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@GL and CHRYSTYNE,
thanks, i really appreciate your posts, and i will be honest, atimes, i do find myself going back to this "GOD", but most times he just falls really short of wht i expect, things contradict themselves, what the bible says,things that happen etc, and i wonder is it all a big joke?are we all puppets in the hands of some supernatural force??maybe i might go back some day, and maybe i never will, but whatever the case, i guess time will tell,

@VIROZURU, yeah, story of my life

FINAL PART,

well, i sat as FAAAR AWAY FROM HIM AS POSSIBLE, and then i CONFESSED, at first he thought i was playing a cruel joke on him, he even went as far as asking if i was suffering from some sort of PRE-WEDDING PERSONALITY DISORDER,

when he saw that i wasnt joking, he literally CRUMBLED BEFORE ME, then came the SHOUTING,TEARS ETC, i couldnt face it, cus he had NEVER RAISED HIS VOICE AT ME, i walked out, and booked the next flight to greece(i just wanted to get away from it all), THAT WAS THE LAST TIME I SAW HIM ALIVE,

HE WAS INTO SKIING BIG TIME, HE TOOK OFF TO SWITZERLAND TO COOL OFF, HAD A HORRIBLE SKIING ACCIDENT, I GOT A PHONECALL, I RUSHED DOWN ON THE NEXT FLIGHT, ALL I SAW WAS TUBES,AND MORE NEEDLES STICKING IN AND OUT OF HIM,

I WAS 2 MONTHS PREGNANT, AND THAT SECOND I CURSED THE DAY I MET MY LOVER,

THREE HOURS AFTER I GOT TO THE HOSPITAL, HE DIED, HE WASNT CONSCIOUS,,BUT STRANGELY HE MOVED HIS HAND WHEN I PUT IT TO MY BELLY, I JUST WANTED HIM TO SAY BYE TO THE BABY,

BEFORE HE WENT SKIING HE HAD TOLD HIS SISTER THAT I WAS THE GIRL HE WAS ALWAYS WAXING LYRICAL ABOUT ETC, SO HIS FAMILY KNEW I WAS THE SHE DEVIL, NOW I WAS CARRYING THE BABY OF THEIR SON,

THEY BLAMED ME FOR EVERYTHING THAT WENT WRONG,

THEY SAID FATE HAD THE GUN AND I PULLED THE TRIGGER AND SET EVERYTHING IN MOTION,

OH WELL, A SUICIDE ATTEMPT LATER, AND 7 MONTHS AFTER,
I GAVE BIRTH TO TWINS, BALTHAZAR AND JARED,

AND WEIRDLY, THEY ARE NEPHEWS TO THE WOMAN WHOSE HOME I BROKE UP, MEANING COUSINS TO MY EX LOVERS KIDS,

MASSIMOS PEOPLE DONT EVEN WANNA KNOW ME, AND ITS BEEN ALMOST 9 YEARS, MY KIDS GO TO ITALY ONCE EVERY YEAR BECAUSE THEY ACCEPT THEM AND LOVE THEM,

I HEARD HIS MUM STILL CALLS ME TRANSLATED FROM ITALIAN "THAT SLIT EYED JEZEBEL",

DO I BLAME HER?
IN SOME TWISTED WORK OF FATE, I DATED HER EX-SON IN LOVER,WHICH MADE HER DAUGHTER PACK UP HER MARRIAGE HAVE A BREAKDOWN,THEN I FELL IN LIVE WITH HER SON,WHO WENT OFF SKIING TO COOL HIS NERVES WHEN HE FOUND OUT WHO I WAS, AND HE HAD AN ACCIDENT AND DIED,

ONE DAY I WILL TELL MY TWINS WHAT HAPPENED, BECAUSE THEY ALWAYS ASK, "MUMMY WHAT HAPPENED TO DADDY" ETC,

AND THERE WILL COME A TIME WHEN TELLING THEM DADDY HAS GONE TO BE AN ANGEL WONT WORK ANYMORE.BECAUSE I KNOW IF I DONT TELL THEM, THERE LOUD MOUTH GRANNY WOULD.

