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A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Love is blind but marriage will open your eyes. A man that is not married to you yet is doing all this cruel thing to you. Expect more of these when he eventually gets married to you. The signs are there already but you feel you can make things work and don't want to leave him....leave him now or you live to regret the rest of your life with him.#onecents

okirewaju:
If I were you, I'll take off the current footwear I'm putting on and flee


A man that has verbal diarrhea is a turn off plus a woman beater and still insecure


They will keep edging you until you fall into that pit. There is a difference between Wedding Ceremony and the Marriage itself.

You deserve so much better. Don't settle for less

A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. Love is blind but marriage will open your eyes. A man that is not married to you yet is doing all this cruel thing to you. Expect more of these when he eventually gets married to you. The signs are there already but you feel you can make things work and don't want to leave him....leave him now or you live to regret the rest of your life with him.#onecents

Emmytrill:
So the Head of Operations in my organisation is set to retire by January 2020 and I'm been approached by colleagues to help in organising a memorable send-forth party for him because they saw my efforts when my immediate boss was retiring.

My immediate boss was more than a boss to me, he was a leader, a mentor and a shield. He protected me from the intrigues in the corporate world and ensured he had my back always.

During his send forth, I ensured everything was well organised. I brought in more creativity like putting all his pictures in slides, carrying out research to make his biography top notch and ensured it was read out during the occasion . i was also the MC of the occasion, thereby making sure the ceremony was lively, fun, emotional and memorable.

Now enter the out going head of Operations, someone I'm way under and pose no threat to whatsoever, but for reasons best known to him dislike me for no just course.

The reason for the first hostility from him was why would my immediate boss be pushing for my employment without first consulting him, perhaps to know if he have a candidate. That one slide as God eventually showed me favour.

About 6 Years later, there were some layoffs at the organisation due to downturn in business which led to the disengagement of some persons that are seen as untouchables. That generated a whole lot of issues with some persons questioning why I should be left out of the disengagement. God again shielded me.

Without any iota of pride, I dedicate myself to my work, create solutions and ensure I'm always inventing new ideas to tackle issues.

This man wrote a mail to HR questioning why I was left as some persons are complaining and therefore for peace to reign, I should be asked to go. My letter of termination of appointment was already typed.

HR team was divided with some saying I should just go, while others were saying I should be left alone because of my records.

Eventually, I was left alone as my immediate boss fought and made a strong case for me. May God continue to bless him.

Now this same man is set to exit the company after attaining the retirement age of 60 and I'm being approached to do same thing I did for my immediate boss. I have bluntly refused to have anything to do with his send forth party and other staff who don't know what i have been through are seeing me as a wicked person.

If you were in my shoes, what would you do?

Forgive him. I believe you are a Christian, forgive him and make his retirement party a memorable on. Believe me, if he has conscience, his conscience will definitely judge him. Make his day wonderful. Forgiveness is key

Ojizy1:
I am 27 years old and I have been dating this lady for 2 years now , I'm doing well with forex trading and make money without hitches.
I always take her shopping and buy her good stuff but the thing is I don't see her as my life partner but now she's 4 months pregnant and she concealed the information from me.
I'm not ready to father anything child now because I'm still yet to complete my house.
Guys please suggest what should I do .

It's like she is ready to keep the baby and as it stands, the best bet is for her to get and tie you down with the pregnancy. That was why she hid it from you this long.
Bro, which indicators do you Sent to trade to be making this much in forex

geeboy:
Hi,

Please any advice before I fall maga with this IT/ computer mechanic. This ligth flashes on my car when ever I accelerate. I notice the car delays for some moment when I match the gas, b4 it picks then the ligth flashes then goes off. The mechanic says my gear is going bad and needs 2 be serviced.

Do dey service automatic gearing system.

Thanks.

Windscreen washer fluid is low. Thats why it keeps flashing and going off. Top it up

olu77:
I won't be surprised If your preadvertised act of kindness is rejected by Sowore. You are thinking he might rot in jail unless you, Pastor Sule, a good samaritan in view, act?. In a country where 3 out of the top richest pastors in the world are Nigerians, all the warehouses that used to belong to industries have been converted to churches, you are part of the problem sir. Your worshipers, who worship at your feet every sunday will not agree though.

Shut up your mouth. Why attack the message?

