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Divineluv14:
Don't judge me because you don't know me

Are u not azizat akanbi??

OP.... Abeg where u get that SK wey u smoke b4 u post dis tin??
The sk go tight oh!

Cut all connections and give her some space... If she comes around u again... Tell her point blank, dat u don't want to get emotionally drain again.. But u also av to be emotionally prepared for dis too...

I see no wrong in being a lady's friend tho...

kingreign:
I'd excuse your arrogance and ignorance as meaning you're a child.

Same here too.... Cos urs is super arrogance... U av just been ignored, I dislike confused pple... Don't expect a reply for ur next mention... I am too big to do internet fight

kingreign:
Most matured happily married couples won't advocate for divorce or separation, its a form of abandoning his husband responsibility..


"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.' But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.
Matthew 5:31-32

"Some Pharisees came and tested him by asking, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?" "What did Moses command you?" he replied. They said, "Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away." "It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law," Jesus replied. "But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.' 7 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. He answered, "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery."
Mark 10:2-12
"A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord."
1 Corinthians 7:39

"But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him."
1 Corinthians 7:11-13


Would you rather listen to yourself and ask yourself where this trash came from?
So (no insult intended pls) how would you feel if your father comes on facebook, nairaland or lindaikejiblog to type all the misdeeds of your mother and call her a girl... How would you feel about it? Mehn, what da heck is wrong with younger generations, where did we get it all wrong?
The marriage is an institution that's NOT made by social media but by GOD. Its sacred and divine not earthly and shouldn't be trashed.


Dude! U put it to you, you don't know anything about Biology. Do you know some years ago, one of the best gynaecologist in Nigeria was always being referred to on issue of barrenness and childless marriage, he would do his work, leave the rest for God, babies would come... Guess what?
He was heading a childless home... He never bothered... Till a few years later he got a child in his middle age.

Bro, go and sleep you know not what you're saying.

Bro u are just beating round the bush, justifying urself n ur pointless, meaningless post insulting urself, posing as a "gud" christian contradicting urself...

Who gave scientist the knowledge??

My guy U are DRUNK, go and sleep else na hangover u dey invite....

kingreign:
I gave an option for a private discussion, I waited for you, but you didn't even message me... All is well, but I got a message for you, I will be blunt here irrespective of how many people will rebuke my opinion.

1. You're a husband and a head, your woman is a wife and a preserver. Whatsoever occurs in your family should had stayed in your family, you came up to expose it all (in my opinion its gross miscalculation). You ought to know of some elders in your religious circle, community, work place or wherever whose marriages had spanned 3-4 decades. If you asked them, they keep their problems and try to solve them mutually, except its gone out of hand then they involve family elders and then religious elders- not online folks.
2. As a man, you have the power to decide the way you wish your home to be run, your wife only sees to it that your decision is brought to fulfillment.... Whether good or bad....you as the head think, your wife is the neck to support you and ensure your thoughts are realised.
3. Your calling your wife 'girl' is an utter disrespect to her. Take it from me.
4. If infertility or child bearing is an issue, I see no reason why you can't control and dictate things for her and on her behalf. Its mostly in laws from the mans side that bring up such issues, however, today, IVF, and child adoption and others have brought up solutions to such child birth issues. I see no reasons why you won't explore such. I personally would fail to believe a woman who's not yet with child will be hard and harsh and negative in actions especially when African settings would automatically place belief that she is at fault most prolly.....

Bro, like I said.... You are the Husband, you're the head of the family, and the leader, your woman is the wife, the neck and the preserver of the family.
Whatsoever decision you take, whatsoever actions she put up will come up against you because you are the custodian of the home. Better man up to your responsibility, mind you, divorce isn't a biblical solution (assuming you're a Christian)
Cheers!

And who says elders, wise pple and christians are extinct online, even the bible now av app on diff platforms, never u underestimate the power of the web n communication...

I swear I am not in support of divorce but can u point out where it was categorically stated in the bible wia God condemned divorce??

Stop blaming d op if he refered to his wife as a girl, d guy is stressed abi av u guys suddenly lost empathy in the generation??

If the environment wia serene I strongly believe this problem is only but a litu one, dey may nt go as far as adoption or ivf.... It may be the acidity of the vagina or d position dey take during sex...

