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Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by Memyselfu2009(m): 10:23pm On May 13, 2021 |
Well if you don't like her tell her to leave simple if you like her you would not be her complaining |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by Secondt44(m): 10:33pm On May 13, 2021 |
I hope you read this It is too early for you to decides on bringing another woman to your home. Don't base your decision on your children response to the two family togetherness, they're still infant so they can't Identify danger in that zone yet. Pls think and rethink. Save your children from emotional sock that may cause any disaster to their life. Your decision matter. 2 Likes |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by luckygeee: 10:36pm On May 13, 2021 |
Op please I beg you with everything you hold dear, please let her GO!!! for the sake of your children. Please if you can't be a man for yourself but please be a man to your kids. Fight for them! You don't need a miracle drive this devil of a woman out of your house. Resist the devil and he will flee. This is the first time I am seeing all nairalanders speak in one voice irrespective of gender or tribal affiliations. Heed to the voice of wisdom and tell Delilah to leave your home. I am hoping and praying you make the right choice. May God be with you and your kids 3 Likes |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by mark2sunny(m): 10:42pm On May 13, 2021 |
You are seeing the evil that'll happen tomorrow and you are still asking questions? Are you afraid of the woman? 1 Like |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by fykes(m): 10:43pm On May 13, 2021 |
People are really different...I lost my fiancée and in 2 years plus I didn't let a lady get close to me...couldn't bring myself to spend time with anyone else and had her personal effects in my house for about 3-4 years. That's hmu way of honoring her. I had to heal before I could date again. Ur own na just 3/months and u even had kids? Except u have little knowledge of women..that line of her hobby being abroad and zoned her, its a common lie...the most common lie for a cheating wife...she's just baited u, so tomorrow she can actually say,"I told u I wasn't divorced," Bro, u are committing adultery so 2 Likes |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by Jydo2000: 10:52pm On May 13, 2021 |
If and only if you dearly love all your children who are all below their consent age, I think you need to do the right thing if not, you are about to be stripped off of your glorious future. In life, we have only two types of pains. 1. The pains of discipline. 2. The pains of regret. More painful is the pains of regret cos you won't be able to turn back the hands of time. I can understand your position as man, cos of the death of your wife. But let me tell you, that strange woman is about to corrupt your seed. And from your write up, you and that woman aren't met for each other. Note, you about to build a house that will divided against its self which will NEVER stand. You are man, don't be too emotional, What you don't WANT, YOU DON'T WATCH. 20 CHILDREN DO NOT PLAY FOR 20 YEARS. YOU CAN HAVE WHAT YOU WANT. Thanks. 1 Like |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by BEASTER(m): 10:53pm On May 13, 2021 |
Did you said, ' her husband left her to another woman'? I have to be honest with you here. For the sake of your kids and your late wife, also yourself. Eject that woman with am immediate effect without any apology or advice from anybody b4 your house will catch fire. family6644: |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by cococandy(f): 10:54pm On May 13, 2021 |
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Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by SUNNINO(m): 10:58pm On May 13, 2021 |
Oga, please let her leave your house don't add another pain to your life. 1 Like |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by UjuJoan2: 10:58pm On May 13, 2021 |
family6644: I think you are the problem in more ways than you know here . . . Firstly, you got involved with this woman out of your own accord. I understand you were lonely, I mean I would be too. But your wife died. It was totally immoral of you to begin having an affair with another woman and bring her into your home for whatever reason. You could ha r maintained that friendship between your kids, but starting an affair with her too was completely unnecessary and you need to acknowledge that you messed up in doing this. Then seriously, what is the problem with this woman. In 3 months people are not even officially done with mourning. You are still in the traditional mourning period. How does she justify this crazy need to change what you wife has established in her own home. Where is her conscience? I think in leaving that woman around you and your kids you are exposing your family to an evil and terrible person. Trust me, she will change towards the children and she will maltreat them behind your back. If she cannot help them mourn their mother, and respect her memory then she’s not a good person. Stop acting like you don’t have a choice in this matter. If not for anything, think of your children and the danger you are exposing them to. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by queenfav(f): 11:02pm On May 13, 2021 |
cococandy:them go break am o 1 Like |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by UjuJoan2: 11:02pm On May 13, 2021 |
Shytreasure: Na wa oh . . . This is really scary. May God keep us alive to raise our children. 2 Likes |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by Slimsly100(f): 11:11pm On May 13, 2021 |
