Poshriel:


your answers are not even in the options

He is making reference to the examples above. It gives you a clue on how to solve the problems

simplexity:
Firstly I will like to apologize for any errors made while typing, and I am seriously in need of ur advice and criticism.

My name is Stanley(not real names) married for 4years with two Lovely kids both female with d eldest at age 4. Trust me I cherish and love my family. I am a graduate while my wife dropout from the university cause of some money issues her single mother had while she was sick. After our first child I made sure she got admitted to a polytechnic and thankful she just rounded up her N.D all expenses paid by me, with high hopes of Getting admitted for her HND.

The problem started after our first child, my wife attitude towards sex changed totally, she would never let me touch her or play with her, calling her pet names will usually end in quarrel, I spoke with her her severally, pleaded and beg her most times but her attitude never changed, she made me feel like I met nothing to her, yet she will always fight with me whenever ever she suspects I have a girlfriend, fights with any female that comes close to me through calls or chats, she even went as far as beating up a lady that needed my help thinking I was dating her.

Fast forward to recently, her mom who is a single mother relocated to stay with us, and during her stay we had some misunderstanding about money issues, (note both me and wifey are gainfully employed in the ratio of 10:4, but 60% of wifey salary goes to her mom while she spends the rest 40% anyhow she likes) during d money issues a frd of hers came and told both of them that she see saw me flirting with a lady. And without hearing my own side of the coin my mother in-law rained curses on me , reported my to all her family members and left my house angrily, two days later my wife took our children and left my house while I was in d office, I called about her where about and she said she won't tell me and she said I will hear from her family soon, her mom called a family friend saying she will sue me.

It's been one week now and I don't know the whereabouts of my kids.

Should I report to the police or what?
Note I have apologized to wife for the crime I didn't commit yet it seems they want a bigger pound of flesh.

Please kindly advise me caused am depressed and confused

What made her mother a single parent is after her life too. Pattern are real.

jahlove4jah:
which branch in PH? Send a pm.

Waterlines branch.

aremso:


On the rollover, i almost had the same issue cos i put the date i filled the rollover form instead of my initial date of investment but thank God my contact person called my from their office that she noticed it while doing their schedules of payments. PLS ANY ONE FILLING A ROLLOVER FORM SHOULD PUT THE INITIAL DATE OF INVESTMENT so that payment will continue on that date

My rollover was due on 13.06.2020. I'm not around at the moment as I travelled for a job in a remote location as per my job. How do I do my rollover from my location. I don't have the contact number of my contact person in their office in portharcourt. Somebody should help me please.

savvy12:
My younger Sister has a suitor who has been disturbing her for marriage. The guy is an n-power beneficiary and currently runs his dad's little business.

The problem is that he still lives in his family house but promised my Sister that he will relocate once they get married. We told my sister not to accept his proposal because he might refuse to relocate after marriage.

Note: he stays in the village and he is a graduate too.

For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one. The first sign of independence for the man is to have an apartment of his own and live independent. Let him move out of his father's house to his own apartment before your sister thinks of marriage with him if he is damn serious

funkmrflexx:
We Have Been Dating For 1 Year and 6 months now. I’ve met her parents, we wanted to get married last year but her dad told me to wait till she finishes school which is supposed to be next year. I’m 25 years old and she’s 22 .

I live alone in the city while my mom lives in the village. My younger sister who I’m sponsoring through school sometimes comes to my place during holidays and weekends. My girlfriend practically lives with me because she comes from a type of an Abusive family. So she lives with me and I even assist her with school fees and house rents sometimes. I’ve spent even more than her father for her school.