I'm interested, victorowoicho@gmail.com. Thank you

Ladyboobae:
could there be offshore concubine...he told me women dont come offshore..that the talk of prostitutes or ladies coming offshore are all fairytales.....

Madam, most offshore workers have concubine in town. Once they are in town, they invite their concubine to the hotel, stay for some days before going to meet their family. Your mother in law have a hand in what you are suffering because it's like your hubby is a mummys boy. I believe he seeks almost all advice from his mum and that will definitely affect your home.

pascalexmond:
I have a girlfriend of two years and since we have been dating,I ve been the one taking care of her.

Since we started dating,she has never bought me a gift or spent a kobo on me but I ve been the one buying the gifts, such as phones,clothings,shoes,give her money to make her hair and run other expenses too.

Even when she wants to go out with her friends for a sit out,she demands for money for entertainment,like #5-10k which I oblige her.

Infact,I ve been d one doing all d spending,which I know most guys will never do for 9ja babe as it seem to be magarism.

Just that I like to take care of my woman.

But,I have one big problem with this my girlfriend which is escalating by d day.

Since,I am not d type who is used to moving around with cash,there few times when we re out and we need to buy drinks,snacks, fruits or something for mostly herself & myself rarely,that I ask her for cash within d range of #1-5k.

In a day or two,she will calculate all d monies she spent,including as little as #100-500,asking me to refund her.

She has been doing this in d last two years and it is getting worse and it irritates me and I don't want to confront her to avoid a quarrel,but it still shocks me that she could be so inconsiderate.

Infact,whenever she goes out with my car with fuel in it,she will cruise around town with d car till d fuel guage is on red and don't bother to even buy fuel of #1k.

There was a day d car went off in d middle of d road after she consumed fuel of #5k.

Most times if she exhaust fuel of #3-5k and I ask her to kindly buy #1-2k to top it,she will insist and torment my life until I return d #1-2k to her.

Last Sunday,we went to a resort and I was short of #1,300 of d cash with me to pay d bill of #5,300 as their pos was having network issues and I asked her for d #1,300.

Till this moment,she is asking for the refund of #1,300.,Habaaa!!!!

This is a girl I support with #50k upkeep every month.

My brothers and sisters,this is a girl of 25 I want to marry

I ve just been thinking if her type can make a good wife or even stand by me If in marriage I go broke.

Even to cook is a challenge.

Always a champion of Cold Stone,Kilimanjaro,Tantalizer and so on that she takes pleasure in displaying on her WhatsApp status for d whole world to know what she eats.

And not that she is from a rich home.
They are just managing to survive in their family but she is always running an Audio life on social media with an iPhone x I bought for her.

I am just tired and confused b'cos I love her.

What do I do?

You love her right. Does she reciprocate the same love to you? She is a greedy and stingy lady. Run for your life before you regret it. She is there because of the monetary benefits. She will never help you with her money if things go south. [color=#006600][/color]Just tell her by testing her that you have issues with your job and see her she will react and then you will see her true colours.

munarule:
I am a kind of person that don't believe in voodoo or jazz but with what is happening in my family now, jazz dey o. my only sibling(we were 3 in family though but our last born of 15yrs died last year) that was doing well in minna suddenly returned to village in Enugu and don't want to go back again. My mum and some kindred took him to federal neuropsychiatric hospital Enugu where he spent one week and ran back to village. Though I spent over 60,000 during the period he was admitted there. We were thinking he will get better but he wasn't. A lot told us it is something spiritual. my parent visited some prayer house and they told them my brother is afflicted because they want to inherit my father's lands.
They went to a church today at Enugu and the pastor told them to bring 100,000 before he can do anything. is salvation not free again? my daddy has no amount of money and he already called me to send it which I won't send because that pastor sound so dubious. Giving him the money is not even the problem but what if he just collect the money and nothing changes? if you know anywhere I can take my brother to in Enugu or Enugu axis please do let me know. He's my only sibling and I love him so much

Omega Fire Ministries, Auchi, Edo State. He will be made whole by the grace of God. Any pastor that charges money for prayers, run from them. Freely you receive, freely you shall give.

