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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by BRATISLAVA: 1:08pm On Apr 04, 2021
IgboWarlord:



Bros,i know a lot of impoverished FG employees..It all depends on the FG department he works for and his level..

So how do they work for 6 months without pay? They are stealing money endlessly. They all have their fingers in it. The impoverished ones are low and still get theirs, though not as much as the others.

It's not today civil servants are being exposed. The only ones who don't have it are deeper life types.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Damovintrain: 1:09pm On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
What surprises me is that immediately I got the job, my mom started having health challenges.

I have observed it several times in different people.

When they are able to make a breakthrough in life (like getting a good job, graduation, financial breakthroughs),

something bad (like sickness or death) would affect their relatives, either the mom,dad,son, daughter or any close relative.

Please who else has noticed this, and why must it be so?



I am not surprised at all,,,,,
Well, I don't know how the case is n I care not to know

But my first suggestion is GO TO GOD IN PRAYERS cause the devil is at work,
PAY YOUR TITHES to clear every devourer from your path Malachi 3, GIVE TO THE POOR N NEEDY, TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOUR PARENTS AND FAMILY MEMBERS, THEY ARE YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES.

Remember when you were young and a toddler, did your mom ever take it to the public that you fall sick and she gets tired? All the jedi jedi days, teething, stooling, kaiiiiii repent cause you're an ingrate ......


C settle your family





There are to people in life you should not joke or neglect at all



1. Those who push/made you great..... Which may be family or friends

2. Those who stood/walk with you when you were down which maybe your family, wife, children, friends, pastors, etc



I wish to tell you more

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Hanz1: 1:11pm On Apr 04, 2021
Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

Nairalanders, I don't need your likes and shares. Just read and pass.


God bless you...

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Reference(m): 1:13pm On Apr 04, 2021
Vaiki:
"To be great you have to be stingy" ?? Poorest thinking I have ever come across.

Indeed, very poor thinking.
But it goes further than just being a 'Father Christmas' persona.
Ultimately everyone should strive to be 'the MVP of as many as possible'.
Not only does this bring the great leverage, security and satisfaction possible, but people of the widest value incidentally are the wealthiest anywhere they are found.
If you cannot transmitt positive virtue to as many as possible you cannot escape the crushing weight of life.

That is exactly why the young man is under pressure. He questions WHY he has to give. This MENTALITY has not enabled him open up to other solutions and leverage on other resources most of which are not domiciled with him.

As some alluded here. When you make it a habit of lifting others you can never be alone or in need.

I perceive the self mode is the default processor operating in the family. He has the opportunity to break that cycle if at all to ensure when his time of old age comes he does not turn this kids to his personal pension managers, funny enough as some kids are raised to become.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by membranus: 1:13pm On Apr 04, 2021
Angelacruz:
settle dem wit a good bizness

With what money?

With that meagre civil servant salary that is not enough to take care of his own needs?

You must be a breast feeding baby to offer this suggestion.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by izibili44: 1:14pm On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:


Guy stop typing what you don't know about me.

I know what I am doing for them.

I just need an advice, not a bad judgement from a person who believes he knows everything about me.

hey he only advise you nii. You take an or leave am. Follow that level.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Nobody: 1:14pm On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
What surprises me is that immediately I got the job, my mom started having health challenges.

I have observed it several times in different people.

When they are able to make a breakthrough in life (like getting a good job, graduation, financial breakthroughs),

something bad (like sickness or death) would affect their relatives, either the mom,dad,son, daughter or any close relative.

Please who else has noticed this, and why must it be so?

Bring in your mom to stay with you, so you can manage her properly, those calling for your resignation are nothing more than what they called village people.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Nobody: 1:15pm On Apr 04, 2021
I don't know why I find this post irritating, maybe it's due to culture differences anyway. OP & his siblings should just discuss on who (amongst the children) would take Mama in while OP takes care of her health. Don't be worried about what the family would say if possibly God calls Mama anytime soon,,,, na you be her children & God knows you have done your best. Tell any relative that wants to sound stupid to go to hell angry

lecturer50:
What surprises me is that immediately I got the job, my mom started having health challenges.

