Western society is generally messed up with dating, not just for immigrants. These societies have undergone changes for centuries and even hate immigrants.

But if you're a black person is less multicultural societies such as Russia, Serbia, South East Asia, the Baltics etc, you will run from women if you're decently looking.

Just as the average man in Alaba market can get a good wife out of the city, it's same in the West. The less cosmopolitan a place is, the higher chance people ain't stuck up and in rat race, and can actually date.

If Nigerian men thinks they have it worse with dating, then they should try see the situations of Asian men lol. Those ones are the almajiri of dating in the West.

If men bears the burden of performance, then women bears the burden of integration. Will write more about this later.

The burden of performance rest solely on men. I wrote a thread about it. Although lots of men choose to carry that burden for a woman that betrays it.

No one is banning Israel athletes, no massive sanctions, no cutting of Israel from Swift, no banning of Israel airlines from traveling western airspace, no cutting of Israel from Swift, no UN condemnation from westerners, instead, we see the opposite.

Israel has killed more civilians in a few months of war in Gaza, than Russia killed in a close to three years war with Ukraine. If this world order is fair and just, then I can only weep

Kelklein:
Why is the world silent in all of these.. can One country be more than the world and UN.. can US even be more than the whole world and UN.. Sanctions must be placed on Israel.. this madness has gone on long enough

The UN is just men in expensive suits engaging in a chat club. It's more of an advisory committee, without teeth to bite or enforce anything. So you can as well not count on the UN to do anything. \

lastkingsman:


What you wrote is also obtainable in China.

Why I agree with that China has made significant progress, they haven't overtake the United States as of today.

The last frontier is semiconductor and advanced military tech which US still controls. When Trump wins in November, the full US leverage will be used for America people, "America First" policy.

China think they can ban Amazon, Facebook and other Western tech companies but US will allow tik tok ba? The orange man is coming with full scale trade war and "drill baby, drill" for oil

China leads the US in 37 out of the 44 critical technologies that will dominate the 21st century

https://www.businessinsider.com/china-leads-us-critical-emerging-technologies-strategic-competition-research-report-2023-3

China actually didn't ban those company you mentioned, they are just too smart fo these companies and understood what these companies stands for. I will explain.

These companies either voluntarily left China, or refuse to set up business because of Chinese tech laws, which states that the data of Chinese citizens must be stored in data centers located in China, and that the Chinese authorities will have an unrestricted and unconditional access to it.

Because these companies engages in nefarious activities and are accessories for western government, they refuse such conditions, and for that reasons, didn't open in China. The case of facebook is different though.

Facebook was banned because they refuse to give the Chinese government information concerning the activities of the Xinxiang terrorist during the 2009 urumqi riot, which killed lots of people.

Facebook cited user privacy, freedom of speech and those nonsense as a reason why they wont disclose the requested information, then the Chinese government banned them. Please don't just rely on western news that dominate the world for information, do research yourself.

About semi-conductor, it is only a matter of time before China catches up. The west refused to give China access to space, then they created their own space station. They refuse China access to GPS, they created theirs, which is even more accurate than western ones.

CHina has the money, the motivation, the engineers, patriotic citizens, and technocrats that will make it happen. Taiwan is just a stone throw and their brothers, and they will be lured with money. China caught up so fast just within the last four decades, I give semiconductor just a decade more.

UyaiIncomparabl:


The "many of you" is INCLUSIVE OF YOU. So, stop trying to exonerate yourself from this making you seem as though you are holier than the pope. When e reach means to dey supportive (I am sure financially useful), you remember say late 20s dey relevant. But, for innocence, non-combativeness and lowbody count (according to your many contributions here), na unders go work am.

Tongue twister.

So you still have my time abi? Anyways, patience is a virtue. Happy Easter

budaatum:


But this is precisely why China is doing so well. They don't stupidly spend the resource they have preparing for war I don't think, or they'd be poor like North Korea.

That's not to say they don't spend any, mind, but I think just enough to stop being attacked. And I think they know the weapons of the next war would be economical bullets and not the armaments the west are piling up.

I strongly believe that China's GDP in absolute terms has overtaken the US.

The evidence speaks for itself. For decades, China has deliberately kept its currency devalued, to make its exports cheaper. If China lets its currency float to its true market value, then overnight, it will become the world's largest economy. Now it's second in GDP, but first in PPP.

Also, China's economic makeup is something real, such as production and manufacturing, while the US is virtual, mostly in finance, the service sector, and Wall Street.

