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Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by MacBriggsons: 11:51pm On May 03, 2021
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Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by qtguru(m): 12:02am On May 04, 2021
Freestainworld:
30+ men are not that difficult as some ladies depicts them, it's just that they have tasted and seen what some guys in their 20s are still novice on, caution plus self discipline is what drives them around.

Plus at that point career is more likely to be our focus. So most women they can't afford to play games with most of them, cuz another available lady will fall in.

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Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by Gaddafih001(m): 2:00am On May 04, 2021
DEMZEE:
Yes they are the hardest to date because most girls seeking those types of men are not marriage minded.

Those men have built their value and don't want any bitch to just come and scatter the world they built.

They don't have time for games and they will tell u Wat they are interested in and Wat they are about.

The worse women to date are 30+ women. They are useless especially for a long term relationship cos they don't have fertility and beauty again and most of them have masculine traits.
In my place,any woman that stops menstruating ďż˝ is eligible to enter the masquerade society made for men..
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by Pretend: 6:01am On May 04, 2021
Men are getting smarter in my own opinion, at 30+ a man's will and character is already formed and the past relationships have taught him hard lessons that he would love to heed for personal security.
In the same vein, he has better understanding of women, their antics and manipulation tactics, reason he's being direct and tries to avoid drama since drama achieves nothing other than wasted time, saps one's energy and resources.
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Women should grow up as well

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Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by PoliticallyInco: 6:18am On May 04, 2021
30+ Men ARE DIFFICULT TO MANIPULATE....

That is how it should read.

30+ MEN ARE DIFFICULT TO MANIPULATE.

That was what they actually meant to say. 30 Plus Men, Most don’t/wont allow you lead them on with THE PROSPECTS OF SEX/RELATIONSHIP WHILE YOU AS THE SO CALLED LADY WITH A VAGINA APPARENTLY CASHES OUT. WHILE WAITING FOR THE PROSPECTS OF SEX/RELATIONSHIP YOU MAKE THEM PAY YOUR BILLS, BUY YOU THINGS,TAKE YOU OUT, SHOW YOU LOVE (whatever that one means) AND OFFER YOU EMOTIONAL SUPPORT, PHYSICAL SECURITY, etc.

Ideally they are goin for younger women who are in their early to mid 20s. This generation of ladies are an interesting one. They are not Homo Sapiens. They are "Homo the-world-should-revolve-around-our-curves-and-vaginas-and-we-should-be-able-to-get-anything-we-want-or-we-shall-throw-a-fit-and-scatter-everything". Yes that is their species name. Majority of these women have since/long shelved the good girl personality and do things their way. They are "feminist" when it is convenient based on double standards. They cherry-pick only the juicy part of gender equality. They only want the BEST PARTS of being a Man.

A man in his 30s that cannot see that all relationships are selfish based on each partners expectations, wishes, enticements and desires is one that women of today will chew and spit out. They will deal with him. A man in his 30s should be fully logical by that age. He knows he wants sex and companionship whether short term, long term, a minute etc.. He also knows she will want material things, companionship,or bills paid, emotional support, etc. The question the 30 plus man then asks himself is Why waste time and beat about the bush When the time can be put to better use? He has no time to waste. Probably at the time when career prospects are interesting and he is almost at Middle Management. He is also thinking of building his future wealth, or being better at whatever he does.

A man in his 30s knows that the compensation for him is majorly a woman's vagina for all his hard work. Why then deceive himself? He knows that All the “soul of my soul”, “flesh of my flesh”, “soul mate”, “better half” etc are simply garnishings to cover up the true and real selfish desires in a relationship. This reality is hard to accept by most humans because they love fantasies. 30s plus men MAY not have time to hide their intentions with the deception called "romance". Romance etc are just tools used only to make the parties feel good about themselves and the selfish desires they pursue and hope to get from their partner, whether emotional,psychological or material.

Don't get me wrong my Politically Incorrect views do not mean romance is not interesting or necessary. It is. I am not anti romance. I am saying people do not see it for what it is.
It is pleasant but I am not deceived by it. I am well aware of the true intent. I am not deceived about its true purpose. ROMANCE, LOVE, etc. is not anything special but geared towards the achievements of selfish personal aims/goals in a relationship. Whether it is to raise a child in a secure environment, remove societal and family pressures,bear Mrs, come back to well prepared meals and a clean home, available sex, gold digging, looking for someone to cook,clean the dishes and keep the home, someone to pay your bills and take you shopping, iPhone any number, bone straight hair,etc. etc.


