Reminderz:

the real problem is that most men lack sexual discipline... imagine working hard just to get sex... sex that you both enjoy, smh.. the manipulated man thinking he's the conquerer not knowing it was just part of the game...

And such men without discipline destroy it for men with discipline.

Lots of women are genuinely shocked when they see that a man can appreciate their beauty without necessarily being interested in entering the place. Such men are not what they are used to, and it saddens them when they can't have leverage over a man with the implied promise of sex.

You need a small experiment? I go give you one. Open another moniker here on nairaland with f tag, then find one random realistically looking female pics and add as your dp, then start commenting randomly to attract viewers.

You go get PM you go run. Simp plenty, o kpor gan. So when you see a very broke woman saying he can't be with a man without a car living in lekki, just know that it is men like you that made her ego swell like a ballon, and think showing up with body is enough.

It would be you against yourself.

So no Tinubu to blame, or nepa, which makes it impossible that you can't learn programming. There will be no scapegoat to just blame for your incompetence.

It will also reveal your weakness to you. In Naija where you enter Uber any small thing, you will learn to walk and use a bus, to save money. Friends would be more of people you know, not people to save you.

You will grow and be independent by fire by force, or else, you will pay through your nose just to fix your bulb. There are sharks in the form of government, friends, and work colleagues who will show you that you pepper base on your incompetence.

Them dey, you probably are not attracted to them. Same way lots of good men dey, but women no dey attracted to them.

When you reach the realization that the ogbanje you are casting and binding, and all the bad habits you hate in others are also in you, then and there, you have matured.

With proper discipline and self-control, you would realize this before the act. You will know which sex will end in regret, and your self-respect will triumph over any pleasure you will get from sex.

How deep Newton's third law goes, which says that ''for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction''. But it also didn't add that you also pay interest as well.

So for example, if you fear losing someone, you will end up losing yourself. If you lack the discipline to do what you have to do, you will end up paying the price of regret. If you refuse to change a bad habit, it will disgrace you and create a negative image of you in the eyes of people, etc.

So the above paragraph is the reaction of an action, but how does interest come into play? Well, you pay interest when you waste time doing the wrong thing.

So just as you lose yourself because you fear losing someone, the interest you paid in addition to the loss is a disgrace and ''had I known''. All the nonsense you did, the insult you took, and the money you wasted, when you could have just accepted from day one that this shit won't work.

Just as one lacks discipline, when you waste more time being undisciplined, life will pass you by, and you will go far on the road to hell, than on the road to grace. The reaction of indiscipline is that you are in hell, the paid interest is that it will take you a longer time to exit since you have built a habit around it.

And so on. So yes, just as there is an equal reaction to all our actions and habits, it also accrues interest, and the amount of interest you pay is proportional to the time you waste doing the wrong thing.

rinzaugustine:
A working country is what the Agbado pigs hate…they will soon come here and start blaming Peter Obi for the news

Gerrard59, lets move to Tanzania. Are you ready?

Tanzania borders Burundi, Rwanda, DR Congo, Kenya, Mozambique, and Malawi. Na to open farm, or one tourist spot like that, and become alpha males.

Are you pondering what I am pondering?

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
In the land of the blind, one eyed man is king. Very good move to checkmate Israel in the Middle East as they're the only country in the region with nuke. If you think Iran is afraid of Israel, you're dead wrong. Our prayer for a multipolar system in the international system is finally coming to fruition

Israel is too small lol, its like seven Lagos states in size. Iran is one hell of a gigantic country with centuries of civilization under its belt.

It's an unequal fight, and Iran should not humiliate itself by fighting it directly. Countries should learn to pick their battles wisely.

This is the angle where I like China, they are so smart in this kind of stuff. The US has done everything to provoke China into a war with its neighbor, but China refuses to fall.

China knows that the fight is not equal. China doesn't want to fight the puppet, but the puppet master himself.

The Pyramid is like the Eiffel Tower in Paris, it's more beautiful in pictures than in reality.

