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We dey enjoy for Naija sha. If na Yankee na R.I.P especially for the one wey collect stick.

J2ff:
How you did not die running that kind of shift is a mystery that should be studied in all universities worldwide

Covid times so full WFH helped. If na time when we dey go office, I for fit just done collapse die for road

My Kenyan babe is a ride or die but I still no fit trust woman fully again.

She earns well and in 7 years has never asked me for 1 penny. Stayed by my side throughout my trial in the crown court (found not guilty) and my cancer treatment.

Even during my court case this lady offered to pay for my defence but I refused because I no want any woman to talk say na she save me. Instead I pick overnight shift in a factory after my full time job to fund my defence. 9am to 5pm day job, 6.30pm to 5 am in factory for 1 whole year.

If no be wetin my ex wife show me I for don marry am but I no fit marry again. The girl too real. God bless your Juma. Na woman you be!

I am in a similar position but my plan is not to take it to the grave. I recently survived stage 3 cancer but it looks like its come back and that is usually terminal.

I dont have a wife as I got divorced about 7 years ago but I have a girlfriend. I wont give her my password. She will get my spousal pension as she stood by me during my initial diagnosis. My password and control of my bank accounts and assets will be given to my son (will be 19 years soon) when it has become clear that my time left is short and I still have the strength.

Although I will have to do some cleaning up of my phone before that happens.

Konnektions146:
There wide arrays of reasons why that's so ,

Maybe the local driving to car lot and back, this may have been imported or assembled in 2024 for 2025.

Note- ir this was an issue, he bought at a dealership, ane the odometer can easily be rolled back to 2km and everyone is happy.

So 677km out of possible 300,000 km he would drive it is acceptable.

Cheers Buddy

Of course. Better they be honest than roll back. Its only cause delivery miles should be max 100km unless he has asked that the car be delivered and it was driven to him.

600km is Lagos to Ibadan x 3

SeaTrade:
N63m ,3.150m for comprehensive insurance,
66.150m total.
Motherfuckers say I gats buy the back cover too separate,another 3m
Thanks!

Why did it have over 600km though. Brand new should have 100km max and even that is a lot.

Onegai:
You're not stuck with her for life, you can walk away and not even file, commit bigamy, adultery (the world doesn't care, we're now encouraged to be as selfish as possible, self-care, choose you, chase your happiness etc).

You certainly feel like you're done right now and that's a valid emotion.

Emotions are rubbish, only a fool trusts them.

Reality is, you're going to be miserable. You will reach levels of misery you didn't even fathom. You think it is bad now, walahi you ain't seen nothing yet.

Then you'll stabilise, probably start dating again, feel euphoric in that new love and new freedom. But the romance will die eventually and you'll face your patterns, triggers and mistakes again. And this time you'll be forced to confront them (unless you want a second divorce).

And in having to work on it, you'll realize you could have put in that same effort in the first marriage and it will have survived and she was a better fir for you but now you're enduring what you couldn't tolerate before. That's when regret starts to really bloom, because regret is like a Shea butter tree, it takes time to grow.

Emotions don't last forever, you once felt happy as a young Nigerian now you hate the country. If you relocate, in 5 years time you'll love Nigeria so much even agege bread will make you weep in nostalgia.

I try and talk people out of a divorce because I've seen Divorcees 5 years, 10 years, 34 years down the line.

There's a reason that this below is now quietly being admitted to being true, by the people who spent decades telling us selfishness masked as self-care was best

You are extremely smart. You must be advanced in age and experience or a very consummate professional in this area. What tops it is that your signature says you are female. I find that really hard to believed because your submissions capture the a man's view so accurately.

The only part I disagree with you is the part where you talk about counselling. The case as described by OP is way past counselling IMHO.

Bleep cancer. I am a stage 3 CRC survivor. 19 months post-op and 12 months post adjuvant chemo. I have my next quarterly check up in 2 days.

I feel healthy but mentally you will never be the same. I am ways worried about reoccurrence.

R.i.p Alex

Be thankful that you are like this. I know you may think you are weak but this attitude will take you far and save you stress. You are just like my late dad and it used to irritate me that nothing would ever make the man lose his cool but now that I am grown and I have seen life I always long to be like him

Anger will only bring destruction once said lagbaja. I have lost a job before due to anger. I have been charged with 6 counts in the crown court before due to anger. I have lost money due to anger and vindictiveness.

Since I got diagnosed and treated for cancer I see life differently and now strive to avoid confrontation and anger. I fail sometimes due to a trait in me that I believe I inherited from my mom but I am 95% a better person than I was 3 years ago.

Keep being you. Use the legal resources available to you to resolve any issues or let them go if they are of no great significance.

I need some help. I am sorting out my late dad's estate. I recently requested a statement of shareholding and I am working on getting dividends that havent been paid e.g. GT Bank

Yesterday 8 May, a payment of N540,000 was received with ref: Custodian Div 37. I have read that Custodian made a dividend payment of N2.50/share on 8 May. The problem is I dont have Custodian as one the shareholding on my statement from the broker.