I HOPE SOMEONE LEARNS FROM THIS, AFFAIRS MIGHT LOOK ALL OKAY AND, "AS LONG A SNOBODY WILL GET HURT",

BELIEVE ME PEOPLE, KARMA WILL COME BACK AT SOME POINT AND BITE YOU IN THE ARSE, A 100 TIMES WORSE,
IF NOT NOW AT SOME POINT,
I GOT MY KARMA REAL FAST,
NOW WHEN I SEE MARRIED MEN, I DONT EVEN THINK ABOUT IT,

IVE PAID ENOUGH FOR MY ACTIONS, AND FUNNY ENUFF I WONDER WAS MASSIMO RIGHT?
HOW COULD I EXPECT TO HAVE LOVE WHEN I DESTROYED KNOWINGLY SOMETHING SO BEAUTIFUL, ?

TOO BAD HE HAD TO GO FOR THOSE WORDS TO REALLY HIT HOME,

I DONT WALLOW IN SELF PITY, BUT IT HARD TO DEAL WITH ATIMES, BECAUSE I HAVE TO LIVE WITH MY TWINS EVERYDAY, AND I KNOW ATIMES WAT THAT FEELS LIKE,

SO ANYONE THINKING OF IT, MAN, WOMAN, ITS NOT WORTH IT, IT JUST AINT,
I HOPE SOMEONE LEARNS, FROM THIS,

PART FOUR,

news from the grapevine was that his wife was divorcing him etc, and she did divorce him, i guess it doesnt help that some silly teenager tries to steal your childhood sweetheart, (they had been together since there teens)and she just couldnt comprehend how he could go that far with me,

well, i guess my karma was kinda waiting for me, about 6 months later, i had gotten over it, and just moved on.
during the fashion week in italy, i met this totally gorgeous italian guy called massimo,

massimo and i started dating, and well he told me about his family, etc, about his SISTER WHO WAS IN THERAPY ETC who shared the same LAST name with my ex lover, but i didnt add two and two together, i mean WHAT WERE THE ODDS RIGHT??IT WASNT UNTIL HE SAID something about a divorce that she was going thru that alarm bells RANG RRRAANNG IN MY HEAD,

I PRODDED FURTHER and thats when i realised that MASSIMO AND MY EX LOVER WERE IN LAWS.MASSIMOS SISTER IS THE EX WIFE WHO LEFT HER MARRIAGE BECAUSE OF THE AFFAIR I HAD WITH HER HUSBAND,

lets just say by the time he told me everything it was like listening to someone giving you a bad commentary about your life, he was INSULTING THE OTHER WOMAN, BUT HE DIDNT KNOW I WAS THE ONE, AND HE SAID SOMETHING THAT STUCK IN MY MIND, HE SAID"HOW CAN SHE FIND LOVE TO STAY WHEN SHE DESTROYED SOMETHING SO GOOD?"

I COULDNT TELL HIM, I ALWAYS AVOIDED MEETING THE SISTER(AND BESIDES SHE WAS IN THERAPY MOST TIMES)

I KEPT OFF TELLING HIM/CONFESSING, at this stage we were SOOOO IN LOVE, BUT I HAD THAT AT THE BACK OF MY MIND, AND I HAD CRAPLOADS OF GUILTY CONSCIENCE, his sisters health worried him, and he didnt know he was SLEEPING WITH AND LOVING THE ENEMY,