The Eiffel Tower is one hell of a gigantic rusted pile of iron, surrounded by hawkers from West African countries hustling from tourists. The pyramid is like that.

Just say make I clear you, make you no go waste your money

Ukrainian men are safer in Russia than even in their home country, imagine that.

If I am a Ukrainian man who is forced to the frontline, I will surrender to the Russians on the frontline and stay in Russia until the war is over. UN law covers soldiers who have surrendered peacefully.

Woe betide anyone who chooses to die for NATO, western imperialism, and hegemony. Your strength, hustle, intelligence, youth, wealth, everything should work for you, not for some criminals in suits called politicians in shiny offices.

Botragelad:

Ooh. Russia is not going to 'enslave' you? 😂
In international relations, every country prioritizes its own interests first. This is true for the US, Russia, and all nations.

Similarly, if you consider Russia as an ally, they too would prioritize their national interests. It's a common practice in geopolitics for countries to engage in alliances that serve their strategic objectives.

I'm very sure you don't even believe what you wrote. Because to compare Russia and USA is being disingenuous. They are not the same.

One is an imperialist, hegemonic power, the other is not.

jeromestarks:
I met this beautiful, hardworking and godloving lady somewhere at work. She's very nice and accommodating. She's also a graduate.
Let me quickly say that this lady is a decent lady - yeah, I went FBI on her; searched her socials: Facebook, insta, X etc and sincerely, all the pictures she took were done in her home (she stays with her mother).

As I interacted with her, I discovered she's a homely person. She doesn't club, doesn't smoke, doesn't drink. She's just all about stability.

I fell in love with her personality until I asked one last question.
"Sorry, I don't mean to pry. Please, how old are you?"

Without hesitation, this lady answered "I am 27"

Immediately I heard 27, I lost every single ounce of interest I had in her.
I didn't show it to her. I just said " Wow! You look so pretty, one would think you're 18. Thank God I asked."
She laughed and I could see her blush.

We discussed about other things, exchanged numbers and she left.
I have made up my mind never to call her. The age put me off and I don't even know why.


So dear ladies, do not tell men your age until the both of you are in a serious relationship. Never tell a man your age on the first date. Never!
Wait until you see some level of commitment or at least, until he got used to you a little.

So 27 is now old. Na wa o.

Ibime:


Even Chinese and Russians can't post about their country without disappearing talkless of a foreigner

Na so dem hide Jack Ma for the last 4 years

You swallowed so much propaganda. Hear the true version, or a non western version, to arrive at the right conclusion. I can't do it for you

EreluRoz:
You are just insecure that's all.

I get pissed whenever I see a man typing hardworking to describe a lady. Men of these days are just after women to drain, if not for the harsh society a woman is naturally not created to work.

Modern men are just after women that will take up their role, it's the mentality for me, so disgusting.

If a woman chooses to work, it's to take care of herself and not for any man to come leech on. Mtcheww

It's just refreshing to see that it's women who are now enforcing gender roles. You don see say equality na scam, and it favours a man that knows how to use it well

Because a woman can work, but a man can't be pregnant. A woman can make money, but a man cant breastfeed. A woman can be wealthy but a man can never know the pains of labour.

So with such biological restraint and set up, how can women fall for 50/50 scam? So you'll be pregnant of a man's child and still sharing bills with him

Support him sha, but don't carry his responsibilities. For some women to fall for this equality scam of 50/50 shocks me. Is she that dumb?

Abeg enforce gender roles, because if you don't, lots of irresponsible men will hide under it and use it as a reason why a woman must carry his responsibilities.

Another name for rejection is redirection.

If you can seperate how you feel and dissect the situation like a mechanic, then it's good that she left. She is not good a person to you, and her absence is a blessing.

You must accept rejection as a normal thing in life, just as you accept that the sun will shine. Rejection doesn't mean anything, it has no value. If your strength is in you, then whoever rejects you actually is at loss.

A girl choosing to be with a Yahoo boy instead of a hardworking man only goes to show how shortsighted and dumb she is, you don't need such a lady.

