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Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by Nobody: 11:27pm On Mar 25, 2021
I overheard one of my colleagues talking to someone on phone about his expectations from his supposed lady when he's finally ready to settle down.

He mentioned so many factors but the one that caught my attention was about the age difference.

He clearly stated that he must be at least 10years older than the lady before he would consider getting married to her. Saying the difference creates room for respect and bla bla blah.

What are your opinions about age difference when it comes to choosing a companion?
Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by HRHQueenPhil(f): 11:31pm On Mar 25, 2021
SixKeys:
I overheard one of my colleagues talking to someone on phone about his expectations from his supposed lady when he's finally ready to settle down.

He mentioned so many factors but the one that caught my attention was about the age difference.

He clearly stated that he must be at least 10years older than the lady before he would consider getting married to her. Saying the difference creates room for respect and bla bla blah.

What are your opinions about age difference when it comes to choosing a companion?
I prefer a man that is 10 years my senior but crave what GOD wants. I have seen few of my age mate with the brain of a first class 50 year old because of all d books they have read and experiences they have encountered.

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by Xenry: 11:34pm On Mar 25, 2021
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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by McSquishi(f): 11:35pm On Mar 25, 2021
SixKeys:
I overheard one of my colleagues talking to someone on phone about his expectations from his supposed lady when he's finally ready to settle down.

He mentioned so many factors but the one that caught my attention was about the age difference.

He clearly stated that he must be at least 10years older than the lady before he would consider getting married to her. Saying the difference creates room for respect and bla bla blah.

What are your opinions about age difference when it comes to choosing a companion?

I think men who think like that are very insecure.

Why would a woman need to be ten years younger for you to feel able to get along with your wife? It doesn’t even make logical sense.

Such a man doesn’t know what it means to be a husband and doesn’t know how to love and nurture his woman. Therefore he requires a person a decade or more younger so he can replace a woman’s natural submission that she gives in response to love with a submission based on him being her elder.

Men who think like that won’t make good husbands.

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by Nobody: 11:35pm On Mar 25, 2021
HRHQueenPhil:
I prefer a man that is 10 years my senior but crave what GOD wants. I have seen few of my age mate with the brain of a first class 50 year old because of all d books they have read and experiences they have encountered.


smiles
So to you age is actually a major criterion right
Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by Nobody: 11:41pm On Mar 25, 2021
McSquishi:


I think men who think like that are very insecure.

Why would a woman need to be ten years younger for you to feel able to get along with your wife? It doesn’t even make logical sense.

Such a man doesn’t know what it means to be a husband and doesn’t know how to love and nurture his woman. Therefore he requires a person a decade or more younger so he can replace a woman’s natural submission that she gives in response to love with a submission based on him being her elder.

Men who think like that won’t make good husbands.

There are so many reasons to this.
it could be that the supposed man had a similar experience while growing up i.e His Dad was way older than his mum and it's possible that that's just how his brains processes things grin

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by MufasaLion: 11:42pm On Mar 25, 2021
I like older women tho

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by McSquishi(f): 11:52pm On Mar 25, 2021
SixKeys:


There are so many reasons to this.
it could be that the supposed man had a similar experience while growing up i.e His Dad was way older than his mum and it's possible that that's just how his brains processes things grin

it’s obviously how his brain processes things. I’m just saying that such shallow processing will make for a bad husband...

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by Raymond0008(m): 11:53pm On Mar 25, 2021
SixKeys:
I overheard one of my colleagues talking to someone on phone about his expectations from his supposed lady when he's finally ready to settle down.

He mentioned so many factors but the one that caught my attention was about the age difference.

He clearly stated that he must be at least 10years older than the lady before he would consider getting married to her. Saying the difference creates room for respect and bla bla blah.

What are your opinions about age difference when it comes to choosing a companion?
Yes if you want to enjoy marriage definitely you must be older than your wife. I use to have a mindset of having an older lady as lover and I realize it’s just a low life thoughts. I have stop relationship for now till I attain some certain age.

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by Raymond0008(m): 11:54pm On Mar 25, 2021
MufasaLion:
I like older women tho
Na poverty dey worry you! On a norms day, if you have older or younger they will still bill you and why will you settle for less. Smh
Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by AishaYesufu: 11:55pm On Mar 25, 2021
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McSquishi:


I think men who think like that are very insecure.

Why would a woman need to be ten years younger for you to feel able to get along with your wife? It doesn’t even make logical sense.

Such a man doesn’t know what it means to be a husband and doesn’t know how to love and nurture his woman. Therefore he requires a person a decade or more younger so he can replace a woman’s natural submission that she gives in response to love with a submission based on him being her elder.

Men who think like that won’t make good husbands.
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And you, a woman, thinks you know what is best for a man to be a good husband? A man has told you that he wants his wife at least 10 years younger than him, you are here yarning dust. Are you the one to tell him what he wants for himself?

