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Please, folks in the house, what's the deal, really?

Why are many Nigerians seemingly averse to the option of adopting kids? Even when they've been waiting years to have kids of their own biologically?

Personally, I seem to be overcome with the idea of adoption. I'd love to have just one child biologically, then adopt one or two others.

But why is it a big deal in Nigeria?

I know the process is filled with lots of protocol. But is that such a deterrent?

Is it expensive, financially?

Is it really hard to love a child that's not your flesh and blood?

Many parents nowadays adopted childrens that are not biologically theirs, they don't know.
So no need to reapply any adoption again.

They're probably uninformed (don't know much about the adoption process) or ill-informed (heard wrong, false information about adoption/the adoption process). Likewise, most people would rather have their own biological children than adopt.

Because its not in our DNA to adopt something that is not yours when you can potentially produce your own. We are africans and having your own kids is regarded as achievement.

Barbsamiin:
Many parents nowadays adopted childrens that are not biologically theirs, they don't know.
So no need to reapply any adoption again.

You're referring to paternity fraud?

aroundtheearth:
They're probably uninformed (don't know much about the adoption process) or ill-informed (heard wrong, false information about adoption/the adoption process). Likewise, most people would rather have their own biological children than adopt.

I agree. But even when the biological children aren't forthcoming, they still don't explore the adoption option.

I know a few couples who have been childless for more than 7 years. Why not adopt since they really want children?

Liposure:
Because its not in our DNA to adopt something that is not yours when you can potentially produce your own. We are africans and having your own kids is seen as an achievement.

Okay, have one and adopt others, then.

Isn't Nigeria too populated for each person to be aspiring to have 3/4 new kids when there are so many existing lovely children out there in need of a home?

I also think it would help to fix some societal problems because most of the people who become streets urchins and criminals and having varying psychological dysfunctions, are people who are either orphans raised in orphanages, or people who grew up alone on the streets with no love.

PrimadonnaO:
You're referring to paternity fraud?

Egg xactly

Barbsamiin:
Egg xactly

Lol. That's another matter entirely.

PrimadonnaO:
Please, folks in the house, what's the deal, really?

Why are many Nigerians seemingly averse to the option of adopting kids? Even when they've been waiting years to have kids of their own biologically?

Personally, I seem to be overcome with the idea of adoption. I'd love to have just one child biologically, then adopt one or two others.

But why is it a big deal in Nigeria?

I know the process is filled with lots of protocol. But is that such a deterrent?

Is it expensive, financially?

Is it really hard to love a child that's not your flesh and blood?

you are so me... Personally, when ready I'll love to get married to a woman who will prefer we have one or two kids!!!

Like can't people see overpopulation?! well it all boils down to the fact that parents just want to give their selfish love to their biological kids. end of story.

I actually plan on adopting 2 kids when my kids get into the university & d house is empty

Tablechair:
you are so me... Personally, when ready I'll love to get married to a woman who will prefer we have one or two kids!!!

Like can't people see overpopulation?! well it all boils down to the fact that parents just want to give their selfish love to their biological kids. end of story.

I guess so. Because I don't seem to see any other strong logical point from anyone.

cricifixo:
I actually plan on adopting 2 kids when my kids get into the university & d house is empty

Awesome!

In Lagos state, the process is cumbersome. Starting with the medical fitness test which must be strictly done at LASUTH to other things.

ThatPetiteChic:
In Lagos state, the process is cumbersome. Starting with the medical fitness test which must be strictly done at LASUTH to other things.

I won't say they should scrap all of those processes because I believe most of them are necessary to ensure compatibility of both parents and child.

I only wish they'll devise ways to make it more seamless.

I wish I had answers to your questions but I don't. I can only say that adopting a child is very noble.

PrimadonnaO:
Please, folks in the house, what's the deal, really?

Why are many Nigerians seemingly averse to the option of adopting kids? Even when they've been waiting years to have kids of their own biologically?

Personally, I seem to be overcome with the idea of adoption. I'd love to have just one child biologically, then adopt one or two others.

But why is it a big deal in Nigeria?

I know the process is filled with lots of protocol. But is that such a deterrent?

Is it expensive, financially?

Is it really hard to love a child that's not your flesh and blood?

No orientation about it in Africa and also African mentality is a deterrent factor.

PrimadonnaO:
Okay, have one and adopt others, then.

Isn't Nigeria too populated for each person to be aspiring to have 3/4 new kids when there are so many existing lovely children out there in need of a home?

I also think it would help to fix some societal problems because most of the people who become streets urchins and criminals and having varying psychological dysfunctions, are people who are either orphans raised in orphanages, or people who grew up alone on the streets with no love.

Nigerians don't adopt children. Adoption is not for us. We are religious and we have faith in God to help us in areas where we cant help ourself

I check your profile and i saw that you are even a Nigerian and you are asking all this questions

Nigeria is not America. Hope you get me.

Country hard, even Nigeria dey look for who go adopt am... Make SA con adopt naija oh, cos naija na orphan...

Nigerians don't adopt!!!

Why should it be when when relatives and friends will still be mounting preasure for you to have a child of ur own blood.

As i read the topic, i knew it would definitely be a female

Superstition and stuff

Because of baby factory and child trafficking in South East.

As unpopular as it is, the process hard die.

An uncle once said,
I can't adopt a child that isn't my blood.

Lol.

because Pastor say

Because there is a believe that Blood is thinker than water

No culture talked about it

What kind of question is that? Is it popular abroad ni?

PrimadonnaO:
Please, folks in the house, what's the deal, really?

Why are many Nigerians seemingly averse to the option of adopting kids? Even when they've been waiting years to have kids of their own biologically?

Personally, I seem to be overcome with the idea of adoption. I'd love to have just one child biologically, then adopt one or two others.

But why is it a big deal in Nigeria?

I know the process is filled with lots of protocol. But is that such a deterrent?

Is it expensive, financially?

Is it really hard to love a child that's not your flesh and blood?

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