crackhaus:
Bukatyne, were you having sex before marriage?

Na juss question oo, nor vex...

anthonyuncle:
una don come again

Liposure:
Unfortunately, where there is nectar there is bees and the bees won't rest until the nectar collected. Because without it there is no honey.

RastaJack:
This thread isn't surprising. Saw your comments in the "Chioma deletes all Davido's pictures on Instagram" thread. The comments there were fire and are enough to make any female (even a runsgirl) think twice.

In a few days, you'd all get over this and go back to the multiple sexual relationships you have with several men. This sudden self reflection is momentary and induced by that thread.

Save the philosophical takes. That ship has sailed. Women have become too sexually uninhibited. Men are taking advantage of the uninhibition but would remind them when this same promiscuous women turn around to demand commitment. Too late. Too late, Bukatyne.

AishaYesufu:
This is why is is advisable that young men should settle for young girls (18-25) for relationship/settling down. Majority of ladies within this age range come with little or no baggage.

bukatyne:


This really cracked me up

Why?

thorpido:
I have always been of the opinion that teenagers have no business with boyfriend/girlfriend relationships.It should just be a period to get to know about the opposite sex.

Starting to keep a sexual relationship too early might wear you out even before you are ready to settle down.

crackhaus:

Answer me fess...

bukatyne:
Disclaimer: This is Bukatyne's thread

Nectar is a sweet liquid that is secreted by the nectaries of a plant (flower) and is the chief raw material of honey. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/nectar

Every girl has nectar inside of her that is supposed to ‘sweeten’ the life of the man she marries. It is the freshness of body, soul, and spirit she brings to the table in a relationship. That refreshing laughter that echoes in one’s mind after it is over.

Unfortunately, this nectar is gradually lost per sexual relationship and if not deliberately kept, is dwindled when the lady (grown girl) is ready to get married. She is no longer the sweet, warm, trusting, fresh girl anymore; she is now a woman carrying the baggage of several wrong relationships and have no nectar to offer her husband who is the right recipient of it.

She is not in tune with herself anymore and can’t choose a good man. If she unfortunately chooses a good man, she does not have that nectar to offer anymore. She has become bitter, mistrusting, and unable to provide warmth to her man (husband).

Sadly, this nectar is hard to replace once finally lost or depleted and takes very conscious effort to replenish. Unlike other qualities (I will call them ‘what qualities’ e.g. education, career/job, physical comportment, home keeping, etc.) that are tangibles and can be easily worked on, this nectar (‘who quality’) is part of your make-up or your core from birth.

Keep your nectar for your husband, it was put in you to bless him!



On a lighter note, this thread should enter the contest of one of my shorter threads yet

P.S.: A conversation with GeneralPula on another thread has given me the corresponding of nectar for men: passion/strength/drive.

RastaJack:
This thread isn't surprising. Saw your comments in the "Chioma deletes all Davido's pictures on Instagram" thread. The comments there were fire and are enough to make any female (even a runsgirl) think twice.

In a few days, you'd all get over this and go back to the multiple sexual relationships you have with several men. This sudden self reflection is momentary and induced by that thread.

Save the philosophical takes. That ship has sailed. Women have become too sexually uninhibited. Men are taking advantage of the uninhibition but would remind them when this same promiscuous women turn around to demand commitment. Too late. Too late, Bukatyne.

bukatyne:
Disclaimer: This is Bukatyne's thread

Nectar is a sweet liquid that is secreted by the nectaries of a plant (flower) and is the chief raw material of honey. https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/nectar

Every girl has nectar inside of her that is supposed to ‘sweeten’ the life of the man she marries. It is the freshness of body, soul, and spirit she brings to the table in a relationship. That refreshing laughter that echoes in one’s mind after it is over.

Unfortunately, this nectar is gradually lost per sexual relationship and if not deliberately kept, is dwindled when the lady (grown girl) is ready to get married. She is no longer the sweet, warm, trusting, fresh girl anymore; she is now a woman carrying the baggage of several wrong relationships and have no nectar to offer her husband who is the right recipient of it.

She is not in tune with herself anymore and can’t choose a good man. If she unfortunately chooses a good man, she does not have that nectar to offer anymore. She has become bitter, mistrusting, and unable to provide warmth to her man (husband).

Sadly, this nectar is hard to replace once finally lost or depleted and takes very conscious effort to replenish. Unlike other qualities (I will call them ‘what qualities’ e.g. education, career/job, physical comportment, home keeping, etc.) that are tangibles and can be easily worked on, this nectar (‘who quality’) is part of your make-up or your core from birth.

Keep your nectar for your husband, it was put in you to bless him!



On a lighter note, this thread should enter the contest of one of my shorter threads yet

P.S.: A conversation with GeneralPula on another thread has given me the corresponding of nectar for men: passion/strength/drive.

GeneralPula:

Unfortunately, this nectar is gradually lost per sexual relationship and if not deliberately kept, is dwindled when the lady (grown girl) is ready to get married. She is no longer the sweet, warm, trusting, fresh girl anymore; she is now a woman carrying the baggage of several wrong relationships and have no nectar to offer her husband who is the right recipient of it.
You finish talk for here, no be small[/I]

She is not in tune with herself anymore and can’t choose a good man. If she unfortunately chooses a good man, she does not have that nectar to offer anymore. She has become bitter, mistrusting, and unable to provide warmth to her man (husband).
[I]Hmm..
Nah them full feminist association[/I]

[i]Women's nectar is a natural sweetener that once it's gone, it can never be recap, right?
If men's nectar is in their passion(A controllable emotion), then it means you can loose your passion today as a man, and then boom, you're back to it again the next day...Isn't?