WELL I FELL PREGNANT SHORTLY AFTER, HE WAS OVERJOYED, THEN WE STARTED TALKING MARRIAGE, because i knew what i had done, i was at a crossroad, BECAUSE INEVITABLY, THE ISSUE OF MEET THE WHOLE FAMILY HAD ARISEN(INCLUDING HIS SISTER), SO I COULDNT ESCAPE IT, I SUGGESTED A SHOTGUN WEDDING,,,YOU KNOW TAKE OFF TO AN ISLAND AND JUST GET MARRIED, SO THAT BY THE TIME WE GET BACK, NO ONE WOULD COME BETWEEN US,

BUT CONSCIENCE IS SUCH A STRONG THING(THATS IF ONE POSSESES IT)
SO ONE DAY, I WAS TWO MONTHS PREGNANT, AFTER GOING THROUGH SOME WEDDING PLANS, I TOLD HIM THAT WE NEED TO TALK,

FINAL PART TO BE CONTINUED,

AS I WAS SAYING, at this stage it finally dawned on me that this guy was just not meant to be(YES FINALLY MY EYES OPENED CLEARLY), AND PLEASE THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS I DIDNT KNOW WHAT I WAS DOING, I KNEW AND I BLINDLY FOLLOWED IT AND ENJOYED IT, BUT LISTEN TO ME PEOPLE IT CAUGHT UP WITH ME IN A BIG BIG WAY,

PART 3

well, i went to him, AND I SAID, LOOK I CANT DO THIS ANYMORE ETC, he cried,begged,etc, AND I TOOK HIM BACK, BUT THIS TIME IT LASTED 5 DAYS, the fifth day afterwards, I GOT THE WORST INSULT, 2 DAYS BEFORE,I QUIT MY JOB(cus id gotten too big for my boots), and i thought well since i might be a little madam soon, i dont need to work?abi?the guy begged me now??it was ALL FILM TRICK,
so i told my lover, i quit my job, HE LOOKED AT ME LIKE, (A VERY BLANK WHAT THE F$*K DID YOU DO THAT FOR?), AND I SAID, WELL SINCE WE'LL BE LIVING TOGETHER SOON, I DONT NEED TO WORK, YOUR WIFE NEVER WORKED, SO WHY SHOULD I??

HE LOOKED AT ME AND SAID,
"DONT YOU EVER,EVER COMPARE YOURSELF TO MY WIFE.EVER, YOU ARE TWO DIFFERENT ENDS OF THE POLE, YOU MIGHT BE CLASSY ETC, BUT NO WAY WOULD MY WIFE BE SINGLE AND DATE A MARRIED MAN, EVERYTHING IN MATERIAL TERMS MY WIFE HAS SHE DESERVED BECAUSE SHE HAS STUK BY ME THROUGH IT ALL, " HE DIDNT STOP THERE, HE WENT FURTHER, "AND I HAVE BEEN THINKING, THIS CANT WORK, SO I WILL PAY YOU OFF BECAUSE OBVIOUSLY YOU ARE ALL ABOUT THE MONEY ,SO YOU CAN HAVE A CHEQUE OR CASH OF (A VERY LARGE SUM) AND PLEASE WALK OUT OF MY LIFE, I HAVE A MARRIAGE TO WORK ON"

YES PEOPLE, MY OWN ILLEGAL PARTNER OF ALMOST TWO YEARS, OFFERED TO PAY ME, LIKE THE CHEAP TART I HAD MADE MYSELF TO BE,

i almost died, i didnt know wether to cry of a broken heart(i mean it was all wrong wasnt it?and there was no love, or was there??)or to cry because i felt insulted, (but didnt i put myself in that position??,

anyway, TAIL BETWEEN LEGS, I WALKED OFF WITH THE TINIEST BIT OF DIGNITY LEFT IN ME, (I HAVE A BIG MOUTH AND CAN INSULT ANYTHING THAT CROSSES ME, BUT THAT DAY I GOT A REALITY CHECK)

it was then i felt just a bit of what he might have felt all the while he rejected her for me,


but my problems hadnt started,

PART TWO,

anyhoo, wifey got wind of our affair, and once she trailed me to my salon here in london, and well she knew her husband bought me my car, because the way she found out was a thank you card i sent to him, that he foolishly took home.and in the card i mentioned the thousand and one ways i would say and show THANK YOU to him.

