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family6644:
You have made a lot of sense, you have made me even more weak. More like she has refused to leave, I have discussed it amicably, she has pleaded that she will change, I should give her more time. Her apt is till there but she doesn't want to go back claiming she's in love with me and she can't stay away from me. I think I am in trouble, I don't feel right about this anymore

Don't listen to any please she will change. That woman is a disaster waiting to happen if you don't end this relationship now. For your information she was the one who told your kids to start calling her mummy. She doesn't love you, she only sees you as an opportunity. Tell her that your wife's mother is coming to spend some time with the kids so she has to give you people space. A word is enough for the wise

Sir, accept my hrtfelt condolences on d demise of ur lovely late wife. May rest her biutifu soul.
My piece of advice to u sir,
* tell d new woman to give u space of 6-9 months to mourn ur late wife.

*while still mourning ur late wife, take time study dt woman.
She is too desperate for an agenda dt may not augur well for u n ur lovely kids in d nearest future.

*pray to God for guidance cos itz quite important.

God help u sir. Pls, take heart.

family6644:
I need serious advise from experienced nairalanders, please
I hope I can get one or two advices that could help. I am quite confused

Your relationship with her was sweet when you two were living apart and only visiting on occasions...there was no see finish.

Living together has brought about see finish.

You know what to do. Go ahead and do it.

family6644:
You have made a lot of sense, you have made me even more weak. More like she has refused to leave, I have discussed it amicably, she has pleaded that she will change, I should give her more time. Her apt is till there but she doesn't want to go back claiming she's in love with me and she can't stay away from me. I think I am in trouble, I don't feel right about this anymore

"A stitch in time saves nine"....I learnt it in primary school.

family6644:
I need serious advise from experienced nairalanders, please forgive my lengthy message because it requires detailed explanations.

I lost my wife exactly 3 months ago, 4 years of relationship and 13 years of marriage with her before she passed on, she left behind 3kids, 13yr old girl 7yr and 3yr old boys. I understand marriages are full of their challenges but we have been through the journey and we came out victorious having a loving and happy home, a union other partners appreciates.

My late wife was so organized and we trainned my kids to be independent while she travels on local business trips. So I just needed to continue our family habit of buying and stocking everything at home while they manage themselves with the help of an older maid who has been part of the family for many years, in short, we are faring quite well as I continue to mourn my wife and carry on with life.

Here is the problem, from a lot of condolence messages coming in on my Facebook, I had the chance to reply some of them 2weeks ago, I met this single mother of two who invited my kids to her daughter's birthday party, i was reluctant but she said it is time to start taking the kids out since they are yet to resume school, exactly what they needed at that point was the usual outing which has been missing for a while since their mother's sickness and after her demise, approx 6months in total. She said it's not a loud party that she needed only my kids for the small sitting room party.

I decided, went to the party with the kids, it was fun for the kids, I have not seen them happy like that in a long while, it made me happy too, they fell in love with the two sisters and their mother all like a miracle, my little 3year old boy started calling her mommy, others follow and it all seem like a family reunion. We left late at night with her girls asking that they meet again the next day which was a Sunday. To cut it short, my kids and hers agreed to meet the next day except for me. To be honest, the lady is a nice and lovely person to be with, she's a realtor who can work from home, she's real and beautiful, she has been a single mother for 4yrs after her husband travelled out and abandoned them to marry another woman, that's according to her.

She called me that her kids could not allow her rest, they said if we can't come, she should bring them to our house, I mildly rejected but i was persuaded by my daughter and my first son to have them around, I could see that they have bonded quite well, I want my kids to be happy too, that's what I have always wanted for them so I agreed and gave them our address. To cut the story short, I find it impossible to separate the two families that has come together to become one, when they were leaving back to their house my kids pleaded with me to allow them go with mommy to her house, I understand that is real because she's lovely with kids. I had the confidence to trust my kids with someone for the first time in my life. They didn't want to come back, I had to go and pick them up the next day, all of them made sure they came back home with me, we started living together as a family and everyone was enjoying it.

It became an automatic affair with her, I was worried about it been too early, I had to involve few of my friends to seek opinions, some were happy that i could get a good mother for my kids this soon, others asked me to stop the family union and give it a little time to study her character. I suggested some space but she felt very bad, she thinks I am sending them away. I had to allow them stay while I use the opportunity to observe the new found love and family.

