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[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=603970.msg7718439#msg7718439 date=1297521188]You are right. I have seen many African women not just Nigerian women who are divorced or widowed have nothing to show for. One thing I can say about AMERICA, if a married couple divorced EVERYTHING IS SPLIT 50/50 and the children's custody are shared.[/quote]Yep.50/50 of what u made while the marriage lasted

Its so sad how ladies have truncated their career on account of marriage. Sometimes its abt the husband not wanting them to work (arrant nonsense). Society has advanced way beyond that. Women go school to acquire degrees not just so they can prapare meals and warm a man's bed. There can be no real fulfilment. It is complete disappointment for whoever financed their education in the first place

^^^ Tpia is NL resident busybody. We all know her

Mrs Chima this your marital title seem to be getting u a lot of undeserved attention. I wish u hadnt included it in your username

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=603109.msg7718219#msg7718219 date=1297518656]Pennywise,

Do you think men should dress up sexy for the ladies?  It is not always the women that should be dressing sexy at all times.  Women like eyecandy too.[/quote]Its all about visuals with a man. With the woman generally the touch, smell, healthy account balance etc do the magic. But the trigger is that lingerie b/c without it there may be no touch .

obowunmi:
Don't mind the ugly winch ---- carry on with your delusions about having a "husband"

Killer on the loose. Somebody shld restrain this man

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=603109.msg7718137#msg7718137 date=1297517633]I didn't say flirting was bad but I DON'T like being accused of something I have no intention of doing.

I have always said that harmless flirting shouldn't be an issue but if YOU GO BEYOND flirting then some cities going to be smoking.[/quote]You must be kidding. No way u are that hawt

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=603109.msg7718116#msg7718116 date=1297517284]Flirt?  Who am I flirting with?  Seriously?  You actually think Jaybee and I ARE SERIOUS?  

We have established LONG TIME AGO if you actually READ THREADS that we are just friends who talking poo to each other.  We have partners and happy with our partners.  

I suggest that you FIND SOME BUSINESS and stay out of ours.[/quote]Come on flirting is no crime. I can flirt with you on NL while u remain the best wife that can be to your husband
[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=603109.msg7718124#msg7718124 date=1297517384]Well, I am going to save $100 dollars and jump in the bed BUTT unclothed!  Mr. Chima is going to get the goodies anyway so the lingerie wouldn't be necessary.[/quote]5secs could become 5hrs (all night long). I am sure he is prepared to make it 200 dollars for lingerie

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=603109.msg7718094#msg7718094 date=1297517049]You want your woman to spend all of the money just for FIVE SECONDS? [/quote]Worth every second baby.

Yawwwnnn

blayz0923:
i want to ask, y is Mrs chima always embroilled in controversies with the guys in here? i am new here, but i have taken out time to see comments and issues, and i am surprised at the way folks go dirty against one anoda. for the sake of peace, let us all be cautious, as we dont know 2mrw. sometyms we dont even know who we are trowing tantrums @. let us love one another, pls.

Please shut up. Thanks.

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=603109.msg7718054#msg7718054 date=1297516516]I hear what you are saying Pennywise, but the point is WHY SHOULD WE WASTE MONEY buying them if we are not going to wear them all night or day?[/quote]Its no waste at all. Those 5secs are crucial

What is the point keeping lingerie when it has already served its purpose? I reckon 5s or less is long enough

Hairat007:
pennywise, pound foolish i can feel your swagger

Its a dangerous joke. Dont try it at home.

joyblinks:
speaking from experience

P'wise is surplus for purpose

Cried

Fried

Grief

Dried

No offence was meant on my part (and I am glad non was taken). I may have to contact seun on how to masculanize my username - besides the blue 'm' (make it green perhaps!). You wont be the first person to think p'wise is some babe.

Irrespective of how you look at it, lying to get love kitty is really not necessary. Kitties are everywhere asking to be taken. If you lie to get it you are going to keep lying to keep it. Very soon lying gets woven into his very being. And soon everybody gets to know except him. And then he goes on to sire a generation of liars. . . . .

You will still be here defending him even though u know it is bad and u didnt have to when u had to chose a mate

Or you can joke abt his small dyck

MRbrownJAY:
thinking like a woman while dealing with MEN issues will have you fail time and time again: SEX IS FOOD TO SOME MEN OUT THERE!!!!!!

I assure u P'wise is no sissy and I am 3x the man you can be. But I digress.

Wanting sex all the time is perfectly normal for every male. But there is a problem when you have to obtain it by deception. In the end you cause pain for the victim and for yourself which can be financial, emotional or physical (as in a sound proper beating by the girls relation)

MRbrownJAY:
we all know that most people from these low social category/circumstances would look down on their peers and would rather date higher than their classes. should we blame these people from dreaming big? women do it ALL THE TIME and it´s supposedly ¨ok¨, who are we kidding here? how many (beautiful) poor women do you know that will GLADLY date a poor man? abeg!!!!

Your argument has been defeated with this rather sad example. You can dream big that all the money in the local bank belong to you. That is OK, but just dont try conning your way into taking possession.

MRbrownJAY:
do you see any difference between A) a guy pretending to be rich to get toto  and B) a girl putting on fake hair and what not to attract suitable men?
i dont. . . . . . . . in my world, its the exact same lie!
to each their own!

