₦airaland Forum

Fhemmmy:
ummmmm . . . interesting

^^^ We have a very rich and diverse menu when it comes to food in nigeria because of the various tribe and ethnic group. I wish we could face agriculture very well in that country.

Radiant:
Convincing his parents to let him "have fun"

Hahaha , its taking too long or did they sized his laptop instead of his passport so he couldn't post here anymore. Maybe they have tied him down at home i guess

Fhemmmy:
I think the father has more roles to play in such areas, they have to be the one to tell the boys and not only tell them, but live by examples, if a son see the father washing the dishes while Mom was cooking, the boy will know it is not a big deal to help around in the kitchen.
When the boy grows up and see the pix of dad changing his diapers when he was little, he will wanna do same too.

You are very right because that was how we were brought up in my own household without any gender preference for any kind of duties. The guys just have to do more because we were stronger.

The father should be a proponent and also show examples because we learn alot when growing up by observation. You know some men are always busy and not around to take of the kids like the ladies that's why i asked them to do such but your idea was really spot on.

Plato

Fhemmmy:
^^^ Men and their cooking.

We are not patient like the ladies

Fhemmmy:
what is that one?

It is the leave used for cooking gbologi soup and it has lots of water in it so to make it thick you don't add extra water to it. Just the leave, oil, pepper and other stuffs.

Perv Healer

stillwater:
All these men shouting 50-50, would likely hesitate to take part in house chores, bath the kids or cook for you. Their friends would likely say 'where is the madam of the house'? Is it not the same naija scenario again? I don't see how you want to be dragging who pays the bills in the house, when in a typical Nigerian family most women work and at the same time shoulders all the housework. Working mothers still come back home to cater for the family. You think those market women stash their earnings for themselves? But you would hardly see the husbands lift a pin in the house? According to then, it is not their culture to cook when they have a wife. It's beyond him to cook, if at all he does, it's once in a blue moon.

All these talk about if the man loses his job does not hold water with me because the women I know will help their husbands in need, would rather go hungry than let their kids go without food.

If it must be a 50-50 thing, it should also translate into all aspects of the family.

P.S I'm not in support of the girl.

Dear times are changing i don't think the new generation guys we have these days would want to use their wives as slaves but i know some still live under the our father and culture illusions. I am pissed off when as a bachelor and in your student days, men cook for themselves and do those domestic stuffs but suddenly stop it when they get married. 

I don't believe in 50-50 because it is never ideal to me,  both should work and find a suitable arrangement for paying the bills that satisfies both partners . The men should also help their wives when it comes to domestic duties and if he badly wants to watch arsenal vs ManU he should beg the wife to excuse him and make it up for her in some other way.

The ladies should also bring up their  male children to be responsible domestically like moi 

beingme:
Yes i agreed. A man should stand firmly on his feet and be the man he his @ all cost if he wants to retain his respect as a man

If a man can't stand his ground, why can't the lady leave instead of disrespecting the man? Must a man's respect be equal to his financial prowess? Haven't you heard the word contentment? If my wife works as a Nurse and earns 1 million naira a month and me as an engineer i earn 500, 000 naira every month. Should i go and kill my self to earn more than my wife because i want to be the man and retain my self respect?

We can use all these monies as partner and still live in peace or you can even help him to earn higher. I am sure we are not competing so the goal should be for us to work together to have a fulfilled marriage.

beolar:
I think we don't need to blame guys for saying that successful women are arrogant ,bossy and selfish.i also want to believe that this issue we're discussing shd not be seen in a woman's perspective alone.
I have seen men and women who are arrogant and bossy because they are sucessful.
I once attend a programme where MRS IBUKUN AWOSIKA was educating women on why they need to be submissive even when they are more successful than thier husbands,she gave a practical example of herself as been richer than her husband at a point in their marriage ,she supported him financially until the husband began to get contrats that changed his life,she said the man bought properties and cars she would not av bought with her own money for her.
Both men and women should try to see God in everything.right now i work,but i have a husband that cares and gives me whatever i need,so if i am more successsful tomorrow won't i support him for all he as done for me.

Thank you so much for this contribution and i hope everyone can see this.

Sholey Baba

Where is the poster?

No need to flog it any further, just take care i am out of it already.

^^ That's the truth and the ideal solution because i would not like to marry a woman expecting her to think like me only for her to have ideas like some posters above who are bringing up the issue of man enough and he is the head of the house.

@axeman85

You have said it all about the responsibility issue and don't be sorry both party needs it.

Fhemmmy:
Not in marriage, dude.

He might not be thinking about the future or considering other negative possibilities.

You can do that with real player or any video grabbing software.

Shinatu:

I am very much against abuses on NL, but I had to laugh over this one. 

Brother me too i don't like abuses but that statement really provoked me.

sayso:
@pharoh TEN BIG thumps for you there broda.some of this little chickens.

No mind that little brat wey no dey think before she make some statement. She dey use style throw cheap shots for my dear Nigerian queens because she dey for yankee.

