mubaraqqq:
Fellow Nigerians I need your help.

I have been in America for 6 years now, and during those six years I have realized that I love women instead of men. I am more complete with a woman as my partner than a man. Rachel the love of my life, and I have now been together for two years; and through a sperm donation from the hospital she is now carrying our first child.

My problem is that my mom is coming for treatment in the states and she will be staying with us. she doesn't any of this. I have been so worried thinking about this that am losing sleep over this. I just don't know what to do. How should I break this to a Nigerian mother?

You claim you have a partner and can't get yourselves pregnant. Why going to look for a male sperm to enable you conceive. If you are bold enough and feel what you are doing as a lesbian is right, why are you scared to tell your mum?

Imogenn:
He’s really into God from what I can see. He works in the ushering department in church, but I think hes just living a double lifestyle which he can’t let go of, if that makes sense.

I can see that you don't want to let go because this your post depicts that you want to still go ahead. I repeat no born again Christian will smoke oor drink. He is even a Yahoo boy defrauding people for the past 11 years. How would you feel if he defrauds you? You don't want to use your head sister. Are you the general overseer of the relationship? Runnnnnnnn

Imogenn:
Hi

I met this guy three months ago. We’ve been casually dating, he’s very calm, nice and he presents himself to be a very God fearing guy.

However, there’s some things that I’m not too keen about that I would like to share, and I’m wondering if I should continue the relationship or break it off as these could be signs that it may not work.

1. He’s a yahoo boy, he’s been into this for the past 11 years and this has been his main source of income.
2. He’s from edo state, some of his family members practice juju, although he is a born again Christian as he claims to be. I’m from Ekiti, I think there could be a tribal conflict.
3. He smokes everyday, which I don’t think I will be able to deal with long term. (Although he has promised to stop)
4. I live in the USA, he currently doesn’t have his papers so he is unable to do a lot of things. He married a lady to get his papers in 2012, (arranged marriage, not a real one) the arrangement didn’t work out in his favour, so he’s still on it till now.
5. He has been physically abusive to two of his ex’s, which he told me about. He also cheated on his ex that he was with for 10 years due to the distance. ( she’s in Nigeria)
6. He has tattoos on his body, which I’m not too fond about.
7. Most of his friends are heavy drinkers and smokers. His best friend cheats significantly on his wife.

I know we’re not perfect, and we all come with some kind of baggage. I’m a young God fearing lady of 24, and I just believe that this may be too much for me to handle.

He’s a nice guy, and he’s told me he loves me and I can see it in his actions. He was honest enough to tell me everything about his past, but I don’t know how to process all this information.

I don’t know what to do, but I believe God is warning me with all these signs. Am I being too judgemental or should I slowly drift away?

You are not being judgemental but God revealed all this to you to save you from impending danger. He want to get close to you because of the papers. Besides, there is no born again Christian that has been broken by the spirit that smokes or drink. Please just walk away from this danger that lies ahead of you.

The only thing wrong with it is that God iis against it so it totally wrong.

izzy4shizzy:
I have been thinking about paying of tithe and I have been caught in between two thoughts, now is paying of the 1/10th of ur earnings to the church that is referred to as tithe only or paying that 1/10th to some other purpose which u feel more satisfied with..

For example, would it also be tithe if I give my tithe to someone sourcing for funds to treat a terminal illness?

Because sometimes, I don't really think the church needs my tithe but they stress so much about paying. Now the million dollar question is, is it paying of tithe i.e one tenth of ur earnings generally to whatever purpose you see fit or paying it to the church

Tithe is 10% of your earning and you've ggot 90% left after paying your tithe. Why don't you take from the remaining 90% and help the person. Tithing is a covenant and commandment bby God.

ikechizoba:
l kept a file containing all my credentials ( waec result,degree cert, nysc cert and 2 letters of recommendation from the companies l worked with),and 2 other files containing that of my husband and son's documents,in a safe place,l am always careful with things like that.

