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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by MarketDispatch: 8:34am On May 09, 2021
Okay
Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by PoliteActivist: 8:35am On May 09, 2021
All this and worse can also happen in a bad marriage. I think the solution is a marriage where you are both there for the kids but give each other space!

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by charlesucheh(m): 8:35am On May 09, 2021
The only disadvantage I see is instability between you as the dad, the children and their mum.
Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by ElvisPresley(m): 8:38am On May 09, 2021
THUG LIFE cool

One wife,one mistress and a girlfriend cool

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by AuroraB(f): 8:38am On May 09, 2021
Some broken marriages would have fared well if they chose to live apart from the onset lipsrsealed
Please, don't come and ask me questions, I'm in Church and unavailable cool

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by Ganzoh: 8:39am On May 09, 2021
One man's food is another man's poison....stop projecting your cluelessness on people live your life and let others live theirs.

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by SweetDipBenny(m): 8:39am On May 09, 2021
Tell dat to Davido

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by Donchieli: 8:39am On May 09, 2021
Op I give up on your facts

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by BruncleZuma: 8:39am On May 09, 2021
AuroraB:
Some broken marriages would have fared well if they chose to live apart from the onset lipsrsealed
Please, don't come and ask me questions, I'm in Church and unavailable cool

grin grin grin grin

I've got so many questions

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by Mikester: 8:42am On May 09, 2021
eazzzy1:
Lol. Are you saying all single mothers are whores?

1) One of the sole reasons why people go the baby mama route is because they know marriage isn’t a guarantee of exclusivity. They have a child and that’s it, the woman is free to do whatever she wants with whoever she wants. A BM fvcking another man won’t hurt, a wife fvcking another man is like the end of the world.

2) Most Baby mama’s try their best to be in the good books of their baby father. They hope the relationship will lead to marriage and that hope keeps them on their best behaviour. When people are seeking for something they tend to be nicer than the people who got them easily.

Just like you said about wife’s, a man who gets a compatible baby mama won’t have problems either. Baby mama, baby daddy can also be a complete family. Just without the encumbrances of a signed document, easier entry and easier exit if things do not pan out well.


Have a baby mama first, you'll be astonished at the level you'll find yourself with her

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by Mikester: 8:43am On May 09, 2021
A305:
Everything you listed up there are as a result of the baby father not taking responsibility (providing) except for number 1, which anyone can hardly control except, she is a homely girl.

Baby mama is the way but, the best out there is surrogacy. You gotta be rich to afford surrogacy, this is why baby mama is cheaper to mitigate than going into a worthless marriage.

If you take good care of your baby mama in way of co-depence; pay her rent, bills, set up a business and threatening to yank all that benefits when you catch her with another man. She would act right and won't spread her legs for all men that comes her way, maybe few men by way of dating, but that's cool anyway provided they aren't f cking in the house you paying rent for.

Your choice...
Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by Mikester: 8:44am On May 09, 2021
Drsnives:
We no send .
Baby mama sure pass
I see the op later endup having baby mama form five different ladies
I see him crying bitterly cos of the bills from all angles


This I have seen

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by Nobody: 8:45am On May 09, 2021
Mikester:


Okafor's law doesn't really favour a guy in this situation. The guy is just a walking bag of benefits to her and not irreplaceable.


That is if she even sees the guy.

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by Mikester: 8:46am On May 09, 2021
SerikiFulani:
Advantages of Babymama

1. You can date/have sex with whosoever you want at any given time.
2. You get to eat your babymama's coochie once in a while, infact she can bear you another child in the process.
3.Not much liability...Just your kid...As long as you take care of child support monthly,you're good to go.
4. You get the time to hustle and think clear.....No unnecessary nagging from one scorned woman

Na so
Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by Nobody: 8:46am On May 09, 2021
A305:
Everything you listed up there are as a result of the baby father not taking responsibility (providing) except for number 1, which anyone can hardly control except, she is a homely girl.

Baby mama is the way but, the best out there is surrogacy. You gotta be rich to afford surrogacy, this is why baby mama is cheaper to mitigate than going into a worthless marriage.

If you take good care of your baby mama in way of co-depence; pay her rent, bills, set up a business and threatening to yank all that benefits when you catch her with another man. She would act right and won't spread her legs for all men that comes her way, maybe few men by way of dating, but that's cool anyway provided they aren't f cking in the house you paying rent for.

Story story story.

You, yourself, will run away after getting a girl pregnant, don't come and claim if she is homely and those bla bla stories.