Dear Ladies, all relationships have selfish and self centered expectations. Find a man that supports yours both in psychological make up, ideas and physical traits. And let his personality also match yours. Make sure you also ask him for his selfish expectations. Does he want sex? Is he just scouting for any available prey. If you do not match. Then move on. Tell him your own selfish expectations do not match his. Tell Him that for you, you seek long term relationships, commitment to unified goals (family, family business, property, etc).

DO NOT EVER THINK YOU CAN BUY HIM WITH SEX. HAVE SEX BECAUSE YOU WANT TO. BECAUSE IT IS PLEASANT AND PLEASURABLE AND BECAUSE YOU SEE HIM AS A WORTHY SEXUAL PARTNER/MATE. BECAUSE YOU ENJOY IT AND MISS IT. BECAUSE YOU MISS PHYSICAL INTIMACY.

DO NOT THINK SEX WILL MAKE HIM AUTOMATICALLY ALLING WITH YOUR OWN SELFISH EXPECTATIONS FROM THE RELATIONSHIP.


No, Men in their 30s aren't difficult to date. They are approaching 40 and know not to be deceived.

30s Plus men are ONLY/JUST MORE DIFFICULT TO MANIPULATE/DECIEVE BY A WOMAN'S VAGINA.

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Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by Belafonte(m): 11:03am On May 04, 2021
Fluency:

Hmm!
But patience is a virtue.

If you won't be patient for a conductor withholding your change, you shouldn't be patient for a woman who will waste your time

Patience is not stupidity

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Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by Fluency(m): 10:40pm On May 04, 2021
Belafonte:


If you won't be patient for a conductor withholding your change, you shouldn't be patient for a woman who will waste your time

Patience is not stupidity

Indeed!
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by Fluency(m): 10:45pm On May 04, 2021
PoliticallyInco:
30+ Men ARE DIFFICULT TO MANIPULATE....

That is how it should read.

30+ MEN ARE DIFFICULT TO MANIPULATE.

That was what they actually meant to say. 30 Plus Men, Most don’t/wont allow you lead them on with THE PROSPECTS OF SEX/RELATIONSHIP WHILE YOU AS THE SO CALLED LADY WITH A VAGINA APPARENTLY CASHES OUT. WHILE WAITING FOR THE PROSPECTS OF SEX/RELATIONSHIP YOU MAKE THEM PAY YOUR BILLS, BUY YOU THINGS,TAKE YOU OUT, SHOW YOU LOVE (whatever that one means) AND OFFER YOU EMOTIONAL SUPPORT, PHYSICAL SECURITY, etc.

Ideally they are goin for younger women who are in their early to mid 20s. This generation of ladies are an interesting one. They are not Homo Sapiens. They are "Homo the-world-should-revolve-around-our-curves-and-vaginas-and-we-should-be-able-to-get-anything-we-want-or-we-shall-throw-a-fit-and-scatter-everything". Yes that is their species name. Majority of these women have since/long shelved the good girl personality and do things their way. They are "feminist" when it is convenient based on double standards. They cherry-pick only the juicy part of gender equality. They only want the BEST PARTS of being a Man.

A man in his 30s that cannot see that all relationships are selfish based on each partners expectations, wishes, enticements and desires is one that women of today will chew and spit out. They will deal with him. A man in his 30s should be fully logical by that age. He knows he wants sex and companionship whether short term, long term, a minute etc.. He also knows she will want material things, companionship,or bills paid, emotional support, etc. The question the 30 plus man then asks himself is Why waste time and beat about the bush When the time can be put to better use? He has no time to waste. Probably at the time when career prospects are interesting and he is almost at Middle Management. He is also thinking of building his future wealth, or being better at whatever he does.