it didnt help that because i was moving in bigger circles, definitely some things had to be upgraded, i was already using the same salon as his wife, and in all honesty even though my dad might have been loaded,,the allowance i was getting couldnt afford the lifestyle i was living, it was a SICK DECADENT lifestyle,
everyone was asking questions, i was still doing the same job, so HOW WAS I BUYING £3000 POUND BAGS?ETC, but i just said i got a raise at work and was also freelancing around europe(it added up cus i was travelling a lot with my lover)

one day his wife who apparently knew what i looked like, bumped into me at the salon, DISASTER, can you all believe i had the car her husband bought in the carpark, and she did what EVERY HURT wife would do, she smashed the car in every WAY POSSIBLE, and I in all my GLORIOUS FOOLISHNESS DID WHAT EVERY SWOLLEN HEADED MISTRESS WOULD DO, i CAUSED A SCENE, I WALKED UP TO HER AND I SAID TO HER IN ITALIAN."YOUR HUSBAND BOUGHT IT BITCH, AND HE SURE AS HELL WOULD BUY ANOTHER ONE."

of course the foolish man sided with me, he stirred shit, telling his wife she should have BEHAVED HERSELF LIKE THE RESPECATBLE MARRIED WOMAN SHE IS.

she moved out of their house two days later,

at that point i thought, YES, my opportunity, shebi if the madam isnt there i can move in rightNA LIE,

the guy apparently was telling me that we should see HOW THINGS GO AND SLOW THINGS DOWN, etc, ALL THE WHILE, flying to roma at the drop of a dime to try and work things out with his wife,

when i saw things werent heading anywhere, i mean i sat down and realised,
1)AFTER ALMOST TWO YEARS I WAS STILL ROTATING ON THE SAME SPOT WITH NO VISIBLE SIGNS OF PROGRESSION
2)I ONLY SAW HIM WHEN IT SUITED HIS SCHEDULE
3)WHEN I COMPLAINED HE BOUGHT ME MORE STUFF OR MORE MONEY
4)ALL THE DEPRAVED THINGS HE COULDNT TRY WITH HIS WIFE HE SUGGESTED TO ME,THREESOMES,SWINGERS,ETC
5)AND I WILL ALWAYS BE LESS THAN A WIFE,EVEN THOUGH I WAS A LITTLE BIT MORE THAN A GIRLFRIEND, BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY WHO IS A MISTRESS?
SHE IS JUST A SILLY WOMAN WHO GRATIFIES A MARRIED MANS SELFISH NEEDS IN EXCHANGE FOR WHATEVER HE CAN PROOVIDE HER, SHOW ME A MISTRESS WHO DOESNT GAIN MATERIAL THINGS AND I WILL SHOW YOU THE FACE OF A BLOODY LIAR,

PART THREE IN THE NEXT POST,

NOBODY, HAS A GOOD ENOUGH EXCUSE TO DATE A MAN WHO IS ALREADY TAKEN AND SPOKEN FOR.
i will be honest and share my own experience(please dont judge me,just learn)

