Lol when did washing plates become a big deal in this life biko? How is it degrading?
Its just an easy fvcking chore. Mtchew

Some of the things I read though.....

You should have known the husband you married and think ahead of his likely reaction to such request. He went overboard slapping you however, it could be due to his insecurity following his loss of his business.

I pray you guys are able to forgive one another and continue as a family.

BruncleZuma:
You don't have a husband, no real man assaults a woman over such issues.

.I choose to differ..you haven't heard it all...

No be women again...theris more to it.

Margy:
The man is stupid!

I have seen husband and wife running a business together..and guess what ..it's booming.

Just in front of my yard.. a woman owns a retail shop..the husband stocked it up..the next thing I saw was the husband helping in the sales in the shop..the shop is growing

Another man helps his wife in the restaurant..she does the cooking and the man takes orders, serves the customers and helps out.where necessary...customers keep flowing san-san into the restaurant..

There's a program called restaurant impossible aired on food network.. I see a lot of husband and wife and children running their restaurants.

All I can say is that this man will die a wretched poor man..proud grasshopper with no shi-shi.. yeyee dey smell

See your huge mouth...did you know the way the woman must have told the man to wash the plates bcus he is unemployed??. Why didnt she discuss this with him in private before saying it in public...although 2 wrongs dont make a right as we all know but he should be very angry with her...and your mouth must be huge...see as you dey talk..i hope you marry thyself else your husband go beat you

My dear, I don't know the manner or tune you used in telling him, but I see nothing wrong in your husband helping you out even without been told.
Marriage is easy when there is understanding between both parties. Even if he has a job, he can still help you with domestic chores.

Your manner of approach, body language and tone of your voice at that time is what matters....

I'll like to hear your husband side of the story

Hotshisha:
That's not the full story

Once a man losses his source of income women become rude , unappreciative and wicked

Even if you ask Buhari to wash plates with proper manners he would gladly do that but ungrateful Nigerian women are something else

mynd44 can do same

EaglesEyes1:
If you have that much customers where u can't be washing, u can at least afford a young boy or girl who can wash plates and serve for you. I have seen women who sell by the roadside with less customers, they all have a young girl helping them. Somepeople just hate to see someone doing nothing, they see them as lazy.
Because you are now the breadwinner, your husband now must work for you to have a right to get his daily meal from you. A wise wife knows how to make her husband do things for her without hurting his ego.
Woman stop asking if your actions are right or wrong, go to that friend's house and beg your husband so at least it will prove that you didn't mean any disrespect. Be a wise woman, foolish people will tell you that since your husband can't provide he is useless and you dont need him, if u like follow those foolish advices and not beg your husband, your choice. A wise wife hide the shame of her husband and prays positively for him. Be guilded.

Employ a young boy or girl. U mean child abuse abi?

Make she go carry person pikin way supposed dae school to come dae sell food for am in the name of wetin?

Which kind local wicked mentality be that?

I have seen a situation where an engineer lost his job and his wife has a shop, the shop is all they use to survive the man that's an engineer way don touch better money out of the fact that he knows what the shop brings to the tale he let his pride down sometimes, goes to open the shop for the wife when she goes to the market. Replaces her when she goes home to cook.

The fact that the man is there helping her doesn't take anything from him, cause he is smart enuf to know the situation on ground

BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public , and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

You mean you shouted at your husband to wash plates - IN PUBLIC? You for bring your pants and bra also in public for him to wash.

Girl you no try at all. No man, and I mean no man, not even SIMPs would take that. If He was working in an office, would you go to his office and drag him to come and wash plates for you? You have damage the core of his manhood in public for that matter.

You better go with elders to seriously beg and apologise for your mistake.

I believe if u don't tells him to do so he will definitely do cos he can clearly see you are busy , the manner u confronted him caused this try and beg him and maintain your home back put the devil to shame

Godada:




The man in question is at a very vulnerable point in life. I think you pissed him off. The level of understanding between the both of you would have smoothened any rancour here. You hurt his pride

YOU'RE JUST THERE

We actually do not know what this very man is passing through in his home.
Insult because he's jobless.
No respect.
Denying him sex and intimacy.
Lack of communication.
Manner of approach.
Etc.
She doesn't need to tell the husband but the husband would have have unconditionally done that if she is a good woman.

Note : most times we are only managing these women for peace to reign.

Galaxydon1:
I don't see anything wrong if the Man watches plate. It's lack of understanding, so if it was the Man that runs The business won't he dish out plates for his customers. Since it's a family business i don't see anything wrong with it.

That man has endured a lot...she didn't tell us everything.. No be women again.