Two years ago, around August, l visited my parents in another state for a family prayer,l spent two weeks there and came back ,to discover that the file containing my credentials has disappeared, my husband and son's file were still there,it was as if someone took out my own and left the others.

I and my husband have searched everywhere,yet nothing. It hasn't been easy for me,the thought of loosing all l worked for,for years is heart breaking, l have prayed ,fasted, yet nothing. l don't know the mystery behind this,if only God can tell me,l will be happy.

l planned doing my masters,but l have given up since my original result is missing. This problem has been eating away my happiness, my spiritual life is zero because l am tired of praying and l have lost faith,l have lost Gods mercy as well.

Many times l am tempted to seek help from native spiritualist to find it for me,but my spirit rejects it,please what do l do??

l have already swore an affidavit to back up my claims but it was rejected the last time l went for an interview.

If you are able to visit Omega Fire Ministry, Auchi and God locates you through his servant Apostle Johnson Suleman, you will get to know how the what, why and how behind the missing documents.

IamD18:
Gullible religious blacks representing and disgracing themselves.

He is sitting down, do you want them to stand and take pictures with him? Be sensible and avoid been sentimental

Oyinem:
. Most Governors in Nigeria usually performed to some extents good in their first tenor in office and performed very poor in their second tenor because they knew coming back is not allowed. But now that Ortom did not do anything during his first term I wonder if he win this coming election what is going to happen. As Somebody from Benue zone C, I never expect any Tiv man to do any project for us because they are not also doing anything for their Zones (zone A and B). Jime, Ortom, Suswan to me they are the same its only Akume that tried in his first tenor and at the same time the architect of the problems we have in Benue today. Lack of basic amenities, No job opportunity, no youth empowerment programme at state level, and security challenges, but at least no private security organisation in Port Harcourt, Kaduna, Abuja, and Lagos that you will not find some body from Benue inside, that's what we have been reduced to and the good thing about these is that we are very happy with our leaders at the state level

Oyinem, I am from zone C too precisely idoma. Voting ortom back for second term will be disastrous aas he has nothing to lose after 2023 and as such his second term performance if he wins will be abysmal. I know PDP is relying oon votes from our zone.

wilcox:
Good for the people of Benue, this man actually left rge ruling party when he felt his people were not protected by the government after all his plea and cry fell on the deaf ears of Mr. President.
Let him first of clear salary backlog and win the heart of his people once more then he will be victorious at the end of it all. He should also settle all political diferences he has with Gabriel Suswam to further weaken George Akume

He left because of his own selfish interest when he wasn't of securing the party ticket for a second term.

rofanx13:
Good news. Since he left evil party APC, normalcy has returned in Benue state. Congratulations

Which normalcy? Has he paid workers salary? No developmental project from for over three years. Fulani killing is a politicalundertone to garner political sympathy.

Did you convert from right hand drive to left hand drive?

daddio:


Well, since I joined Winners I'd never seen such.

Other notable God's servant paying homage and respect to their spiritual fathers in the Faith on earth.

daddio:


Well, since I joined Winners I'd never seen such.

Check this out. Why is Bishop Oyedepo kneeling down before Pastor Adeboye Enoch Adejare? He believes in the anointing of Pastor Adeboye. Look before you leap. I don't think you are a true winner because of the way you spoke.

Bidobado:


How can a man be a spiritual father to another man, I don't understand.
What's the role of Christ and his father??.

How about Elijah and Elisha?

Pastor Ken takes Apostle Suleman as his spiritual father. The pastor does not see anything wrong so why do you have to complain on his behalf. Face your life and business. Thank you

sarrki:


Daddy freeze never preached violence

He just say children of God should wise up

He’s better than a Man of God that preaches violence

Which man of God is preaching violence if I may ask?

ritylove:
I am a very gregarious or rather should i say a social individual,i keep alot of company but my actual real friends circle is pretty small,i actually never bought this male bestie of a thing from the onset because i felt it was thrash and irrelevant to me, i was satisfied with my girlfriends around,but during my 100 level in the university there was this particular guy i met then i was still a fresher i never knew much about the school he helped me alot with my clearance,getting a place to stay,showing me around school with alot of stuffs too numerous to mention here.