You also have to look at the simple fact that China has over 1.4B people, while the US has over 300M, but there are almost no homeless or hungry people in China, meanwhile, in the US, millions are homeless, and even more millions are just one paycheck away from being homeless.

The US has no free healthcare, or free education, and divided citizens who classify themselves by race, color, job title, and zipcode. Meanwhile, China united all its ethnic groups to make them a stronger whole.

China has the largest reserve in the world, standing at 3.22T USD, that's money they don't even know what to do with it, and mostly invest it through their BRI project.

When I study China's strategy, I can't help but point every one of their moves to the legendary book titled ''the Art of War. The Chinese planned their destiny well and won without firing a single bullet.

And if you want to fight them, they will beat you to a stupor. They are that silent kid in the block, that you shouldn't mess with. The real abroad right now is no longer the West, the 21st century belongs to Asia.

Kamchatka to Moscow. 9 hours one-way flight. Russia is freaking huge, you just can't comprehend it. When people in Kamchatka are celebrating the new year, Moscow will celebrate their 9 hours later.

So you can time travel inside Russia. When you celebrate the new year in Kamchatka, you fly back to a city with another time zone, and you can go back to last year.

Imagine flying for 9 hours, and you are still inside Russia. Meanwhile, from Lagos to London, a trip where you will cross the ocean, to another continent, is six hours.

On a side note, France has the longest domestic flight. Which stands at 12 hours of direct flight time, from Paris to Reunion. Although metropolitan France is in Europe, the French territory spans across different continents.

Imagine Enugu state to be in Asia bordering China, and Kaduna close to Alaska in North America, that is France. When people think of France, they only think of European France, not knowing that it is an empire with territories everywhere.

French Guiana is a territory of France that shares a border with Brazil in South America and also shares a border with Suriname. So if you live in French Guiana, you are still living in France, although you are in South America.

You will use Euros, you are in the EU, and your passport will not be stamped when you fly in between, and it is a domestic flight. Just wow.

Regardless of whether she agrees to date you, she is too young for you.

Like seriously, do you want an ally or a dependent as a partner? I understand that your biology desires freshly minted girls who just crossed 18 years, but your senses must be in control.

She probably will be too daft, lacks the proper skills to manage attention from men, and probably vapid. Maybe she is an exception, I don't know, but that age bracket suffers such afflictions.

Start going for women who have the means to support you. Many of you have criminalized women in their late 20's above, but many of those women will make life easy for you.

Life is a journey, you need a competent partner to go and grow through it. You don't need a beautiful trophy, as in, a girl whose only qualification is ''I am a fine girl and many boys are toasting me''.

See the kind of problem you are dealing with at your age. A small girl rejecting you and seeing you as a cash cow. Why did you toast her in the first place? na wa

Competence.

As in, she knows that if you are there, this difficulty won't be happening. Your presence alone pursues nonsense, just like the mere presence of a lion chases off the hyenas harassing the lioness.

That when she has you, she has someone. Others will tap from your blessings through her, by asking her to persuade her man if he can do this or that.

Your competence is also multidimensional. She will see clearly that other men respect you, and most importantly, see that you uphold yourself to a high standard that you effortlessly meet.

Talk and do. You say you will do it, and she knows it will be done. No excuse, or as the Igbo people call it, ''chere, a na m abịa''.

The good news is that every man can achieve competence. Its okay if you are not fine, just be competent. it is very important, and it is the rewarding element of security that women want.

Be competent my friend.

Women like this exist, and some people be gaay. Tufiakwa. Or the mad ones wey say them wan be trans-something. Oh lord

Happy married life man, you carry eye enter market. She as her smile fit her. Na her type go turn men head 360 degrees legitly.

No break her heart o, the world lack good, masculine men. Treat her well, protect her, and see her as an extension of you, just in a different body.

Then God go come use ogbonge blessing furnish you.

virginboy1:


The day people like will you leave nairaland ehnnn...it will become so boring for intelligent people........you too get sense chai

If I no die, I go probably no comot. Because na here I de entertain myself after work. I jut come back from office now, come say make I cool off here small before I sleep.

Happy new month man.

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EreluRoz:
How did you know I'm iya

Idiolect never lies.

I'm sure if I open another account and write consistently, with time, you'll know it's pansophist. Just like our fingerprints, our idiolect is unique.

So I know, just by reading some of your comments, and observe the uniformity in your take on issues.

