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]Good Morning House

I managed to get in contact with Moca last night and she said a big thank you to everyone and that your posts have been really uplifting to her.

Please lets keep her in her prayers and continue to encourage her. It is well.

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My condolences to moca's family at this trying time

Smh.....

Idowuogbo:
Abeg na battle of epistles o jare.. stale news!

I wonder...

See para

This thread should be called philosophy of love

See theories jamming axioms

BOLT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



But I don't trust these guys anymore

sod09:
from my findings , 70% true is saying AW will get Lars bender nd a striker either benzema/cavani b4 d end of transfer window

Let's see

It's that time again

Cats and dogs now equal to gender differences

I wonder who's the idïot

Smh...leaping into something beyond your comprehension

An0nimus:
Grammar o

@pickabeau I stumbled on the old Mad Max trilogy and i'm done with the first 2. Not bad if you ask me, the 1st part was just there till the end when Max lost his wife and kid. Road warrior was awesome . Hope the 3rd one don't disappoint. After that then I'd watch this new one.

oh and Sabotage was cool btw. I loved the twist at the end.

Just watched fury road :

I loved it....

Started slow...but lots of fire and explosions

sod09:
lol
U want him to admit d players are not good enough

Lol

Spy360:
Wenger has too much confidence on his players and they do let him down.

I thought he should buy this summer to challenge for the title since we are no longer paying off debt. It's not late anyway, we are watching. Liverpool next.

Do you mean wenger overestimated the quality he has in his team rather than this so called letting the manager down.

crackhaus:
Yes o, plus picture sef.

A Nigerian woman proposes and you refuse...omo na to sleep with one eye open that night.

Na so lol

Kimoni:
Not inconsistencies...contrary opinions. Some for, some against

Ok

Kimoni

I am just wondering why you think there are inconsistencies

We are equal
Man can propose
Women should too...


Crackhaus...superb post

the priest angle is funny

Na picture them go use do d jazz

Spy360:
Objectively speaking, if Man City sign Kelvin DeBruyne, they will win the league. Chelsea is talking of Pogba after signing Pedro.

Wenger do come up with surprises on the last day to make us have the last laugh, but will he surprise us again this summer? Dunno.

Siddon looku mode be that..till Aug 32nd

freecocoa:
Why does it remind you of me oga pick?

I think it resonates with a lot of what you say about women having a more direct input in relationship directions

edwife:
I don't know for others but for me it is necessary,who doesn't want to be the queen of her own castle? I know i want.

Lol

Why must a woman be queen

She can be king Na...

A queen is still by a king...

tearoses:
According to Nollywood, Women propose all the time . . . .they are just subtle about it
Babe when will you meet my parents
Babe what are your plans for me
Babe I hope you are not wasting my time
All equal indirect proposal

Or get preggers...

edwife:

I have watched a reality show where a woman dated the man for 7 years and decided to propose because he wasn't.

Gosh i don't wanna be in that position,the guy didn't just let her know that he wanted it that way and he believed that she was on the same page with him,because she never brought up the discussion about them getting hitched.

She had no option than to break up with him.For me it's simple really,put a time frame to years you can date someone and if the time expires,discuss with them from there you can easily know the next step to take.

Would love to read from frecocoa....it will be interesting.

Interesting..why all the formality... we are equal afterall... but this story begs another question

Why bother with a name and a ring
These are modern times..
Do modern women need an 'archaic' institution to feel fulfilled

westbrom has become a sort of bogey team.... berahino
But i think they will lose to Mou who needs 3 points to stave off criticism

he should just take a sacrifice to beg EVA

edwife:
Amen o.Let's hope so.

edwife


Corrected

Therefore a man shall be pulled by his wife to leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

what a man can do...

edwife:
Nah,not for me.

I love being a woman in every form of the word beside i might be a modern woman but still old school.

Did u notice this line from her response... hating having to wait on the man to determine the course of the relationship
funny it reminded me of freecocoa...

I was wondering and waiting and hoping for a ring while he was the one with the option to take action. It was one of the few times in my life when I didn’t feel like I was being an active participant in it. For women who feel a similar way, I absolutely understand why they would take the initiative to propose.

edwife:
Absolutely but you could get a good deal when buy it upfront and many sites have good bargains.

True...

the final next year will be in Milan

may we be able to witness that date by His Grace

well chelsea should be able to get its first three points

edwife:
Oh really?cool
I will go for the Champion league final this time around,missed it this year.Unless Chelsea doesn't make it.

That will be awesome..
UCL tickets are just too pricey though

Generally for big matches though... i prefer the fanzones.... the atmosphere is awesome

Dear Demetria: 

A friend is considering proposing to her boyfriend. I am against it, not because of gender roles but because a man will commit to you when he is good and ready. How do you feel about women proposing to men? —Anonymous 

Demetria: In theory, I’m not against women proposing to their boyfriends. I was once a girlfriend who discussed marriage with her significant other and was anticipating a ring. It did trouble me that because I chose to abide by tradition, the entire timeline of the future we were planning together was being determined by him.