As time goes on suprisingly we started getting very close much more closer than i ever expected he was very nice and caring to me,sometimes he acts like my dad he is the only male friend i have who dares scold me in my wrong doings as time goes on before i could even realize it he was the closest to me among all my friends he was always there for me when i needed someone even when i dont he was there. We became so close i started confiding in him alot,i even told him stuffs i cant tell my mum we got so close he knows almost everything about me,everyone av dated,whom am dating,my breakups,my sex life,my kind of guy,my attitude towards dating,how i reason, even before saying something he has an idea of what am about to say,this guy knows my girlcode to the freaking core there is hardly anything i can hide from him,he has being of great assistance to me always forcing me to read my books and forget social medias,the truth is that he is the major reason for my drastic improvement academically, i was always at the receiving end,there is hardly anything i do for him yet he stayed i realized i needed him more than he needed me.


it all started few days ago as usual we just left from an eatery store heading back home he decided to drop by my place to charge his pc which he was using for his finals project work since there area had light issues,fast forward to when we got home there it goes we were talking as usual then all of a sudden he started saying stuffs how he feels about me all this while but only kept it to himself after hearing him speak for almost 3hours i was totally confused i didnt say anything i just starred at him the whole time till he finished ,noticing my silience he then asked me what i had to say about what i just heared,i had no idea on what to say i was totally confused i have never seen him this serious my entire life,in an attempt to escape the moment and look on his face i told him to give me sometime to dissolve all what i have heard after which he left.

Now am put in one of the most difficult situations i have ever being he is a very nice person,one of the nicest guys i have met yet he treats me better than anyone else, he treats me better than anyone am dating words can hardly explain i like him alot but i dont think i love or have any feelings or so for him this a guy who waited almost 4yrs to ask me out,a guy who knows me better than all my friends,i feel this guy knows too much and am scared he might use that against me one way or the other after all he has done for me i feel i owe him more, i cant look him in the eyes and tell him that i dont love him,i dont want to hurt his feelings and i dont want to loose him either cux he is my bestfriend i dont want to look like the bad person in front of everyone else but pleasing him here means displeasing myself i dont know what to do anymore cux i dont want to hurt anyones feeling, have being avoiding his calls and text cux i dont know what to say please i need a sincere and modest advice here what can i do in this situation i dont want anyones feelings getting hurt.

You like him but don't love him right? The one you love, is he treating any better than this your bestie? My one cent advice, always marry you friend.

Mumben:
You better run for ur dear life. which prayer warrior fornicates at will? the truth is ' she knows the root of DAT blood stains. know it DAT by sleeping with her, u re already contaminated spiritually and u need to go for proper DELIVERANCE.

God bless you for this. You are in the spirit. Never seen a true prayer warrior that fornicates. Something isn't right in the relationship but the guy is blinded by sex.

3babes:
That's what i plan on doing....
I have tried to get another girl but have not yet seem a Godly girl.
I will let her go

My mum seems to like her, just concerned about the blood

If she is Godly and broken by the Holy Spirit, she wouldn't be opening her legs for you. Thread with caution....

Mcy56:

Do not buy.
This is a typical example of what we were saying about mentioning stocks to buy here sometimes especially for amateurs like me. Now, this bro/sis has been saved the agony of been trapped in Japaul.

I have just been saved by asking. I was looking at long term investment that was why I asked

aremso:




oga, why? why will u buy japaul now instead buy diamond bank

I bought diamond bank @ 1.25 last year. I'm yet to sell

Please, is it advisable for me to buy Japaul shares at the moment?