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by Nobody: 8:47am On May 09, 2021
SerikiFulani:
Advantages of Babymama

1. You can date/have sex with whosoever you want at any given time.
2. You get to eat your babymama's coochie once in a while, infact she can bear you another child in the process.
3.Not much liability...Just your kid...As long as you take care of child support monthly,you're good to go.
4. You get the time to hustle and think clear.....No unnecessary nagging from one scorned woman

You watch too much movies that make baby mama seems cool.

Baby mama in real life is a dramatic journey

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by Mikester: 8:48am On May 09, 2021
Ckonnet:


We dey come, make we update our own list.

We dey wait... cheesy
Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by Dhury: 8:48am On May 09, 2021
This Post it worthless to me .I thanks GOD for been a Muslims.

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by OneNigeria1: 8:49am On May 09, 2021
A very long massage carefully writing by the female group in other to convince men to marry them all those factors can be present in a so called God fearing happy home too trust me



women once they don't get what they want they become exclusively dangerous so weather its your baby mama, girlfriend or wife, as far as e get TOTO ,NA DOUBLE EDGE KNIEF angry grin

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by faceland: 8:50am On May 09, 2021
If I have a baby mama, I would put her on a fix salary for life...

Collect my children at least for the 1st 16 years of their lives...

Hire an house help, a cook and nanny to take care of them until I arrive in the night to check their school work...

Any woman that object to this would see my red eyes and even run for her life....

She is free to visit and have other children/relationships, the child is my only priority... If I can't influence my child culturally, then I would abandon that child and beg them to drop my name...

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by Drsnives(m): 8:51am On May 09, 2021
[quote author=Mikester post=101513971][/quote]

Back to sender in Jesus name
Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by Mikester: 8:53am On May 09, 2021
Drsnives:


Back to sender in Jesus name

Your prayer is not original wink
Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by crafteck(m): 8:55am On May 09, 2021
pure nonsense, you have one kind funny imagination biko, all things listed here are same for a normal marriage�

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by AuroraB(f): 8:56am On May 09, 2021
BruncleZuma:


grin grin grin grin

I've got so many questions
Haha!
Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by Kebbiprince: 8:57am On May 09, 2021
Mikester:
This post is to those guys out there who believe having a baby mama is more restful, secure and enjoyable than having a wife.

Your fear of marriage and clinging to baby mama hood doesn't guarantee you a less strenuous life as some of you may think.

There are more challenges and difficulties when you have a baby mama which might even lead you to an early grave which I will be highlighting here.

Here are the reasons why I believe having a baby mama is a bad idea...

1. You'll have a whorish woman to deal with

In the case of having kids with a random woman or women, if you don't marry her, she is not exclusive to you. So you may have other baby daddies to compete with which you may not be able to handle.

Do you know that a man is reduced to nothing just by means of contending with a whorish woman? A man with a whorish woman will never go to the grave in peace.

The ways of such a woman will make you sick and she will be like rotteness in your bones.

Moreover trying to persuade her to stick with you only will yield no fruit as she will only refuse.

As a matter of fact when a man tries to tame a whorish woman, there will be no rest.

2. You might have a scornful child

Growing up in such a household could be detrimental to your child to having a well-balanced life. Also considering the high tendency that women fall for bad boys, your co-baby daddies could be drug dealers, scam artists, etc.

Exposing your child to these men when they come to visit their own children will teach your child crime and cause him/her to be scornful and such a child will not be a joy to you, his father.

He/she will tend to despise upright things and cleave to atrocious ones.

He/she will also despise you as well and would hardly listen to your corrections.

3. Your child will be poorly cared for

Besides the irresponsible mother, such men are likely to be less responsible with child support for their kid(s), so whatever you pay for your kid(s) will also be shared with the irresponsible baby daddies kid(s) leaving your kid(s) with less.

4. You will contend with an unapologetic manipulative woman

A whorish woman perpetuate evil but will only rub her hands and clean her mouth and say, "I've done nothing wrong."

That is how she is and that is who she will be to you.

Besides poisoning your child's mind about you, she may also deny you the right to your child(ren) when you fail to meet to her requirements and there's very little you can do about it.

5. You may contract sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)

If by chance you sleep with her again, you might end up having health problems gotten from co-baby daddies such as STDs.

6. You might get into trouble

You may have to battle jealous co-baby daddies and might end up in trouble due to a fall out with them.

7. Your life becomes more difficult

You're more likely to have difficulty in various aspects of your life, financially, socially, spiritually and mentally.

8. Your reputation might suffer

Society will deem you irresponsible and you'll be shamefully categorized as one of the grown irresponsible fools around.