A man in his 30s knows that the compensation for him is majorly a woman's vagina for all his hard work. Why then deceive himself? He knows that All the “soul of my soul”, “flesh of my flesh”, “soul mate”, “better half” etc are simply garnishings to cover up the true and real selfish desires in a relationship. This reality is hard to accept by most humans because they love fantasies. 30s plus men MAY not have time to hide their intentions with the deception called "romance". Romance etc are just tools used only to make the parties feel good about themselves and the selfish desires they pursue and hope to get from their partner, whether emotional,psychological or material.

Don't get me wrong my Politically Incorrect views do not mean romance is not interesting or necessary. It is. I am not anti romance. I am saying people do not see it for what it is.
It is pleasant but I am not deceived by it. I am well aware of the true intent. I am not deceived about its true purpose. ROMANCE, LOVE, etc. is not anything special but geared towards the achievements of selfish personal aims/goals in a relationship. Whether it is to raise a child in a secure environment, remove societal and family pressures,bear Mrs, come back to well prepared meals and a clean home, available sex, gold digging, looking for someone to cook,clean the dishes and keep the home, someone to pay your bills and take you shopping, iPhone any number, bone straight hair,etc. etc.


Dear Ladies, all relationships have selfish and self centered expectations. Find a man that supports yours both in psychological make up, ideas and physical traits. And let his personality also match yours. Make sure you also ask him for his selfish expectations. Does he want sex? Is he just scouting for any available prey. If you do not match. Then move on. Tell him your own selfish expectations do not match his. Tell Him that for you, you seek long term relationships, commitment to unified goals (family, family business, property, etc).

DO NOT EVER THINK YOU CAN BUY HIM WITH SEX. HAVE SEX BECAUSE YOU WANT TO. BECAUSE IT IS PLEASANT AND PLEASURABLE AND BECAUSE YOU SEE HIM AS A WORTHY SEXUAL PARTNER/MATE. BECAUSE YOU ENJOY IT AND MISS IT. BECAUSE YOU MISS PHYSICAL INTIMACY.

DO NOT THINK SEX WILL MAKE HIM AUTOMATICALLY ALLING WITH YOUR OWN SELFISH EXPECTATIONS FROM THE RELATIONSHIP.


No, Men in their 30s aren't difficult to date. They are approaching 40 and know not to be deceived.

30s Plus men are ONLY/JUST MORE DIFFICULT TO MANIPULATE/DECIEVE BY A WOMAN'S VAGINA.

You try

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Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by Fluency(m): 10:53pm On May 04, 2021
DEMZEE:


A man who knows his value won't settle for 30+ women for long term relationship and commitment

I think it solely depend on the "personality" of the lady involved. Some 30+ ladies can completely transform a man's life from bad to best. Just pray to locate the right one that will allow your destiny shines on you.
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by DEMZEE(m): 11:05pm On May 04, 2021
Fluency:


I think it solely depend on the "personality" of the lady involved. Some 30+ ladies can completely transform a man's life from bad to best. Just pray to locate the right one that will allow your destiny shines on you.

Go forbid

Wat kind of scarcity mindset and women pedestalizing mindset is this

Women don't build, they move in especially in this 21st century

Women are luxury in ur life, they are not your focus in life.

Everyday a girl is turning 18yrs old dude

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Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by Vision101(m): 2:21am On May 05, 2021
@folabayo
I never get experience with 30+ guys.
I no de pass my boundary.
Well am here to read and learn.


@me
What is your boundary?
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by GeneralPula: 6:15am On May 05, 2021
Most of them are Yemi my lover kind of guy when them still young. To them, they’re mature, they’re not insecure. They’re usually getting used and dump

Now, at 30+, they’ll want to start acting Manly. Their manly attitude is usually abnormal sha - nah why dem hard to date. They’ll be getting skeptical of every little thing, both when needed & when not needed..

But if you see a 30+ guy that has been sharped from young, such dude has no problem with women..

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Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by folabayo(f): 12:30pm On May 05, 2021
Vision101:
@folabayo
I never get experience with 30+ guys.
I no de pass my boundary.
Well am here to read and learn.


@me
What is your boundary?

3_4yrs diff.
Few years bck, once u tell me u are 30+ I de japa cheesy
I don mature now sha grin
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by Vision101(m): 1:24pm On May 05, 2021
@folabayo

3_4yrs diff.
Few years bck, once u tell me u are 30+ I de japa cheesy
I don mature now sha ;


@me
The more matured the sweeter.