12days after, I realize that in a bid to reorganize me and help me to move ahead in life, she totally disregards anything that concerns my late wife whom I still hold dear to my heart, same as my daughter and my adopted daughter, I don't like to address her as a maid. We loved and cherished my late wife, everything she introduced seems to be strange to the norms of the family. If I try to raise my concerns for her to adjust, she will simply tell me that the dead is dead and I should just forget everything about her including whatever she stood for as a mother and wife.

If I try to talk some senses into her to make her understand that brooding over the dead is different from honouring and respecting the deseased, she gets really angry claiming I am comparing her with a dead person. Whatever she discovers as our way of doing things in the family she disregards it and replaces it with her own way without minding how we feel as a family or how easy or difficult it is for us to adjust.

It looks like we are the only ones tolerating and accommodating them here, I have tried with no avail to stop her from insulting the memory of my late wife. I discussed with each and everyone at home, they all wish I could perform a miracle to have them leave because no one can tolerate the mother and kids anymore, I am equally fed up myself and willing to take a break.

I have a friend who is aware of my problems with her, he told me that I am the problem here, he said it will be hard for any woman to fit into our family way of doing things and it will be difficult for us to cope with a different way of life introduced by another woman.

I hope I can get one or two advices that could help. I am quite confused

At first I wanted to insult you with every fiber of my being for the disrespect and dishonour shown to your dead wife. But I checked myself because I sense that you hegoat has already impregnated the desperado! And hey, don't try to deny that, your narration has already exposed you as a man of easy virtue.

How can you meet someone on Facebook and in less than three months of your wife's demise you have already invited her in, start having sex with her, impregnated her and now you are talking gibberish.

Young men of nowadays are just so foolish and immature. Without any doubt, your late wife was the hero of your home not you. And I tell you her spirit will destroy foolish you!

Even when she was alive, you were cheating on her. You never loved that woman. You are only complaining now about your new catch because like a hegoat you are you placed sex and her supposed beauty before your senses. Someone you met on Facebook? Kai, I am ashamed of you!

Anyways, put your foot down and demand she gives you time for a proper evaluation of your relationship as you and your kids are uncomfortable with her moving in so soon after your wife's death. Let her go back to her house. She will refuse ofcourse and throw tantrums because you
substituted your brain with your dick when it mattered most. But be firm. That is the only way this will be salvaged. And watch and see why when is a single mother. You will see very desperate tactics from her. And I don't need to experienced her to know. I tell you categorically, she is not a good woman! No decent woman will move in with a man so soon after the he lost his wife, even at your insistence she will be worried about public perception but this one just spread hands and wallop into you.

Finally, as a parting shot, which tribe is she from?

In my own honest opinion, it was a mistake for you to allow you feelings to stand in the way of good thought. You never gave yourself the chance to see the possibility of what will happen with her around you. You never should have allowed her to move into your life and home first without a prior knowledge and understanding of her true personality.

Even with the aid of an x-ray, you can't tell the size of the yoke in an egg except after cracking the it open.

If you don't take hold of yourself now, then am sorry to say, you won't be able to stand what might happened afterwards.

If she values what your late wife stands for, she will makes it even better. I know they say things settles with time but, let it not settle in the wrong side.

I wish you all the best..

Please give it time.......just find a way to excuse yourself and the kids from the drama......3 months It’s early please......she should respect your wife’s memory, in time what will be will be

family6644:
I need serious advise from experienced nairalanders, please forgive my lengthy message because it requires detailed explanations.

I lost my wife exactly 3 months ago, 4 years of relationship and 13 years of marriage with her before she passed on, she left behind 3kids, 13yr old girl 7yr and 3yr old boys. I understand marriages are full of their challenges but we have been through the journey and we came out victorious having a loving and happy home, a union other partners appreciates.

My late wife was so organized and we trainned my kids to be independent while she travels on local business trips. So I just needed to continue our family habit of buying and stocking everything at home while they manage themselves with the help of an older maid who has been part of the family for many years, in short, we are faring quite well as I continue to mourn my wife and carry on with life.