Shift

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by MufasaLion: 11:59pm On Mar 25, 2021
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Raymond0008:
Na poverty dey worry you! On a norms day, if you have older or younger they will still bill you and why will you settle for less. Smh
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Speak for yourself grin
Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by McSquishi(f): 12:05am On Mar 26, 2021
AishaYesufu:
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And you, a woman, thinks you know what is best for a man to be a good husband? A man has told you that he wants his wife at least 10 years younger than him, you are here yarning dust. Are you the one to tell him what he wants for himself?

Shift

Last I checked heterosexual relationships involve both men and women. So yes i, a woman, can beat determine what makes a good husband and what does not. You think fellow men are best suited to judge who makes a good husband? Are you ok?

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by AishaYesufu: 12:12am On Mar 26, 2021
McSquishi:


Last I checked heterosexual relationships involve both men and women. So yes i, a woman, can beat determine what makes a good husband and what does not. You think fellow men are best suited to judge who makes a good husband? Are you ok?

You are so unintelligent. Every basic educated individual know that there is something called preference, which everyone is entitled to. A man saying he wants younger wife is his CHOICE and preference, it neither define whether or not he will make a good husband... Who are you to counter his preference? Make oversabi no kill you...


One thing I dislike about most ladies is that they have this warped mindset like they know what is good for men even when they know nothing.

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by McSquishi(f): 12:23am On Mar 26, 2021
AishaYesufu:

You are so unintelligent. Every basic educated individual know that there is something called preference, which everyone is entitled to. A man saying he wants younger wife is his CHOICE and preference, it neither define whether or not he will make a good husband... Who are you to counter his preference? Make oversabi no kill you...


One thing I dislike about most ladies is that they have this warped mindset like they know what is good for men even when they know nothing.

You’re the person who said a woman is in no position to judge if a man will make a good husband but I’m so unintelligent? Ha!!

I can have a preference for men with lots of money and with looks like Brad Pitt in his prime but that doesn’t mean my choice and preference can’t properly be judged as shallow and not the priorities a serious woman should have.

Having a preference and CHOICE doesn’t mean the average person can’t determine whether that person’s preference and choice is based in ignorance or immaturity.

In this case it’s very clear to me that a man who requires a woman who is a decade or more his junior is not husband material. Sorry to tell you...

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by AishaYesufu: 12:33am On Mar 26, 2021
McSquishi:


You’re the person who said a woman is in no position to judge if a man will make a good husband but I’m so unintelligent? Ha!!

I can have a preference for men with lots of money and with looks like Brad Pitt in his prime but that doesn’t mean my choice and preference can’t properly be judged as shallow and not the priorities a serious woman should have.

Having a preference and CHOICE doesn’t mean the average person can’t determine whether that person’s preference and choice is based in ignorance or immaturity.

In this case it’s very clear to me that a man who requires a woman who is a decade or more his junior is not husband material. Sorry to tell you...
What a shallow comment.

Neither YOU nor any other person have right to tell a man that he won't be a good husband based on his preference for a wife. You can only share in his preference or disagree with him - this is a basic understanding that even 12 year olds know. You have no right to judge a man by his preference, doing that shows how shallow you are. It is plain dumb and gross exhibition of ignorance to say a man is not a "husband material" simply because he wants a woman 10 years younger. Grow up and get enlightened

BTW Your choice for a Brad Pitt or Dangote is your business, it doesn't define you to be a bad or good wife. What makes you a good/bad wife is your character, faithfulness/unfaithfulness, loyalty/disloyalty, support to your spouse or otherwise etcetera... Jesus, try to be logical and stop sounding shallow.

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by McSquishi(f): 1:00am On Mar 26, 2021
AishaYesufu:

What a shallow comment.

Neither YOU nor any other person have right to tell a man that he won't be a good husband based on his preference for a wife. You can only share in his preference or disagree with him - this is a basic understanding that even 12 year olds know. You have no right to judge a man by his preference, doing that shows how shallow you are. It is plain dumb and gross exhibition of ignorance to say a man is not a "husband material" simply because he wants a woman 10 years younger. Grow up and get enlightened

BTW Your choice for a Brad Pitt or Dangote is your business, it doesn't define you to be a bad or good wife. What makes you a good/bad wife is your character, faithfulness/unfaithfulness, loyalty/disloyalty, support to your spouse or otherwise etcetera... Jesus, try to be logical and stop sounding shallow.

Do we understand the meaning of shallow?

You just said I can disagree with his preference which I do and the reason I disagree is because it is a preference only poor husband material could arrive at.

I surely can judge a man by his preferences, lol, you’re just making up random rules that make no sense. A man who requires a woman be a decade younger than him is exhibiting insecurity that is not becoming of a husband.

Even you just said what makes a good wife are blah blah blah... but this man thinks what makes a good wife is foremost her age being a decade+ younger than him. That is what is dumb and gross.