Everyone In my family knows her and she’s a very wonderful girl. Typical wife material. She supports me every time even when I’m broke. I’m not the type of guy that dates a lot of girls . I don’t even cheat on her. Since I met her I’ve done away with a lot of ladies. I’m 100% committed to the relationship

But the problem is that she Has very bad anger issues. I mean she can destroy your property when she’s angry and I’m the quiet type. I don’t like hitting a lady execpt once in a while a general brain resetting slap. When she starts she doesn’t listen to anyone. Not me, not even her parents. So anytime she’s angry like this I will just find a way to make her laugh. Both of you can just be eating and she will get angry if you ate the fleshy part of the meat and left oily part for her (we have quarreled because of that I mean serious quarrel) . Sometimes I get tired of the whole situation. At the end even when she’s wrong I’ll let her for peace to reign. So I try to manage the anger at home so it shouldn’t go out

So we went to visit my mom in the yesterday. Because of curfew we slept over. So my mom bought us mangos this morning and told us to carry.

My girlfriend then said she doesn’t like mango that if I want to eat my mango I should carry it myself. Then my mom (she is the type that always shouts at every body. The real wahala woman) told her that if she can’t carry the mango then she should just put it on my head for me to carry na (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na).

That was the only thing my mom said. Then she sparked. Started shouting at my mom. That she should stop talking to her like that, that she doesn’t like it. In fact she’s going home. So she carried her bag and started going home. Every one in the compound started saying it’s ok (Na dat thing why dem tell u Dey make u Dey vex so) she was still shouting. I was even try to calm her down but no way. She was still shouting. Even my sister who had never seen her angry before became angry (na so you b? She said). I was really disappointed In her

The issue is what even made me angry is how she reacted. If she didn’t like what my mom said made her angry. At least she should have waited till we got home (this was the first time we were both sleeping over) then she would tell me. Or she could have called my sister and told her what my mom said. After all the fracas, she went inside the room till we left. I just told everybody to just leave her.

So when we got home I told her what she did was wrong that she shouldn’t have reacted like that. Na there war start. She started yelling and shouting at me that if my mom talks to everyone like that she won’t take it (my plan was to tell her that she should apologize to her. Because my mom already apologized that she won’t talk to her again like that. Which I know she will o . So we can just forget about the issue. But she never accepts she’s wrong ) She said I took her to my village to intimidate her in front of my family people, I was really angry and called her uncle and told him what happened. He said there was nothing wrong with what my mom told her (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) and that he would talk to her .

I even scolded my mom before I left that I didn’t like what she said what she did that’s she was just causing issue. My girlfriend said when my mom said the word (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) that I should have immediately rebuked my mom. But me sef no see anything wrong with what my mom said( If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

I just Dey follow her uncle advise and leave her be until she calms down and I talk to her

So my people what’s offensive in this word? If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

But this her attitude don tire me. Break up is not on the card for me at least not yet. She always thinks that they are other guys out there because she has a lot of toasters but I know they can’t do quarter of what I’m doing for her. In this modern time it’s difficult to see a guy who will allow his girlfriend stay with him thereby losing his freedom to do certain things. A guy who doesn’t cheat, a guy who takes care of her does everything for her .

I just think the things she went through in her family is affecting her physiological. And sometimes when I think about leaving her I feel pity because she can’t go back to her parents house.

Bro, the earlier you leave her now the better for for. There was nothing wrong in what your mum said. Besides why can't she just carry the mango for you if she doesn't eat mangoes? Don't marry anyone out of self pity. She has serious anger problem to talk to your mum this way, you are in for serious trouble of you marry her as your mind is appearance up about her. Your mum, father and siblings can never visit you.and feel comfortable if you marry her. She has serious pride of she can't apologise to your mum on this issue. O boy use your head ooooo

pleasantlylovel:
MAKURDI

I believe you are Tiv. I'm in Idoma, from Ogbadibo, schooled in makurdi.

My candid advice for you is to remain in mathematics by staying focus of you can't change to computer science. You have a skill which is coding and employers are looking for what you can do and not what you studied in school. Take mathematics serious and come out with a good grade so that your certificate will not be a turn off for your would be employers if you intend to work for someone. REMAIN IN MATHEMATICS AND STAY FOCUS.

willyo:

Wow. I dey Alcon by flyover. Na inside small waka dey except mostly security vehicular movement on the major road

That's close to my house. I live at Alcon Road close to Welcome U supermarket

Shizzyguy:


That's if he was truly democratically elected. Winke has forgotten that he won't be a governor forever. The thing don enter his head wella no small. I wonder what those hailing him a few weeks ago will be thinking now. On my way back home yesterday, a lot queues, the scary type, at filling stations yesterday as people were trying to refill their gas cylinders and it's been like that for the past 2 days. Same thing at Market Square and Everyday Supermarket. That his gra gra and agbero mentality since he was Chairman of Obalga has not left him.