Barely 3months and all these brouhaha don set Oga, put ur prick one place for now and concentrate on ur kids. Make the poor woman labor nor be in vain 1 Like |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by Johnsown1(m): 11:15pm On May 13, 2021 |
If I am to be in your shoes bro, I will definitely make her to understand that she is getting things too fast. Let her give you a break and you can either take your kids to either of the granny if deemed safe. Things are happening too fast, before you can say jack your children will put more pressure on you to allow her bla bla bla. Women sometimes dosen't show their venom until your weak and they will strike. |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by Realestatevixen: 11:20pm On May 13, 2021 |
Sanchez01: Hmmmm. I saw a pastor marry after 4 months that his wife died. I was so shocked, however, when I discussed it with my hubby, he didn't see anything wrong with it, infact he said that if that was the way he could heal faster, then it was very okay. I felt so bad that I asked him if that is what he would do if it was him . Things dry happen my brother 2 Likes |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by Populism: 11:27pm On May 13, 2021 |
She has to let you deal with the thoughts of loosing your beloved wife. She's too quick to disregard and disrespect your feelings and the children. 1 Like |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by DareyFortified: 11:36pm On May 13, 2021 |
To be sincere I smell juju in this matter. This isn't just ordinary. I will advice that you thread with caution. Save your kids. 1 Like |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by fineberry(m): 11:36pm On May 13, 2021 |
It looks like we are the only ones tolerating and accommodating them here, I have tried with no avail to stop her from insulting the memory of my late wife. I don't even know what to say to you....... YOU ALLOW A STRANGE WOMAN TO COME AND DOMINATE UR HOME, DEPRIVE YOUR CHILDREN OF PEACE & JOY, ABOLISH UR WAY OF DOING THINGS, CREATE HER OWN.... OP BIG SHAME ON YOU, YOUR LATE WIFE MUST BE DISAPPOINTED RIGHT NOW. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by Omoluabiii(m): 11:39pm On May 13, 2021 |
Define which happiness you want? Your happiness? Or the kids happiness.. Your happiness comes first, before the kids happiness, dont blindly pick a wrong woman because the kids likes her, i pity you, after shes through with you, then the kids go feel am, instead, pick a good woman that you like, do that assignment yourself, and when you find her, bring her to your kids, they will get along... You blindly pick a wrong woman because your kids likes her? And your kids like hers own kids too? You getting blinded by emotion? Wake up! Do whats needful, otherwise the whole thing you ve been building is about to be torn apart, 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by Nobody: 11:41pm On May 13, 2021 |
With all due respect Oga, separate yourself immediately from her.. If she cannot respect the values you took time to nurture and build overtime and respect your opinion and feelings, then she's not worthy but a pretender.. Gain control by severing ties now or regret it later.. Her desperation, her realtor story and a married woman whose husband abandoned for a white woman didn't just tally. Don't be dumb. Its happening too fast. She had you on a leash.. Gain control now or loose everything you've worked for later.. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by Danipumpin(m): 11:44pm On May 13, 2021 |
This is a wrong move here. 3 months after your wife die, bros the timing is too short.. you need at least 1 to 2years before thinking about such move. And allowing her into your home is also not so good. If you really love your wife which I believe you do, you need to get that woman off your mind and focus on your children for now.. she's showing RED flag already, no body can tell me not to morn someone so special to me not to talk of your wife... Please let her go her way and focus on your 3kids for now and give your wife some sort of respect. 1 Like |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by holocron: 12:10am On May 14, 2021 |
Loisemm2: Is it only diabolical? OP,pray she doesn't poison all of you to death or slit your throats while you are sleeping. You are an ignorant fool, playing with your life and the lives of your children. You are toying with a psychopath. DESIST FROM FURTHER ARGUMENT S WITH HER, AND CODEDLY FLEE FROM YOUR HOME WITH YOUR CHILDREN TO A FAMILY FRIEND'S HOUSE AND INVOLVE THE POLICE IN THE MATTER. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by mauchiz: 12:21am On May 14, 2021 |
You have to mourn your wife, after then you pray and seek the face of God for another life partner, send this woman and her children back to there house. She is not a wise woman, how can she move into your house three months after the death of your wife, please send her back for now, after one year, you can start a godly relationship. It is too early for now, people might start suspecting you. |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by mauchiz: 12:25am On May 14, 2021 |
Was the woman waiting for your wife to die so she will take over the marriage? it is too early. Send this woman back to her house. Your wife family will soon start accusing you of killing there sister. Be wise and send her back. 1 Like |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by Kylce042(m): 12:47am On May 14, 2021 |
family6644: See erh don’t start what you can’t finish. I thank God that there’re no commitments yet. I think she is a dominant and from the look of things what you n the rest of the family needs is a submissive. Just relax take your time before getting another mother for that family. |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by shadrach77: 1:21am On May 14, 2021 |