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Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by folabayo(f): 4:20pm On May 05, 2021
Vision101:
@folabayo

3_4yrs diff.
Few years bck, once u tell me u are 30+ I de japa cheesy
I don mature now sha ;


@me
The more matured the sweeter.
wink

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Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by philfrey08: 4:56pm On May 05, 2021
Freestainworld:
30+ men are not that difficult as some ladies depicts them, it's just that they have tasted and seen what some guys in their 20s are still novice on, caution plus self discipline is what drives them around.

Maybe they still want us to act like sugar boys. Abeg I can’t.
Let’s keep it professional... for a bit

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Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by philfrey08: 4:59pm On May 05, 2021
GeneralPula:
Most of them are Yemi my lover kind of guy when them still young. To them, they’re mature, they’re not insecure. They’re usually getting used and dump

Now, at 30+, they’ll want to start acting Manly. Their manly attitude is usually abnormal sha - nah why dem hard to date. They’ll be getting skeptical of every little thing, both when needed & when not needed..

But if you see a 30+ guy that has been sharped from young, such dude has no problem with women..

I don’t see how that’s a problem.
You sounding as though maturity is abnormal.
Above 30, there are a lot on your head; making money, taking care of your family, social responsibilities and co.... women or girls don’t top the list unless your wife.
Don’t blame us... its growth

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Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by Iamolukorede(m): 5:22pm On May 05, 2021
Left to me growth and maturity should come first in anything. Why waste your time on women with shallow or irregular thinking abilities.

I am 34 and yet single, in this part of the world our 21st century ladies won't stop to amaze me with their marriage goals and selfish desires. We are not that difficult to date, just that we set goals and heed straight to what we want without delay.

However, manipulation is not our thingy, it won't just work because experience they say is your best teacher.

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Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by DEMZEE(m): 7:01pm On May 05, 2021
Fluency:


I think it solely depend on the "personality" of the lady involved. Some 30+ ladies can completely transform a man's life from bad to best. Just pray to locate the right one that will allow your destiny shines on you.

God forbid bad thing
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by Fluency(m): 9:58pm On May 05, 2021
folabayo:


3_4yrs diff.
Few years bck, once u tell me u are 30+ I de japa cheesy
I don mature now sha grin

Seriously?
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by Fluency(m): 9:59pm On May 05, 2021
DEMZEE:


God forbid bad thing

How?
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by Fluency(m): 10:03pm On May 05, 2021
folabayo:
I never get experience with 30+ guys.
I no de pass my boundary.
Well am here to read and learn

What's your boundary?
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by Fluency(m): 10:07pm On May 05, 2021
DEMZEE:


A man who knows his value won't settle for 30+ women for long term relationship and commitment

Why?
Can you give me 3 good reasons for such claim?
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by folabayo(f): 10:12pm On May 05, 2021
Fluency:


Seriously?
Yep. There is awkward feelings I do Hv.
I play alot, i do feel like once the age is too much, i might actually not b free with such person.
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by folabayo(f): 10:13pm On May 05, 2021
Fluency:


What's your boundary?
3_4yrs diff
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by Fluency(m): 10:30pm On May 05, 2021
folabayo:

Yep. There is awkward feelings I do Hv.
I play alot, i do feel like once the age is too much, i might actually not b free with such person.

Oh! I now understand but you can adjust to fit in.
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by Fluency(m): 10:31pm On May 05, 2021
folabayo:

3_4yrs diff

Are you in early 20's?
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by DEMZEE(m): 10:47pm On May 05, 2021
Fluency:


Why?
Can you give me 3 good reasons for such claim?

Number one everyday a girl is turning 18yrs

Number two women in their 30s are useless fertility wise

Number three she's not mouldable
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by DEMZEE(m): 10:47pm On May 05, 2021
Fluency:


How?

Wen we have attractive young ladies in their 20s
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by FarahAideed: 11:03pm On May 05, 2021
By 30+ no kind kpekus we never see
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by folabayo(f): 1:00pm On May 06, 2021
Fluency:


Oh! I now understand but you can adjust to fit in.
It will b borring joo.
Re: Are "30+ Men" Really The Hardest To Date? by folabayo(f): 1:03pm On May 06, 2021
Mid 20s.

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