My neighbour came back from filling his cooking has yesterday past 11:00pm yesterday night.

fa4dmike:
Nothing dey happen, every one still dey waka as them like for oyibo.....

Which area?

Please tell us the situation and level of compliance in your area as Portharcourt and Obio/Akpor LGA's total lockdown began this morning.

In my area, Woji around YKC, there is low vehicular movement and every store/shop is closed. Will send pictures soon.

Was she positive before?

Biggers82:
Idoma people always use their wife as Kola nuts for thier visitors just ask that your Landlord maybe he is not the biological father of those Children. Check well ok and if I will advice you ehh you better pack out of that house before you start washing pants for his daughters I know you like Pusssy too much

That's a very big lie from the pit of hell. I'm idoma and what you just write up here is a lie. Get your facts right before posting online.

Micky002:
There is this scenerio i usually observe with my landlord and his children which always makes me curious and also raises unanswered question within me. This prompt me to post this here.

My landlord is idoma by tribe and has six grown up children, three boys and three girls. He should be in his late fifties or early sixties. Here is the issue.

This man despite having grown up boys and girls always do his chores by himself while the children will be lazying around engaging in trivial discussions. This man will wash his clothes by himself while his girls, the youngest being twenty years of age will be chatting with friends in the compound. This man will go to fetch water with kegs using a wheel barrow every morning while the boys will sit outside doing nothing.

Meanwhile the water he fetches is used by every member of the house. This man can go up to three to four trips while the boys will be busy arguing about Manchester United and Chelsea with friends.

What baffles me the most is that they see nothing wrong in this because the man doesn't complain and his wife, their mother is also witnessing everything.

My question now is, is this an acceptable norm in their (Idoma) culture? For a father to be doing the house chores while the children will be playing. I'm asking because where I come from, it is unacceptable.

OP, I'm idoma by tribe. What you describe above is neither our culture or our tradition. The possible scenario is see here is maybe the wife has instigated the children against the father reason why he fetches water and the children are all around and the wife says nothing. The man must have lost his respect among the children and the wife due to financial constraints, maybe he lost his job and he he is not financially buoyant as he used to be. Some women are very manipulative. I can even imagine my dad or mum going to fetch water when I'm around. This is a serious tabooooooo

Theclaaa:
I ave a big problem with my junior brother staying with me this boy want to kill me. It happened that this boy dont want to listen to anything I tell him , he is 19 years very stubborn and lazy , all he does is eating and sleeping , he never help me with my 2 small children 3 and 2 at a time i had enough of his wahala i send him parking sometime last year the boy cried his eyes out begging for my forgiveness , i forgive on one condition he had to prove to me he is now a change person , the boy said ok aunty i will behave , from that time in june till now i have seen some great change in him , he started helping me with my boys because i work and my husband stays in different states , he only comes home once in 3 months , his also has been helping around the house also his stubbornness become less than before.


Las month he told me he got a job at this building sites he will be working mon to Saturday i was happy for him to have something doing even taught i knew things will be a bit harder for me with the kids , i had to look for someone to be staying with my children while i am at work , i ask some friends at work to help me look for a help aged 18 above , i told them no small girls and a friend of mine brought this 11 years old girl for me , i refuse becsuse she was small i see it as child abuse but she said thats the only one she has found for now and when she narrated to me the girl story how her aunty abused her , i was in tears and dcd to help her.