PART ONE,

11 years ago,i was single,young,around 18.i met this married multi-millionaire in london.he is ITALIAN, we met at a fund raiser,i was working in the fashion industry then. he liked me straight away, he said i reminded him of kimora lee simmons,(that was his chat up line, or part of it)and even though at first i knew he was married and i shouldnt venture near him, i just thought WHAT THE HELL?as long as im not DIRECTLY hurting his wife.and as long as my intention isnt to UNSEAT her no problem.this guy was the type of guy that if the papers got wind of our affair it would spell DISASTER. so began an out of this world affair.AND NO IT WASNT NECESSARILY THE MONEY, I COME FROM A VERY VERY GOOD HOME, (I GUESS I DIDNT TAKE HEED TO MY PARENTS DISCIPLINE ENOUGH)AT THAT AGE MY DAD BOUGHT ME A FLAT IN A NICE PART OF LONDON I HAD A BRAND NEW BMW, AND A SUFFICIENT ALLOWANCE , BUT WHY I FOLLOWED WITH THIS AFFAIR STILL BEATS ME. anyway, i became his THING ON THE SIDE, (let truth be told, to all the girls out there, as long as you date a married man, YOU ARE HIS THING ON THE SIDE,,AND AS LONG AS HE DOESNT LEAVE HIS WIFE, ITS BECAUSE YOU JUST ARENT GOOD ENOUGH, AND NEVER WILL BE).

we went on ALL the trips together, in a year and a half i had visited over SIXTY COUNTRIES.he TRIPLED MY ALLOWANCE.BOUGHT ME ANOTHER CAR.but slowly and surely, feelings started to creep in, ON HIS PART AT FIRST, HE WAS ALWAYS SAYING, IF I LEAVE MY WIFE WOULD YOU MARRY ME?THEN OTHER TIMES.HE WOULD SAY, I CANT LEAVE MY WIFE BECAUSE IF I DO SHE WOULD RUIN ME.
i started getting caught up and believing IT JUST MIGHT HAPPEN, then i started getting feelings for him, when i saw that he wouldnt leave his wife(HOW STUPID COULD I HAVE BEEN?), THE FIGHTS STARTED, we wouldnt speak for weeks, but some force kept on pulling us back together, AND FOOLISHLY WE THOUGHT IT WAS BECAUSE "WE WERE MEANT TO BE" THATS WHY WE KEPT ON GETTING BACK TOGETHER.

at this stage his wife had gotten wind of US, lets just say he spent ovver £20,000, BUYING the silence of all the major gossip mags in london(it helps also when he comes from one of the top families in italy).

i will continue this in another post.

when love dies IM GETTING THE HELL OUTTA THERE AND TAKING MY KIDS WITH ME.

i have swung both ways ,
i was born into a muslim family, WASNT IMPRESSED WITH EVERYTHING I WITNESSED.(I READ THE QURAN ALL THE SHIZZLES)
then i became a christian, AND GOT SEXUALLY ABUSED/HARASSED OR WHATEVER YOU CHOOSE TO CALL IT BY A PASTOR(WHO REPEATEDLY SAID AND I QUOTE "GOD APPROVES OF THIS TYPE OF ACT,AND ITS IN STAGES, WHEN WE GET TO THE FINAL STAGE YOU WILL QUALIFY FOR HEAVEN, " THANK GOD WE NEVER GOT TO THE FINAL STAGE, I WOULD HAVE LOST MY VIRGINITY TO A PASTOR AT THE AGE OF 12. ) , AT A YOUNG AND IMPRESSIONABLE AGE, AND AFTERWARDS EVERYTHING I HAVE SEEN ABOUT RELIGION JUST DOESNT ADD UP OR TICKLE MY FANCY,
SO PERSONALLY I AM JUST ME, I JUST TRY AND BE GOOD AND SUPPRESS THE SOMETIMES BAD INSTINCTS THAT RISE UP WITHIN ME, I DONT SEEK ANY FORM OF PERFECTION, I MAKE MY OWN RULES, AND DONT TRY AND OFFEND THE NEXT PERSONS SENSE OF MORALITY(WHATEVER IT IS).
AND IF I DIE THE NEXT SECOND, THEN WHATEVER WIL BE WILL BE.

