Geonigga:
The recent one is the fourth times she has repeated the same act and always calling back at wee hour of the night. I think have endured enough

lori calling? Oh oo

You are at fault bro, u would have known the reason she didnt pick up ur cal first, before concluding, text her an apology man, dnt fight her, dats too small 2 break u guys up.

See mature man wen dey behave like tata

Do me I do u relationship

Na small pikin dey worry una two

tell US

@Geonigga

You still have not told how you confirmed that she is cheating on you...all you wrote here are assumptions

hmmm

God! What did I just read

Holy Moley. Who brought this shit to front page?

Can a responsible Nigerian please point me to the part where the said girlfriend cheated.... Because e be like that part no show for my screen

Why are guys of these days so soft even more than pap?

Jezzzz man up bro...its bleeped up

Geonigga:
She has done the same thing in three occasions previously, she keeps on raising flemsy excuse that her phone was in her bag and many more similar excuses, I have to give her the benefit of the doubt until the recent one.

summary of the matter is that they were banging her when you called and she didn't want you to be hearing her ringing tone outside your studio. Are you satisfied now? Make u no dey bring all these children talk here again

soundOsonic:
You are an insecure child.
Someone didn't pick your call, you didn't think that the person might be busy, and she even called you back and yet you decided to do thesame.
She is more matured than you, when you refused to pick her call atleast she asked you why.
I know she won't believe how foolish she is dating an immature child.

Thank you.
He’s so immature

Geonigga:
I have sometime in February this year made a post of a lady I met and who refused taking my calls one certain night and which I did a post seeking for advise here.

Let me now go straight to the recent happening in the relationship with this lady whom I met in the church and who also live in the same estate with me in fact her house is not that far from mine though she is living with her aunt.

It happened that on Wednesday being the 21st of April, 2021, when I arrived home from work, it is my usual practice to call her and when I called her that very day, she took her call and told me that she is very hungry and her reason was that she didn't like what they cooked in her house. I have to invite her over to my house and she ate very well and even took a bottle of soft drink before leaving for her house that night which I also gave her a naira note in case she wants to buy anything the following day.

The following day being the 22nd of April, as usual when I came back from work around 6:30pm, I put two calls across to her which were made in different intervals, but lol and behold this lady I thought she was my girl friend didn't pick up the calls, I remained calmed and went to bed that night.

However, during the course of the night, around 11:30pm that night my phone rang and I took the phone to know who was calling, it was this my so called girl friend that was calling, I had to ignore the call.

The following day very early in the morning she called again but I was preparing for work and I didn't want anything that will ignite sad mood on me, I have to ignored her calls even when I was at the office.

Later in the evening when I was about leaving the office she called again and I picked up the call with a mild attention, she then asked why I refused taking her calls since, I replied her by saying that she started it, this lady has to immediately end the call and up until now she has refused to take my calls or call back.

Please I really want to know who is at fault here because she is now making it look as if I am at fault but as it is I have made up my mind to call it a quit if she can not step down her pride and apologize. I will appreciate you guys opinions on this.

You are not mature.

Geonigga:
I have sometime in February this year made a post of a lady I met and who refused taking my calls one certain night and which I did a post seeking for advise here.

Let me now go straight to the recent happening in the relationship with this lady whom I met in the church and who also live in the same estate with me in fact her house is not that far from mine though she is living with her aunt.

It happened that on Wednesday being the 21st of April, 2021, when I arrived home from work, it is my usual practice to call her and when I called her that very day, she took her call and told me that she is very hungry and her reason was that she didn't like what they cooked in her house. I have to invite her over to my house and she ate very well and even took a bottle of soft drink before leaving for her house that night which I also gave her a naira note in case she wants to buy anything the following day.

The following day being the 22nd of April, as usual when I came back from work around 6:30pm, I put two calls across to her which were made in different intervals, but lol and behold this lady I thought she was my girl friend didn't pick up the calls, I remained calmed and went to bed that night.

However, during the course of the night, around 11:30pm that night my phone rang and I took the phone to know who was calling, it was this my so called girl friend that was calling, I had to ignore the call.

The following day very early in the morning she called again but I was preparing for work and I didn't want anything that will ignite sad mood on me, I have to ignored her calls even when I was at the office.

Later in the evening when I was about leaving the office she called again and I picked up the call with a mild attention, she then asked why I refused taking her calls since, I replied her by saying that she started it, this lady has to immediately end the call and up until now she has refused to take my calls or call back.

Please I really want to know who is at fault here because she is now making it look as if I am at fault but as it is I have made up my mind to call it a quit if she can not step down her pride and apologize. I will appreciate you guys opinions on this.

am saying without apology, u are the problem in this relationship

I hope she dump ur ass

From ur explanation, u are not yet matured enough to be a husband.