The girl is been staying with us for just a month , i like her a lot very polite she is doing really well , a great sister to my boys and my boys adore her a lot , with this covid19 everybody is home including my brother and yesterday i had to rush to the hospital with my second son because he had convulsions, on getting back home i met my girl crying her eyes out i got worried brcsuse ever since she is been here it was my frist time seeing her crying in that state , i asked her wetin happens, she was still crying holding her stomach, i ask and ask no response from her , i went inside my brother was lying on the sofa watching television, i asked him why is grace crying , he said he dont know , he saw her coming from the bedroom crying and when he asks her she said nothing , i call my girl asking her again the girl has refused talking at that moment i got angry and send her to the room to go and cry more so when she finish she can come and tell me the problem even she has made me angry but i was still worrying about her but she wasn’t cooperating with me and the way that girl cried frustrated me , it made me more angry that i gave her 2 hot slaps and send her out of the house still my heart bled because i knew what i did to her was wrong but her refusal to talk has caused it and the girl stopped crying but did not tell me the causes of her cry.


The rest of day went well, we ate , gist and we all went to bed , me , the girl and my sons both sleep in the same bedroom while my brother sleep in the parlour , at the middle of the night my girl woke me up that she has something to tell me , i checked the time , it was 3 something am , i was like grace go to sleep and tell me tommorow , she said aunty please i want to tell you , i told her to go ahead and this was when my girl opened up and told me everything my brother did to her when i was away in the hospital , she said my brother forced himself on her , he rape her both vaginal and anal i was shocked felt like my heart came out .

i asked her if she is really sure of what she is saying , i gave her a slap to make sure she is was conscious of what she is saying , she said yes aunty and when she removed her panties to show me her private areas , i could see it open , i almost collapsed , i taught maybe it is a dream and i will wake up from it but it was true , the poor girl has been crying for the pain she been throught being rape both vaginal and anal, got angry that i went to wake up my brother hitting him with a broom, he try denying everything calling grace a liar , i ask him what will a small girl of 11 will gain about lying that he has rape her and i started talking sense to him , why would he rape an orphan like i and him .

we are also orphan he knows all the sorrows we had passed through after loosing our mum and why did he choose to destroy a poor girl who went trough a serie of lots of abuse in their hand of her aunty the same eay we did too, after being rescued , she felt secure in my house now he did this wicked acts to her , why did he no go and sleep with prostitues instead of raping the poor girl.

he was crying begging me and grace for forgiveness that he didn’t mean to harm her it was the devil, he cried but i
told him he will be punished for what he did , i will get him arrested he was still pleading i ignored and went to my room locked the door , myself and grace were crying i felt her pain , i told grace to forgive me and my brother i will not send her away , i will protect and take care of her and i told her to keep this as a secret , the poor girl agreed and said she has forgiven him too.

I hate my brother so much that i dont even want to see his face right mow but at the same time , i feel sorry for him because we are orphans he dont have anywhere else to go and i dont want to arrest him but for him to do this evil acts that means even my children are not safe with him. I am in dilemma my head will explode soon because i dont know which is the best way to do, this boy has made me miserable , i cant stop crying , i am writing this with tears , i dont even want my husband to hear this because he will send him packing immediately. Please i beg i only want matured advice because this is not a joking matter please advice me like a sisters please no insult.

How would you feel if someone had done this wicked act to your daughter? Your brother has destroyed the life of that girl by having both vaginal and anal sex with her. He will definitely come for your daughter someday when she is all grown. Can't imagine how a 19year old boy has got thought about anal sex. Madam if you want justice to prevail, let your brother face the full wrath of the law as you would do if it were your daughter. My honest opinion

timmybabyface:
Good evening Nairalanders..

There's this lady I have been dating for some time now and I wish to find out what I can do to know if she really loves me, and also find out her loyalty towards the relationship we share. I notice that some of our Nigerian woman are just after their own benefits or what you have to offer during courtship except you are lucky to meet a good one. I don't see her often because I do not live in Nigeria but I do visit as possible as I can. Please what can I do to know if she really loves me and not just for the benefit of what I have to offer her? I will appreciate a matured and good advice from you all !