I have observed it several times in different people.

When they are able to make a breakthrough in life (like getting a good job, graduation, financial breakthroughs),

something bad (like sickness or death) would affect their relatives, either the mom,dad,son, daughter or any close relative.

Please who else has noticed this, and why must it be so?

It does not happen to every family, abeg.

May God grant those who experience such a total deliverance.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by BluntTheApostle(m): 1:17pm On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

No need to switch off your phone. That would be cowardly.

It is not like you have done anything wrong. In fact, you are the one being wronged here.

My own advice is that you get someone to assist your mother in the village. You will have to pay this person, though.

Or you bring your mother to live with you in the city; you will also still need to employ someone to cater to her every need.

Your relatives are not being considerate.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by WisdomfromGod: 1:19pm On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:


True.

I called my mom and told her what my uncle said, she said I should not take him seriously.

Thanks
don't resigned but beware of that your uncle n always pray.hmm your uncle is tormenting you through your mum's sickness because He knows she is the one after your heart.too bad
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by MrIcredible: 1:22pm On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
What surprises me is that immediately I got the job, my mom started having health challenges.

I have observed it several times in different people.

When they are able to make a breakthrough in life (like getting a good job, graduation, financial breakthroughs),

something bad (like sickness or death) would affect their relatives, either the mom,dad,son, daughter or any close relative.

Please who else has noticed this, and why must it be so?
Tell them it would be well with them if you loose your mom on that ground.

They should resign too and go take care of their sis or aunt (your mom)

Stupid unreasonable selfish people.

Dem get luck say no be me.

Rubbish.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by dalass(f): 1:23pm On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:


Guy stop typing what you don't know about me.

I know what I am doing for them.

I just need an advice, not a bad judgement from a person who believes he knows everything about me.


That's his advice for you
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by valentineuwakwe(m): 1:25pm On Apr 04, 2021
Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

Nairalanders, I don't need your likes and shares. Just read and pass.


my brother you talk true jare
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Nobody: 1:25pm On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
Apart from your relatives disturbing you for money, I think your mom being sick is more important than anything else aside your job. My brother you cannot resign, neither will you switch off your phone. To me, the best I think you should do is to take your mom along with you. If you're not married, but you have a younger person to live with you in order to help you take care of her while at work, pick that person along. Forget about the incessant demands from your people, and do the one you know you can for them. Always don't forget to build your wealth so you won't run back to them. Resigning as your uncle said is a NO.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by cocolacec(m): 1:26pm On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

Sinple solution is to relocate your mum to live with you.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by MrIcredible: 1:28pm On Apr 04, 2021
Angelacruz:
settle dem wit a good bizness
I'm very sure that you're like those relatives or even worse for you to have this stupid and selfish entitlement that someone owes you something.

So federal government job workers have access to abundant money and freebies to use to settle people for good bizness?

Don't go and work to better your lazy life...
RUBBISH
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Regex: 1:29pm On Apr 04, 2021
pansophist:


The Uncle it the archetypal "village people". Those ones that believe because they are older, your uncle and you respect them, they can lord authority over you no matter how ridiculous. Everyone have those people, I have them as well, but I realise that in their madness, when it comes to me, they are cautioned, because they've seen clearly that I'm not easily manipulated, and will withdraw my respect, infact block you instantly if you cross the line. Respect is not cowardice.

The Uncle could make such ridiculous demand because he knows that he is soft, and his respect for him can be overstretched to a point of tyranny. Hence, he could suggest such ridiculousness asking him to quit his job. How about asking him to bring his mum to live with him? That way, he can retain his job and care for him mum.

One of the superpower people should learn is the ability to not feel guilty because someone is trying trying make you feel it. Saying that he is responsible for his mother's death because he will not quit his job is downright wrong, and unfair to someone that is providing. Those are the kind of family members I blocked off, love unites people not blood. You can't say you love me and mounting such allegation on me, especially when I'm providing and you can't even do half the shit I do.


No mind them.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by sweetkev(m): 1:32pm On Apr 04, 2021
vincentjk:


May he have mercy on you as well. after all, we are all sinners.

