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I'll be succinct. I've messed up and I take full responsibility for my actions. All I'm trying to do now is save those close to my heart.

I'm married 2 years with an 8 month baby. I'm a faithful husband at heart but I just lost focus and landed in this deep mess.

My first stinct at adultery was late into my wife's pregnancy when I could not hold body. This situation was further compounded when I relocated due to work and come home every 3 weeks or so. My carefree attitude also contributed to this but I'm not staying them as excuses. I did what I did.

I met this deeper life young girl about a month ago. She was about 23, good looking and has an innocent air around her. Last week thereabout we met up and made out after weeks of chatting. In the process, my contraceptive broke and it happened raw for a minute or two before I replaced it.

Now one week later and I having strong symptoms of HIV exposure. Had I known, I would have gone for Pep. I am 75% sure of infection at this point.

I'm home now and I don't want to touch my wife who is constantly on my neck since I returned. I don't want to infect her or my child....and I can't come to terms with telling her everything right now.

This is someone who is so faithful and she has expressly stated that she will not entertain any hint of infidelity.

I'm so done for, I need advice

Bro my advice to you now is because you owned your shit and that means you're on the road to responsibility.


Go to lab and get tested. The mind has a way of projecting illnesses that are non-existent into the body. If you confirm that you're a carrier, let your wife know. Your means of exposure can remain a secret. Tell her you helped an accident victim or anything

Oga Go Hospital. Nairaland no be hospital.



So Depper Life babes self dey do that thing...I be Jew man o.

How did you know you have HIV?

M

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You no get sense op at this your old age.

michlins:
. Tell her you helped an accident victim or anything

The OP shouldn't use a lie to cover up another lie.

Its better you open up to her bro, and have your family back,it might be painful but they are all you've got at this point, that's supposed to be the benefit of a family,i pray when you get tested in lab it wont be a STI

JungleJustice01:
I'll be succinct. I've messed up and I take full responsibility for my actions. All I'm trying to do now is save those close to my heart.

I'm married 2 years with an 8 month baby. I'm a faithful husband at heart but I just lost focus and landed in this deep mess.

My first stinct at adultery was late into my wife's pregnancy when I could not hold body. This situation was further compounded when I relocated due to work and come home every 3 weeks or so. My carefree attitude also contributed to this but I'm not staying them as excuses. I did what I did.

I met this deeper life young girl about a month ago. She was about 23, good looking and has an innocent air around her. Last week thereabout we met up and made out after weeks of chatting. In the process, my contraceptive broke and it happened raw for a minute or two before I replaced it.

Now one week later and I having strong symptoms of HIV exposure. Had I known, I would have gone for Pep. I am 75% sure of infection at this point.

I'm home now and I don't want to touch my wife who is constantly on my neck since I returned. I don't want to infect her or my child....and I can't come to terms with telling her everything right now.

This is someone who is so faithful and she has expressly stated that she will not entertain any hint of infidelity.

I'm so done for, I need advice

carry your cross

MY ADVICE IS,
MAKE YOUR PENIS A PRIVATE PART.

Men.

I just weak for una matter.

You no marry wahala
You marry, so so nonsense.

Karleb:
How did you know you have HIV?

Sore throat, flu, muscle aches, lymph node enlargement. These are signs of a viral infection and they show up 1 -2 weeks after exposure.

I'll go for a test tomorrow, secretly. I've made peace with myself, it's telling my wife that's the issue. This home I hold dear will definitely scatter over a 5 minute one day stand.

The best you can do for us is to tell us the name of the deeper life girl or her church branch so that we fit avoid her..

JungleJustice01:
Sore throat, flu, muscle aches, lymph node enlargement. These are signs of a viral infection and they show up 1 -2 weeks after exposure.

I'll go for a test tomorrow, secretly. I've made peace with myself, it's telling my wife that's the issue. This home I hold dear will definitely scatter over a 5 minute one day stand.

You are not even serious!

Do you know you can exhibit all this symptoms by merely thinking you have the virus.

It could be anything. Don't conclude until you go for the test.