How old are u self ?

Geonigga:
I have sometime in February this year made a post of a lady I met and who refused taking my calls one certain night and which I did a post seeking for advise here.

Let me now go straight to the recent happening in the relationship with this lady whom I met in the church and who also live in the same estate with me in fact her house is not that far from mine though she is living with her aunt.

It happened that on Wednesday being the 21st of April, 2021, when I arrived home from work, it is my usual practice to call her and when I called her that very day, she took her call and told me that she is very hungry and her reason was that she didn't like what they cooked in her house. I have to invite her over to my house and she ate very well and even took a bottle of soft drink before leaving for her house that night which I also gave her a naira note in case she wants to buy anything the following day.

The following day being the 22nd of April, as usual when I came back from work around 6:30pm, I put two calls across to her which were made in different intervals, but lol and behold this lady I thought she was my girl friend didn't pick up the calls, I remained calmed and went to bed that night.

However, during the course of the night, around 11:30pm that night my phone rang and I took the phone to know who was calling, it was this my so called girl friend that was calling, I had to ignore the call.

The following day very early in the morning she called again but I was preparing for work and I didn't want anything that will ignite sad mood on me, I have to ignored her calls even when I was at the office.

Later in the evening when I was about leaving the office she called again and I picked up the call with a mild attention, she then asked why I refused taking her calls since, I replied her by saying that she started it, this lady has to immediately end the call and up until now she has refused to take my calls or call back.

Please I really want to know who is at fault here because she is now making it look as if I am at fault but as it is I have made up my mind to call it a quit if she can not step down her pride and apologize. I will appreciate you guys opinions on this.

fix your life first, as in... get a life and put gf mata for one side, if your story is truly true.

if i read well, you are at fault here

you said you called her that night at different intervals and she didn't pick but she called you back around 11pm or something which should tell you she was sleeping when she missed your call earlier cuz if she was ignoring you she wouldnt call you back at around 11pm and you yourself use your childish play by not picking her calls severally

the lady is vindicated here and i dont expect this kind of issue coming on nairaland here cuz this is total nonsense on your side

not all time we blame this girls this is totally your fault okay

Geonigga:
I have sometime in February this year made a post of a lady I met and who refused taking my calls one certain night and which I did a post seeking for advise here.

Let me now go straight to the recent happening in the relationship with this lady whom I met in the church and who also live in the same estate with me in fact her house is not that far from mine though she is living with her aunt.

It happened that on Wednesday being the 21st of April, 2021, when I arrived home from work, it is my usual practice to call her and when I called her that very day, she took her call and told me that she is very hungry and her reason was that she didn't like what they cooked in her house. I have to invite her over to my house and she ate very well and even took a bottle of soft drink before leaving for her house that night which I also gave her a naira note in case she wants to buy anything the following day.

The following day being the 22nd of April, as usual when I came back from work around 6:30pm, I put two calls across to her which were made in different intervals, but lol and behold this lady I thought she was my girl friend didn't pick up the calls, I remained calmed and went to bed that night.

However, during the course of the night, around 11:30pm that night my phone rang and I took the phone to know who was calling, it was this my so called girl friend that was calling, I had to ignore the call.

The following day very early in the morning she called again but I was preparing for work and I didn't want anything that will ignite sad mood on me, I have to ignored her calls even when I was at the office.

Later in the evening when I was about leaving the office she called again and I picked up the call with a mild attention, she then asked why I refused taking her calls since, I replied her by saying that she started it, this lady has to immediately end the call and up until now she has refused to take my calls or call back.

Please I really want to know who is at fault here because she is now making it look as if I am at fault but as it is I have made up my mind to call it a quit if she can not step down her pride and apologize. I will appreciate you guys opinions on this.

You all should ask of his age before knowing a perfect response to give him. nigga might be in his early 20s

infact na biggest mumu

Silver247:
I just wish say nairaland get voice note..... Make I use am tell you say you be mumu

Geonigga:
I have sometime in February this year made a post of a lady I met and who refused taking my calls one certain night and which I did a post seeking for advise here.

Let me now go straight to the recent happening in the relationship with this lady whom I met in the church and who also live in the same estate with me in fact her house is not that far from mine though she is living with her aunt.

It happened that on Wednesday being the 21st of April, 2021, when I arrived home from work, it is my usual practice to call her and when I called her that very day, she took her call and told me that she is very hungry and her reason was that she didn't like what they cooked in her house. I have to invite her over to my house and she ate very well and even took a bottle of soft drink before leaving for her house that night which I also gave her a naira note in case she wants to buy anything the following day.