On pure thought is it worth it?

Let's not deceive ourselves. Marriage being natural is more restful and enjoyable than having a baby mama.

When you marry the person compatible with you and you are up to the task of being a true family man, you'll have a beautiful home.

Stop looking at those with failed marriages if you're a man driven by bad news and learn how to lead a home properly, then every other thing will fall into place.

Don't know what's on your mind...
Ubi Franklin don tell them how e de be, if them like make them no get sense, nothing is ever easy in this life

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by bluefilm: 8:59am On May 09, 2021
Mikester:
This post is to those guys out there who believe having a baby mama is more restful, secure and enjoyable than having a wife.

Your fear of marriage and clinging to baby mama hood doesn't guarantee you a less strenuous life as some of you may think.

There are more challenges and difficulties when you have a baby mama which might even lead you to an early grave which I will be highlighting here.

Here are the reasons why I believe having a baby mama is a bad idea...

1. You'll have a whorish woman to deal with

In the case of having kids with a random woman or women, if you don't marry her, she is not exclusive to you. So you may have other baby daddies to compete with which you may not be able to handle.

Do you know that a man is reduced to nothing just by means of contending with a whorish woman? A man with a whorish woman will never go to the grave in peace.

The ways of such a woman will make you sick and she will be like rotteness in your bones.

Moreover trying to persuade her to stick with you only will yield no fruit as she will only refuse.

As a matter of fact when a man tries to tame a whorish woman, there will be no rest.

2. You might have a scornful child

Growing up in such a household could be detrimental to your child to having a well-balanced life. Also considering the high tendency that women fall for bad boys, your co-baby daddies could be drug dealers, scam artists, etc.

Exposing your child to these men when they come to visit their own children will teach your child crime and cause him/her to be scornful and such a child will not be a joy to you, his father.

He/she will tend to despise upright things and cleave to atrocious ones.

He/she will also despise you as well and would hardly listen to your corrections.

3. Your child will be poorly cared for

Besides the irresponsible mother, such men are likely to be less responsible with child support for their kid(s), so whatever you pay for your kid(s) will also be shared with the irresponsible baby daddies kid(s) leaving your kid(s) with less.

4. You will contend with an unapologetic manipulative woman

A whorish woman perpetuate evil but will only rub her hands and clean her mouth and say, "I've done nothing wrong."

That is how she is and that is who she will be to you.

Besides poisoning your child's mind about you, she may also deny you the right to your child(ren) when you fail to meet to her requirements and there's very little you can do about it.

5. You may contract sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)

If by chance you sleep with her again, you might end up having health problems gotten from co-baby daddies such as STDs.

6. You might get into trouble

You may have to battle jealous co-baby daddies and might end up in trouble due to a fall out with them.

7. Your life becomes more difficult

You're more likely to have difficulty in various aspects of your life, financially, socially, spiritually and mentally.

8. Your reputation might suffer

Society will deem you irresponsible and you'll be shamefully categorized as one of the grown irresponsible fools around.

On pure thought is it worth it?

Let's not deceive ourselves. Marriage being natural is more restful and enjoyable than having a baby mama.

When you marry the person compatible with you and you are up to the task of being a true family man, you'll have a beautiful home.

Stop looking at those with failed marriages if you're a man driven by bad news and learn how to lead a home properly, then every other thing will fall into place.

Don't know what's on your mind...

No let Davido CATCH you o...

I don talk my own be dat.
Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by Kebbiprince: 9:00am On May 09, 2021
eazzzy1:
Lol. Are you saying all single mothers are whores?

1) One of the sole reasons why people go the baby mama route is because they know marriage isn’t a guarantee of exclusivity. They have a child and that’s it, the woman is free to do whatever she wants with whoever she wants. A BM fvcking another man won’t hurt, a wife fvcking another man is like the end of the world.

2) Most Baby mama’s try their best to be in the good books of their baby father. They hope the relationship will lead to marriage and that hope keeps them on their best behaviour. When people are seeking for something they tend to be nicer than the people who got them easily.

Just like you said about wife’s, a man who gets a compatible baby mama won’t have problems either. Baby mama, baby daddy can also be a complete family. Just without the encumbrances of a signed document, easier entry and easier exit if things do not pan out well.

Nothing like compatible babe mama, from the word 'go' she is naturally free to flaunt other men even in your front of which is the likely case

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Re: The Disadvantages Of Having A Baby Mama. by Nobody: 9:03am On May 09, 2021
Beckysexy:
Open thread* smiley
Close thread* lipsrsealed
Potential bbm grin

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