I need some assistance please. I have some unclaimed dividend for fidelity bank and diamond bank. I filled the e - dividend mandate form, submitted at my bank and sent an an email to the registrars afterwards. I got a reply from first registrars and my account has been credited for my fidelity bank dividend. The issue now is centurion registrars were I got an automatic reply and haven't got any reply from them since over a month now. Called a line on their website and no one is picking up. I need help on how to contact centurion registrars. Thank you

Chaclaitmilk:


Personally I think he wants to keep his option of getting a second wife open. Am just guessing though since the guy is from a polygamy family.

If he is from a polygamous family and he is the first born. The likelihood of.taking a second wife is 80%. That's a foundation issue.

AK6464:
The right man for the job is Comrade Jethro Annum, in black and a white cap

I know the guy back then at UAM

gidgiddy:
I've got to hand it to the man, he managed to fool a lot of people that he is a true man of God

What is the evidence? Stephanie Otobo

A man of God who cannot successfully defend himself against a national and international sex scandal with a woman he claims he never met, what hope is there for those he leads?

Shut up your mouth. What do you know about apostle Johnson Suleman. If you don't anything meaningful to say, you better keep quiet.

AngelUriel:
In our country Nigeria where getting a good job even for a graduate is hard, Fiverr has become a financial savior for most of us Nigerians with skills to sell to foreign buyers, who are willing to pay for our services in dollars.

I joined Fiverr a year ago, and my first month on the platform was far from pleasant, as my category is heavily saturated. Anyways I'm of the articles and blog post category and I made about $150 on my first month on Fiverr, thanks to repeat buyers.



How much did you make on your first month?

Bro, what do you do to get offers? I have done everything but yet no orders. Is it because I'm using Nigeria IP address? Hoping to hear from you.

SaudiBoy:
Greeting to everyone. I am in serious dilemma and need matured advice.

I dated my wife for 8 years before we got married last year and God blessed us recently with a child.

My problem began when my business nose dived and we began facing a little difficulty, my wife's sister who happens to be my good friend also stepped in and helped us with a loan totalling 340k which i have paid 190k and still making out ways to pay back the rest.
During those trying times my wife and i would go there and spend days to alleviate pressure of feeding, please i went there with her because I felt welcomed and they never made me feel i was Inlaw, a stranger will think am part of the mums children.

Now the main gbese is this, my wife's mum has been staying with us since this year, taking care of wifey as she put to bed and we have been living peacefully.

Now my mum wanted to come and spend time with us, and the problem started when my mum told me to come with my car and carry her as things she bought for us were too much for her to carry and enter public bus, and i agreed. I went to inform my wife and she kicked against it, citing high fuel cost and lack of money. I talked to her to forget about the money side of her story and see it as a sacrifice. It is a 6 hour journey to and fro.
When she saw she could not convince me, she reported to her sister who tried to talk me out of going to pick my mum, but i refused and told her my mind was made up. Then my wife resorted to i will see those things your mother will bring and come.

Then it got to the day i was going to pick my mum, I called my wife and told her i want your mum to stay and be bathing baby and taking care of you, as I know my mum is now lazy and can't do these work continually, they both agreed. I went and brought my mum home. And the journey to hell started.

There is this girl married with two kids i have warned my wife about to quit been friends with her as despite been married she is a big cheat who sleeps with men for money. So this girl came to my house to visit my wife, and there was this white man at my wife's former place of work that my wife has been chatting with, I read all their chats and had nothing to fault with their conversation, until i discovered my wife sent scantly dressed pictures of her friend to the white man and gave the man the girls contact. I was very furious and felt disappointed, y she did this, that was where my anger started.

So I told her point blank to quit every conversation with the said white man, but she told me plainly she has her life to live and i cannot tell her what to do. This word hurt me and i harboured it in my heart for her.

I and her mum tried to talk to her she didn't still see what she did as bad, then i reported her to her sister whom I felt was close to us and will advice her but no she continued her chat and instead changed her phone pattern.

So we started having issues, every small thing irritated me, then my wife started complaining about my mum, once i go to work and come back, no welcome hug, it will be ur mum said this. Therefore i should Go and fight her if that was her expectation.

