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ideology:
Seriously I wonder why some people are not seeing the red Flags in the relationship.


Any risk or uncertainty must be carefully calculated.
If I may ask what do you really know of the man in question??

here's the reality, selling at a drug store is totally living the man's dream.


Did Op(Poshe7) not present her case and came up with wonderful suggestions, why can't the man come to the middle, where Poshe7 is??


Yes Many are doing it, and I will support them depending on the scenario …
Does living your job to sell a drug store sound the same as flying overseas??
are you aware Poshe7 is just a year at work and at most a recent graduate?
Did you and your friends leave your jobs to sell a drug store??
did you and your friends get ultimatum from your hubby to quit the job or forget the marriage??
Are you aware that Poshe7 has a family she is responsible to?? did your siblings depend on you at the time you left your job??


My dear, am a Man,
Poshe7's hubby took a selfish approach.
You can hype marriage as you want to, let every other lady see marriage as a big achievement, but Let the truth be told, let every other lady jump at the opportunity just to answer MRS,

Poshe7, get a life, pursue your career, get to the top, there are many men out there, you will definitely meet someone that will reach a compromise with you.

Never you accept a drug store deal, if you are settling down, tell yourself the kind of business you want to do, let the man employ someone to sell his drugs.

God bless you, have a blissful and colorful future ahead.

Pls don't even try to dial his number or be tempted to send him text messages

Thanks.

cococandy:
Take one @ OP
Better pikin.

He wants to open medicine store for you to sell paracetamol without license.
The way people think they can dictate the destiny of others

Maybe he thought if he mentions marriage you will drop your life and follow him.

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Ewuro4:
Was he earning more than you?

d difference isnt much

kaboninc:
Okayyyyyy. Nothing to 'nitpick at'

I can't and do not have the strength to scan the threads now and actually show you some proofs.

Since you don't get my point that am not interested in her making the right decision or not, then okkaay.
thanks....

@ kabonic, people have different ways they express themselves,

mine was of anger and disappointment, dats y i started my post dat way.

i didnt come here to justify my action, jus came to seek people's opinion on if i was wrong in a taking a bold decision.

i replied the people i wanted to, that does not mean i didnt take note of people dat condemned my action'

whichever way, that does not change the fact that i have moved on with my life.

aflyingbird:
that's not true . she gave the dude two options and he turned them down. what was she s'pose to do, quit her good paying job like he wanted, leave her small siblings n family without help ? she came her to ask if she did the right thing and she did

Thank you sis.

i wonder if i luk like a joker in his eyes

Thanks all for d contribution, maybe the marriage was never meant to be.

shrekandfiona:
you made the best decision in your situation. You were not yet married yet wanted you to quit and marry him? Thank God you stood your grounds. Marriage comes with a lot of sacrifices though especially when the kids start arriving but those sacrifices should be borne by both parties well communicated and agreed upon.

However your ex seemed like a dictator (no offence meant though) and a traditional man whose view about womanhood is limited to the home front with women been seen but not heard

He isnt a dictator, but when it comes to him being traditional, u not far from the truth.

prissyluv:
From your post,you said the man CLAIMS to love you. In my understanding you are not sure of his love and promises.

Well,I wouldnt say you made the wrong decision but search your heart and know if this man's love is genuine and that he means well for you.
With that you can know if he will be able to open a pharmacy shop for you as promised. Honestly,no man will like to stay apart from his family esp in a young marriage.

Another thing is,if you quit this job now,can he in the interim help out in catering for your family till when he opens the pharmacy shop.

Ask yourself some salient questions and know if they justify with your decision.

My dear, the truth is you can never finish knowing a person, you might think you do,

only to be disappointed later in life.

Mrbigman1:
Op, why not give him an option of relocating to PH and join u?

Getting a job is something else but one have to make a good decision.
U have made a decision but mind u, I advice most married women to quit any job dat takes all dia time in marriage and raise kids den u can fly d world around. Dis what I did to my sisters. Dey all quit dia jobs for teaching, wen dia kids re up to boarding school level, dey can jump up and down but child upbringing is very delicate.

As an oil services employee like me, we dnt stay one place. Sometimes, six months u never see ur house and wen u travel to ships, it's so unsecured for women to work dia cos u no what I mean naw.

as for ur kid sister and school, u guys should have worked things out well if u really loved and wanted to be with him.

D guy is not evil, his considering his future family which me too would ask for.
Every man has his or her own ideology and if u dnt have any idea, please dnt just jump and call him names.

My humble option

Well, he refused to relocate to PH as he has built his stand in Owerri,

I believe that all revolves around Love and understanding,

Its not like we will start making babies immediately after marriage, so the issue of raising a child is out of it.

I jus wanted to work for a year or 2 before quitting.

As for my job in the oil servicing company, it does not require my moving around, i stay more in the office.

Thanks for your contribution

sirman:
If only we could have more women like you in this country!!!

You're the wisest woman in the country at the moment!!!

No man should tell you to quit your well tailored job to go and sit in one dead "shop"

Abeeeg my dear, that man is a village man, I wonder the kind of pharmacy he even went to school to study

I feel so flatterd,thanks. it was a hard decision to make though...

i know we have stronger women than me, that have made more daring

decisions. God Bless.

