is mad doesn't mean he isn't brilliant.
And I still stand by my words on the other thread

and do i look like someone, insults and curses hurts?, u don't knw me.

5minsmadness:
There are different types of hair.
The straight type- this is common among white folk.
The curved type - common among blacks.
The hooked type- straight with a little hook at the end, common among people with dada hair.

These three hair types abound in the population and are passed on from one generation to the next. Whenever you use a shaving stick to shave, it is designed to clip off the hair strand to as close to the skin as possible. Esp if you use shaving powder to soften and straighten out the hair. Some people shave so smooth that the hair is cut below the skin. When the hair tries to grow out again in a few hours the hooked or curved part bumps against the edge of the pore of the skin it was supposed to grow out of, and then gets stuck. So the hair starts growing back inwards.
This is worse among those with hooked or curved hair.

As it grows inwards it is going to irritate the skin and also trap bacteria which infect the skin as well. So the area now swells and sometimes becomes painful and little pus oozes out. These are the bumps.

If you are prone to this kind of thing,bros, stop shaving. You won't like your skin after a few years especially if you are light complexioned. Use a clipper that doesn't cut as close as a shaving stick. Also avoid using shaving powder, no be by force to use am. Also endeavour to buy your own clippers so someone else who's bumps are infected won't share his bacteria with you.


Over&out.

wow, nice article, dis brilliant?... Opposite of what u portray in my other thread.

I bet u some fellaz wud b reading with the hope of seeing nigeria listed... SMH 4 u guys, if only u knw what we have over her...

Feel free to throw jabs on me, insult me for all i care.... I am gonna take it, of what use is ur insults, will it change anytin.
But, don't quote me pls.

#It Hurts to be misunderstood. D last tym i check the circumference of the earth have not expanded yet. It is still same way.

berem:
I don't need your respect. Reserve it for your Dad who needs it more. You're still under your father's roof and he still feeds you and pay your school fees. Respect him and your days will be long.

thanks for belittling me.... And who says i don't respect my dad?... Did u read my post at all.
I am not craving 4 ur sympathy, jst ur empathy, it is clear u've notin gud to say. I promise, i won't reply ur quote again since u won't let me be GREAT AUNTY.

N.b>> remember d world is such a small world, it still rotates.

alutacontinua:
This post deserves a standing ovation!
I still don't get how women claim to 'love' men that treat them like trash.
Btw, @toks, is your wifey back?
Please, tell me yes

men dat post is tru, since men are d determinant of d gender of d child dey should also be d determinant of love i guess....

berem:
I didn't insult you,I just told you the truth. You're an undergrad in your 20's so what? I have a kid brother who's an undergrad and I am a decade older than him. I will talk to you the way I talk to him.

wow, i am now a sort of kid brother, u know what?, u want me to exchange banters with u?, u want me to go gaga n start cursing ryt?

No way its not going to apun. Since i am not dat way offline, i don't tink i shud b online.
For God's sake u don't knw me or d psychological state i am in currently now.
I used to respect u, but u disappoint me wit ur attitude, u've lost my respect.

Dear berem, i don't get adrenaline rush easily, buh i beg u desist from quoting me hence, once again i beg u. #KIDbroSMH

SwagPower:
Haba Mana Bros... Ur ideology contradicts Ur Signature...

how? Explain

ekundayoalo:
Cool. Thesame school, it's nice seeing you here bro

same

olu4life:
Uwc bro. Just sit both of them down and talk to them. This will work. U can also use your mom to influence ur dad

thanks for ur concern bro, buh d issue now is dat i av given up long tym ago. #IfeelUseless#

berem:
as long as you're still under his roof,you should obey him. When you get your own apartment and be a man of your own,if you decide to even change your religion,that's your problem.
Besides,what's wrong with being a Catholic anyway? Children of nowadays sef....

asin?.... Am i dat small dat u av to ridicule me... For the record i am an undergrad..... I am in my 20s...God!
U jst insulted me!

missbronze: Na una sabi.

As for me, the only thing i desire in this life is to have a CHILD. A child to give all my love, to train, and to raise.

And, is only a child that will make me do anything desprate. because, a child is all i desire in this life.

Husband or no Husband, i dont give a damn.

And, am so glad that one can have a child without a husband.

wow!, great! have u gotten one now?

ledafaze: We cant just put it on our society alone... Its the human gene... Forget about what we see in hollywood movies o... Even the oyinbo parent wants their children to get married...

On its own, it is a a yardstick for success. It is used to measure success and it is success for him own class.

success bawo? How?

donpeey22: Nigerian society also look down on eligible single men, why don't such men get so desperate like single ladies would?

it is because d average desperate single lady out there believe in one shitty biological clock ticking away...

kendraloops: Was in your shoes sometime ago. i got admission into school n i immediately changed to the church i preferred, i hardly ever went home cos school was far but when i did, i'd follow them to church to fulfil all righteousness. Not a good way to live, i tell ya.
this reminds me so much of 'Papa' in Purple Hibiscus.

i learnt alot from that book walahi, d man is a good man with good intent for his children but doing it wrongly and forcefully...

The papa Jaja character in that story depicts my dad almost exactly.

olu4life: Most of the comments here are just not it for me. I can clearly understand u OP. I can boldly say 80% Nigerian Parents have no idea of Parenting for Teenagers/Adult Children. They are not ready to listen to u,neither understand what u saying. This has caused alot of breakdown in communication between Parent and Adult children. If u wondering what I mean by adult children,its from Age 20 Above.
I was once like the OP. My parent dictating what I should which left to keeping to myself and was also getting angry every moment. I saw a book on Parenting Adult Children and bought it for my parents
This came as a turn around for them. Parents shouldn't impose their will on teenager,talk more adult children. It should be rubbing mind together between them. Imposing ur will will make d child even disobey u the more. Let's learn to get things right and educate our parents. Most of them want to handle their children the way they were handled in their days.
I will end this epistle with this question, How will an Analog Parent raise a Digital Child?

this is what i was looking for all dis while, God bless u sir....

Wait. Is it like dey will signify?, u never know maybe majority are already chatting n known here on Nl

Eksu. Biology Edu.

No.... Dats why i wanna write anoda pume next year.

Rawshal: Its a pity dat dis our govt don change d mentality of almost evry nigerian,Y u go dey jubilate bcuz of less dan 24hr light..YYY nw.dey jst wan use dis small tin convince u 2 vote 4 dem....instead of u to ask hw many megawatt ar we avin generally..d last time I check is less dan 4000mw

make we dey cry?.
Abeg who be the govt?
Come o, u dey travel so?, i beg u eh, try visit somalia.... When u come back we go jam for NL 4 u 2 tell me ur experience.