The wrong thing I did was not hearing her out, because I already had this grudge in my mind for her bcoz of the statement she made about the white man. And I was already under pressure, how to pay off my debts feed and provide for my family and the 2 additional mouths that came, run generator everyday, and doing everything not to allow my family feel any form of hardship.

Then one day her sister called me and there was nothing she did not say on phone that day, my wife called her and was crying my mum was maltreating her and i kept quiet.
In her sisters exact words, u should be happy my sister married you bcoz she would have seen a better man. These are now the words my wife tells me.

Now the main problem my mum fell sick and she wanted to go back, fuel has now become 145, she met my wife and asked her how will she go if i will drop her or she will take public transport, my wife came to ask me and i ignored it because I didn't want to stir up quarrel. So I met my mother in-laws and told her i would like to go and drop my mum and she said OK if i have spare money for fuel i should do it that moreover my mum is sick.

I wanted to go look for a way to tell my wife but my mum was already dressed thinking she was going that day and was in the room with my wife, and i was to take my mum to somewhere before she goes, and she was in a hurry, I couldn't tell her anymore of my decision, and promised to call her on phone. Only for me to come to the parlor, in front of my mother in-law,i told my mum I would drop her but she had to wait till the next day early morning as I had jobs I needed to attend to.

I then left with my mum to the place she was going to and when we came back, I was with my wife in the room and she was shouting on top her voice, that I shud choose between her and my mum, and that if I go and drop my mum off at her place, she will pack her load and go. I laughe thinking it was a joke.
So mum heard what she said and left my house in anger, in retaliation, that's how i feel, she went to make her hair, as my wife has been begging to come let them go and make her, she cited sickness as example. When I saw my mum with the hair i was bitter and told her to better look for an excuse to give my wife.

She came home and my wife saw the hair and was deeply hurt, mum tried talking to her but it couldn't pacify here, i begged her she refused, so I decided to leave the house and go back to my work, at the door my wife told me to make sure i come back early as she won't givevny mum food, I begged her still, called her when i left and sent an SMS from work, but alas when I got home around past 11pm she didn't give my mum food.

I called my wife, mum and mum Inlaw and tried talking to them so that what ever venom in them will soften, I spoke at length and my mum spoke, when it got to my wife's turn, she flared up and insulted everyone and left, I was disappointed.

The next day morning my mum was finally going to leave, my wife woke up, met her at the door and passed her without greeting and when we were about to leave my wife never came back to say good bye

I travelled and came back and true to her words she packed out of our house and went to Her sisters house.
I called her sister to enquire she wouldn't answer, I went to her house and for 2 hours nobody opened the gate for me, despite hearing my horns and my many calls to her phone which she finally picked and told Me no one was around to open gate for me, quite shortly I saw my mum Inlaw, I asked her how can she encourage her dorta to pack out of the house, she said she was not around when she packed. So my wife's sister knowing her mum was at the gate sent someone to open it and since I was still outside called me she was sending someone to open gate for me, in anger I left and told her not to worry as she was opening it for her mum.
I called my sister in-laws husband and informed him my wife packed to his house without my consent and he was away from town and said when he come back.

He came back and called me after talking to us, I told him I have already changed the padlock of our protector that my wife must apologise before i will let her in again. my wife's response was that she needed a break of 6 months then changed to she was done.

I posted a picture of me holding our baby and wrote some love touching words to him, my wife saw it and became very upset and jelos, and the new accusation became I value our child more than her and don't appreciate her. Then I went to work only to come back home, I saw the locks to the house has been broken, I met my wife packing her remaining things that she needs space, I tried talking to her, next thing her sister called that what is holding her, my wife said I was stopping her, her sister came to my house packed my wife's things including my mum in-laws things, before they left I called my mum Inlaw to ask if she was aware and she said yes, that she heard because of how my wife treated my mum that I said she will not come to my house again, a word I said out of anger. That was how they left.