There's nothing wrong in asking her husband to help her out as long as she asked politely. It isn't even about who's taking care of the responsibilities at home.

If she had said it politely , its no big deal... The hushand shud be assisting her in the shop while hunting for jobs since its their only means of livelihood right now. We shud learn to tolerate , love and be patient . She will wash the plate if she had lost her own office job.

Cooking I know is not easy at all. I understand that you have also been over-working yourself since your husband lost his job and under pressure. You only just needed to ask him to get some girl around to help with the dishes instead of asking him to help you in the public. I also help my wife in public not because I lost my job but because it's our business and our money.
You only made a little error, nothing serious. He will be back soon...

So na only slap em slap you?

Asking him to wash plate is not bad but how did you place your words??

How did you tell him to wash the plate

Girls of nowadays don't have sense, there is an attitude you will use in telling a man to wah plate and he will just do it immediately.

Were you trying to divide the chores

No matter the condition, the man is the head of the family & the woman can be anything from the collar downwards ...

U told your husband in public to go wash plates because he’s temporarily jobless, you just sold ur husband to the public as u wanted it, and that was why he slapped the rag out of the woman’s head....no matter wat, help to manage a mans ego and pride in public, especially a man that once had it all....

Madam, it depends on the type of the tone in which you used to communicate with him...

What an insult on an agonising husband whose self-esteem has been eroded by the losses? The woman now adds salts to his injury by subjecting him to public ridicule.

It's clear that the man might not have issues with washing dishes at home, but in a restaurant.

Very ridiculous!!!

Madam, you made a mistake. Men have a lot of ego and pride. What you would have done was to ask if he could help in any way. He could decide to help take orders or even do the dishes himself, but it would have been his decision not you sending him on an errand. I know it was wrong for him to have slapped you,he was probably trying to save face. Go to the friends place and apologize to your husband.

richnankar1:
My dear, I don't know the manner or tune you used in telling him, but I see nothing wrong in your husband helping you out even without been told.
Marriage is easy when there is understanding between both parties. Even if he has a job, he can still help you with domestic chores.

Am telling u, all dz people here saying she's wicked don't know what life is all about.

They think customers have time for such hassles, ontop say other places dae they left it to patronize u, u still fit no attend to them cause u waste time in serving, preparing the food, Washing plates only u cause u have no staffs, which is not your fault cause it's only her taking care of the family. Sth that was caused be her husband being scammed and not her.

Only one woman goes to market, comes back, prepares food, clean the restaurant, serve customers, still wash plates, you can't even pity her and u are claiming pride.

Poor people act very f00lish at times, if only they know that when u are poor nobody rates u, them no go dae send people

Elporo:


Nah thunder go fire you las las.

A man with no pride is no man.

Real men burnt down Troy.
Real men built the Egytian pyramids.
Real men took over Red Indian territory to birth America.

If they where busy doing dishes, I wonder if you would be able to read or write.

They weren't sitting at home doing nothing.

She messed up pretty bad... Sorry for the slap though.. Just apologizing on behalf of my fellow broke man �

The truth is that he was afraid to do that because if you succeed on the first day you told him to wash plate in public,, tomorrow may be worst for him because many insulting women started like that..

So please,, always live within your strength..

Hardgun:
That's very bad telling your husband to wash plate

....... more so in public

I could blame the man for slapping you in public, however, you should also take the blame for directly insulting the man in public.

He didn't lost his business that day.

If both of you have good communication at home, you could have spoken with him and encourage him to join you in the business so that both of you can move it forward while he use the opportunity to look for a new work to do.

No reasonable man will flare at his wife for being considerate and polite.

He lost his business, you mentioned it like 2 to 4 times in the post, which probably points to how you have been insulting him at home.

Some issues are not settled by third party or prayers.

You only need common sense and lower your ego.

Do you think your husband would have tell you to wash his car just because he's busy fixing the electronics at home?

Coldie:

Employ a young boy or girl. U mean child abuse abi?

Make she go carry person pikin way supposed dae school to come dae sell food for am in the name of wetin?

Which kind local wicked mentality be that?

I have seen a situation where an engineer lost his job and his wife has a shop, the shop is all they use to survive the man that's an engineer way don touch better money out of the fact that he knows what the shop brings to the tale he let his pride down sometimes, goes to open the shop for the wife when she goes to the market. Replaces her when she goes home to cook.

The fact that the man is there helping her doesn't take anything from him, cause he is smart enuf to know the situation on ground

To go open shop and sell for wife different from telling your husband to wash plates in public.
I have opened a small snack bar for my wife. She dare not tell me to wash plates in public. She sometimes ask me to watch the donuts when frying, if she goes out to supply customers. But asking me to wash plates? - never.