I know she is joking sha.

From her list, it seems like she doesn't care much about her man being smart, emotionally intelligent, empathetic, and intuitive, with character features pointing towards his suitability to be a good husband.

Most of her list is just vanity, or looking for ready-made, while all she does is show up and answer ''present''.

As people become successful, their requirement from a partner increases as well. A man who fits her requirements will also require a list she might not meet. No one has a monopoly on lists, although many women seem to know what they want, not what they can give.

Last last, we will all get what we deserve, not what we think we are entitled to.

Gerrard59:
Pansophist,

A question that has been of interest is me is what would the West do as she loses her hegemony? How or would what Western treat or do to non-Western and its allies' citizens residing in Western countries? I am curious. Anyone can chip in as well.

That said, Niger forced the US to vacate the military base tells me the West is gradually leaving or have left the Sahel region. I offer hats to Nigerian elites. Never thought it would happen.

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/04/19/us/politics/us-niger-military-withdrawal.html

Honestly, I don't know.

This is the first time a hegemon has appeared on the world stage with reach to every corner of the globe. In the past, hegemons were specific, eg the Portuguese in navigation, the Spanish dominance in European battlefields, discoveries of the New World, etc.

The American method is one of a kind, which dominates not just one area, but almost, if not all areas, from military to finance, to biomedicine, international trade, sea, nearly everything.

But if I would predict anything, then it would be to implode from the inside, because it is impossible to defeat the US from the outside. If the dollar loses its reserve status, their allies (aka vassals) start feeling the pains of blinding following Washington, therefore, alienating themselves from the hegemon, then it would just crumble on its own.

The turning point would be the disbanding of the UN. Before the UN, the preceding intergovernmental organization was the ''League of Nations'', it lost legitimacy and disbanded because it is impartial by its very existence, just as the UN has become.

With the global south uniting, with a common anger for the unfairness of the global order, the restructuring of a body that would replace the UN will not have the defects the UN has, such as veto powers, and being under the control of a single country or bloc.

raumdeuter:



That is the beauty and greatness of Western democracy

In Michigan and New York we have people now chanting death to America. when you ask them if they will leave to those better countries they all refuse

Imagine anyone gathering to chant death to Russia, China Iran, etc inside those countries and surviving

Maybe they should shout death to Israel, to homos, to trans, and to jews, then see if they won't be locked up immediately. Cherry picking doesn't proves you right, it does actually the opposite.

Regex:


This is total ad hominem. Why not attack his facts and leave out where he lives?

Why you answer am?

His kind are very cheap. Give them passport and they will be worse than Hitler on their own people.

So I should applaud western hegemony that is responsible for the destruction of the world just because I live in the West?

What kind of sick mentality is that? I also condemn ECOWAS, should I stop being a Nigerian now?

Most Westerners also does not support Israel genocide and their government policy, should they move to Palestine?

Mohammed Ali is a famous global boxer icon that refusee to fight American wars in Vietnam, does that makes him ungrateful because the US made him famous?

Cheap men everywhere.

The fufu is not stone. It will adjust to the shape of the throat as it slides in. Kini big deal?

Allow fine girl to eat in peace. Heaven has a special place for people who are authentic and don't pretend.

Authenticity is how a flower blossom in the full glares of the world, reveling in its glory, beauty and pride. You may hate the flower, but it doesn't need your validation, it is what it is.

The girl is like that flower. See as she confidently push down huge bulbs of fufu down her delicate throat. That's a very good sign. She can push down other essential things. Are you pondering what I'm pondering?

May God have mercy on her throat.

NO need for that.

What if your husband divorces you tomorrow? or you divorce him yourself? Life is so unpredictable. You might have the first and loudest laugh, but not guaranteed the last and sweetest laugh.

ENjoy your marriage, ignore your ex, and move on. No need to pepper people. Just turn them into a ghost and live like they never existed.

CaveAdullam:


Technically, you're right.

Though it sounds painful, that's the reality of things.