family6644:You are not in any trouble. I purposely quoted you so that you will see my comment. Like someone said, you come across as an unserious person. I feel the numerous advice on this platform is wasted cause even from the initial post I can deduce that you already know the problem and you know the solution to the problem but you sought advice because you were looking for people who will tell you what you want to hear. Since you are not getting that, you are finding ways to justify your decision. It's your call but don't go about pretending as though you are confused 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by pentsystems(m): 1:36am On May 14, 2021 |
I will blame you for accepting another man's cabbage because she didn't have any a closure with her husband and you are commiting adultery sleeping with another man's wife so fix it .. You can now see reasons why her husband ran away from her to abroad she has a bad character of being bossy and not ready to listen or keep to your rules which is bad for you as a man . I have dated girls in the past that speaks ill about their ex's but when you get close to them you will notice they are the devil's themselves and that was what scared off their ex's, now I don't even try it again ones you speak bad about your ex I lose interest in you .. thank God you have learnt about it early enough so it time for you to have some balls than your dick head and make decision telling her if she is not ready to keep your rules the doors are wide open for her to leave but make sure you talk to your kids about her and know they feel about her before making moves family6644:ada |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by Rimbaldi: 1:41am On May 14, 2021 |
You are totally disrespecting the memory of your late wife. Totally! 3 months and you are cohabiting with someone else's wife? Have you bothered to find out her roots? She told you her husband left her, did her family return the brideprice paid on her head? Or do you not know that as long as that hasn't been done, they are still customarily and legally married? Do not use the children's happiness and wellbeing to justify your lust for flesh. Don't do that! You should have your family and your late wife's family as your support system not a strange woman. This is how men court trouble. In 12 days you are already cohabiting with a strange woman. Na wao! So because your children like her, they have turned to the father and you are now a baby and as such they tell you what to do? To bring in a woman? The quality of parents these days dey baffle me. Our parents did a far better job at parenting than young parents these days. Even with all parenting manuals and education, basic parenting is still too poor these days. How can you try to justify your lust with your children's wellbeing? If the tables were reversed and your wife was sleeping with another man just three months after, would your family not be all up in arms against her? This is every shade of wrong! I do not think you came here to seek advice because its a no-brainer. I think you came to seek validation for your actions. Goodluck my brother! Na wao! 2 Likes |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by Rimbaldi: 1:44am On May 14, 2021 |
shadrach77:I wish I could buy you a drink. He wants validation, not advice. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by easyzworld: 1:51am On May 14, 2021 |
The woman is desperate and such desperation never ends well... let her go and for sure you are going to find something better if you are patient enough. |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by lakasta: 2:24am On May 14, 2021 |
Hello, I have been in your shoes.. I need you to call me.. or inbox me.. what whatever you doing now just freeze the scene... I am waiting |
Re: Family Problems About Remarrying by Lostchild(m): 2:34am On May 14, 2021 |
Family6644 90 days after your wife death you start a new sex relatie? Na wa O. You mess up big time. I feel betrayed on behalf of your wife. Do you even care what people with say behind your back? At this time of your loss, you dont need any relatie. How can you even pick a woman are husband run away from? Dont you see that she cant hide her toxic nature ? Even if you want to date, you dont have to listen to your kids to pick a woman because your kids are too young know what is good. No woman will love your children as you espect because women in general are selfish unlike men. Your children can only have peace when you find a lowly and selfless woman with great maternal instinct of unconditional care. A woman like this is rare to come by I am the right person to speak to you on this because I grow up living with step mothers. My earthly father is a hottie. He spent all his life marrying various women and I suffer so much growing up. I never knew motherly love at all. All the women my father marry, only one of them truly deeply cared for me because she is a love field person. My earthly father loved her so much because she is beautiful from the inside and outside. She has natural love for everyone. Stay away from re- marrying and do not think of settling down for a long time. Be a father and mother to your children. Step mother cause the death of my brother and I suffer so much in the hand of step mother. It is been almost 19 years and I still cry and mourn over the loss of my brother because of the way we suffered and the terrible way he loss his life. My eyes is currently watery because your children reminded me of my late brother Believe me; It is only a white women can truly respect and acknowledge the well being of your children. Give your self lot of time; You can temporily have a fc'ck buddy to quell your hornyness. Warning: Do not have more kids with any other woman Women are self-centered and selfishness destroys |
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