The human mind is very delicate atimes.. If works with ur body because of ur guilt to make u think u have the disease whereas u may not even when u are seeing some symptoms... Ur guilt can push u to depression if u are not careful... Go and test urself and be relieved.... If u have it start medication, if u don't desist from such act cos ur wife does not deserve such for her decency. Zip up op

JungleJustice01:
Sore throat, flu, muscle aches, lymph node enlargement. These are signs of a viral infection and they show up 1 -2 weeks after exposure.

I'll go for a test tomorrow, secretly. I've made peace with myself, it's telling my wife that's the issue. This home I hold dear will definitely scatter over a 5 minute one day stand.

It isn't you that should run a test yet..Take the 23 year old Deeeeeeeeper Life for an STD panel....Every possible test should be carried out on her...Her result will determine your fate...Goodluck

The5DME:
You no get sense op at this your old age.

why insulting him what he needs right now is advice. he is feeling remorseful

Faithful husband at heart

Not possible to get hiv symptoms in just a week. Go for test bro. Next time use condom

cchub:
The OP shouldn't use a lie to cover up another lie.

Well it's easier to advise people to do what's right but harder to do them ourselves

extol1:
why insulting him what he needs right now is advice. he is feeling remorseful

He's feeling remorse because he feels he has HIV, the thought of the disease alone has a way of humbling people especially adulterers.
Once he confirms that he is negative he will go back to the lady or find someone else to do it with.

I only feel pity for the wife.

Vyolet:
He's feeling remorse because he feels he has HIV, the thought of the disease alone has a way of humbling people especially adulterers.
Once he confirms that he is negative he will go back to the lady or find someone else to do it with.

I only feel pity for the wife.

we never say, this might teach him a lesson if he found out that he is negative

What is the significance of telling us she is a deeper life girl? To cast negativity on the church as a whole? Or to paint ladies from that church as immoral forgetting she's just an individual among many? Why not also tell us her tribe so we'd know you're not only a d*g, but also a bigot.

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JungleJustice01:
Sore throat, flu, muscle aches, lymph node enlargement. These are signs of a viral infection and they show up 1 -2 weeks after exposure.

I'll go for a test tomorrow, secretly. I've made peace with myself, it's telling my wife that's the issue. This home I hold dear will definitely scatter over a 5 minute one day stand.

for every action there is a consequences.... I am laughing at the way you will react, when next adultery comes knocking at your door next time . May God help you. Adulterous men every where smhhhh

You cheated on your wife during pregnancy and post-pregnancy, not to mention the actual number of times, and you call yourself "a faithful husband at heart?".

Vyolet:
He's feeling remorse because he feels he has HIV, the thought of the disease alone has a way of humbling people especially adulterers.
Once he confirms that he is negative he will go back to the lady or find someone else to do it with.

I only feel pity for the wife.

I'm sorry but no. My actions have no justification...and I rate my family above every other thing. I don't think I'll be going back to such risky endeavors. The pains far outweigh the rewards.

JovialJune:
What is the significance of telling us she is a deeper life girl? To cast negativity on the church as a whole? Or to paint ladies from that church as immoral forgetting she's just an individual among many? Why not also tell us her tribe so we'd know you're not only a d*g, but also a bigot.

I don't mean to stereotype her denomination. Deeper life members strike me as meek and reserved. It was one of the characteristics that attracted me to her in the first place.

JungleJustice01:
I'm sorry but no. My actions have no justification...and I rate my family above every other thing. I don't think I'll be going back to such risky endeavors. The pains far outweigh the rewards.

But how difficult is it to ask ur wife for bloowjob or haandjob? Being married doesnt necessarily mean d hole must be used... Kai

HarunaWest:
It isn't you that should run a test yet..Take the 23 year old Deeeeeeeeper Life for an STD panel....Every possible test should be carried out on her...Her result will determine your fate...Goodluck

Op take this advice...if at all you have HIV, it will still be on window period, so you're most likely going to test negative if you decide to go to the hospital.

The best thing to do is to call the girl in question and take her to the hospital for test...then prepare yourself for whatever the outcome will be.