EreluRoz:

Can you marry or even date a roadside asaba restaurant owner? Why are you lying to yourself?

You'll chase after the posh ones and still be looking for the value of the roadside asaba restaurant owner in the Masseurs, influencers and the rest of them.
Una sha wan eat cake and have it.

I'm I speaking Arabic iyaebe?

My definition of posh is not plug-and-play, that's my point. The roadside food seller can be posh instantly if she put on the normal komkom shoe and makeup.

But the average babe with high taste and a bad attitude who considers herself posh because other simps have over inflated her ego is not posh.

Like seriously, the above is difficult for you to understand?

You see so many celebs (e,g. Tuface) who stick with a woman he has known before becoming famous. Why so?

Do you remember that story of the hawker girl that was made celebrity instantly because she unknowingly appear in a video shoot? Please remind me if you know her name.

That girl is already fine, hard-working, and a very good woman as it seems. Now to add the normal plug-and-play posh accessories will make her even more wonderful to be with.

So my point is simple. A thief that wears Gucci is still a thief anyways (eg Hushpuppi). His Gucci doesn't put him in the same league like those who works for their money lightly.

The same applies to a woman. You should first become a virtuous woman, then all other things because extra. Because at the end, every woman can look posh, it only cost money. But not every woman is a good woman to be with.

Idera9126:
I have only SSCE cert in waec and is its possible for me to wrote SAT or IELTS exam to do guarding and counselling course in Finland and how can I go about it's,please enlightened me on it's

Can you afford to study in Finland? You need at least 20k euros just for the first year. Do you have it?

EreluRoz:
You'll still leave that road side asaba restaurant owner to pursue the posh masseurs, influencers, personal shopper and the rest. No be men again, talk one and do the other.

Don't only look at the one we pursue, but also look at the ones we marry. That's where the fact lies

Sha make sure say your value as a woman is not plug-and-play, aka makeup, komkom shoe, eye lashes, artificial nails and wigs

Men lie small small lies, but women lie big big lies.

An example of a man lying is ''I passed the night at Femi's place''. When in reality, he was hooking up with another girl. An example of a woman's lie is ''is your baby'', or ''he beats me every day'' when in reality, the baby belongs to another man, and she is the aggressor.

A man's lie will mostly hurt a woman, but a woman's lie can destroy a man. Like the biblical story when Potiphar's wife lied that Joseph wanted to sleep with her, and got Joseph locked in jail for a crime he didn't do. The same still happens today. Many men are in jail because of a woman's lie.

So both gender lie, but one is worse than the other. There is not equality in our lies at all.

budaatum:


Meanwhile, China is fertilising a desert the size of Texas.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=atf8oARwg_8?si=R3uWEbIMDObQzxUM

The industrial capability of China is just something that amazes me, and many people ain't giving them credit for it. During lockdown, for example, China could still ship products to most countries, even when operating at a deficient capacity.

For a single country to be the main trading partner of over 140 countries, just imagine if they would channel such industrial production capability to fight a war. People just buy from Alibaba, without ever thinking about the power behind it.

To be able to produce anything at breakneck speed, and deal with billions upon billions of data processes, forwarding, shipping, geographical differences, linguistic barriers and so much more.

If any country dares fight China, China will outproduce tanks, airplanes, artilleries, robot soldiers, missiles, and ships like it's nothing. Their military is completely indigenous and depends on no one for its critical needs.

China has been preparing for a long time for an inevitable war, and they are ready. So yeah, such a project in the video you showed is an example of China's power.

stanluiz:
Panophist, the great encyclopedia!!!

You are the master of international politics in this nairaland. You are man of knowledge.

I don commot cap for you!

But my fear is can China trust Russia ? Remember that Russia was part those countries that joined the western powers to cut China to size during the 100 years century of humiliation.

Just as Israel forgave, and is an ally to Germany who murdered millions of Jews during the Holocaust, it is the same for Russia and China. Both Germany and Russia share an often overlooked fact, such as proving a genuine repentance, and accountability, backed by actions and not words.

For example in Germany, antisemitism is enough to make your citizenship be stripped or banned from ever applying and possibly deported (for immigrants), and for native Germans, very harsh punishments. Germany donated and invested billions and billions to Israel, and so much more that I shouldn't write here.

The Russians did the same and even more to the Chinese. The Chinese are not fools. They know who their real friends are, and for now, at least, Russia is the one.