Here is the problem, from a lot of condolence messages coming in on my Facebook, I had the chance to reply some of them 2weeks ago, I met this single mother of two who invited my kids to her daughter's birthday party, i was reluctant but she said it is time to start taking the kids out since they are yet to resume school, exactly what they needed at that point was the usual outing which has been missing for a while since their mother's sickness and after her demise, approx 6months in total. She said it's not a loud party that she needed only my kids for the small sitting room party.

I decided, went to the party with the kids, it was fun for the kids, I have not seen them happy like that in a long while, it made me happy too, they fell in love with the two sisters and their mother all like a miracle, my little 3year old boy started calling her mommy, others follow and it all seem like a family reunion. We left late at night with her girls asking that they meet again the next day which was a Sunday. To cut it short, my kids and hers agreed to meet the next day except for me. To be honest, the lady is a nice and lovely person to be with, she's a realtor who can work from home, she's real and beautiful, she has been a single mother for 4yrs after her husband travelled out and abandoned them to marry another woman, that's according to her.

She called me that her kids could not allow her rest, they said if we can't come, she should bring them to our house, I mildly rejected but i was persuaded by my daughter and my first son to have them around, I could see that they have bonded quite well, I want my kids to be happy too, that's what I have always wanted for them so I agreed and gave them our address. To cut the story short, I find it impossible to separate the two families that has come together to become one, when they were leaving back to their house my kids pleaded with me to allow them go with mommy to her house, I understand that is real because she's lovely with kids. I had the confidence to trust my kids with someone for the first time in my life. They didn't want to come back, I had to go and pick them up the next day, all of them made sure they came back home with me, we started living together as a family and everyone was enjoying it.

It became an automatic affair with her, I was worried about it been too early, I had to involve few of my friends to seek opinions, some were happy that i could get a good mother for my kids this soon, others asked me to stop the family union and give it a little time to study her character. I suggested some space but she felt very bad, she thinks I am sending them away. I had to allow them stay while I use the opportunity to observe the new found love and family.

12days after, I realize that in a bid to reorganize me and help me to move ahead in life, she totally disregards anything that concerns my late wife whom I still hold dear to my heart, same as my daughter and my adopted daughter, I don't like to address her as a maid. We loved and cherished my late wife, everything she introduced seems to be strange to the norms of the family. If I try to raise my concerns for her to adjust, she will simply tell me that the dead is dead and I should just forget everything about her including whatever she stood for as a mother and wife.

If I try to talk some senses into her to make her understand that brooding over the dead is different from honouring and respecting the deseased, she gets really angry claiming I am comparing her with a dead person. Whatever she discovers as our way of doing things in the family she disregards it and replaces it with her own way without minding how we feel as a family or how easy or difficult it is for us to adjust.

It looks like we are the only ones tolerating and accommodating them here, I have tried with no avail to stop her from insulting the memory of my late wife. I discussed with each and everyone at home, they all wish I could perform a miracle to have them leave because no one can tolerate the mother and kids anymore, I am equally fed up myself and willing to take a break.

I have a friend who is aware of my problems with her, he told me that I am the problem here, he said it will be hard for any woman to fit into our family way of doing things and it will be difficult for us to cope with a different way of life introduced by another woman.

I hope I can get one or two advices that could help. I am quite confused

Oga if I were you, I would run for my life. If u truly love ur kids don't. Ask urself dis question? If she is loving and caring as u claim. Wud her husband abandon her? ND remarry, even if he travels to planet Jupiter. He wud look for ways to bring her ND his kids over there. Don't b fooled she is using mind game with you. Wen she eventually enters u wud d other side of her. Dats their way pretence. Drops mic

family6644:
I need serious advise from experienced nairalanders, please forgive my lengthy message because it requires detailed explanations.

I lost my wife exactly 3 months ago, 4 years of relationship and 13 years of marriage with her before she passed on, she left behind 3kids, 13yr old girl 7yr and 3yr old boys. I understand marriages are full of their challenges but we have been through the journey and we came out victorious having a loving and happy home, a union other partners appreciates.

My late wife was so organized and we trainned my kids to be independent while she travels on local business trips. So I just needed to continue our family habit of buying and stocking everything at home while they manage themselves with the help of an older maid who has been part of the family for many years, in short, we are faring quite well as I continue to mourn my wife and carry on with life.