The following day being the 22nd of April, as usual when I came back from work around 6:30pm, I put two calls across to her which were made in different intervals, but lol and behold this lady I thought she was my girl friend didn't pick up the calls, I remained calmed and went to bed that night.

However, during the course of the night, around 11:30pm that night my phone rang and I took the phone to know who was calling, it was this my so called girl friend that was calling, I had to ignore the call.

The following day very early in the morning she called again but I was preparing for work and I didn't want anything that will ignite sad mood on me, I have to ignored her calls even when I was at the office.

Later in the evening when I was about leaving the office she called again and I picked up the call with a mild attention, she then asked why I refused taking her calls since, I replied her by saying that she started it, this lady has to immediately end the call and up until now she has refused to take my calls or call back.

Please I really want to know who is at fault here because she is now making it look as if I am at fault but as it is I have made up my mind to call it a quit if she can not step down her pride and apologize. I will appreciate you guys opinions on this.

both of una are mad

The girl is at fault and you are also at fault. How can you allow a small to slap your mother because of love?

Lol. She definitely need a new bf or get a second job.

The following day being the 22nd of April, as usual when I came back from work around 6:30pm, I put two calls across to her which were made in different intervals, but lol and behold this lady I thought she was my girl friend didn't pick up the calls, I remained calmed and went to bed that night.

Geonigga:
I have sometime in February this year made a post of a lady I met and who refused taking my calls one certain night and which I did a post seeking for advise here.

Let me now go straight to the recent happening in the relationship with this lady whom I met in the church and who also live in the same estate with me in fact her house is not that far from mine though she is living with her aunt.

It happened that on Wednesday being the 21st of April, 2021, when I arrived home from work, it is my usual practice to call her and when I called her that very day, she took her call and told me that she is very hungry and her reason was that she didn't like what they cooked in her house. I have to invite her over to my house and she ate very well and even took a bottle of soft drink before leaving for her house that night which I also gave her a naira note in case she wants to buy anything the following day.

The following day being the 22nd of April, as usual when I came back from work around 6:30pm, I put two calls across to her which were made in different intervals, but lol and behold this lady I thought she was my girl friend didn't pick up the calls, I remained calmed and went to bed that night.

However, during the course of the night, around 11:30pm that night my phone rang and I took the phone to know who was calling, it was this my so called girl friend that was calling, I had to ignore the call.

The following day very early in the morning she called again but I was preparing for work and I didn't want anything that will ignite sad mood on me, I have to ignored her calls even when I was at the office.

Later in the evening when I was about leaving the office she called again and I picked up the call with a mild attention, she then asked why I refused taking her calls since, I replied her by saying that she started it, this lady has to immediately end the call and up until now she has refused to take my calls or call back.

Please I really want to know who is at fault here because she is now making it look as if I am at fault but as it is I have made up my mind to call it a quit if she can not step down her pride and apologize. I will appreciate you guys opinions on this.

Oga forget who is at fault. she don leave you thats what matters.......pussy wey you never secure you go dey do who calls who first. mumu

If u never Bleep her, go collect all those things wey u give her. Go look for another girl, don't u ever waste time on any mullerian

I think OP needs to break up with the girl and take like 2years off from relationships to work on himself. He has a very toxic attitude. I pity any girl that dates a guy like that in his current state.

AngelicDamsel:
If you react to an offense by repeating what the offender did, then you are at much fault as the offender.

Do me I do you. Man no go vex.



You are at fault. Apologize for your hasty conclusions founded on the foundation of assumptions.

Assumption kills relationship faster than anyone can describe.

My advice:
Be the man, lead every situation, be the bigger one, show strength, conquer her shortcomings with your manly wisdom; what is the wisdom? Boldness and courage to fix the issue and not the blame. This is the evidence of maturity. Addressing the issue and taking responsibility.




Never play a blame game with a person you love.

very correct

Bros, this one was not cheating na, had it been wat happened to me happened to u o mehn u go de indoors sobbing for days, u need to learn to overlook some things, especially when there is no tangible evidence

Send her a text abeg that u want to see her

guy why? u don't do that u calling her u r only making her feel special. another guy dey drive m
oto wai u dey wash

You did not even bother to find out what made her not to pick your calls when you were calling.
She may have had genuine reasons for not picking your calls at the time you called.
She called you severally the following day.
A matured mind would have at least heard her out, but because you fed her and gave a a naira note and coke, you concluded that you hold her destiny in your hands.

My verdict: Your are not matured, irrespective of your age

Obviously, you're still a toddler wanting to be a teenager. Imagine keeping malice with a woman. You certainly need tutorials from your Ma.