E don red be that oooooo

Flatin0s

Seems yorubatech bros have an opportunity on their hands.....let's develop a smart contract token for these guys. 100sats=1 flatina and issued at birth, it gets liquidated at death of the flatina, potential suitors will buy the coin and the suitor with the highest coin amount gets the flatina, thus driving the price and creating liquidity for sort after flatinas with less yamlegs, suitors who also buy the coin early also get rewarded if they sell at a higher price to other suitors FlatinCoin is the name...... expect my whitepaper soon

ccffwx:


I honestly don't believe the last line of your post. Dem be God? My own mother got NOTHING from my sister's. I told her not to honour those fraudsters but she wouldn't listen.

Except you decide to cut them off for life, but if for any reason you have to come back to them, especially in cases of death, they’ll do their best to bleed you.

MartinsD12:

Na lie I maintain my stand.

Guy my advise, focus on whatever you do pray for God's favour, 300k is a small amount when it comes to wedding proceedings.

bluskyee:
There is nothing wrong in paying bride price. In Kalabari where my elder brother married from women negotiates and collects the bride price. The men only sit and eat/drink. Stop being myopic

This is the problem with idiots who jump into conversations. Did you properly read the comment I replied to before spewing this trash? If your elder brother likes let him use 1 billion to pay bride price ,that's your cup of tea. The bone of contention with the person I replied to was "who started the bride price system" men or women. Next time if you don't have your fact don't blabber in my mentions again.

pocohantas:


They sowed by having prick. Seems you didn’t get the memo. Once you have prick in Nigeria (the size is irrelevant) you have sown into the life of every woman.



No part of my post made reference to SUBMISSION. Na you know wetin dey choke you.

kikikiki so much for just an ordinary prick ooo

bluskyee:
Guy my advise, focus on whatever you do pray for God's favour, 300k is a small amount when it comes to wedding proceedings.

Now I see you lie, who is talking of wedding proceedings, we are talking bride price, I know how much wedding proceeding cost OK.

3000k
Mbok


Is she a commodity?


What kind of outrageous bride price is this?

shot up, your father also chop from others people's daughters.

lolz the Elders are wise.

pocohantas:


Doing the marriage in USA won’t reduce the list, you will either monetize it and send or get a home-based person to buy it all. The problem is the mindset, the formation they come with. They come like hungry lions. Some of them can’t even pick out the bride from ten ladies, but their eyes go dey chook inside everything.

They do not have a problem with you not inviting them, just send the money to them. If you don’t, the repercussions would be waiting for both you and your children’s children.

Poco, I am a bit disappointed, this is tradition. It was not there because of you or anyone. Your grandfather might have benefited from this setting. You don't see other tribes talk about their culture in disparaging terms. If it is an elder takes all tradition, respect it and move on. I exalt my ancestors and it is pure ignorance to criticise your culture because you think someone else is cashing out

Bro you better just hold your peace before they started calling you afonja or aboki because the moment you tend not to fully accept their ideas you are automatically afonja or aboki. Truth hurt them like mad.

brown3:
shot up, your father also chop from others people's daughters.

Tell them don't mind the hypocrites

Ladycewhy:
Are you implying that women sat down and decided to be collecting bride price? you and I know this decision was unanimously agreed upon in a village meeting of brown teethed snuff sniffing ancestors and I can swear on buhari's life that women were not present in that meeting.

be calming down, we must not turn everything to gender war..in some eastern countries, it's the women that pay bridegroom price.. feminist should stop blaming men for every misfortune that happens to women..

Ladycewhy:
Are you implying that women sat down and decided to be collecting bride price? you and I know this decision was unanimously agreed upon in a village meeting of brown teethed snuff sniffing ancestors and I can swear on buhari's life that women were not present in that meeting.

This is incomplete misinformation and a lie.

The mother usually have her separate list containing requirements for the marriage including monetary rewards (given to the husband to be) exclusive to the mother alone. The mother's entitlement is for her alone hence the N5000 is an addition.

Fear Ụmụnna very wicked set of people

MadamExcellency:


This is incomplete misinformation and a lie.

The mother usually have her separate list containing requirements for the marriage including monetary rewards (given to the husband to be) exclusive to the mother alone. The mother's entitlement is for her alone hence the N5000 is an addition.

The question is who started the bride price system? No one asked you about sharing formula.

pocohantas:


Doing the marriage in USA won’t reduce the list, you will either monetize it and send or get a home-based person to buy it all. The problem is the mindset, the formation they come with. They come like hungry lions. Some of them can’t even pick out the bride from ten ladies, but their eyes go dey chook inside everything.

They do not have a problem with you not inviting them, just send the money to them. If you don’t, the repercussions would be waiting for both you and your children’s children.

Haaa! Repercussions ke? How? What if you dont even mention it to them? What about those Igbo families that have long forgotten their roots and simply living their lives within their immediate families? Will the repercussions be diabolical or the family will be considered an outcast? This is really interesting.

Ladycewhy:
Are you implying that women sat down and decided to be collecting bride price? you and I know this decision was unanimously agreed upon in a village meeting of brown teethed snuff sniffing ancestors and I can swear on buhari's life that women were not present in that meeting.

in a village meeting of brown teethed snuff sniffing ancestors....

pocohantas:


They sowed by having prick. Seems you didn’t get the memo. Once you have prick in Nigeria (the size is irrelevant) you have sown into the life of every woman.



No part of my post made reference to SUBMISSION. Na you know wetin dey choke you.