Here is the problem, from a lot of condolence messages coming in on my Facebook, I had the chance to reply some of them 2weeks ago, I met this single mother of two who invited my kids to her daughter's birthday party, i was reluctant but she said it is time to start taking the kids out since they are yet to resume school, exactly what they needed at that point was the usual outing which has been missing for a while since their mother's sickness and after her demise, approx 6months in total. She said it's not a loud party that she needed only my kids for the small sitting room party.

I decided, went to the party with the kids, it was fun for the kids, I have not seen them happy like that in a long while, it made me happy too, they fell in love with the two sisters and their mother all like a miracle, my little 3year old boy started calling her mommy, others follow and it all seem like a family reunion. We left late at night with her girls asking that they meet again the next day which was a Sunday. To cut it short, my kids and hers agreed to meet the next day except for me. To be honest, the lady is a nice and lovely person to be with, she's a realtor who can work from home, she's real and beautiful, she has been a single mother for 4yrs after her husband travelled out and abandoned them to marry another woman, that's according to her.

She called me that her kids could not allow her rest, they said if we can't come, she should bring them to our house, I mildly rejected but i was persuaded by my daughter and my first son to have them around, I could see that they have bonded quite well, I want my kids to be happy too, that's what I have always wanted for them so I agreed and gave them our address. To cut the story short, I find it impossible to separate the two families that has come together to become one, when they were leaving back to their house my kids pleaded with me to allow them go with mommy to her house, I understand that is real because she's lovely with kids. I had the confidence to trust my kids with someone for the first time in my life. They didn't want to come back, I had to go and pick them up the next day, all of them made sure they came back home with me, we started living together as a family and everyone was enjoying it.

It became an automatic affair with her, I was worried about it been too early, I had to involve few of my friends to seek opinions, some were happy that i could get a good mother for my kids this soon, others asked me to stop the family union and give it a little time to study her character. I suggested some space but she felt very bad, she thinks I am sending them away. I had to allow them stay while I use the opportunity to observe the new found love and family.

12days after, I realize that in a bid to reorganize me and help me to move ahead in life, she totally disregards anything that concerns my late wife whom I still hold dear to my heart, same as my daughter and my adopted daughter, I don't like to address her as a maid. We loved and cherished my late wife, everything she introduced seems to be strange to the norms of the family. If I try to raise my concerns for her to adjust, she will simply tell me that the dead is dead and I should just forget everything about her including whatever she stood for as a mother and wife.

If I try to talk some senses into her to make her understand that brooding over the dead is different from honouring and respecting the deseased, she gets really angry claiming I am comparing her with a dead person. Whatever she discovers as our way of doing things in the family she disregards it and replaces it with her own way without minding how we feel as a family or how easy or difficult it is for us to adjust.

It looks like we are the only ones tolerating and accommodating them here, I have tried with no avail to stop her from insulting the memory of my late wife. I discussed with each and everyone at home, they all wish I could perform a miracle to have them leave because no one can tolerate the mother and kids anymore, I am equally fed up myself and willing to take a break.

I have a friend who is aware of my problems with her, he told me that I am the problem here, he said it will be hard for any woman to fit into our family way of doing things and it will be difficult for us to cope with a different way of life introduced by another woman.

I hope I can get one or two advices that could help. I am quite confused

You're not a serious person at all! I don't know if you're a Christian but assuming you're one, you should know that the mourning period for Christians is 6 months-1 year. Which means you've barely mourned your wife's death and you're already cohabiting with someone else. Have you lost your sense of decency?! If you were the one that died and your wife moved on so quickly, I'm pretty sure everyone would accuse her of killing you just so she can be with her lover.

Anyways, you better end that relationship immediately because you're setting yourself and your kids up for disaster by allowing someone who is clearly a manipulative mastermind into your home.

Oga send that woman out of your house. Can't you see? Don't come back and tell us long story later if you allow her stay.

Mystery9:
Oga send that woman out of your house. Can't you see? Don't come back and tell us long story later if you allow her stay.

Maybe he has xxxx the woman. She gave him a fmt and he stupidly fell into it.
1. She will send the maid out.
2. His children will become the new maids
3. Her children will become priority
4. Nollywood drama will set it. E.g poison and co, burning all the late wife's property/docs�
5. She's faking the love.