Looking at it from how thousands of sperms compete for one egg during the process of fertilization; how both ugly and beautiful women have men in their orbits for their specific needs; how a woman can choose to be practically nonchalant, weak, and incompetent but still have a man that'll bag her.

A woman can decide to be nothing and she can still get what she wants even though not in full measure when she dates or marries a man.

But men don't have such an opportunity. A man who can't lift his finger is a disgrace to society. A lazy man is a useless man. But nobody cares about a lazy woman; if she's cute and charming she will be adored for being feminine.

Every man has the inalienable right to not adhere to these standards. To be an Ubermensch, in other words, to adopt your method of relating to the world.

If women ain't meant to suffer, it doesn't mean men are meant to suffer as well. I do not know about you, but I am not made to suffer. My bones do not yearn for suffering just because I am a man.

Where the catch is, is that a man should refuse, reject, and abandon any stupid responsibility to a woman who doesn't give him what he also needs from a woman.

Men have the burden of performance, and women have the burden of integration. If she can't integrate and make life soft for him, then let other men who are still under the full dictates of society carry her weight.

Society can go to hell. As a man, you matter. If marriage doesn't favor you, don't marry. If it favors you, then marry, but don't sacrifice your interest in the process.

Lots of women are abandoning traditional roles, that's exactly what feminism is all about. As a man, no one stops you from evolving. Life is a balance, and when the other side abandons their position, then its stupid to still carry yours.

This is why every man should embrace feminism. As for me and my household, we are all feminists. We share in the pain equally

2023Blessed:
61 year old woman still hustling as an UBER driver. God abeg!

You never see anything.

What about people over 70s being homeless and picking foods from trash can? and not black, white people. Lol

Wife material spotted

Happy graduation Lamani. All the best to you and your future endeavours.

One thing God gave every one of us is that in the face of our challenges in life, we still have the tools to save ourselves. That tool is your character (and by extension, your competence).

Lots of ugly people are living well because they developed and sharpened their character.

If they are a judge, for example, they will be known as a beacon of justice. If you go to them, you are assured of not being treated unfairly. For example, you can hate a person, but deep down, you know if they are honest and good.

Many times, humans hate others because they cant use them, not because they are bad people. Everyone likes a useful idiot, but not everyone likes a good person who is not a pushover.

So instead of mourning about how easier your life could have been if you look a certain way, focus more on how you can develop your character, so that others will attest to your competence, and elevate you to the top.

A good name is better than gold.

EreluRoz:
😆 you come be mummy's boy ontop wahala promax.

Good that you don't judge a woman by her cooking skills maybe the way to your heart isn't through your stomach.
Take your flowers 🌺🌹

The way to my heart is a woman character.

Corporation instead of competition, humility instead of egoism, modesty instead of self-aggrandizement, virtue instead of manipulations, true confidence instead of fake confidence from social media likes, teachable, instead of arrogance etc.

So you see, it's authentic. So this is what I meant when I was telling you earlier that a woman's value should not be ''plug-and-play''. A woman's value is organic, curated over time, and not based on wigs, komkom shoes and makeup , aka, plug-and-play

I am not saying that a woman shouldn't wear makeup and make herself look beautiful, but her worth should not be based on that. A good woman is valuable and beautiful even without those accessories.

Now you may argue that men do not appreciate good women, and you will have a point, but because pigs like to eat shit doesn't mean shit is the ideal. A good woman is the best gift God can give a man. No wealth on earth is compared to her.

Be that woman.

EreluRoz:
Chai so you hate me like this? But isn't it weird that a man would know how to prepare all you've mentioned?
Such men are very difficult to please honestly.

No its not weird.

Lots of boys grew up with their mothers who sold agidi in leaves, fufu, elubo, etc for subsistence.

So as an extension, they learned how to make this food. How you don't see it as a plus, as a sign of a responsible person, and instead, want to punish him for it calls to question your idea of what a good man is.