The political philosophy (communism) of the Chinese, laying their industrial blueprints for the industrial powerhouse it is today, military and intel support during the Chinese civil war against the American-backed Kuomintang forces, nuclear and military technologies, and decades of political, financial, technology transfer, and so much more were offered by the Soviets until China could stand on its feet.

If not for the Soviets, the US would have nuked China when General McArthur suggested so, when it was clear that the Chinese were winning in Korea and killing US soldiers like flies. The Soviets warned the West that if they nuked China, they would retaliate with nukes.

Like a child maturing into adulthood, the Soviets did that to China, and China turned out to be that son who was taller, stronger, and had more muscle than its guardian. China can never forget such help.

Also, the Soviets were the first country to recognize the PRC as a government after the Chinese Civil War, and the US recognized China as a country thirty years later. The Soviets even ceded Damansky Island (Zhenbao Island) as a gesture of goodwill, and all border dispute were settled in good faith.

There are many more examples I can show, to point to the fact that Russia genuinely repented and treated the Chinese with good intent, which made the Chinese gain their trust.

Nuclear technologies are something the US will not even give their allies, but the Soviets gave it to the Chinese, what greater help is that? The US can't even sell us military hardware to deal with Boko Haram, and you want to ask for nuclear technologies? lol

Now tell me, do such actions from the Soviets to China seem like something an enemy would do? Compare the treatment of the US to the Japanese their ally (with the Plaza Accord), or Germany with Nord Stream 2, and see who is a true friend to a country and a people they have wronged.

Also, it is imperative to get along with Russia because it is worse without it. Russia has the largest nukes, a huge population bordering China after India, a geopolitical heavyweight, with abundant resources to ensure China's security for its ever-hungry industrial powerhouse.

Real politics is not a place for feelings, it's about what works. An enemy that buys your goods is a good customer. Even with the ongoing battle between the west and the East, Russia and China still supply essential commodities to the west, and trade still goes on like normal.

So yes, Russia is a true friend of China, they proved it.

Far back I met this Igbo girl who broke up with her Dutch boyfriend because he was demanding 50/50 from her. The girl was just not used to that. Boyfriend o, not husband.

They live together, and the guy pays the majority of their bills, but her little contribution just burns her soul to no end. Maybe she has dated men like this in Nigeria before coming over. `foolish men that lead with money.

I can finish the noodles in three minutes. Noodles are very soft, and easily chewed and swallowed. But if it is to enjoy the food, then it is the jollof rice.

I will pick the noodles and turkey, and I will win.

You do not put the cart before the horse, or wear a condom when there is not a woman lying in front of you

You first make yourself the kind of man you will date if you are a woman, and navigate the world and the dating scene from a position of strength.

If female rejection throws you into depression, or you catch yourself doing things you won't do, just to secure a woman's affection, then you've lost it.

As a consolation, most men feel like this, so you are not alone in this. But only a few will rise above it. You are a man, and it is in your hands to work and build your value, and I tell you, IT IS HARD.

It is why a lot of men patronize prostitution. They have signed off from the dating scene and choose to secure affection alternatively (via prostitution) without the stress of chasing and billing. Will you blame them? I understand them.

Sorry. But at the same time, welcome to being a man, where lack is the norm. You either triumph or get used to it. Choose one.

To some women, being a ''big girl'' is plug-and-play. With make-up, a wig, komkom shoes, and a snobbish attitude, then boom, she is a classy chick. She can be an all-around idiot, with the only qualification in her CV being that "I am a fine girl''.

In my eyes, that Igbo girl who has a roadside restaurant in Alaba's main market is a legitimate big girl, compared to the pseudo-big girl who sells sex for a living, with cool names like influencer, masseur, personal shopper etc

Uwa mmebi. Tufia.

Na you go dey pursue woman wey no send you. If she likes you, she will be easy and uncomplicated.

So them no go allow me wey dey use techno enter like this? poverty bahd

God when

Gerrard59:


https://apnews.com/article/china-netherlands-mark-rutte-dutch-asml-nato-a173a05114c9f13c23306e2ea393943b

The Dutch PM visited China to discuss Ukraine and, to a lesser extent, ASML. Well, Xi has stated that China would not relent in its determination to be a leader in semiconductor chip production and its value chain. On the other hand, the Dutch PM, a front-runner for NATO Chief position, has said he is in China to persuade China to stop supporting Russia.

I am really stunned by the arrogance of the West. Why do they expect China to stop supporting Russia after the sanctions they have slapped China with? Why do they think the Chinese would not be apprehensive that China will be next if Russia falls? What about the "Century of Humiliation" China suffered?