JeffreyJamez:
You made the best and wisest decision... considering the fact that you're the one taking care of your younger ones and parents. You weren't being selfish. Marriage is not by force.... and to think he said he will open a pharmacy AFTER the marriage?.... Dude is evil..if he really wanted you to quit,he would make the provisions available before talking trash. That's how he will marry you now and turn you to baby-making machine. Pharmacy you no go see, money for chop go be war, money to give your parents and cater for your younger ones go turn issue... abeg he should move on....you too move on, a better and more reasonable guy would come your way, trust me.

I feel so better, thanks, will surely move on too

The guy that claims to love me and want to marry me wants me to quit my job first.

I got a well paying job a year ago, in an Oil servicing Company, located in PH, i was taken to their Lagos office sometime last year.

This guy that claims to love me is a Pharmacist, working in Owerri. He has been disturbed about the distance of lagos from owerri,

he told me that, if i want the marriage to take place, i must quit my job and join him in owerri, where he will open a pharmacy shop for me to

stay. I gave him the option of working

my transfer back to PH, he said he cant still cope with it, that he wants to raise a family everyone will be together.

I gave him another option to allow me work for a year more or 2, because i have just worked with the company for 1 year, and i know how the

job is helping my family and junior ones, who are still in school.

My final answer was, NO, i cannot quit my job to marry you, and it seems the guy has moved on.

Please did i make a mistake by saying NO?
should i have quit my job to marry him?

No No No,i will not, wil purposely and consciously not fall for the person!

jotey: op if the guy way u like put u 4 friend zone u go like am

i will jus see it as maybe he has some1 else occupying dat level am craving for...so i let go, and life goes on

obizzy: Friendzone? Been there... It was bad,really bad.

Take heart Bro...it shows dats not d person 4 u

Lovexme: I'm sure you'd be elated if a guy you have genuine feelings for doesn't see you more than a sister

Jus imagine if so many guys have feelings for u, d unlucky ones will b dropped.

slimzypink: Why do u think this topic hasnt been discussed before?? 20 marks

Plsssss...dats not my concern,jus saying what came to my mind, if its boring u,jus cross over ,tnxxx

I always wonder why guys are not comfortable at d friend zone league...

if the gal decides to upgrade dem, isnt dat cheating on d part of the girl?

Am sure some of dem(guys) have their girl friends

Imagine if girls try to play d good girl part and free all their guys friends from d friend zone league,

It shows dat there wont be any special guy in her life anymore .

So my dear guys, neva complain when a girl friend zone u, she is jus being faithful and doing it 4 her Man!!!

Take Note!

ideology: Stop giving urself headache
The writers comparison is wrong


I don't see how making up relates with "being oneself "
Being oneself to me should be viewed in the light of ones character or atitude and core values.

For eg a girl who doesn't drink mixes up with girls who drink, then on an occasion, she joins them to drink, then i can say she's not "being herself " instead of comparing natural beauty

Thank u jare

sameer1212: dear dis r two difrent tins. uncladiness n make up. i love gals d r not make up freaks

I dont tink d difference is much. If we are talkin abt natural face...

Some have oily face while some have dry,
some have long lashes while some dont,
some have thick eye brow while some dont....so u see
applying powder on oily face, isnt it already make up? cos its not natural

pls ehh, lets be truthful, what is good is good...make up look good on so many, so how is dat a crime? Mr Op

I think we should be talking about good makeup and bad one, cos we have lots of dem out der..

chuxyz: I look at ladies who say they like being themselves and can't help but ROTFLOL. With most of them applying makeup like one coming outta a paint factory. Not to talk of the ego with which some will sway those expensive artificial hair as if it is the end of the world while they look down on every other person as if they are a piece of shit. There is one thing i want you all to know: Being oneself starts with being natural. Once a lady can't be natural, never accept a word when she says she is or likes being herself. Trust me that's a fat lie. Any lady who makes up is actually indirectly telling you that she is what she really isn't. In conclusion, i will like to tell you ladies that being yourself starts with being natural and if you all can do this, men will appreciate you more.

Abegi,if u are talkin about being natural, try going about naked, no fine clothes or accessories of any sort.

Am only against too much make up,because naturally,too much of everytin isnt right...

tonyx4x44: eggs mhen!

this ones are sexy

Yeah,cute lookin....but,jus as lil as 100 box can easily give you dat

hmmmm...really got me thinking,

I think it has to do with maturity,just play your cards right, the rest will fall in place.

dont really like her acting...but the artist try shaaa

cbrass: Only God knows when the Igbos will learn, I hope you have seen what you have caused now....if this later tuns to a war let me just let you know here, the southwest will just be there as an umpire

Pls learn how to reason right, the northerners did sometin tribalistic,instead of condemning it,you blame d igbos...smh, thats how far we go to encourage violence.

arewafederation: Waiting for Ndigbo youths to make real their actualisation of Biafra. We no want Nairaland chest beating.

We have made d call long ago,so if it finally actualizes itself now, dont u tink that wot we hav always wanted?

Mimisboygreat: Why do some people hate igbos too much like this? Nawa o! What I heard from the news was that the northern CPS habours terrorism related things.

And I don't think any reasonable person will find out and keep quiet.

Well sha na boko boys I blame cos na dem cause dis tin.

Dont mind dem, as if its not better to prevent any violence from taking place,

if sometin bad happens in Igbo land, dey will be saying different tin....Nkwucha aburo ujo!

some of these military pple are BH agents

In the kidnapper's mind,dey are far away,gud 4 dem

sameer1212: serious?

yea yea