DigitalSignal: @OP:
I can appreciate your feelings! Happenings these days have been so disquieting that guys no longer feel safe in thoughts about their ladies being in the company of EVEN their own blood relations, let alone a neighbor taking her out for a suya engagement! *Thinking why she even told him in the first place! Is she trying to get something he is not forthcoming with? Well, what's my business!* Suya engagement indeed! Anyway, you do not own her; neither is she your property! You can only express how you feel about her going out with this guy whom she sees as a family friend and not to stop her! You can assess how much she wants you in her life by her reaction! If she wants you enough, she may not want to displease you just because of one day suya date! Or she may make you see why it's not harmful to go out with this neighbor of hers? What I'm trying to say is that you can't stop her if she decides on the contrary! You should let her know your point of view on issues such as this so that tomorrow you won't have problems relating to them, for you would have known where the other person stands with regard to these issues!

sexybash:
really den you have enough work to do

Veerodman: I do not know what kind of preacher you are but if she is indeed your woman and she knows you are going to marry her than "Hell No"she does not get to go to this function no matter what it is..But the question is..are you sure she is planning to marry you ? I think not...

andromida: Look at you discussing your insecurities on nairaland, able to share your fears and thoughts that concern you and your woman yet unable to communicate with your fiancee. Go tell her all you've typed here a solid,lasting relationship with capacity for sustainable growth requires the courage to be vulnerable which is what you are avoiding being vulnerable. Remember this is the woman you share the rest of your waka with,she will also explain to you why she does not see it as a big deal and then you reach a compromise or not.

alutacontinua:

Do u trust your babe?

lola.luv:
^^
Mr Pastor. What happened to asking your marriage counsellors and mentors for advice? Rather than coming to romance section?

alutacontinua:

I think it depends on the relationship between ur gal nd the guy in question. If they've been too close for comfort in the past, just tell her politely that you don't agree with the suya date. Nd stop this whole thing about pastor's wife and breaking up with her if she insists on going on the date. There should be a level of trust between you and the girl you want to marry, such that this should not be a big deal. But as per nigerian guyz and their fears, you can just tell her and if she's reasonable enough, she'll avoid such next time. I don't think telling her to cancel this particular date makes sense again since you didn't object since yesterday. Just let her go on this one and don't mind those people saying she'z slipping away, for God's sake, it's just suya. When she comes back, talk to her nicely about it and i hope she would consider.

As someone pointed out before, any girl that slips away from you because of a 'suya date' does not worth the whole thing in the first instance. Just relax, and see the picture for what it is. It's just a 'suya date'

chidyhels: Mr pastor,the truth is that you dont deserve this gal,wat u need is a pretender.

LewsTherin: Your fiancée? Have you asked her to marry you? She knows your intentions? How? Witchcraft? The Chineese say No matter how much a man wriggles his toes, it will never make him move.

Tell her plainly that you mean to marry her. Let her say plainly that she will be your wife (before you call her your fiancée). Then you can legally challange her willingness to go on a casual date with another single guy.

Till then, no block her road is you no wan drive with am!

No offence intended.

lecturerdabo: MOG, relax! notin mega! If d girl is yours, she will nt misbehave xcept otherwise so have a little faith and trust in her. Besides, U ve not made your proposal yet even if you ve proposed, you are not married yet so give her some space it will even help her make up her mind if you are the right person for her.