Also, Janet Yellen is visiting China. Bros, what exactly is she going to discuss with Chinese leaders? I am really curious.

The only thing preventing NATO from going full-scale offensive against Russia is China. If Nato is convinced and assured that China will not support Russia, then in their eyes, Russia is ripped for a full-scale invasion.

The only country that Nato truly fears is China, not Russia. Russia has been defeated many times in history, and the Nato alliance has spent the past few decades doing numerous war simulations for a successful defeat of Russia.

Russia is just about 145M people, Nato is close to 800M people. NATO has the money, people, industry, and hunger to preserve its hegemony, and Russia must not exist as a consequence. It is not a coincidence that Russia and China signed a ''no-limit partnership'' before Putin entered Ukraine.

The plan is to bleed Russia in Ukraine, weaken it with unprecedented sanctions, prolong the war observe weak points, and then finish off what's left with the massive power of the nato alliance when they consider Russia weak enough. It's like making two tigers fight over a prey, then kill the weaker winner.

As far as China is with Russia, their game plan is already a loss. China is the key here. I don't think the world knows the extent, depth, and sophistication of China's industrial capacity. China is a country that can outproduce the world combined.

China has this thing called a ''green nuclear bomb'', you might not see much info about it online, but its not a conventional nuclear bomb like the one that hit Hiroshima. This nuclear bomb will kill all living things, and leave the land untouched.

It is because if a country bombs China with Nuclear weapons, then China will retaliate and secure your land as its prize for its citizens. It is what Mao told the Soviets during the Sino-Soviet split. He told soviet leaders that if you bomb our land, we will enter your land.

We are over 600 million Chinese. Even if half of us enter the soviet union, it's more than your total population. This sent shocks down the Soviets, and they stopped the nuclear threat. China built on that. If the US nukes China, then the US belongs to China.

China's war machine makes Nato look like a joke. I just think it's better the world doesn't know much about China's military, otherwise, we would fear it. I have this Chinese online military friend that I met on Zhihu, the kind of thing this guy tells me, mehn, I just hope no country offends China.

China is not like others that talk too much. That shows all their military asset on youtube, but when war comes, it might surprise you that its AI and robots that would fight, and no single Chinese soldier will be seen. China is a powerhouse fo robotics and AI, remember.

After the creation of the PRC in 1949, Mao promised the Chinese that never a foreign force set foot in China. Never again will the century of humiliation repeat itself. And they worked through that promise.

It is also not a coincidence that China released a statement that they would fight alongside Russia if Russia's territorial integrity is breached. Because they know that the plan is to collapse Russia and break it into smaller countries, integrate them into the West, and use those new countries to deny China Russia's resources.

Just look at all the ex soviets states that became an enemy of Russia overnight, it will repeat itself again. China does not want new hostile countries that will make stationing nukes in their backyard possible. It's the reason why Mao gave North Korea nukes, to defend itself and prevent invasion from the US-Korea alliance.

You need oil and raw materials to fight a war, and China doesn't have it, but Russia does. Defeating China is not by war, it's by starvation. Just as you starve a tiger of air, and it will die. No need to wrestle with it.

Anyways, western leaders visiting China are dead on arrival. China will never cut ties with its largest neighbor, especially to favor a people that historically have enslaved it, currently surround it, and station nukes in Korea aiming at it. They are desperate for war, and they need to fight now because the future will make them weaker and fade into irrelevance.

After these events that currently plague the world, if we all come out of it unscathed, then it can be said that the multipolar world is officially here. Right now, we are in the middle of the Thucydides Trap

Traditional roles should be the default, but should not be the absolute. Sebi na plate, I go wash am. I go sweep, and I go bath the baby, it's my home for God sake. We are a team.

A good man prides himself with the ability to financially provide for and protect him family, but that doesn't mean it shouldn't be flexible. Just as women have infinite insecurity about loss of youth and beauty, men have the same in area of financially capability.

Conversely, I'll expect her to contribute financially to the household. I won't look at her money, or pin it on her that she must pay for this and that, although she should know.

There was a story that hit front page one time like that, where a wife with millions in her bank account allowed her daughter to die because she expected her broke husband to pay for the hospital bills.

So it should be fluid. If the other person needs assistance in their area of responsibility, then assist without asking. You're a team.

I see why avoiding poor men makes sense. The tendency to be angry at the world, violent and aggressive, and a overall bad deal is a huge risk that can't be overlooked.