I was wondering and waiting and hoping for a ring while he was the one with the option to take action. It was one of the few times in my life when I didn’t feel like I was being an active participant in it. For women who feel a similar way, I absolutely understand why they would take the initiative to propose. 

That said, I never considered proposing. I consider myself a modern woman, but in many ways I’m very old-school, and I like the idea (and romance) of a man going after what he wants and doing the asking—whether it be a first date or proposing marriage. It seemed contradictory to me to want a man who is a leader and then not let him lead by asking him to marry me. For women who want a leader type of spouse—and not every woman does—I wouldn’t recommend proposing. 

But those are my thoughts. What really matters most here is how guys think about this scenario, since sometimes they are the ones being asked the big question. I asked several what they thought about being proposed to by a woman, and I’m glad I did. I’d guessed that most would find the idea emasculating, but many of the men who shared their thoughts—on the condition of anonymity— weren’t turned off. 

“Women talk about ‘leaning in’ and all this empowerment stuff, yet sit around and wait and hope that their man proposes to them is the most ass-backwards thinking around,” one man responded. “You champion liberation and equality, yet feel that it’s a man’s place to propose because ‘that’s the way it should be; that’s the way it’s always been.’”

Another gentleman echoed similar sentiments: “If we’re in a mutual relationship and heading in that direction, why shouldn’t either one be able to propose the next step? I think this is another vestige of our society’s paternalistic approach to relationships. My manhood would not be threatened by this.”
He added, “All of that said, if you never in all the time we have been seeing each other reached for a dinner check, don’t all of a sudden get liberated.” 

But other guys weren’t so on board. In fact, they were adamantly opposed.  
“I would not want to be proposed to, and if I was, it would be indicative of a bigger problem,” one man responded. “I’d wonder if she thinks I’m a bitch, if she thinks I pussyfoot around, if she thinks she has to take control of a situation. All of that epitomizes emasculation. These are not ideas that I want my wife to have in her head about me.”

Most of the men who responded implored women to wait for a proposal. “There’s something to be said for some traditions,” one man said. “Let us have this one, please.”
The biggest reason? Your man’s not proposing is a sign that he isn’t prepared to or, worse: You aren’t the one. 
“The fact that I have not yet proposed means that I’m not ready,” said another man. “Saying yes to her proposal would be a decision based on emotion [not wanting her to feel bad] rather than logic and principle.”

Yet another man said a proposal from his lady would be a huge turnoff: "Thirsty and weak,” he began. “Those are the qualities that I don’t want in a wife. If my current proposed to me, I would feel bad for her and wonder how did it get to the point where she is so desperate. If she’s proposing instead of me, then I must have doubts about her candidacy as a wife.” 

My take? If a woman is seriously considering proposing, she should communicate with her partner to see how he feels about that and base her decision on whether he’s flattered or appalled by it. (My husband wandered into the room as I was writing this. I asked him about me proposing to him. His response? “Hell no!” and a sideways glance before walking back out.)

For the women who decide to go this route, I have only one request: If you’re going to get on one knee to propose, wear pants. Or just stand in your dress or skirt. This may be a petty thing to harp on, but I’ve seen so many viral videos of proposals that depict women on the ground in a skirt, and I’m always more put off by the flash of undies than the idea of a woman asking a man to marry her. Being nontraditional doesn’t mean compromising class.

Demetria Lucas D’Oyley is a contributing editor at The Root, a life coach and the author of Don’t Waste Your Pretty: The Go-to Guide for Making Smarter Decisions in Life & Love as well as A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life. She answers your dating and relationship questions on The Root each week. Feel free to ask anything at askdemetria@theroot.com.

Ladies thoughts?

I will like to hear from the modern women
MizMyColi freecocoa Kimoni edwife ewuro4 Sugarbee misssclassy Ujsizzle Tohpahz

edwife:
Yes London precisely but when i was much more younger been in stadium in Johannesburg and two French countries where i spend a large part of my childhood.

Cool


I went to nelspruit stadium two years ago for Africa cup of nations

That your side .Emirates, old Trafford

Saving for bernabeu n noucamp

That's where it's better...security which is not the best here....

edwife:


I have always been like this,just that you don't see much of it.

Pub? Let's go there,my fav spot with my brothers after coming back from the stadium.....

Cool...
Which stadia you been to?

I assume you in England..

Kimoni:


Oh Lord!! Pick, you used to be gentle ooo

I'm gentle na

Kimoni:
All of them

ok

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MizMyColi:
You know how we roll
Kindly unquote

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