Or aren't we
True cry
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by shege45: 1:33pm On Apr 04, 2021
Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

Nairalanders, I don't need your likes and shares. Just read and pass.
see as u talk am. Like e easy
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by shege45: 1:35pm On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
Resign and do what?
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Dpundict: 1:35pm On Apr 04, 2021
Get your mom out of the village to the city to live under you and at best get a more spacious apartment. That way others will leave you alone and you can have first hand knowledge of the medical issues. AC/fan in the house and television to watch while you are at work with food to eat will keep that woman alive and healthy and expose extortion by those calling u.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by idiagbo86(m): 1:36pm On Apr 04, 2021
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lecturer50:


Guy stop typing what you don't know about me.

I know what I am doing for them.

I just need an advice, not a bad judgement from a person who believes he knows everything about me.

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My man help ur family and stop bringing such stuffs here.no body wen never pass through such thing b4.it is a blessing for u to have and solve problems,what if u hadn’t now and ur mum goes ill.Do things for ur family my man ,I sure sey u don do a lot for u babe since without posting it here.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by gulfer: 1:39pm On Apr 04, 2021
N real village people wan deal with you grin grin grin
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Agred2018(m): 1:44pm On Apr 04, 2021
[quote author=Ebuka78 post=100458703]

A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

Nairalanders, I don't need your likes and shares. Just read and pass.[I have had similar experience in the past bro before you get the job how were they surviving?] Dong let village people dictate for you how to live your life otherwise they mission is to send you back to village. The mistake you made was announcing your new job to them but since the did has been done all I will advice is take care of your mum the best way you can. Go and see her talk to her ask her why did she want to you to do, that you are still growing, dong her want her son to be successful?
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Leogreat5: 1:44pm On Apr 04, 2021
Bro, no need to resign from ur work. I guess u re not the only child, possibly becos u re the only one with good paying job now. They think you have all the money in the world ( some village people mentality) .
My advice is, help your mom as much you can .Just try your best But never resign ur job.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Agred2018(m): 1:46pm On Apr 04, 2021
I think you should quickly rush and marry get a wife and everything will stop.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Checkout996(m): 1:46pm On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Eudes(m): 1:48pm On Apr 04, 2021
Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

Nairalanders, I don't need your likes and shares. Just read and pass.

You are very very stupid.
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by Karlifate: 1:49pm On Apr 04, 2021
doggedfighter:


You go fear sharing formula grin grin grin grin grin

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Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by valcorp: 1:51pm On Apr 04, 2021
You need to learn how to say NO and stand by it. What if you relocate to the village and she eventually dies, you'll be jobless and motherless. Your mother is meant to die, the best u can do is bring her to stay with u in the city where u can have access to her daily. As for relatives, BLOCK THEIR LINES. truth is strangers sometimes wish u better than your relatives, for your relatives to think like this means your progress is a threat to them. I know someone who spent his life helping brothers and sisters, he is 47, unmarried, zero investment but has been working for 20 years. His siblings on the other hand are all married but still run to him at the end of every month. Whenever you get your salary, "PAY YOURSELF 50% FIRST" WHICH GOES INTO SAVINGS, (if you believe in tithe cos I don't, you can pay the 10%), take 20% extra for your expenditure and capture all family members in the last 20%. Who no like should go and hustle for themselves cos in the end if you poor the same relatives go laugh you.




lecturer50:


Guy stop typing what you don't know about me.

I know what I am doing for them.

I just need an advice, not a bad judgement from a person who believes he knows everything about me.

Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by AvalonSpace(m): 1:51pm On Apr 04, 2021
No matter what you do, how you help them out financially, mumsi go still die one day. You can't lose that job now. You have your own family to upgrade. Let them find something doing to support themselves. Set up a mini biz for mumsi. That's all..
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
Re: How Do I Stop My Relatives From Disturbing Me? by thesolutions(m): 1:53pm On Apr 04, 2021
lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?
Move your mum. She needs liberation from your uncle really. Again, destroy every altar of limitation in your family. Our fathers or forefathers did things. It's not a matter of curses. It is altars. You need to build an altar of long life and prosperity. I'm not talking about an object or ritual but a vow. All altars operate by keeping of vows. The ancie

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