It's been 3 weeks now I have forgiven my wife and we have settled and she even passed a night in the house and we made mad love

Now she wants to come back, I told her plainly I will not carry those load her sister carried, either she forgets them or I send a cab for her. She agreed to leave the load and come pick her later, immediately she told her sister, the music changed, my wife became abusive and told me if I won't come myself and carry the load then I should forget about her and my child, that she will never use a cab since I have a car and her sister cannot bring the load.

At this juncture I became irritated. Seriously I don't want a broken home since am a product of one, and I know the effects it has on a child.

For 3 weeks I have been jumping from canteen to canteen, I don't know what to do, if to go and bring the load or just allow them to remain there.

Please i need candid advice and criticism, not insult as am already broken.

Am 31 and my wife is 26



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Reading through let me make something clear about the money i borrowed from my in-law

You see am not broke, I live in an comfortable house, drive a good car, and have a land in the state i reside, with a back up bank balance that gave me confidence, but overnight i watched all i have go away due to circumstance better imagined.

I own a truck used for sand and stone transportation, and people into this business will know drivers remit 150k weekly.

My problem started when my truck was involved in an accident which cost a life and also condemned the car, my driver disappeared from the scene and my conductor was in custody for 13weeks

After police case and everything, I paid the family 2.5m for burial and compensation, I paid 400k to the driver of the car my truck hit, bailed my conductor, my truck and closed the police case with 150k.

So this expense cost me 3m that was y i had to seek that loan.

Now i decided not to engage in the trucking business anymore and sell off the truck, but the best price I have gotten from a buyer is 1.5m for a truck i bought 4.5m 2 years ago, so i refused to sell. Still waiting for the right price. To pay off my debt and run my home, I am secretly using my car for uber without my wife's knowledge.although she said i should just sell the truck and start again

I don't want to believe my wife is about the money because she met be broke and we built our wealth together before finally getting married, my problem is during this crisis, she started confiding in her sisters more, and this is where it has landed me




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You see there is more to this story that meets the eye.
That is why I decided to be calm about this whole issue, because it has really opened my eyes, I don't believe this has to do with the money i loaned because the sisters husband also loans money from me atimes,
And pays back, I was very very close to them.

I only soft pedalled on this issue because it is very clear to me there is a grand script been planned by my sister in-laws out of jelousy, because she has been childless for 7 years of marriage.

My wife made a statemet that startled me, that she will send me divorce papers, and that the baby been just 2months, court will award her custody and she will just give the baby to her sister and travel out.

Then i started working on my wife's senses, talking to her until she became soft and we settled my wife she needed time to heal, I offered her to come back home and heal she said know that her sister just had another miscarriage and she needs to be with her.

Now the day my wife came to visit me and decided to sleep over, the sister called her, I pretended to be asleep and I could hear the sister say, now now now, u Don run go sleep there bcoz of sex. The next day it was clear my wife didn't want to go back, I dropped her off around 2pm and before the sister agreed to to open gate for her, it was war after much exchange of whatsapp message

If I may ask, are the first born of your family and the person that is doing very well amongyyour siblings?

SAMBARRY:
Like someone has rightly said it's plain publicity stunt.after all the sex scandal trailing her husband? The only reason she's still sticking with him is because the money the ministry is producing is too juicy so.she can't afford to leave.if not where will she get money for wigs and hats and the honour that comes with mummy g.o


Kati kati

The WAY Stephanie go dey ride suleiman phenese henn,e no go get part 2.the babe go put suleiman brain under her armpit and begin to take over his conglomerate.ask shade okoya

BY THE way this suleiman coat abi na jacket resemble all those old school magician them

Shine shine jacket

Apoche,ebano

They have been doing this for years now not just this year. I witnessed the one of last year right there in church. Get your facts right.

bobokeshington:
I have a friend who is getting married soon but still lives with his parents. Although, he stays separately in another apartment but still in that same building. He said he isn't buoyant enough to rent an apartment that suit his Lady's standards.

So is it okay for him to get married in his parents house or he should just find a means to move out?

For this reason, a man shall leave his father's house and be joined to his wife and the two will become one.

Just finished raining at transamadi