[quote author=king-child link=topic=350711.msg4910300#msg4910300 date=1258033464][Thunder fire you for that statement wey you make so]



@ pharaoh
guy i don laugh belefood
why i come even enter canteen sef?[/quote]So you go buy food for me na i dey hungry after i make that statement. I use my last strenght na  

[quote author=THE-AMAKA link=topic=350711.msg4910327#msg4910327 date=1258033674]gosh, typical nairalanders for you.
cant even stay on topic before the color turns yellow.
na wa oooo!!
anyway its true what i said, some people in nigeria may not be aware of these beauty tips, and there aint nothing wrong with that.
so just shut the fuk up and back to the topic.[/quote]I have told you before you lack humility, respect and proper conduct in a public forum like a teen who is ready to learn something useful. Instead of you taking correction you here blabbing about going off-topic like you are not guilty of such in other threads. There in the USA where you  are i would take it from your statement that all the girls there are perfect when it comes to beauty tips?

Must you mention Nigeria in that statement? don't you realize you are degrading the girls there and the country? You are now insisting that you are right because some of them are not aware. The truth is some of them are not aware just like it is  obtainable in every other places but you have no reason to bash them like that.

So take correction and stop thinking you are confident about the fact behind your statement because you are just sounding arrogant.  The line between confidence and arrogance is very thin kid.  So learn from your mistake should it be necessary some other time.

EOD.

"The wisest men follow their own direction".

Euripides

ekitikan:
[/quote]Brother you have spoken my mind and to say the truth i have never hit a woman before and i don't have such intentions or trying to justify it. She won't even block the way for me when i see the signs i call it quit and use style run away or just shut my mouth. When she is calm you can always talk to her and pass your message across which is then an ideal environment or situation.

My argument is just that we should try to tell them through this medium not to be contentious all the time. The ability to control our emotions as men varies  so not everyone will apply the principle you have highlighted.

[quote author=Maxidoe link=topic=350151.msg4910043#msg4910043 date=1258031259]I feel u, no shaking, for me,death should be, don't compare it with a woman hitting u first, lol,

Okay good to hear that and same with me too but i am not comparing the too based on crime but the reasons behind those actions.

Don't you think it in addition ( To death )  we should address the reasons why there was a murder in the first place?

Can't we address the issues behind the initial hitting in the first place? You can see my reply to the other poster above.

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Maxidoe:
1.The topic is why should a man not hit a woman and not vice versa

2.If it is a woman,then sure no scene u cant walk away from

3.That is why you are the man(Naturally women are emotional and find it difficult to control themselves)

4.Of course but bro you know you cant compare

5.You should be conscious of it if they are not,that's why you are the man

6.Then maybe cowardice is

7.Its all upto u, it dosent matter if the society thinks 1+1 is not 2

I would always condemn a man who hits a woman,cos their is no reason to,i wud always condemn a man who hits my sister,niece,cousin,wife no matter the reason

I get you brother and i would also not take it likely with someone that hit my sister as well but i just don't want us to be blind to the issue behind why a woman should hit a man first?

If we continue looking at the solution from the male angle then we are not helping the female side of this issue. I answered those questions because i would have addressed this issue from the source. Lets address the cause of this hitting in the first place. A woman should control her emotions and a man as well should not provoke a lady to loose her emotion.

If we can sort that out then we will all be fine because we live in a complex society where there is no standard for addressing such issues. Just take the case of rihanna and Chris brown.

If i may ask you what is the best punishment for a murderer?

My brother no vex abeg.

Lively

Interesting thread

ekitikan:
first thing first,I do not support or condone violent at all (male versus male,female versus female,male versus female) but if we look into human behaviour we would note that violence is an in born thing eg a child that his biscuit was snatched by his mate would either cry or fight back.
Haven said this there are so many reasons for a man not to hit a woman,but if we want to be realistic about it,there are very few marriages that have not experienced the husband hitting the wife once (please i stand corrected).So many people are guilty of this and it takes great self control and a great deal of patience not to fall into the temptation,however there are some women who are very difficult to live with but i still dont think beating her up is the solution as cutting off the head is not a solution to headache.

So whats the solution if i may ask? I would like to hear from the ladies what solution they have for a difficult woman or a woman that has a taunting and bad mouth.

Maxidoe:
1.Because you are supposed to be a gentleman

2.Because there is no scene you cant walk away from.

3.Because you are supposed to have self control

4.Because you have loved ones,sisters,cousins,nieces.

5.Because you ought to have self respect and esteem

6.Because you are a man,strong and not a coward

7.And most importantly BECAUSE YOU CAN SUBDUE A WOMAN WITHOUT HITTING HER EVEN IS SHE HITS YOU FIRST,that's if you are a real man

1) What about the gentle ladies?

2) Wrong not all scene brother

3) What about the women?

4) She also has the same thing like the man

5) Applicable to both parties

6) Strenght is not the only weapon for fighting

7) who justifies this subdue you are talking about? You or the soceity?

Enough of all this real man talk lets address the real women as well.

@Post

A man should not hit a woman if she did not hit him first but otherwise i would not want to condemn the man for hitting back. Both actions are not justifiable so lets leave the real and gentle man out of the issue. Treat an issue from the source and not from the result.

[quote author=THE-AMAKA link=topic=350711.msg4907721#msg4907721 date=1258005497]i think everyone knows those beauty tips. lol
but maybe some people in naija arent aware of this, so its good to hear these things.
i wish her the best on her show and hope its a success.[/quote]Thunder fire you for that statement wey you make so 

Depends what kind of videos you want to watch?

Music, Movies, Sport Games or Just any videos. Let me know what exactly you want to watch.

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I say i no like wahala na

Inphat i be pwor bwoi

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