TraDeRR:
Lol my second.. I asked same question here and was lucky to get “nice” response.. now let me tell you what they told me..
Turns out the rates are annualized.. so you’ll have to divide 11.6% by 12 months then multiply the answer by your 6 months to get your actual interest.. which should be 5.8%..
5.8% of 2m.. 116k naira
6 months is easy to calculate.. just divide 11.6% by 2

Thank you

Agbalowomeri:
Not possible

However, I think he must believe there would be some magic behind the calculation
He probably doesn't know it's simple arithmetic being a newbie

Thank you so much for your response. I was thinking its calculated the way banks calculate interest rate on fixed deposits. I'm a newbie in treasury bills.

Please I purchased 2m what of treasury bills at 11.6% for six months. Its to mature in november. How do I calculate the interest that will be accrued to me. Thank you

Jewingle:
trust me there’s no amount of prayers and church they haven’t taken her to. Her mom is also the church type and goes to one spiritual church like that. So I really don’t understand this whole thing. She told me they just got information that there’s a place in still that village.( spiritual tho) they will tell the mom exactly what happened and who is responsible if it’s not spiritual and how to appeal but still gets me in shock why they never asked or went to the place when every other thing seems not to be working

OK. Let them take her to Omega Fire Ministries, Auchi for Jehovah the Doctor programme. She will get her divine healing from there by the grace of God.

The leg problem is a spiritual problem. No matter the amount of massage, drugs she takes, she won't get well as it has eaten deep into her system. Its tending towards paralysis. That herbalist or traditionalist can't cure her, if he can why didn't he profer solution on the first day it happened? He will make you spend money. You can only solve spiritual satanic problem through the spiritual Godly means. Take her to a good pastor that discern the things of the spirit and all this are over. Which part of Nigeria are you?

donaldtruman:
I am a 31 year old guy.

I met this babe,now 25 in 2017 while she was in her final year in the University.

We started going out and I developed so much love for her.

Though I observed that she was the kind of babe who loves material things d very month we met but felt that all women love good things and comfort and nothing wrong in taking care of my woman.

Three weeks after we met,she demanded for an iPhone and I bought a brand new iPhone 6+ for her @ #180k then.

Two weeks later,she demanded for #70k to celebrate her birthday.

That she needed it for photoshoot and sit out with her friends which I gave her.

Subsequently I had spent so much on various demands ranging from school expenses, dressing, grooming and others,running into hundreds of thousands at different times.

Obviously, she is someone who loves social media so much and loves to flaunt her beauty and style as she is no doubt very pretty.

There is no day she does not take pictures to upload on facebook,Instagram and her WhatsApp status.Competing in social media stunts with her friends and others.

She is also very used to eating outside as she did not think of going to d market to say she wanted to cook for herself,let alone me.

She was always eating at fast food restaurants and I spent about 20-25k weekly on patronising fast food for her.

Sometimes,she even asked me to buy for her friends and siblings.

I also gave her 15k every weekend to make her hair and nails and #50k monthly as pocket money.

At d end of last year,she demanded for an iphone x which I bought for her at d rate of #380k.

Despite all these,I was still tolerating her until she graduated and wanted to go for NYSC.She insisted on serving in Abuja and requested that I worked her posting with #100k which I gave her and another #200k to get all her materials for camping and pocket money.

When she left camp,she insisted that she didn't want to share room with anybody, that I shld rent a self contain for her @ #700k which I did by withdrawing part of my long term savings to do and another #400k to furnish d house.

Since she resumed in her primary place of assignment she uses Taxify @ #2k daily and instead of cooking,she orders food online to be delivered to her at home.Most times,#1,500 per meal,which is at least a minimum of #3k daily.

I was giving her #70k monthly as feeding & transport but b'cos she eats out,had to demand for more pocket money and I increased it to #100k monthly which excludeds now #20k for her hair and nails weekly.

She also sends her clothes to d dry cleaners as she does not wash her clothes herself.

In the last 6 months she has demanded for a total of #120k in total to buy clothes and I send data of about 4gb to her weekly which she exhaust in no time b'cos she spends most part of her life on social media.

Always talking about d babes who drive Benz in Abuja,how they dress and how she wants to be famous on d social media.She even talks about her friends who sleep with politicians and earn #200k and above.

I just bought human hair of #40k for her last month.

Hmmm

I was already getting tired when she told me on my visit to Abuja two days ago that she wants an iPhone xs max.That she is tired of using her iPhone x that I just bought for her November last year.