I’ve made my points and you’re becoming more insulting each time you reply to me, so you need not reply to me again.
Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by Barbsamiin: 1:17am On Mar 26, 2021
Girls above 30s would not like to hear that grin
Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by IlufoyeOlamife(m): 4:26am On Mar 26, 2021
A great professor said in one of his teaching's that "Age is a thing of the mind". Everybody with their preference. Although Success of a marriage is not subjected to Age difference.
Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by Theboy21: 5:46am On Mar 26, 2021
AishaYesufu:
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And you, a woman, thinks you know what is best for a man to be a good husband? A man has told you that he wants his wife at least 10 years younger than him, you are here yarning dust. Are you the one to tell him what he wants for himself?

Shift
This days people always prefer their options or choices to be fully accepted by others and if you are not in support of their preferences then you are making a wrong decision.. cheesy cheesy cheesy
Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by idahme(m): 6:16am On Mar 26, 2021
McSquishi:


I think men who think like that are very insecure.

Why would a woman need to be ten years younger for you to feel able to get along with your wife? It doesn’t even make logical sense.

Such a man doesn’t know what it means to be a husband and doesn’t know how to love and nurture his woman. Therefore he requires a person a decade or more younger so he can replace a woman’s natural submission that she gives in response to love with a submission based on him being her elder.

Men who think like that won’t make good husbands.

That he wished that difference doesn't make him not having capacity to make good husband. My parents age difference is 10years and I have wished everything I desire as a man from my dad, he is an epitome of Love, Care and knowledge. Where the problem lies is when the person puts the age difference thing as a criteria that must be gotten by all means. In my dad and mum it was when they were married already that they new the exact difference between their ages. in synopsis, every one has the right to wish for qualities and attributes he or she wished in a partner, just like a lady will wish to get married to a billionaire when she hasn't worked for a single thousand all her life does it mean she will always turn out to be a bad wife? your answer is as good as mine.

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by Athemisia: 7:40am On Mar 26, 2021
SixKeys:
I overheard one of my colleagues talking to someone on phone about his expectations from his supposed lady when he's finally ready to settle down.

He mentioned so many factors but the one that caught my attention was about the age difference.

He clearly stated that he must be at least 10years older than the lady before he would consider getting married to her. Saying the difference creates room for respect and bla bla blah.

What are your opinions about age difference when it comes to choosing a companion?
My mom was two years older than my dad but that didn't affect her respect for my dad. Till her death, we never knew.

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by Athemisia: 7:42am On Mar 26, 2021
Jodha:
I'll like to marry a man that is atleast 8yrs older..
I can't marry a girl more than 3years younger. Rather she should be a little bit older than me.
*my choice*

Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by Athemisia: 7:47am On Mar 26, 2021
Raymond0008:
Yes if you want to enjoy marriage definitely you must be older than your wife. I use to have a mindset of having an older lady as lover and I realize it’s just a low life thoughts. I have stop relationship for now till I attain some certain age.
it's no low life thought. it's just choice and that is my choice as well.

Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by PrimadonnaO(f): 7:51am On Mar 26, 2021
HRHQueenPhil:
I prefer a man that is 10 years my senior but crave what GOD wants. I have seen few of my age mate with the brain of a first class 50 year old because of all d books they have read and experiences they have encountered.

Seconded! I know age is just a number, but most men under 30 lack the kind of maturity that I like... these days some of them still carry that immaturity into their early 30s.

They're still moving about with the hurt of how their school or NYSC babe left them...
They're still trying to find a firm footing and purpose in life...
The few that are financially stable are more preoccupied with partying, womanising and making videos of themselves licking their lips...

I totally keep their kind at arm's length.

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by Nobody: 9:18am On Mar 26, 2021
MufasaLion:
I like older women tho
oshey! Baddest�

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by MufasaLion: 9:19am On Mar 26, 2021
tongue cool
SixKeys:


oshey! Baddest�
Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by AishaYesufu: 9:39am On Mar 26, 2021
Theboy21:
This days people always prefer their options or choices to be fully accepted by others and if you are not in support of their preferences then you are making a wrong decision.. cheesy cheesy cheesy
Some people are so shallow in thought

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by McSquishi(f): 1:28pm On Mar 26, 2021
idahme:


That he wished that difference doesn't make him not having capacity to make good husband. My parents age difference is 10years and I have wished everything I desire as a man from my dad, he is an epitome of Love, Care and knowledge. Where the problem lies is when the person puts the age difference thing as a criteria that must be gotten by all means. In my dad and mum it was when they were married already that they new the exact difference between their ages. in synopsis, every one has the right to wish for qualities and attributes he or she wished in a partner, just like a lady will wish to get married to a billionaire when she hasn't worked for a single thousand all her life does it mean she will always turn out to be a bad wife? your answer is as good as mine.

When men call women who wish for a rich husband a “liability” and not wife material do you argue with them that her preference doesn’t mean she will be a bad wife?

Or is it just when a woman determines that a man’s shallow preference will make him a bad husband that you come to defend shallow preferences?

You’re right that my answer is as good as yours...

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Re: Should Age Difference Be A Major Criterion? by Kobicove(m): 1:29pm On Mar 26, 2021
Age difference cannot be ignored in a relationship that is expected to be long term

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