I mention brideprice as a logical deduction to your assertion that bird price is an institution that is designed to boost men's egos. So if it wasn't about submission then how does brideprice boost a man's ego in any way?

LINTUNE:
be calming down, we must not turn everything to gender war..in some eastern countries, it's the women that pay bridegroom price.. feminist should stop blaming men for every misfortune that happens to women..

Last t checked it's a man wailing here from r not getting his share. of he dad gotten his share , patriarchy would have been the best system.

MartinsD12:

Now I see you lie, who is talking of wedding proceedings, we are talking bride price, I know how much wedding proceeding cost OK.

Bros 300k bride price is small. Bride price is a subset of a wedding proceeding.

Ladycewhy:
Last t checked it's a man wailing here from r not getting his share. of he dad gotten his share , patriarchy would have been the best system.

there is nothing portraying patriarchy here, this is simply culture, traditions that have stood for centuries..in some tradition women are the ones that benefit in this same scenario..about the Twitter guy, it's quite obvious he is chasing clout...

Ladycewhy:
Are you implying that women sat down and decided to be collecting bride price? you and I know this decision was unanimously agreed upon in a village meeting of brown teethed snuff sniffing ancestors and I can swear on buhari's life that women were not present in that meeting.

You can't ask me that because I never asserted that there was any such agreement. Rather the poster I quoted did.

In any case, your response is premised on a binary way of looking at things: that it was either men or women who made the agreement and it is not possible that it was both men and women who did so!

The question is, who stood to gain? Was it not majorly the girl's parents collectively?

sisisioge:



Haaa! Repercussions ke? How? What if you dont even mention it to them? What about those Igbo families that have long forgotten their roots and simply living their lives within their immediate families? Will the repercussions be diabolical or the family will be considered an outcast? This is really interesting.

Which Igbo family do you know that have “forgotten” their roots. Maybe they do exist, but that is because they decided to banish themselves from their roots, not that they forgot. It is doable, but I do not know any reasonable Igbo family that would do that over a marriage list.

The repercussion won’t be diabolical, the repercussion would range from insulting your parents that they didn’t allow them benefit from your marriage. Would be worse if your parents have ever partaken in the share of another loot. Worse case scenario, if she dies, they will say they never gave you their daughter to marry. So, they are not even aware you are married to her.

What I see some parents do is lift the burden from the SIL and pay themselves or do their best to negotiate. Let them just carry their wahala and go.

SmartyPants:


You can't ask me that because I never asserted that there was any such agreement. Rather the poster I quoted did.

In any case, your response is premised on a binary way of looking at things: that it was either men or women who made the agreement and it is not possible that it was both men and women who did so!

The question is, who stood to gain? Was it not majorly the girl's parents collectively?

The girls parents where according to history the man was responsible for decision making in a patriarch society.

I don't think it's applicable everywhere. At my side, everything is shared according to group or should I say lineage. Divide it by 3, mum gets 1, dad maternal and paternal side gets 1 each, then it's shared amongst all the family members that belong to each group.
The only thing that belongs to specific individual are tokens like money for father, mum, the girl to read letter, etc, and the total sum might not be upto 20k sef

pocohantas:


Doing the marriage in USA won’t reduce the list, you will either monetize it and send or get a home-based person to buy it all. The problem is the mindset, the formation they come with. They come like hungry lions. Some of them can’t even pick out the bride from ten ladies, but their eyes go dey chook inside everything.

They do not have a problem with you not inviting them, just send the money to them. If you don’t, the repercussions would be waiting for both you and your children’s children.

tah, no repercussion. When my sister was married the same so called elders came like a hungry lion. I told my brother in-law to relaxed for me to handle the situation. After enlightening them and asking them some heartfelt questions about how we grew up because we lost our father at a very tender age, they were ashamed of themselves. At the end we gave them three cartoon of beer, one crate of malt, 10 Kola nut, one bottle of 501 and 5000. That was after my mum intervention because I was not ready to give them anything except the ones they will eat there. They never give me any share from their daughter's marriage, why would they share from my sister marriage when they did not contribute a penny for her up bringing?

Odidigboigbo:
tah, no repercussion. When my sister was married the same so called elders came like a hungry lion. I told my brother in-law to relaxed for me to handle the situation. At the end we gave them three cartoon of beer, one crate of malt, 10 Kola nut, one bottle of 501 and 5000. That was after my mum intervention because I was not ready to give them anything except the ones they will eat there. They never give me any share from their daughter's marriage, why would they share from my sister marriage when they did not contribute a penny for her up bringing?

You gave them something. You should have given them nothing, then we would have a conversation.

Negotiation has always been a norm.

LINTUNE:
there is nothing portraying patriarchy here, this is simply culture, traditions that have stood for centuries..in some tradition women are the ones that benefit in this same scenario..about the Twitter guy, it's quite obvious he is chasing clout...

Excuse me but burying a king with seven human heads was also at a time culture and tradition too.

This guy doesn't know what he is saying, u r a man n ur sister is doing her traditional marriage n u r not with d men in ur family to know proceedings, u r expecting to collect money from ur mothers share? This one is lieing abeg!

bluskyee:
300k is not a huge bride price. I have sisters and brothers who have gotten married and the list bride price paid was 850k. Dude train your daughters well, guys will beg with over a million just to do introduction.

So the aim of training my daughters well is for me to be able to cash out during their wedding?

Only hungry families would ask for 300k as brideprice, especially when the woman who trained the daughter was only able to get 5k. After eating the 300k they'll still return to fleece on the couple.

Guys should be careful of the kind of family they're gonna marry from.