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DissTroy:
What if he was trying to recover from you and his coping mechanism was being with other girls to forget the heartbreak you both caused each other? He obviously couldn't bring himself to trust and date any so he kept changing them not to be emotionally tied to any like he was to you.

He could bring girls home but you bringing different men home would have earned you the "whöre" tag by neighbours so you stayed put for your reputation.

Hey, 'cause you didn't date didn't mean you weren't tumbling the sheets with other men.

Some girls claim not to have been in any romantic relationship for months or years but deliberately skip the obvious truth that they've been having many sexual encounters with different men.


Question is, did you sleep with different men while "you didn't date for all those years"? Not responding to this is an answer in itself.

anoziechi:
fighting where there was nobody to separate us chaii hey gawd..I nearly died that day

AfroKnight:
Not me though.

Being vulnerable to women.

As a man, no woman must know about your weakness or whatever it is that makes you vulnerable. They will always use it against you.

If you must be vulnerable, be vulnerable to your guy.

Women have no scruples about fighting dirty or spilling the tea about you.

The real mistake was trusting my babes. Young Women can’t handle trust. They know nothing of masculine codes of honour and fairness. If you give her your total 100% trust, you are asking too much of her.

AsherAmari:
SMH..

Not everyone is like you. Ok?
I don't engage in premarital sex for you info and that was one of the reasons for the break-up.a and yes, he was using those girls to console his miserable life.

His close friend even told me he cries because of the breakup whenever they are together. His loss, not mine.

DissTroy:
LOL. Lies girls tell themselves.
You guys broke up and he brought girls home to fill in; but you were always monitoring to know when he comes home, who is in his car and who he has for company. You still were chatting with his friends.

But he never reached out to you or cared about your friends. He never cared who you were with but you knew his business and couldn't get over him like you mentioned. So much that it took you years to start dating again, yet he moved on immediately. You expected him to come begging or be as heartbroken as you were (are even) yet he wasn't.

Pray tell, who was the miserable one based on these facts? You! And, here's some truth serum for you- I saw the other comment you made to someone on this thread that you only became a born again after you had dated him. Meaning you were having sex. You really do think I am one of those guys blinded by religion? You think we don't know churchy girls are even more sexually-active? You really do think I care about such religious moral high grounds and sanctimony?

Here's what happened: He banged you, you wanted something permanent so, like most girls your age (you certainly were in your early 20's then), tried to manipulate him with the lure of sex, with "Let's slow it down because I don't want sex anymore". He moved on to other girls, you realized your gamble failed and you lost a man you loved due to it so you were heartbroken. You kept monitoring him ever since and keeping tabs on his social circle. I bet you were even always checking up on him on social media even though you had unfriended him. These are predictable tactics.

You left too many holes to be punctured.

iamL:
This one is really broken. U need help seriously, the ladies that this to you really dealt with u. Be strong pele.

AsherAmari:
Dating someone in the same compound and when things went South, he started bringing different girls home and would always hoot the horn of his car so loud at the gate so I can hear him from inside and then I'll peek through the gate and see them. It wasn't funny.

It took me years before I could date again after then.
I learnt a big lesson and it's never to date anyone from the same street talk more same compound.

Lonelypacifist6:
I bottle up my thoughts and feelings, If anyone offends me I'll not let the person know, i just cut them off and never have anything to do with them again, This has made me lose friends who just made genuine mistakes, I considered myself too polished to be friends with such people.

Lonelypacifist6:
I bottle up my thoughts and feelings, If anyone offends me I'll not let the person know, i just cut them off and never have anything to do with them again, This has made me lose friends who just made genuine mistakes, I considered myself too polished to be friends with such people.

jeff1607:
How you guys take this bitter stuff still beats my imagination sef

Reex12:
did they abort?

Eastcaostboy:
You should have known that, don't you reason. Shameless girls everywhere how could you date a guy in the same compound.... Go out and do your things, open your legs for that Gee weller...after that put your cloths back on and flyback to your hood. That how wise girls roll

Greenbullet:
Mine is simple , I will say , I am emotionally dangerous , I love teaching people a very drastic lesson after I forgive them , it has been an habit right from when I was child , any one who offended me had an ill fate coming their way through revenge . This extended to my relationship , the day , my girlfriend offended me , I plotted revenge for 2 months to get back at her , it affected her badly .
The point is don’t mess with me .

DeAlphaMale:
No

SimplyFacts:
Keep your emotional life healthy. If you feel lonely, take yourself out on a lone date, order for a drink, go through NL funny comments & smile at your phone. Na single you single, you no kill person.

Thanks to BRENT Mall,,,, it's just a stone's throw from here.

Save yourself from emotional krikukriku

AfroKnight:
Sorry bro.

This is a really difficult issue to handle. Just keep thinking positive thoughts. The real peace will come when you get the money to repay them. Until then every phone call from their number will stress you. But don’t give in to the anxiety.

numericalguy:
This one is a very sick and needs mental help.
You are an aberration to the society.

Bluezy13:
This really cracked me up.
How did it end ??

anoziechi:
fighting where there was nobody to separate us chaii hey gawd..I nearly died that day

Aderr:
You should try it. You'll feel good after. Thank me later.

Mypeople2:
Sorry about that .But the best relationship I had was dating someone in my compound. The romance and kisses were something else .The relationship went south when she left that state.We never really broke up.Though she is married now ,she still calls me and we joke about what happened then

DharmieDhrey:
Damn, this dude stated the truth. Somehow, you're uncomfortable. Then you replied in that manner to alleviate the emotional discomfort. Look the funny thing is, if this was said of another lady, you would concur without hesitation. What you ladies can't own up to is accountability.

It's apparent your reply reeks of insecurity. Your defense mechanism is so weak.

Anyway, deep down, you know he said nothing but the truth.

cyrusmillz:
So I met a nairalander a couple years back in the literature section. I was drawn to her by her posts (o boy she could write a believable fiction)and I kept reading and keeping tabs for weeks till I eventually started a conversation on one of her other threads and after a few days i got her contact and we got talking.

In all my weeks of reading and following her posts , I had a mental picture of how this lady might look like ( the face , the complexion, stature an all) . It was on whatsapp I got to know how she really looked, although she was pretty... she was on the plus size and that was a turn off for me then. But we kept on talking and it got to the stage that we talked everyday.

The second month after we started chatting (April) , we decided to meet ... nothing fancy just a normal restaurant where we can talk. I arrived some few minutes before her. Some minutes later , I saw her come down from the marwa where I was seated, she was putting on blue dress. I didn't know when I shouted " o boy , this girl fat oh " I'd seen her pictures before but I never knew she was this big.

After the date, she called and I didn't pick , texted and I didn't reply , "whatsapped" and I left unread. I feel bad for what I did , I shouldn't have done that ...even if I couldn't date her I should have kept her as a friend (she's still one of the most brilliant person and the best fiction writer I know)

I'm sorry H****4** , Pls forgive me.

Bluezy13:
This really cracked me up. How did it end ??

superlicious:

CanadaOrBust:
Posting a thread on NL for a good friend to help her get a quality husband who deserves a quality girl like her (check my profile - that was my last topic!)