Please accept my condolences, however as a matter of urgency get the woman out of your house before anything else .
You need to make her leave the house , if you truly love your kids has you claimed.
You wpant them to be happy then you need to take a bold step and avoid emotional blackmailing .
Please am interested in this ,keep us posted as you progresses .

olawale005:
Please accept my condolences, however as a matter of urgency get the woman out of your house before anything else .
You need to make her leave the house , if you truly love your kids has you claimed.
You wpant them to be happy then you need to take a bold step and avoid emotional blackmailing .
Please am interested in this ,keep us posted as you progresses .

You're right. If she is that good or a blessing to her former husband, he would not leave her alone.

One sign of desperate women, they talk less of the things you value more.

Be wise, train your children alone. You think you can't train them alone? Ask God to direct you.

Let me be blunt with you, if this story is real you are a foolish and weak man.

It is Just three months your wife died, you are talking about another woman, you should know that the woman is a demon just trying to come into your family to destroy things, how are we sure she is not the one that killed your wife spiritually, how are we sure the party is not just to set you up, now you are weak to send the Jezebel away, please tell that woman to go, you have a maid in the house, to care for the kids, so what do you want again? chase that woman away, her husband is not abroad anything, that is always their lies, there are single mothers everywhere looking for good family to destroy , some will even kill the wife at home just to pack in
Let that woman get out.

See you need to be careful, lot of Jezebel will want to come into your life, but they will use the kids, trying to show love, some will take them out, buy gifts and the kids will be blinder and love them, they will even tell you to marry the woman showing them love it is normal they are kids, you are the adult that must see above those emotional blackmail from Jezebel ladies and guild the kids accordingly, letting them know that with time and with prayers you will give them another mum . If you trully live those kids,you will pray and fast before choosing another mother for them.
Or wait till they are adult and out of the house before picking another wife.













author=family6644 post=101528453]I need serious advise from experienced nairalanders, please forgive my lengthy message because it requires detailed explanations.

I lost my wife exactly 3 months ago, 4 years of relationship and 13 years of marriage with her before she passed on, she left behind 3kids, 13yr old girl 7yr and 3yr old boys. I understand marriages are full of their challenges but we have been through the journey and we came out victorious having a loving and happy home, a union other partners appreciates

Love you sister. You're honest on this.

To you, oga lovy lovy, you're about calling for high blood pressure disguised as caring woman.

Exactly what you're going through with your children about cheering up and play around she's going through that too then an opportunity came through you.

All I see is a desperate SINGLE MOTHER. Note this: The most desperate women on heart are single mothers especially those wuth bitterness from their first man.

The children bonding quickly is great but note that sometimes things that bond people together easily can also easily separate them.

Red flags are all over. She might be great woman but those early signs are something to note.

Pls marry woman because of ur children and not because of your love, romance or fire in you that's looking for ponmo to roast (pls pardon my rudeness).

Marry someone that will understand your feelings and that of your children while respecting the memories of your wife. Well as times goes on she will definitely replace her with herself and that will come naturally not someone that's already competing with a dead woman as if they are still struggling the same husband.

What makes her husband to leave her. Some men/women are presently living in marriage bondage and any opportunity to travel out, they disappear straight why some did that for selfishness and greediness.

Then this is your responsibility too. You must love the woman's child and take them up as yours too whenever you see the better one. Please match brake for this one now and take you time to avoid stories that touched the heart later.

Good luck

Klass99:
No, it is not the reason. When people show you who they are, you better believe them.

If I met you 3 months after the loss of your wife I won't be in a hurry to bond with you or even start a romantic relationship with you.

I will give you time and space to adequately mourn and grieve, and out of regard for your late wife. While being friendly but not getting all up in your face - this is if, I even like you sef.

She knows what she is doing.

If you don't investigate her past, especially with her husband and why he left, you will make a great mistake. You need time, you need space you need to bond well and more with your children as your wife is no more. Shine your eyes before you regret your actions. Things like this that happen to fast usaually don't last and can lead to more trouble, so be careful before your regret things.

NEXT PLEASE

@op lovely compositions
Your grammar is really interesting
Your arrangement is at top notch.
Please free that woman
All you need is happiness
In which your kids are given you
I come in peace.

Unrated900:
@op lovely compositions
Your grammar is really interesting
Your arrangement is at top notch.
Please free that woman
All you need is happiness
In which your kids are given you
I come in peace.

You can say that again, quite impressive

Red flag!! Run brother.
Ki olorun wa pelu e

Maybe that's the attitude that made her husband run away in the first place.