I am talking biology here... Great problem are solved by simple solutions...

cococandy:
SMH

What happened to giving your own advice and stop disturbing people about their opinions?

Nairaland never changes.

Onyeego if you have an opinion about OP's case, pls tell him.
If you have anything to tell me, quote me directly.

Don't be a sneaky pucci.

I av actually quoted u twice.. So??

cococandy:
Obviously the OP wants posters who won't tell him where he's wrong.

Oga the home belongs to both of you. Treat her like a partner not a tenant in 'your house' and you will see improvement.

Or just go ahead and divorce her and have peace.

...Unfollows

As if u actually live with them... Drop this sick attitude of urs already... One trait I dislike abt ur folks is dis poor sense of judgement, always sentiment, blurred and biased...

cococandy:
The problem is with him now. Is that not what I just did?

His wife is not 'that girl'
And their home doesn't belong to him alone. It is theirs.

If he drops that attitude, and stop seeing his wife as girl who lives in his personal house, he will see a change. There's no smoke without fire.

Problem solved.

But that's my personal opinion. You guys are free to give him different opinions too. We can't all type the same thing.

If the wife is here she would have gotten her own talking to. As he's the one here let him learn his own faults and correct them.

Except he intends to show the wife the thread, then it would not make sense to type long epistles addressing the wife.

U av no moral ground to apportion blame to any of the party yet, cos u don't know everything yet... I mean, men don't know how to cry n whine like u guys, wen experiencing negative energy flowing we tend to use small words which are sometimes not the reflection of our true thoughts and intents... It simply means we are frustrated.....

jnrbayano:
Do you realise that Op is in pains before coming up with this?

Why not try to find out where the problem is before apportioning blames to whoever?

I HATE! Dat particular trait in them...

Saao:
how?

Just ignore some monika with F attached to it, dey won't give u any useful words except to defend dia kind...

To the problem @ hand...

Give ur lady some space so u guys will get to rediscover urselves independently n find dat tin dat attracted u guys in d 1st place....

Have u gone for any medical check up yet?? If yes gud for u, if no, I think u shud....

My guy if u commit ur mind to women issues eh, u will actually die faster, kill her bad behaviour with kindness, take it as an obligation dats wen u guys cross path during ur brief separation...

Make her miss u, pamper her with gifts, n always try the touch ur toe style when doing the thing wen u guys finally come back renewed..

To ur RENEWAL n BLazing Hot kinda LoVe... *cheers*

Chidoks:
less than 2 years ? and you call her this girl? lets start from the begining.
1: did you properly marry her as in did you at least pay bride price to her folks? if so don't you think it's derogatory to call her "this girl"
2: what's the real issue? is it lack of pregnancy? because two years is short to worry about that.have you sought medical help? what was the outcome? is she under any sort of stress even if it's self inflicted? what has she exactly done and what steps have you taken to make things alright?
3: are you telling us you have been good to her yet she keeps making your life miserable?

He has all ryt to refer to his wife any name he chooses exp wen he is not api, y do ladies always try to turn tables always acting d victim??...

Let her watch porn, dat was d purpose for such movie, married couple porn oh! Unless u are making this one up to make fp

Hahahahahaha..... Oboy!

Nice strategy

My mama leeeeeh!!

Tombrook0:
if you are in Lagos, I can teach you how to drive, contact me on 07061960316

Can u kindly drop a whatsapp number... I reside in ijanikin part of lagos... Is it feasible for u to teach me hence I am residing in dis part??

Hahahahhahahahha... Very true....

When I buy things without considering the price, pple do think I am showing off or just being a fool exp pple around, most times I do dis out of love n consideration...... That's d way I had lived... This post strenghtens me more...

Cc Lalasticlala ishilove do d needful

teemy:
We've all been hurt one way or the other. Avenging ourselves would only reap a circle of violence.

An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth would leave us all toothless and blind.

Bros leave hardbody he never jam wahala wey na forgiveness b the only payment/savior... Kotinu wen ur hardbody go turn to softbody u go appreciate the power of forgiveness,#na joke I dey o....

hardbody:
For me, forgiveness is a SIN. Which is why i bend over backwards to ensure that I DO NOT offend anyone. I try not to. Not when i talk, not when i walk or work, not while i am driving, NO. I try to accommodate. But if you hurt me, I DO NOT FORGIVE.