I learned how to cook from my mum because I am very close to her. So I should be punished for that? Instead of giving me applause? Also don't generalize men, people are individuals.

If a woman doesn't cook up to how I like it, I will enjoy it like is the best, because a woman's value is not based solely on the taste of the food. Look at my response to sweetvie above.

Sweetvie:
Ahh
It's better to just move on because there's no way you can satisfy him when it comes to cooking. In fact, I'll just leave the kitchen entirely to him.

No, you can satisfy him.

The concept of cooking for a man doesn't imply the food must be better than his, but its the wholesomeness of it.

The time you spend cooking (time you will never get back), the effort (signifies care), and the intent (which is an expression of love), are greater and valuable than the taste.

Please don't limit your importance in a man's life to the mere taste of food. You are more valuable than that. Conversely, any man who narrows your importance in his life strictly to the taste of your food deserves to be flogged to a stupor.

EreluRoz:
A monk that should remain single forever.

See why men always believe women don't like nice guys?

So a man that can cook agidi like his grandma, tie wrappers and bend ewe leaves like a pro, should be a monk and remain single?

You need deliverance, and during the deliverance session, you should be flogged with koboko marinated in Cameroon pepper without mercy.

Gerrard59:


He is right, and everyone knows it; that is why they are begging China to pressure Russia. Thankfully, the Chinese are not that stoopid. After Russia is dealt with, China would be next. Na true Pansophist talk, this century would see lots of changes. A multipolar world is here. Hopefully, Southeast Asian countries won't succumb to fighting themselves or fighting for any world power. That is the weakest link.

Boris's tears are yet to begin.

Western hegemony ended in 1949, when the CPC won the western-backed KMTgovernment, and the new China was born. It was just only a matter of time, before China grew, and inevitably challenged, and buried Western hegemony once and for all.

Western hegemony is antihuman, unnatural, and imposed. It can only sustain itself by suppressing other countries, and can not thrive without unfair and manipulative acts. It can only exist when there is no other strong power.

There was this story in the bible when King Herold searched the whole country to kill newborn baby Jesus because even at the height of his reign, he knew intimately well that Jesus would grow and be the true king. A baby already threatened him and did everything possible to kill him, but Mary fled to Egypt with Jesus.

Most people think that the sanctions imposed on Russia are huge, and I always tell them to compare it to the sanctions China faced when she was newly born. The West, especially the US did everything possible to kill it.

If not for the USSR which stood steadfast behind China and gave it a nuclear umbrella, China would have been destroyed long ago and nuked to pieces like Japan Hiroshima.

Boris talks about Western hegemony, but the international community does not want it. No country wants an order that was forced down their throat without their consent.

That is unfair by its very nature, imperialistic, exceptional, warmongering, moral decadent, imposing, and all the evils that come with it. Such order should go. It is evil and anti-human by its very nature.

Like everything in life, the exponential effect will take place. Just as Covid spread like wildfire, hence the total lockdown even in a few minor cases, the fall of Western hegemony will be the same. It will fall like a structure exploded from its foundations, and its end would be exponential.

The UK, Spain, and Portugal for example are all empires just less than a century ago, but look at them now, the UK is rated as the worst place to live. The same will happen to this evil hegemony, its fall would be exponential.

It is only a matter of time, and as quickly as 2030, the cracks will be wide open. UN itself is an accessory to it because it's silent on the brutality of Gaza, but a barking dog to Russia, even if Russia does not hurt civilians like Israel.

On May 7th 1999, the US bombed the Chinese embassy in Belgrade, Serbia. As expected, the Chinese were furious, but they didn't escalated by sending bombs to the USA.

They bid their time, and saw USA's aggression as a distraction. Twenty years later, their plan worked. They are the world's largest economy in PPP, the global industrial powerhouse, and a superpower.

Iran shouldn't have sent drones to Israel, or at least, they should retaliate in similar measures. Sending drones to Israel territory is going over the board.

But before Iran will take such measures, I believe it must have weighed all possible results and consequences, and is ready for any outcome.

Peter and Paul