FATE,DESTINY OR WHAT NOT, all i know is that whatever will be will be and whatever has been was meant to be.

its a mind thing, when i lost my dad last year, HE KEPT POPPING UP EVERYWHERE, on the streets while i was shopping,etc, but i realised i was projecting images of my dads face unto people who shared similar physical characteristics with him.i realised it was because i wasnt ready to let go of him, i still wanted him around.and to me the memories werent enough.i wanted a kind of should i say solace, and to me that solace could only be the fact that i could still see him.THE MIND IS A POWERFUL THING BELIEVE ME.

I WOULD ASK HIM WHAT THE Bleep THIS WHOLE THING CALLED LIFE IS ABOUT, WAS IT JUST SO WE'LL BE PUPPETS IN HIS HANDS, ?THATS IF HE DOES EXIST OF COURSE,

I AM AN ADDICT/FAN of bollywood movies, strictly OLD SCHOOL ONES.i grew up watching the good old ones like SHOLAY,DHARAM VEER,BURNING TRAIN,THE PROMISE,JOOGNU,NAME IT, AND GUESS WHAT?I ACTUALLY HAVE SITES I GO TO ,TO LISTEN TO THOSE OLD SONGS THAT THEY SING IN THE MOVIES, and it brings some nice memories rushing back, days when i was an innocent girl, i cant actually beleive i used to cry to ALL those movies, especially the movie THE PROMISE.where the babe had an accident and the guys mother made him leave her, kai, i cant get over the song, it still sends chills down my spine,
as you can all see,,,,im a fanatic of indian movies,

hmm, well the only domestic thing about me is that i love to cook, but cleaning, NEVER, i pay someone to do my cleaning and ironing, i HATE ironing, with a passion.

@whiteshark, ha ha, thanks,

What is (was) your (the).....
.
First name:DUROLORILERIOLUWA...DEE FOR SHORT
Gender:FEMALE
Favorite food(s):WELL DONE STEAK OR POUNDED YAM AND OKRA...
Favorite color(s): BLACK
Future child's names:ALREADY HAVE TWO NAMED BALTHAZAR & JARED.IF I HAVE ANOTHER & ITS A GIRL,KIMORA,IF ITS A BOY TAKASHI
Sign or b-day:ARIES
Favorite number:7
Biggest fear:LOSING MY TWINS
Favorite quote:EVERY BIT OF MAX EHRMANNS "DESIDERATA".
Obsession(S): MANOLO SHOES..THE HIGHER THE BETTER..
Addiction(s):IF BUYING TOO MANY LINGERIE I NEVER WEAR IS AN ADDICTION THEN IM BLOODY GUILTY.
Biggest turn off:LIARS,POOR HYGIENE
Biggest turn on:A TIGHT ASS..
First thing you notice in the opposite sex:HIS ASS
Last book you read:HOW TO MAKE LOVE LIKE A PORN STAR;JENNA JAMESON

Preferences...

Chocolate or vanilla:VANILLA
Hot or cold:HOT
Coke or Pepsi:COKE..DIET OF COURSE
Truth or Dare:DARE
Rightie or Leftie:LEFTIE
20/20 vision or glasses:CONTACT LENSES
Big or small:BIG


Do you...

Speak another language:3.FRENCH,JAPANESE AND ITALIAN. FLUENTLY,WORKING KNOWLEDGE OF SPANISH,WITH FLUENT YORUBA OF COURSE.
Own your room or share with sibling:OWN MY ROOM
Have a sibling(s):5..FOUR SISTERS ONE BROTHER
Think that God should be male or female:BOTH?
Think that God should be white or black:MIXED RACE??
Like your handwriting:TOTALLY ILLEGIBLE
Type fast or slow:FAST WITH ONE HAND
Think you're beautiful/cute:BELLISSIMA
Sleep with a stuffed animal("teddy bears" and the likes in case you don't know):NEVER..I LEAVE THAT TO MY BOYS