If u don't forgive odas, boss b prepared to b unforgiven by God himself, buh u know wot God is not dat small... My point, u are human n u can't tell me u avent offended anyone since d beginning of ur very existence... Boss u can't justify misdeed/wrong doing... 2 cent

yomi007k:
Yes.

And its d same thing u wrote.
Its just dat u said u wud add d heart later on and that move will be disastrous.

Emotions kill. Go figure.

Wot ever rocks ur boat..... Wow!, congratulation u are d first human who lives without emotions dat I av ever come across.... Nairaland!!!!!

yomi007k:
Is that not "using ones head"?

From ur write up ur idea of using d head was to trash out the heart ryt??

yomi007k:
Follow ur head.

Ur heart will only put u and everybody else into more confusion.

Literally take off ur heart let's c if ur head will function at all... D both of dem are relevant.. For the Heart, keep the issue of marrying pending so dat d issue in the head is firstly resolved peacefully, dat way the heart n d head works simultaneously....

lofty900:
dont tell ur dad 2 4give and 4get rather join him and fight 4 ur right. if ur dad passes on those people will take over the entire plot and u will be left with nothing. be a man

Show me where dis ur advice av yielded positive result I.e peace and stability ?? I hate aggressiveness and aggressive pple.. Land dat u wud still b buried underneath it, I can't b dat stupid!

Have a man to man, father and son conversation with ur dad, its all childish and vanity to drag land, help him to see himself as a life line of dat family n a great man he would be if he let go off d land..... Truth is dat, all dis land issue pple are dragging I don't av power for it I rada let u av it den I will b back to buy it from u with proper documentation...

Love this.....

Where is lalasticlala

Chappie:
igbos are not discriminated in the SE..



i mean north university.

I think you are getting it all wrong wen it comes to university admissions.... There is this thing called quota system for federal universities.....

If as an eastern u seek for admission in an eastern fed sku e.g. UNN it will b a bit harder compared to when u seek it at a nothern sku e.g. Unimaid...

The purpose for the quota system is same as that for the NYSC n is only done at fed sku n not at state sku....

Tpiadotcom take note

If u notice from my monika u will notice I am from the east.... I followed this biafra story from childhood, and I hope to give an unbiased view about this whole biafra stuff....


I remembered vividly reading old documents concerning biafra, how it all began starting from the coup hosted by the revolutionaries army to stabilize nigeria and get rid of corrupt officers...

Consequently the operation was carried out successfully in some part of Nigeria, but it wasn't successful in some part expecially Lagos...

Now this brought about misunderstanding btw igbo officers and there counterpart the northern officers, where the later was accusing the former of double standard...

That brought about the massacre of igbo in the north, and d massacre of northerns in the east as a corresponding reaction....

My Observations:
1:- the first coup wasn't targeted to a particular region alone, dia was technical error, and u will agree with me that shit happens, mistakes occur n is no respecter of any man...

2:- Nigeria would have been better, if the coup had been carried out successfully.....

3:- The Igbo nation are not an aggressive nation, many times they are not ready for fight, they are the "do ur own lemme do my own" kind of people.....

4:- With all due respect Ojukwu was not sincere, he knows he is not ready for a fight with Nigeria in all ramifications be it technically, in logistics and in well trained military personnels, inshort that war was suicidal, but for the fact dat d den biafra could capture some part of Nigeria, shows just one thing, they are BRAVE....

5:- Yorubas are never anyone enemy, they flow with the tide, if anybody win dey will join in celebrating with that person, dey love to stay in the middle, dey are too much an OPPORTUNIST people....

6:- Weather we like it or not, Nigeria is here to stay, cos if we were to split that civil war is one big factor to hinge it upon.... For the record, d north wanted to split b4 den but because they saw that they where disadvantaged at that time compared to the rest of NIGERIA...

7:- That war was a war of GREED, MISUNDERSTANDING and MISTRUST, which cost lives, do u wanna continue in that direction??

*i can't believe I typed this much, I did it out of frustration seeing people come to the forum to constitute nuisance in d name of BIAFRA, pls stop!*

For clearer Understanding read:-
" Why we struck" by col ademoyega the last surviving revolutionary army

God! ... There IS STILL a COUNTRY!...

Merlissa:
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Location pls??