A woman putting on hair extension in order to look beautiful is simply adding value. I dont see how lying (for kitty!) adds value to a man who is supposed to be a symbol of nobility and moral rectitude.

What is the point in all these. That you can get the girl by being cute, suave, debonnaire or even rude, arrogant and repugnant (some girls love that too) but be honest about it. Let it be said that Nigerian men can be dishonest and fraudulent in business but in their love lives they can be trusted. We have been pushed into a recognized pattern of behaviour in business by rogue leaders but lying to get kitty? No excuse.

Mubarak is rich and corrupt yes. But if he is forced out, Egypt will fall right into the hands of islamic extremists. There will be utter chaos.

We cannot afford another 'Iran' in Africa franchising terror. This rebellion must be quelled by all means necessary

[quote author=Ma_J_Blige link=topic=601928.msg7705995#msg7705995 date=1297354252]Blame it on GEJ and Patience.[/quote]No need. That pair steal more per hour

At least one of these guys will be on NL forming gbogbo big boy.

Make we yab them

Tried

Sometimes I am genuinely ashamed to be an African.

What evidence will prosecutor have to present in court since it comes down to a suspect's word against his accusers!

In order words who is going to collect the gaseous evidence and how?

MRbrownJAY:
ladies, you have to understand that not all men got it going on THEREFORE these men would have to pretend to be someone else in order to get what all good men got.
I don't blame these men for trying, I blame these dumb asss women for falling for these cheap lies. Some women spread their legs wide open as soon as a stranger says "I love u", duh!
Anyone who got played in the past should take that as a life experience and move on with their live a wiser person!

If he has to lie, let it be over something more worthwhile. Kitty is no food.

Besides It doesnt matter how lowly a guy is there is always a babe that fits into same social category/circumstance. Frequently, liar wants to ascend beyond his social class (or preferred circumstance) in choosing a mate. Herein lies the problem.

Liars have no dignity. Usually they are lazy, fall short of peers in achivement and reckoning (they are otherwise called losers). So more often than not lying becomes a symptom of deeper malaise.

What is that popular refrain about the pot and the kettle again?

Did her handlers tell her she cant wake up one morning and unconvert from islam?

I am sure the Jihadists will like to make a high profile example

aguiyi:
some babes dey fall hands sha,imagine two years,the number of bleeping and other pain she went through and possibly investment into the relationship

U have to see lying as an art that some people are extremely good at. If you add that to the fertile imagination of a girl in love, she is a gonner. She might even begin to rationalize things that dont make sense about the guy.

I am not saying a guy must never lie (imperfect man living in an imparfect world). But it should not be over kitty. A little joking lie here and there can spice up your dinner but it must not be meant to decieve. If you think she may been misled, please admit your lie. That is how to be a gentleman

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Thank you! @ Topic
When i say why boys are disgracing men, goons be howling.
Even true players know how it's done.[/color]

Real disgrace like this ediot.

There was a couple I had admiration for. Girl, an office worker-pretty, polite always appearing cheerful. Guy, equally polite young not sure what he did for a living but I know his mother has a bungalow down the road in which he has a Bq to himself (I hear). I have been seeing them around for like 2yrs and everybody knew about them.

Anyway, pretty girl comes around with a card in hand inviting me to her wedding- I felt it was about time, living together and being not married and all that. Unfortunately it wasn't with the guy I knew. My initial reaction was, could she have been two-timing? She read my mood and decided to let me in on what I did not know- that Mr Polite and Young had a wife and two children in the village living with his real mother- a fact that was concealed from her until wify came looking for him over sustenance

I couldnt believe a guy like that would lie just to get laid. The question is why didnt he come clean when he knew he had the girl. This is one question I would have loved to ask him myself but all of a sudden his ubiquitous face has become a rarity in the neighborhood.

But then there is a small subset of the population who dont mind being lied to (they want to get laid anyway). These we have to discount for the good of our rosebud queens

For those in our (male) rank that this has become a disease here are a few suggestions

1. Up your game- Read wide.This way you truly get to know how the world works. Good communication skill, proper  etiquette and grooming comes naturally (girls love this).

2.Get a job. You have no business falling in love when you dont have a job! You will be causing heartaches all over the place. You become an easy prey to the spirit of lying. If you are in school, love and loving is an undesireable distraction. Run away from her even if she comes to you (setting you up for lies)

3.Try and be an all round good person and you will have her on your terms. Remember that a relationship built on lies will never last. Sooner than later she is going to find out and you are going to feel very small indeed.

The girls should stop being gullible (stoopid). Have a high index of suspicion. If its too good to be true, then . . . . . .

Guys with sisters, female friends even daughters should be on the look out for these pple.

rokiatu:
What do you mean

I have being a lasbian since I knew myself

We happen to be talkin about lesbian not lasbian (corrupt variant). Hope someone is not lying to you already

foyeks2001:
dont tell me u ve not been accosted by a girl who tried to lie her way between your legs too?

Actually they try to lie their way into my pocket. Its understandable (I enjoy it). But lying to get into a lady's kitty should be beneath any real man. I mean where is their pride

rokiatu:
No!


I am a lesbian.

I mean when u are not a lesbian

Msg is to guys. Ladies who have been lied to can comment

Have u been accosted by a guy who tried to lie his way between your legs?