DontBullshitMe:
Just type virginity. Nobody will scold you.

bukatyne:


I get your point bet....

25 years is no longer young if we are measuring baggage wise.

Besides, a 28yr old lady might be a JJC when compared to a 20 yr old who have seen thinggggggggggggggs.

I also a fan of young/few relationships.

AishaYesufu:

The baggage carried by an average 25 year old can never be compared to that of a 28, 30 or someone above 30. The older a lady becomes the larger her baggage except for a minute exception.

Most 20 year olds carry faaaaaar less baggage than most 28 years olds. The few (very few exception cannot overrule this fact).

So, men should settle down with young ladies of 20-25 as they come with far less baggage

bukatyne:


Women have nectar
Men have passion/strength/drive

I mean passion as per life force not only narrowed to 'sex'.

If he has been around the block, he loses the ability to be marvelled or passionate about his woman. His woman wouldn't be able to 'thrill' him. He has seen it all.

Because he is not marvelled by her, he loses the drive to impress her to make her happy. If he is impressing her, it is to massage his ego.

He can get it back if he works for it.

Yusufisraelj:
@bukatyne

1. O dear writer, on the surface you write up is great, wonderful and life changing, but judging from the stand point of your faith, there seems to be a challenge!

Are you saying older ladies that have been tremendously active in the other room, have nothing to offer? Could there be a chance if they submit completely to their Creator?

2. Am never an advocate for careless living, in fact I hate it, but you see my observation and conclusion about life is subject to the "original manual", bkos everything that is not captured from that stand point cannot stand the test of time. It is only truth that liberates, any other thing will fade with time.


3. On the other hand, that Chau for your picture, e no go bad if you show person the way to prepare that stuff fa? I day wait.

angelfallz:
Your understanding of male sexuality is questionable.

bukatyne:


1&2. This nectar is not only about sex; it is freshness and sweetness of body, soul & spirit. While a woman in multiple sexual relationships might have lost it, there would always be exceptions.

@Faith: the OP says a nectar lost can be regained. One of the major ways of that restoration is by salvation. So yes, any (wo)man is a new creature if he/she would let the redemptive work of Christ on the Cross work in their lives. The OP is general; if a lady affected by the above asks for restoration, it is a different ball game.

Also, I am a 'prevention is better than cure' person.


3. It is pancakes & grapes.
https://www.marthastewart.com/338185/basic-pancakes

Yusufisraelj:



Hmmm seriously following, but I have two questions and one observation;

1. What do you explicitly mean by baggages?

2. A man looking for stability, should age be a factor?

observation; at bolded I have observed mostly, that ladies within the stipulated age bracket you mentioned are attention hungry and most unstable in their approach to the opposite sex, anywhere the attention comes from they seem to want to give a listening ear to any Tom, Dick and Harry.

I find that highly repugnant sincerely, a lady must understand what she wants for life and settle for it when she sees it and have something she wants to do with her life, commiting herself to that, am not saying she can't have male friends but up and down, dates upon dates, most of these girls don't know jack on managing the opposite sex, equally don't know what they want, will just be dangling around like lose Cannon.


For me stability is key, and it seems the older ladies understand this, I've seldom met ladies with clear cut plan for what they want as regards marriage and life within this your stipulation and how they've prepared or preparing towards it, it's just scattered in their mind somewhere, what's the cause for this Randy approach to life and destiny within this age bracket

AishaYesufu:

Read the original post please and use my comment within its context.

You don't have to wait for a woman past her prime that probably misused herself when she was in her prime, carries lots of frustration and disappointment from past relationships or misdeeds, and then starts acting saintly forming miss independent just to entrap a man.

A man is supposed to lead, mentor and guide his woman (young woman). It is easier for a single older lady to be acting matured and focus than younger ladies because the former misused their own younger time (not all though) while the latter needs nurturing and leadership. A young woman you nurtured and guide will grow older to be what you want her to be. The ball is in your court

Yusufisraelj:


I have read the post, my challenge is not context, but clarity.




Am begining to get your context of baggages




Supposing the lady would be willing to learn and be nurtured be they even young or older.

But in the generality of your point, the likely hood of disappointed expectations, frustration and bad experience is less likely in the younger age bracket - and this is true, however I beg to say with some exception's as well (there are ladies/gentlemen who were sexually active from as little as 9 and it continues into their teens - just citing intimacy as example, I know this bkos I've seen some).


This now my assertion, baggages or not, the most important thing in my opinion is establishing a place of understanding between the two people who want to be committed to themselves, sharing same values, aspiring to a common objective and diligently working towards it and more importantly showing each other love in appropriate ways while they both strive to be better in all ramifications.

@bukatyne
The thinking of a man subscribing to a younger age bracket in the context of the writer and yourself is uncalled for, bkos I've met younger ladies who have had multiple sexual partners, some raped at the age of 9 repeatedly and we're active in their teens even to their early 20s, psychologically these set of ladies were something else, one have had more than 15 partners at 24 years and then they grow pass the 25 age bracket already life has happens to these people and some never choose that path but shit happens, we must be able to capture those people in the context of this discuss. your point and the OPs is noted the age inclination is what am having challenge accepting