She said two of her friends just bought their at #410k

That was her welcome demand from me.

Right now,am so exhausted with her and still love her so much which makes me feel that is d reason she is taking advantage of my love and generosity.

And why I ve been sacrificing all I can to satisfy her needs is b'cos I don't want her to lack anything or go get them from another man outside but it seems she can never be satisfied regardless of what I do.

Moreover,since I arrived Abuja she has refused to pick some calls in my presence and d excuse she gives me is that she does not want anybody to disturb her.That d calls are from her female friends but no names,just d numbers appear.

I spend bulk of all my earnings as a consultant with a construction firm on her and even tampering with my fixed deposits I ve been rolling over in d last five years just for her,to make her happy.

I now feel she is just with me for the benefits.

This is a girl I ve made up my mind that I want to marry b'cos I love her so so much but am beginning to ve a second thought,while I don't want to loose her to another man b'cos I ve sacrificed a lot of my time,emotions and finances on her.

I am still here in Abuja but so unhappy. No peace at all.

I am just tired,confused and need ur advice pls.

I give you an assignment to do and her true colours will come out. You can't buy love with money. You are over spending on her. Just tell her you lost your job and there is no money and just her reaction. Do you spend that kind of money on your parents and siblings or even on yourself?

Emceesaka:
Pako Aguda Surulere Lagos boys make una take it easy oooooo. Ijesha bus stop boys make una dey do jeje oooooo. Baruwa bus stop boys make una dey low key ooooooo. Ogunlana bus stop boys I dey hail una oooooo. All round Itire/ikate area NO SALARY BOYS make una maintain peace ooooooo. Up Ijeshtedo boys

This NO SALARY BOYS got me laughing and confused when someone told me of their activities around that itire/ijesha area. God help them

withyhu:
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Were you the one that converted them..? You just come into people's trend and be saying things you know nothinh about.

I'm an automobile expert. I bet you those car had their steering converted. Altis is an European spec. If you are not aware it has been converted, I'm telling you now.

The both cars had their steering converted from right hand drive to left hand drive. why not give all this information to potential buyers.

specialofficer:
I was just accepted in an office and was told that they'll do a drug test for all of us,the problem is that i do smoke weed and only have 2 weeks before the test is done,please do you have any idea on how to pass the drug test, i just stopped smoking. Please I'll need an urgent reply

If the test is conducted on you, you will definitely fail the drug test as it will still be in your system. I guess it's an oil and gas job. Someone i know failed a drug test two week after taking monkey tail. Over to doctor's in the house.

Cuteify:
Rivers

If you can visit OFM, International, Auchi and you are located by God through His choice servant Apostle Johnson Suleman, i believe this will come to an end. I'm a living testimony.

Cuteify:
I'm a member of this forum but I had to creat this account to express how I feel,Please pardon my errors.

I'm really depressed and most times I feel like ending it all. I have come to realize what people who commit suicide go through. Let's say I have been an unlucky girl. I don't get what's happening anymore to me. I don't know if I'm under a curse or something.

After my NYSC 4 years ago, I haven't been able to secure a good Job, I get invited for interviews yet at the last phase of it, I'm turned down. Same thing happen in my relationship, I give all yet I'm jilted. I'm not the demanding type, I have been able to main Long relationship thinking it would end in marriage yet it ends with no just cause. I'm good looking yet I don't know what the problem is. My elder sister faced the same challenge, infact she had to run off with the guy and got pregnant without being married legally. I don't want such type of marriage,I want everything to be done properly yet it's not working. I'm 27 years, yet I don't have a serious relationship,no Job too. My brothers are graduate yet they can't secure a good job, everyone in my family is teaching because that's the only job available, I refuse to take up one when I see it as a curse.

I had to do some research on my background and I discovered somethings. My uncles are facing same thing, I have aunties 40years and above not married,no job. In a family of 9 children, Just my mum is married. I have prayed and prayed it seems it's not just working.. .

I'm a graduate, intelligent, Good looking yet I can't get married or at least have a good job all because of a family/generational curse. I'm really dying silently, what's the need of living again?

I posted this on romance section but I still need advice, I noticed I can't make any comment on the post

The first phase of deliverance is getting to know the root of your problem. Thank God your know it's a generational pattern. It is only by the grace of God that this pattern can be broken. Which state do you reside?