Misc...
What is/are the thing(s) you miss the most:
Are you straight/gay/bi:NOW IM STRAIGHT...
Piercings:4 APART FROM MY EARS.GOT 2 TONGUE STUDS, 1NIPPLE RING,AND A BELLY RING.
How tall are you:5 FEET 6 INCHES
How tall do you wish you were:5 FEET 10
What would you change about yourself:MY TOO BIG TITS..IM A SIZE 6 IN CLOTHES WITH TITS THE SIZE OF AUSTRALIA..
What wouldn't you change:MY ASS..I STILL GOT A COMPLEMENT THIS MORNING...

a marriage can work irrespective of religion.when my parents met..my mum was a bhuddist and my dad a muslim.with time my dad stayed a muslim but my mum is now a born again christian.and they were together for over 30 years.

wow....the love of my life will have to be my sons balthazar and jared.reading your post i realised that space does not have to be filled by a man.but by the two little boys i will lay my life down for.those two boys really are the loves of my life....

the MUTHAF*&*ER..had better MOVE out of EARTH cus i will HUNT HIM DOWN BELIEVE THAT.

ynot...
i understand perfectly how you feel.and unless one has walked in those shoes....it can never be understood.i remember when my dad was diagnosed with a very very rare form of cancer. he was given 8 years..with ALL the prayers etc..nothing changed..he took worse..when the end came..i remember looking at him and asking..GOD WHY THE Bleep(yes i swore at GOD)because i had seen all my life this healthy man.and he had to depend on everyone..and i tell you it killed him cus he was a proud african man..and when i had my last conversation with him..it was on the phone..30 minutes later i walked upstairs to his room in the hospital and he had been pronounced brain damaged..meaning..all his faculties..were no longer functional...long and short a vegetable..when the doctors were trying to do stuff to him..i looked at him and his eyes spelt one thing...LET THEM LET ME GO..i went into the waiting room of the icu...and i got on my knees...and i told GOD..IF HE IS GOING TOLIVE A LIFE OF PAIN AND DISCOMFORT..IF YOU ARE NOT GONNA GET HIM BETTER..PLEASE TAKE HIM AWAY NOW AND LET HIM NOT SUFFER ANYMORE...i was still on my knees crying and praying when the doctor walked in..and i will never forget when i looked up and the doctors hands showed a NO sign and he mouthed..HE DIDNT MAKE IT.
the first thing i said was THANK GOD before i fainted.

so y-not..in my experience its perfectly okay to ask GOD to take someone who is in pain to go home and rest.GOD gives life...and if people can pray to HIM to give them kids(a form of life)?why cant we tell HIM to take away life that is in such pain.
its hard..but i just pray nobody on here ever has to face such a choice.

HAPPIEST MOMENTS:the day i had my twins balthazar and jared,the day i passed my bar exams in london,the day i bought my own house with my hard earned money.and the day i got my new fantastic job.
SADDEST MOMENTS:the day my dad died(i was in hospital with him,and i saw him go from healthy to brain damaged in 30 minutes),the day my twins father died,the day i was fired from my old job for doing coke in the bathroom.

IF MY PARTNER SHOULD slap me..i will slap him back TWICE..(dont ask me why)for even daring to THINK of it....and the other for DOING it.and thats the end.do me i do you GOD no vex.but the relationship is SOOO OVER AFTER THAT.

i work as a venture capitalist and wealth management consultant.i basically consult for large corporations around europe,asia,and a few other countries.fun,but hectic..and it sure as hell pays my bills.

@mikebuddy...like DUH....i said i would wish to die with my LOVED ONES SURROUNDING ME...not to TAKE THEM WITH ME...

the only song i have been listening to for the past couple of months is DANFO DRIVER by mad melon and mountain black.
its in my car,loaded on my ipod,in my house everywhere..i wake up to it every morning.....i am OBSESSED WITH THAT SONG.