In opinion, tell her you are relocating to Nigeria as you have being deported back to your country and its unfortunate you didn't finish your studies. Also tell her you've lost everything including the money you have in your account. From there, watch her reactions towards you and see if she is in for the benefits

This is a dilemma. Are you willing to let go of the relationship because of the job or you are willing to let go of the job because of the relationship? Besides what kind of job will keep you away not to speak with him for two days if you love him as claimed? Choose wisely!!!!

lonelydora:
Very good. PHED should be one of the most useless Discos in Nigeria.

I used to boost about having at least 20 hours of light a day. But since this 2020, they have decided to give us light only at night.

I don't know what the issue is, we have not had light for 5 days now.

Their licences should be revoked.

Same with my area in Woji. Since this year, power has been epileptic despite prepaid meters.

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Ikjosh04:



Good evening bro, I'm a fresh chemical engineering graduate and will be going for nysc soon. How can I participate/register in the NCDMBA Training?
Cc ndyfaby

You must complete your NYSC programme before applying on the site as you will have to upload your discharge certificate.
www.nogicjqs.gov.ng

ndyfaby:


Thank you Owilli. Really appreciate ur detail respond

I participated in the training in respect of the Egina deepwater development project by Total with a multinational company. By the grace of God, I work with the company since my training. Please take the training serious

You provide accommodation for yourself, the minimum payment as per NCDMB standard is 120k. Training duration could be six months, one year and two years depending on the nature of the programme. Take the training very serious as you may be retained after your training.

SlimyJ:
I'm 24 years,I met him 2018 through a friend of mine and we started a relationship,he introduced me to his family and friends and we were good together,his family all loves me most especially his elder sister who already took me as her own Blood,I even do visit her from time to time and she can't do without checking on me always..
it all started October 2018 when he was chatting and fell asleep not locking up his phone then I decided to check into his inbox,I saw one contacts saved with a guy's name,I wanted to stroll down till my finger mistakenly opened the chat,he had actually saved a female's name with a male name ,I read through all their conversations and it was the same method he usually chat me with that he do also use to chat with the lady,the lady even knows me that she referred to me in one of her messages.. "is your witch already sleeping?,and he said yes"..,my temperature became so hot that I woke him up from sleep immediately to explain himself,he never denied,he said he met her during a friend's birthday and he slept with her once ,I told him to choose between her and myself,we were on it till day break and I left for my place,two days later he sent me a screenshot of his text to her and a voice message to proved he already broke up with her and we were good again..
few months later(Early Thursday morning)his sister called me that she had be trying to reach his number to tell him that his mother will be coming around to see him but his number wasn't going through, I've also been trying to reach him also but it was switched off,she said I should please take my own key to the house and wait for his mom so that she won't stay outside the apartment,she said the woman is already on her way (he lives in an estate). I took my bath put on something light ,took my own key and rushed down to his place,on getting there I was surprised that the door wasn't locked ,I didn't bother to knock the door, I just went straight to the room , opened the door and I found this guy fucking another woman without condom early in the morning,he was surprised to see me ,his preeq went down instantly ,I was really shocked,my blood became so cold that for 3 minutes there was no word coming from my opened mouth,the lady managed to use the bedsheet to cover herself up and the guy has wore himself a boxer,I later found a statement "did you intentionally switched off your phone cause of one night stand bitch while your mom is on the way coming?" he replied me with a dumb answer that didn't they teach me at home to knock before entering into another person's house? this statement arouse my anger and i called him a bastard ,then he landed a heavy slap on my face which I retaliated immediately,then the real match began as he brought out a bent and beat the hell out of me, stripped me naked and pushed me out of the house while the girl was sitting on the bed watching free Cinema,i was really ashamed of myself that I should have turned back and go to my house and spare myself that disgrace,I don't know what to do or where to go with my naked body (only bra and pant remained) then he opened the door and started throwing out all my belongings in the house at me,I was happy that at least I will have something to put on,I wept and I left the place with everything,his family doesn't stop calling and begging ,he later came to my place in the evening with his friends and apologized,I forgave him ,after few days he messaged me that I should give him space cause he was ashamed of how he treated me,he said he can't withstand seeing my face anymore,and I granted his request, we broke up April last year ,though carried his sister along all through and it doesn't affect the relationship between his family , friends and I .
Now he has been coming around begging, telling lot of people to beg me that he will commit sucide if I don't come back , that he has realized his mistakes,I'm really confused cause I don't know what could have ran over him.. please help..