Foodqueen:
That woman is time bomb waiting to explode.

I can't imagine the things she will make u do to your kids as time goes by.

Common 3 months.......u met on FB, visited her house, your kids slept over and now u are living lovers.

This won't end well.

Too much sense no go kee U

She will be happy that you wife died...bro if you marry her..as time goes on..she will show you her bad side..and she will even maltreat your kids in your absence...or even in your presence.. bro better give the friendship a halt...and for your kids.. they don't know the danger coming..

family6644:
You're right, I am quite soft but definitely not stupid, that's why I am able to notice these things this early

it's okay to be soft,but there should be boundaries around you,if not...people would feed off your soft nature,it'll make you vulnerable to so many b**shits,a lot of people here are saying you never loved your wife, you moved on too fast blah blah blah, well I've learnt to not cast stones or join the blame game because it's easy to judge,when you ain't the victim..... according to your story,all you need at the moment is some alone time with your family,sit the new lady down and let her know you need a time out,you've been trying to correct her and she's been dismissing it, apparently she has zero respect for you or your views,you need that respect from any woman you'll put up with,if you want a settled home,she might be a good woman that needs a fine tuning,or she might as well be a horrible soul whose bad vibes is already oozing out.So,take a walk,make your findings about her,take your time,get to know her better,your kids might not like the idea,but you know better,so don't let their emotions manipulate your decision,if she turned out horrible they'll be the ones to bear the brunt for a very long time.

Oga, it's too early to start a new relationship... Some ladies are very crafty, seeking who's life to wreck...Please you need to let them go..for the sake of your children... Don't rush into any relationship yet... Take your time... There are many terrible single moms out there, looking for soft landing.. Let the Holy Spirit lead you... Be a man... Send her a way...don't let a strange woman come and destroy the home,you and your wife of blessed memory built... Pls act fast... She must go... I have had terrible experiences with step mom,when my dad remarried, lost my mom many years ago... I don't want you or your kids to experience it... Pls pls...let her and her children go peacefully... So that you can focus on what's ahead of you and children....

Bola146:
Firstly, seriously you have to let go of the dead, she was so dear to you, yes but let us face the living, your kids and their wellness, you can be remembering her yearly or on her birthday which any woman you want to marry now must support that, still remembering the dead would not allow you to love any other woman dearly again. It would be like she is still living with someone's husband.


Secondly, please try to know if the woman loves your kids dearly, don't rush into a relationship that you will regret later, since you have maid, why not be patient. Be so close to your kids and the maid, ask for their own opinions.


Lastly, watch and pray!!!! Let God and His Holy Spirit lead you. Your kids are your number one priority, work hard and take good care of them, don't just leave them to strangers care. God be with you sir.

You make it very easy

What do u do for a living
Well taking points

Don't let her entrap you bros. Run now before it's too late.

GboyegaD:
Oga, in 12 days she's already acting like the boss. You might be able to cope but please think about the children. From your story, she seems desperate as well and that is not a good sign.

Gbam....


Pleasehe should find a way to boot them out!!!!

Be careful before she goes spiritual


Might be a set up by the woman .. Loving and tracking him from afar and setting her plans in motions



Shes obviously a wicked person

All this shes loving with kids bla bla bla bla is a disguise i tell you


Wicked people cant hide for too long

duduade:
Gbam....


Pleasehe should find a way to boot them out!!!!

Be careful before she goes spiritual


Might be a set up by the woman .. Loving and tracking him from afar and setting her plans in motions



Shes obviously a wicked person

All this shes loving with kids bla bla bla bla is a disguise i tell you


Wicked people cant hide for too long

She wasn't loving the kids and the father knows this. He is as vulnerable as the kids.

SportsHD:
Big ass RED FLAGS!

Looool

Send that woman back to where she came from or drop her off where you picked her and her kids from.
Your wife is dead but that doesn't mean you would throw away all the things she thought you and the kids if those things were good. Our loved ones who are no more still live in hour hearts and from time to time we think about the good and the bad times we had with them. Especially in this case where you two had kids and each time you look at them, you remember their mother. That's doesn't mean you can't move on or have not moved on. Remembering about our lost loved ones doesn't mean we have not moved on.
That woman wants to own you and your kids and when she has finished entering deep into you, she will break you. Man up and send her and her kids out now that you too have not gone far.