the nigerian police are a nightmare.
i was on holiday in naija some years ago,and i went to see an old friend of mine who lives past is it called mile 2?anyway i got my driver to drop me off.with the instructions that he should come pick me up later.but till today i doont know where my dad got that driver from(mr.musiliu),HE CANT GO ANYWHERE ON HIS OWN,and if he drops you off somewhere,better make alternate arrangements to get back just in case he misses his way.anyhoo..he couldnt find his way back...and na lie..with all the phonecall to describe to him..he was getting even more confused.so my friend decided that i would have to take a public transport to get out of her area,i assumed it was a cab,but it was a danfo..(the mini buses),i mean i couldnt say no,she insisted on paying and thats what she could afford.the plan was...a danfo would take us to outside her area,and then when we get to the main mile 2,i would tell my driver to come and pick me up.
the beggining of my nightmare,as we got into the bus,i was hearing people saying..ahh..mammywater(im very very light),chinko(i look asian etc)..i was just like oh damn this isnt good..but i didnt wanna embarass my friend..but i kept quiet,as we got to the main place a number of us disembarked from the bus,and i guess some were waiting for another bus or cab or like me,my ride.
out of nowhere some policemen arrived and said we were gonna be arrested for TRESSPASSING AND LOITERING??
...thats how the mopol started saying trash like YES..WE HAVE CAUGHT YOU TODAY..ASHAWOS AND ARMED ROBBERS??.i stepped out of line(YESS..WE HAD BEEN LINED UP LIKE CRIMINALS)..and i tried talking to one of the officers...he just looked at me and started saying yess mammywater don come o...U TINK YOU CAN SHINE YOUR ASHAWO EYES AT ME?I WILL GET MY BOYS TO FINISH YOU...THEY WILL SEARSH YOU..AND THEY WILL SEARSH EFRYWHERE...INCLUDING YOUR..(WAIT FOR THIS GUYS,,,,)TOTO!!!!
i was like WHAT THE HELL IS THIS PIMPDADDY CHATTING ABOUT?i got a degree in law so i started quoting my rights....( AT THIS STAGE I WAS STILL BLOWING ENGLISH)..the men just looked at me like..KAI THIS OYINBO KNOWS NOTING..after what seemd like hours...and with everyone begging,i tried again...this time i spoke in yoruba to one i thought would understand...NA LIE...it was as if..they had a mission that night....anyhoo..it all got too much...i decided to call my dad....THAT WAS WHEN HELL BROKE LOOSE..the ringleader came snatched my phone and SLAPPED ME...BAD MOVE...I TRIED SLAPPING HIM..WORSE MOVE...thats how i was singled out with my friend and a few random people who they said looked LIKE MY GANG MEMBERS,well we were taken to the station...)at this stage my phone was going off cus my dad was trying to get me....but the bloody man..just broke my phone..i didnt say nuthing i was crying at this stage....THEY SPOKE EVERY TRASH IN THE BOOK..chinko will fight karate for us today..etc....it was almost funny..but not quite....at the station....we were harassed etc...and thats when i stated the habeas corpus,(at least everyones entitled to that)IN NAIJA ITS VERY DIFFERENT I LEARNT.. i heard detention etc..i said what?im allowed one phonecall AT LEAST....i started screaming and causing a fuss....the oga came...heard what happened...when he heard my name..he told the police man(TIE TI BAJE LENI))MEANING YOUR LIFE IS TOTALLY EFFED FROM TODAY)...he tried to settle and explain..i said NO WAY...i called my dad from the ogas phone,my dad called an ex- oga pata pata in the whole military,and the guy sent his orderly and some mopol guys,and they came to the station....lets just say all the men where rounded up after been dealt with SEVERELY i have NEVER in my life seen men beaten up so bad, THEY WERE BEATEN WITH GUNS,CLUBS,EVERYTHING IMAGINABLE.MADE TO APOLIGISE TO EVERYONE,they were taken away to a guardroom?i think thats what its called.from what i heard,they were posted to some outback village somewhere in the north afterwards.
and i just wondered to myself.....what if this had happened to someone who didnt know anyone