Let him go for your own good. It's your village people that are telling you to go back. A man that haven't married you can do all this to you how more of you get married to him. He is a serial cheat. Move on for your own good. I know your mind is telling you to go back to him. Consider your life

Ladylite:
Well I use TB Joshua's picture in my office and also have the miracle water....


They try but eventually make an unreasonable mistake that can not be overlooked and always get the privilege of having me expose them before I fire them. All branches of my company know that no one can mess with me.

I think you are social that's why, well my disposition is always official, no time for office women gossip or banter or office sex or flings from the time I was P.A till I claimed up in ranks.

We are in a wicked world, so you should know how to carry yourself in a shroud of mystery... Smile a little but rarely and give very cold formal but polite answers.

No one can attack someone whose next move even their baba or chief priest can not guess then every midnight call on God, and mention everyone's names and pray for your position at work and confuse enemies even before they become enemies.

Sleep after one hour of hot prayers and wake up with a mischievous on your face and go off to work.

Pray with psalms often if you are Christian.

Call on the Lord's name and pray naked in the midnight from 00.00am to 3:00am, love a holy life and see how herbalist too will be afraid to come near you because of what you are carrying. CARRY GOD

SecretSpy666:


She has to agree........the future is bigger......don't use your future to settle debts

Yes.

SecretSpy666:
I registered on this platform to tell my story and encourage other Nigerian youths who may have humble background like me, not to give up.

I did one of the craziest wedding in human history. I can’t stop laughing now as God has changed our story

COST OF THE WEDDING IN DETAIL:
Statutory marriage (court wedding) – took place in December, 2015

The court wedding was contracted at the marriage registry of Kano State, opposite Emir Sanusi’s palace, Kano municipal. Here are what I spent:
1) Wedding Certificate fee N8,000
2) Wedding ring N1,500
3) Clothes for the wedding for both of us (including sewing) N13, 600
4) Two crates of multina N5000
5) One carton of Digestive biscuit N600
6) Transport for both of us (kake napep) N200 (to and fro)

Total: N 28,900

No reception

Few invitees and no much celebrations


TRADITIONAL WEDDING:
I spent about 35,000 including clothes.

HOW IT STARTED

I was posted to Kano for my NYSC in 2014 August, Batch B. I fell in love with this beautiful lady and we had similar historical background. Before I completed my NYSC, I got admission to Bayero University for my master degree programme (march, 2015). I didn’t have what it takes for marriage and there was no help from anywhere. I really wanted to dump her and focus on my study but she never let me go.

She told me she want to go for master too, we hurriedly applied for her during the late application period, she was lucky she got admission to study community health. She took me to her parents who are based in Kaduna but are from Okrika in River state. Her parents are educated and gave me good advice and encourage us to get serious with our studies. The father told me to pay N5,000 as bride price and I spent about 30,000 for a very quiet traditional wedding.

In Kano, we live in a single room (self contain) opposite Bayero University gate, going to school together. I started a part time teaching with Al-Furkaan Science Academy with 18,000 salary and also work it for her to be teaching there too for 15,000 salary. The school management did not know that we are couple. Some teachers there were even trying to talk to her….
After our coursework, as if God was waiting for us to complete the coursework, boom!!! I was called by an agro allied company based in kano for interview. I applied online for the job. I got the job and we were both happy!!!

Three months later, my wife got a job with an NGO working in communities in Kano and Jigawa. Not long after, we moved to a two bedroom flat and got a car. We had a baby boy now and building a house in Otukpo, Benue state.