Jewingle:
Good morning guys, I’m in a dilemma right now concerning the situation I am right now, Please it’s a long story endure till the end and forgive any grammatical error thanks . I need logical and analytical advice.

First of all, I’m a graduate but yet to go for service because I haven’t taken my certificate because I’m still owing the school. How I finished without paying up my fees is left for me and God lol. It wasn’t an easy feet because I know what I passed through just to get out of the school system. At the end of the day I came out with third class but I don’t let that bother me anyways but sometimes I think of the amount I still have to pay to collect my cert. (about $9000 which is 3m plus in naira ). The amount is in dollars because I schooled in Ghana.

A brief summary of me: I’m a young guy of 27 years with a single mother that has been taking care of me since my father passed on right from my jss3. ). Btw my mom is 45years old.

Back to my story; to cut long story short, I finished up in Ghana and came back to Yenegoa (Bayelsa state) where my mom lives. (In a rented apartment). Last year October (2018).To be frank this wasn’t my plan coming back home to live with her, because I know the kind of person my mom is. (She is too controlling, possessive, wants to control my movement, talk to me like a kid, and nags too much for little things and the worse of it all, she is too over spiritual and believes every misfortune she have is spiritual, any sickness is spiritual without thinking of her own mistakes.
In fact, she doesn’t make any mistakes but blames everything on spiritual cause.to the point she wants me to be like that which I always object and that always cause problems btw us. There’s more to that but I will pause that first.

Now the real problem is, I have been idle doing nothing for close to a year staying at home all day long without any tangible thing doing in an unproductive state like Bayelsa without constant electricity, no job no nothing. In fact Bayelsa is a dead state. The reason I have not left here is because I haven’t gone for service yet because I’m still owing fees, ( I’m waiting for her to pay up my fees)
Well, I wasn’t completely idle, I’m into crypto currencies and was lucky enough to borrow about 300k from her which i invested in bitcoin when it was $3000. Today my coin is worth about 1m in naira and I’m still day trading and making little cash and that has been a blessing to me because I don’t ask her for any money again for the past months now and also help in buying few things in the house from time to time.

Now, I’m planning on relocating to PH by January 2020 because I believe by then I would have saved a significant amount that would cater for rent and other things and maybe a little business(I know she won’t buy the idea Becos I’m th only child but I’m leaving anyways)
Note: I’m living because (1)I just can’t continue wasting my time in Bayelsa. This state is a no no for any youth
And (2) I can’t cope living with my mom
My plans is to relocate out of Nigeria by the time I make significant amount of money tho some help can come from my mom but I can’t Bank on that Becos I don’t know when she will have the money. But the problem is my certificate because I still need to clear up about 3m for a third class. Is it really worth it? Though i intend using my degree to apply for Australia PR because it’s a core engineering course irrespective of the grade. Just present a good CDR which I can do from my undergraduate project topic. but what’s my chance? I don’t want to waste money for now taking the cert and my plans don’t work out when I could have used the money for business and maybe later go for my certificate.
Please I need advice from matured and experienced folks. Thanks

Get your certificate and then move out to rent your own apartment or stay with a friend pending when you have money to rent your own apartment. Bro pease what do you do to make money. I'm looking for a side hustle please. I stay in Portharcourt

Michelle55:
Keep it up... He will keep sustaining you till the right time to settle down

Thank you and God bless you

Deepfeel:
From natural experience, I know how my d*ck used to stand and jump up and down during my adolescent age and I know how it changed in my 20ties

That's for you bro and I can't apply to me. Our body chemistry isn't the same and we are wired differently

Deepfeel:
Hurry and marry now that your erection is still strong o cause the strength of it weakens as men grow older, you haven't had sex before so u won't know, but take it from me, the erection of a 20 yr old is stronger than that of a 30 yr old

On what basis is your hypothesis

Deepfeel:
Chisos how did you manage to keep yourself this long? Masturbation right?

I have never masturbated in my life as it is a sin before God. I used to kiss and have intimate romance but no penetration. When I got born again on the 20th of May, 2011 till this moment, I have never kissed nor had a romance with any lady. Its not by my making but by the grace of God.

Deepfeel:
27 yr old virgin in this generation, praise the Lord, guy you already came this far be a little bit patient till you marry, I lost my virginity at 16, guy u try

I'm 32 never had sex