₦airaland Forum

Bonjovi13:
I'm going to be frank with you. There are two ways to analyse your behaviour.

1. You have been trained to see a husband as one who is responsible for carrying the entire responsibility in the home no matter how heavy or difficult. He is a man so he has to figure out how to sort things out. You as a wife, just sits pretty and let yourself be taken care of.

That's your ideology and you probably come from a home where your father takes care of the entire responsibilities in the house whilst your mother has her own domestic role. Nothing wrong with this ideology.

But please don't get married to a young guy who is struggling to make a living and build a career from scratch. Marry a well to do man or a man who comes from a well to do family.

2. You lack situational awareness, emotional intelligence and empathy. This is evident from your lack of understanding of the mental and emotional state of your husband. How can you not know that your husband is feeling isolated and let down. How can you not know that you husband expected you and your family to be his friend and make things easy for him knowing that he is coming into your family as a son.

You and your family cut him no slack and made him get into debt just to marry you. Imagine you saying that he should pay because he won't pay twice.

Did you bother to ask him if he has the money or how things would work out after the wedding.

After he sorted the entire thing in the list your family still asked him to buy cow, rent hall. His family still provided food. What did your family do apart from buying clothes for themselves and inviting all their friends. Did they even think how they would relate with him after the wedding?

Now the young man is indebted and no one cares.You noticed his mood and he opened up and that was your response.

You had better have a rethink and apologize to him. But if you ask me, the foundation of trust and vulnerability has been impaired. It may be difficult to repair. You may have lost him because he has emotionally checked out.
You need to humble yourself and plead for his forgiveness.

abba190:
sent you 100k.

soccerlite:
You can ask

Especially if it's not a single round interview or written test

zezebabs:
If the girl pussy is virgin, i can DO no sex before marriage

But if na gbaz gboz , no sex before marriage is not possible

Puss360:
Infact sef... While dating, we will do till we get tired...
I need to know the man I'm getting married to....
If it's too big or too small...
If na who go kill me with sex ...
I'll know all these before marriage...
I must make sure we are compatible before marriage...

Wedding day, I'll wear white and stand on alter like virgin...
After all only God and the man besides me know I'm not "Pure"... But who cares...
Las las pastor will wish us "Happy Married life"...
That's all that matters..

shine12:
I have created this post to start an initiative of offering assistance to individuals who are unknown to me. Every week, I aim to send 10,000 Naira to a Nigerian stranger(I will pick an account number at random if there is more than one), as I understand the challenging situation in Nigeria. This small gesture is my way of giving back to my country, even though I am currently living abroad. I have the means to consistently afford this amount, even when facing unpaid bills, as it is less than £10.

Most of my siblings are also living outside Nigeria, and through this initiative, I hope to extend a helping hand to those in need back home. I find fulfillment in anonymous giving, acts that only God recognizes and rewards.

Through this platform, I wish to continue being a blessing, in my own small way, to any Nigerian in need, regardless of tribe, language, or religion. I am not seeking any personal information from anyone, nor do I want this page to be a platform for scams. Only post an account number or send your account number as a DM. Once you receive the alert, come back here to mention the alert received so I am sure you have the funds.

My desire is to offer genuine help and support to fellow Nigerians, spreading a spirit of compassion and unity. Together, we can make a difference and alleviate the burdens faced by those less fortunate in our beloved country.

Let us come together and embrace the joy of giving without expecting anything in return. May we all find ways, no matter how small, to make a positive impact on the lives of others.

DocJoseph:
Dear Nairalanders, I need your help. My girlfriend always complain that I can't knack her for 20 minutes. The Truth is, I always last for 5mins... How can I last for 20 minutes naturally before I cum or ejagulate?
No Insults pls....

FictioneerHQ:
Dear Plight21,

Thank you for drawing our attention to this. We would route this to the appropriate quarters and everyone who participated in the writing tests but were not chosen, would be sent an email requesting for account details and credited accordingly.



Good!

It's important you keep your agreement.

Warm Regards,