THIS IS MY TESTIMONY……
Start little and God we increase it…
I was so ashamed then and the people laughing at us them are now coming to begg us for money and support.

No my wife is saying we should do a flamboyant, expensive, and gorgeous church wedding and invite all the people we invited during the low-key court and traditional marriage...and invite all friends, foes and all the people laughing at us at that time....

Oine.....me I'm planning a wedding without reception this year with my fiancee. She has agreed to a wedding without reception after persuasion and reasoning along with me. Such ladies are rare. I know people who went into borrowing because of wedding ceremony. I admire your courage oine

[quote author=Ray97 post=85637212]God almighty. Pls let ortom be defeated in the Supreme Court.... Suffering in benue is too much...


Amen. Ortom is owing backlog of salaries and pension arrears. Since this political dispensation,the best governor Benue had was George Akume.

Spiritfun:
I met this beautiful girl sometimes two years ago. She's intelligent, smart and well mannered. I professed my love for her some two months into our friendship but she outrightly said NO.

I decided not to give up on her but to show her more love and care. As days went by, our friendship grew stronger, my love for her grew as well. Our life's goals are so similar that I find it very difficult to let her go.

I made sure I took the center stage in her life by doing everything necessary to help her build her dreams and its working perfectly.

I started showing her off on my social media handles just to test her reaction but contrary to my expectations, she loved it. I was proud that somehow I have perforated her defences.

Along the line, she started professing love to me too and that was the best moment of my emotional life. Then I decided to propose to her again but alas, she said NO and I was very sad and frustrated and she noticed it. At that point, I decided to give up on her and focus on other goals in life. She pleaded with me not to let our friendship die because she's afraid of losing me. I didn't bother to ask her for explanation on why I should still remain her friend without knowing where it will lead to in the end. I didn't also bother to ask her reasons for turning me down two times. I just agreed to her plea and ended the conversation.

I tactically started avoiding her to enable me heal but she would complain and plead with me to keep the friendship. I sucumbed because this girl has almost all the qualities I need in a wife and because of my standard, it's really difficult for me to find someone else that matches my preferences.

I know almost all her secrets and she knows mine too except my plans to travel abroad, preferably Canada. I made sure I did not let her know about this for some reasons.

Then, I found myself being obsessed with her again and she's been all over me too.

Now the crux of the matter is that I have perfected my plans to travel on or before February next year and I want to give her the last chance and propose to her again. I've conditioned my mind to accept whatever response she will give me and move on with or without her.

My major problem is whether to tell her about my travel plans before I propose to her or vice-versa. I know she also nurses the dream of living abroad. I'm afraid she might accept my proposal if I let her know about my Canada plans if I let her know about it before proposing to her.

Kindly advise me on this please cos I don't want to make any mistakes. I LOVE THIS GIRL and I'm certain that will make a good wife for me.

Propose to her without telling her

Macauley07:
Dear NL.
Recently, I was offered admission into a federal university to study psychology. I've always wanted to be a lecturer, so I opted for a course that wouldn't be much of a problem to me. My plan is to give in my best so as to come out excellent, go for my Masters abroad and venture into lecturing.

The problem here is: my parent doesn't buy the idea. They keep saying that landing a lecturing job is hard to come bye these days, that I might end up being disappointed. Moreover, a course such as psychology isn't one to expect any thing good from, especially here in Nigeria.

Now they are pleading I consider Nursing, according to them, I stand a higher chance of getting a job in a nursing profession to psychology. They are planning on sending me out of the country after the program. Should I just dash off my dream of becoming a lecturer to pursue nursing?

I love being around young people, and being in a university setting as a lecturer gives me that privilege to teach, mentor and guide them and at the same time work on my self. I think I'll find fulfilment as an academic. I'm confused, what would you advise me, if I were to be your brother?
Thanks

Go for nursing any day anytime. I have a brother that studies psychology not that he is doing bad but he is more into IT than the psychology. I advised my younger sister to go for nursing but she had her own. Nursing is far better than psychology both in Nigeria and outside Nigeria