How do I go about sorting this out. I am going to speak to the broker on Monday but just wondering if anyone has a possible explanation of what is going on?

insidelife22:
Him don see 10 million dollars before
Even some UK citizens will come to Nigeria because of that amount of money 🤑🤑🤑

95% UK citizens will relocate to Nigeria for $10 million

What is the connection between the location of a burning bus and national security?

Sonnobax15:

His brain took him to the UK but his inability to control his konji is about to bring him back in a very disgraceful way any man who has successfully tamed his sexual urge has successfully solved more than half of his earthly problems.

This isn't about taming your sexual urge. This is a disease. Why would you try to link up with a child? A doctor should be able to afford UK olosho. £100 for 20mins

28 and 25

Divorced at 43 and 40

omooba969:
Your comment👆 qualifies for that of a passive murderer. 😐

You should be suggesting medical intervention.

I am a stage 3 bowel cancer survivor. I had surgery and chemo, and I am now 19 months post op and 10 months NED.

I dont know if it does anything but I boil and drink soursop leaves once a week.

lalabrother:
Stage 4 and her full hair still dey her head...

Make una dey play

Ignorance.

Cancer doesn't make you lose your hair. Some chemotherapy treatments do.

Tenrack:
that's even if one has money for treatment and testing

Thankfully here in the UK I didnt have to penny for the top class care I received. I don use all the N.I wey I don contribute while working. In fact I dey owe government now

nairalanda1:
For those of you who don't know, stage 4 is essentially terminal. IN other words, it's not a matter of if, it is a matter of when.

Here is how we stage cancer, for the mammary glands



How bad is the 5year survival rate for stage 4 cancer in Nigerian women: 13.8-16% . In other words, there is a high chance you join your ancestors in five years if you get the diagnosis.


So, ladies (and men, yes men..)...always check your selves and your body..and HERE IS HOW TO DO IT.

(Sorry I can't post image here, may be too xplict)

Spot on.

I am a stage 3 cancer survivor.

17 months post op

10 months post last chemo

NED as at last follow up in January

Next follow up in April

Next CT Scan in June

Next colonoscopy in August.

Even if you survive, the fear of it returning stays with you for long. It is very mentally challenging.

dont go to any other yeye European country. How old are you? and do you have a famil or children? how much do you earn in Nigeria?

kestolove95:
Is her choice to work or not..you are her husband go out there and provide for her and the kids nd stop lamenting

Lazy woman spotted. Ogun go take you. Aje!

Since I was kicked out of my house in 2019, I have tried:
Ugandan
Kenyan
Zimbabwean
Rwandan
Mozambican
Congolese

Make God take my life if I near Nigerian or West African women again. Only the Congolese was a winch like her Nigerian counterparts. The rest na Women dem be.

mynd1:
All I know is table will turn someday. Tinubu and his boys will definitely pay for their attrocities. Tinubu will be the first Ex president arrested when he leaves power.

Obidense sighted. Wishful thinking from Obidense camp

Survivor here!

Stage 3 CRC.

NED for 1.5 years.

Hardest bit for me is the emotional and psychological bit. Sometimes when I want to make medium to long term plans I am discouraged because I keep asking myself - will you be here to reap the benefits

Yes. Stage 3 Colorectal cancer.

Still fighting cause even though I am in remission its a mental battle against the fear of reoccurrence. Every belly ache, muscle pain or headache reminds you of the possibility of a reoccurrence.

I am ready now for any eventualities. If I make 50 in 21 months, I don try.

JuanDeDios:
A judge ruled to force an ADULT to undergo a medical procedure? I don't believe that.

It is impossible. That is reserved for minors

Dont get married and have regular check ups for any lurking diseases

If I hear constant puzzy. Married man wan tiff am? Those over 2 years in bondage with 1 child will get maximum once a month if they are lucky!

Source: Justia Law https://share.google/RGtFv1p4e5HZVAQoC

Some people are just born to be fraudulent. What are you scamming for at 66 years? He was already convicted of passport fraud in 2009 and served 24 months.

Women be oloriburuku.

But we men sef dey too do. Na so I borrow my ex LOML 20,000 Krona to complete her land wey she wan buy for Uganda. We come plan buy flat together for her country when I move there so I was sending her 5000 krona every month for 3 months until I soji say something wasnt right.

Na money still cause our fight. The werey go buy sofa of 50,000 krona to put inside sitting room for council estate. She dey expect make I put money, I just lookaway. The total money wey I take furnish my own flat including TV, fridge, sofa, bed x 2 no reach 50,000 krona.

Oya na we don break up send me my 35,000 krona, the werey dey laugh me. She no no say I get time well well and Google translator dey there. Na Kronafogden I take collect my money complete. She sef shock. Na principle thing. If she simply pleaded to let the money go, I for consider but to dey laugh me.... Nah we dont do that here

cr7lomo:
This yoruba government led by Tinubu de use their future play... them go soon know why fulani and Buhari and fulani judges no gree convict am....make something do am first ...na that time them go know how dangerous the igbos are

Chest beating par excellence. Always moving the goalpost

almayda:
Imagine if the flight was airborne,aborting a crash would have been more difficult but as usual,the argument will be about who is for or against who and certainly not about the the outcome of this irresponsible act.

Why would 2 people fighting on a plane cause a crash?

Maybe theor movements will tip the balance of the plane or what? Í