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Poster,
U r right. Atimes i dey pity very ugly,lonely n cheerless ladies. I do pray 4 them sha 2 get their own man. Many of them will shower u wiv attention when u smile @ them just out of courtesy.

@mamaken.
I still maintain that d reason is mostly economic but not in every case. U r d first woman to say she is ugly to me. Just fink u want 2 b modest. Does ur man has d same level of educatn as u sorry 4 poke-nosing

The reason is mostly ECONOMIC.

Guy,i think befriending for some time will u especially gaining confidence in her presence. Always try not 2 fantasize about her b4 approaching her .

@mobo,
U r very funny in an offensive way to our black sistas. Think u make nl interesting sha

@poster,
I fear 4 u ooo. People here can stone right there in front of your computer for dare posting an 'archaic' n 'prehistoric' opinion here. Some pple here r unrepentant.

These days there is nothing special about about wedding than to wrack your brain about d huge debt incurred. As for se.x, d couple were living together b4 d wedding.

My defination of trophy wife?

Pretty, well educated,well groomed n with a sharp dress sense. This r just d physical/quick-impression attributes.

@duchess,
Ideally a wife must b faithful n supportive. I am never an advocate of a man dropping his wife as a result of newly found fame or wealth. However, i fink a man should get it right from day one,his future plan/ambition should b taken care of when choosing a wife
Personally, i will never marry a woman who is not a univ graduate,good looking n wiv a respectable personality.

Its a very cmon thing. I personally attribute to guys not giving mind to their prospects,aspirations,ambition when choosing their wife. Many got married in their late 20s or early 30s when they were still trying to get their footing n as such marry a lady based on their prevailing condition/level.
My advise is that men shld marry ladies they will b comfortable wiv years afta marriage regardless of their positn then. I was just laughing reading a thread on Patience Jonathan's watery use of english;this is one of d reasons y men change wife when they attain high level.

Oedipus Rex.

Why was u all killing english like this¿ I was take u back to primary 1 to read english betterest.

@ baby.me,
As much as i know its nota sin but am always eager to learn.
I presume u r a xtain,can u pls show me where its recorded a sin in d bible.

@viva,
Hv u read d response of queeneve who i presume to b an american;america is aguably d most civilised nation in d world. Do u consider r view to b prehistoric. This is d problem am having with some myopic black pple especially nigerians. When some of them v opportunity to live in d west,they tend 2 b more civilize than civilization itself.

Mind u living-in lovers r found everywhere be it uk,togo,mali,us etc. The fact is that its not d best.
Btw,u dont need to b offensive,indecent n rude when making ur point. We r here to learn from each other.


Viva,from ur responses i put it to u that u dont know men regardless of d number of them u may v slept wiv. No of.fence sweetheart

Its animal-like for a guy 2 b quick @ assaulting wife/fiance. However,ladies whose mouth runs faster than type-writter, ladies that nag r liable to assault from less expressive men.

I will also implore ladies to develop respectable personality,get gud educatn,b able to stand up/out;assault on ladies to some extent betrays lack of respect 4 a woman.

@ d risk on stepping toes here ,i am yet to see where its written in bible that its a sin. Methink d thinking of it as a sin is one of d western influences on xtainity. Eventhough some pple v came up wiv weak premises such as 'God created one woman 4 Adam', etc.

However, i will advise U to MARRY ONE WIFE. I can never v more than 1 wife in my life. U can never get enuff of d love of a woman that truely love,care n adore u.

I v observed dat many ladies dont know d mentality of an average man. U can from responses of guy on this thread v a clue if u wise enuff.
Most guyz think its not d best even those dat v done n r doing it.
U ladies care/dream about a 1daful relationship/marriage which is good,but in trying 2 v it u make fatal mistakes. Guys fool around but seem to b more careful when it matter most.

I pity a poor man im today's world n wiv d ladies we.

Can see u r in love, wish me luck too

@viva,
I wish u gudluck wiv your 'wise' believe. As a man i luv d ancient n 'prehistoric' longlasting idea which v recorded countless successful n longlasting marriages in 'prehistoric' Nigeria.
Any man will quickly vote for lady living but frankly its not d best. If u v gotten d desired commitment going to live with your ex,u should perhaps b married to d guy now.
The gender gap in terms of mentality n perception of opposite gender will always be there;this is why u continue to see many question that r relationship centered on romance n family section on NL. Most pple objecting to this idea on this thread r guys n some of them might had or may b doing it. Many relationships wear out b4 d marriage

Gamalin 20

@idowu,
I totally disagree wiv u dear. U can know your would-be-spouse without living 2gether. Personally i detest dat idea. Its not ideal,moral n scriptural. But as a guy i would gladly accept a live-in lover @ least i will v free se.x at will.

Frankly,there is not much u will objectively knw about other than se.x n playing a role of a wife without bride price.
@op,
As par commitment,i think by having QUALITY TIME,trust&luv will prove handy

@x-factor,
What do u mean about your last statement?

@onstelly,
Hope u r not 1 of those ladies that depend on guys for life. As much as i like guys giving out money to their girls for hair-do,buy them jeweleries strictly out of love,i like girls that r independent. I think d fight for GENDER EQUALITY should start from there.

This is a question v heard many times but sincerely a difficult one to answer
People general v a natural inclination to develop feeling for anybody of opposite sex. Things/attributes like beauty,charm,money,brilliance,character etc can make one more attracted to a person.
Personally i dont think money should b d main that should attract u 2 an opposite sex;i think xter,sensitivity, responsiblity r better. However nairaladers,d LACK of MONEY can FRUSTRATE what people call LOVE. LOVE is ABSTRACT,CARING N FOND MEMORIES MAKE LOVE REAL. Partially u need money to do the two well.

He must be tall,dark n handsome
He must b a powerful dresser.
He must b charimastic
He must b well built with 6 packs
He must not v pot belly
He must b God-fearing but worldly
He must b faithful.
He must b rich.
He must b gud in bed

NOW HE MUST HAVE GUD ACCENT . Ladies,what do u want in a man. Mr perfect exist just in novels n movies.

@Poster,
Eventhough i bliv in dressing fine cos i think it makes a statement about one's personalty n besides it make u feel gud n more confident but i fink leave a man who is gud cos of dressing is pretty irrational.
As some posters v quipped u can dress him to your taste. This will b 1 of your contributn 2 ur relatnshp. Think @ 26 u shld b more realistic. I would v pardoned an under- 23. Wish u d best.

Tnx ink n creamish. U both sound more as feminists. While i think u v ur points i also bliv dat a guy's initial approach atimes will determine d lady's game. Raw guys n se.x hunters tend to get more girl than d church boys. I v overheard a lady telling her friend of not having s.ex wiv her marriage-bound born again bf n yet she carries as many guys as she like.
Dear any objection?

@creamish,
U got me quite wrong. Am not arguing about how whorish is it to get a lady laid afta 3days but its just funny to me how a lady gives herself out quite cheaply 2 a guy who care less n makes ordinary communication difficult for d guy who seem honest n care more.
Dear any reason?

Seems to me that an average black south african man is polygamous by nature. I stand 2 b contradicted.

Concerning Mugabe n his wife,such a thing is not unexpected when a man is married 2 sum1 that is 45 younger. The woman can never b fulfilled in such a union especially sexually.

I wonder @ d reaction of the first 3 respodents but bliv me the post is right.