Women can be ruthless. Very ruthless I tell you.
What is a man without his pride?
He went broke for awhile then you start rubbing shit on his face.
They are the same everywhere in the world

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The man in question is at a very vulnerable point in life. I think you pissed him off. The level of understanding between the both of you would have smoothened any rancour here. You hurt his pride[/quote

I quite agree with you he is at a vulnerable point in his life. You asking him to wash plates for you is telling his mates( every male present there) that you are the breadwinner. You rubbished his pride big time.

It is W-R-O-N-G.

Some of your customers that witnessed your behaviour to your husband might stop to patronising your eatry. Go and look for him, apologize (mean it) and make peace.

Serves you right bitch

Elporo:


Nah thunder go fire you las las.

A man with no pride is no man.

Real men burnt down Troy.
Real men built the Egytian pyramids.
Real men took over Red Indian territory to birth America.
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If they where busy doing dishes, I wonder if you would be able to read or write.

CLEAR AM

BruncleZuma:


Baba that nah financial support; you've also got psychological and physical support, which you've not provided.

But seriously, assaulting your wife or any woman over something you can talk over nah beta male behaviour.

Im sure she spoke to him rudely. If u read carefully, u will notice that the woman is already seeing the man as a lazy man. There is something about women, they forget all the good things u have done for them too fast.

He wasn't lazy when he saved up and open a shop for her. Abi u think it is easy to work, feed family, meet a woman's needs and still have capital to open a business for someone. He wasn't lazy. So, since the woman is seeing him as being lazy and unproductive, she must have spoken to him a rude way. U don't tell ur husband to wash plates in front of ur customers. Come on. He will always feel that u are doing that becus he lost his source of income.

She could have whispered to him and make a for such activity outside the sight of the customers. She could have gotten a sales girl/boy

Madam, go after your husband.
Don't break your home because of this little set back.

U didn't do anything bad my dear just that ur hus lack common sense. If he's a real niga how come he got scammed. Seeing u under pressure.. He doesn't need holy spirit to help out.. Say place he feeds from. If the business crumble his sense Will return to default mode

I am a peace loving fellow but if my wife ask me to do this, I might slap her.

Doesn't matter if we dey abroad or Nigeria.

Abeg no kill me with laugh �

SmartPolician:


You made a lot of sense.

CalmElder, your comment is thought-provoking.

I thought I was d only person seeing reasons from that post.
I gave up when I read all the workers finding their square roots after non payment of their deserved wages... And you're selling with such inflow of customers and wages can't be paid at the end of the day.
Madam something is wrong somewhere.

Preciouschinwe:
FAKE THREAD CREATED FOR ATTENTION

Idiot
I hope ur husband beats the sh*t out of you this night!

Galaxydon1:
I don't see anything wrong if the Man watches plate. It's lack of understanding, so if it was the Man that runs The business won't he dish out plates for his customers. Since it's a family business i don't see anything wrong with it.

Go and be "watching" plate for your wife in the presence of customer, Mr Understanding Man

Margy:
The man is stupid!

I have seen husband and wife running a business together..and guess what ..it's booming.

Just in front of my yard.. a woman owns a retail shop..the husband stocked it up..the next thing I saw was the husband helping in the sales in the shop..the shop is growing

Another man helps his wife in the restaurant..she does the cooking and the man takes orders, serves the customers and helps out.where necessary...customers keep flowing san-san into the restaurant..

There's a program called restaurant impossible aired on food network.. I see a lot of husband and wife and children running their restaurants.

All I can say is that this man will die a wretched poor man..proud grasshopper with no shi-shi.. yeyee dey smell

Restaurant Impossible, solving business problems in the simplest way.

It's like MBA class again.

If you give a woman a chance, she will take chances ,if that guy had wash the plate once, she will add washing of plates to the man's duties. But am against the man slapping the woman, he would have just walked away.

Madam, go after your husband.
Don't break your home because of this little set back.

A man has ego!! Massage his ego first he will do anything for you!!! Don’t just order him to wash plate!! Madam fear God!!

Na small small person take dey start dance, before u know u go say make em dey come help u every day.

If u know wat go through her mind everyday em seeing taking care of the family, u will go and telling him u are sorry. Definitely he will still apologise to u. Ur home becomes more stronger in unit and love

Since he has not been doing it,you suppose to ask nicely and in private rather you chose to embrass him in public and you got it back.

Your action was to tell your husband he is no longer of value, hence you reduce him plate washer.

Since you reduce him, he also felt you no longer worth anything more than a punching bag. Pele (sorry)

Lesson: yon dont reduce people value just because of the situation the person is passing through.


Respect is reciprocal

BruncleZuma:


Did you even bother to read Homers Iliad; your basic Hollywood driven knowledge of history is troubling. And the kinds of fatalistic attributes to real men shows me how unlikely you've seen a real man before.

Lol, you are still trying to reason with someone telling you that a man must have pride, not reasoning abilities. Reverse the genders to get any meaningful response.

Men on this forum can justify any kind of abuse to suit their egos. She never hit him first, just spoke to him, but somehow she deserves the physical assault. If they were in America and she called the cops afterwards, they would say nurses have ego issues.

Women would use their own hands to spoil their marriage.

There is a way and manner you can tell someone to go to hell and they will gladly be itching to start trekking to hell.

There is a a zillion difference in these two scenarios...

Scenario 1
Calmly whispering to him without anyone else hearing it,..." Honey please don't be offended, please don't feel bad that l am asking, just that l have no other alternative and l know your ego level...do u mind assisting me with either warming the food or washing then plates so that we can serve some customers, and make some sales, please?"...Even if your husband na Shekau or Nyesom Wike, he will wash the plates and warm the food all by himself at lightning seed. Emotional intelligence, massaging his ego, according him full respect despite his powerlessness of joblessness.

Scenario 2....In Patience or Ozokwor style or TontoDikeh anger mode, with everyone looking and listening..."Papa Ebuka, have told you before and you ignored me, go and wash plates now lemme serve customers...am tired of all these Biko, only me go attack, only me go defend". Zero respect, zero pressure management and zero emotional intelligence on the part of the woman. Trust me you don de chochocho tey tey de make careless and rude remarks about his joblessness directly and indirectly, that slap wey you just chop suppose don drop tey tey, today's own broke the camel's back. Some of your fellow women sef de earn millions whereas their hubby de earn peanuts, peace of mind still de.

It is inherently in the nature of the menfolk to provide for their kith and kin, when they are powerless to do so it brings out the devil in them oftentimes if you don't manage them well as a woman.

Kindly find a way to apologise to your husband, he will apologise for hitting you, he was blinded by shame and anger, it wasn't deliberate. In my opinion you should be happy and lucky that your husband is no SIMP.

Margy:
The man is stupid!

I have seen husband and wife running a business together..and guess what ..it's booming.

Just in front of my yard.. a woman owns a retail shop..the husband stocked it up..the next thing I saw was the husband helping in the sales in the shop..the shop is growing

Another man helps his wife in the restaurant..she does the cooking and the man takes orders, serves the customers and helps out.where necessary...customers keep flowing san-san into the restaurant..

There's a program called restaurant impossible aired on food network.. I see a lot of husband and wife and children running their restaurants.

All I can say is that this man will die a wretched poor man..proud grasshopper with no shi-shi.. yeyee dey smell

Alot of Igbo restaurants are like this.

Very disrespectful, after all is not a joint business and again ur husband is your crown and there's a saying that" if you want your husband to act like a king you have to treat him as one" but instead you want to treat your husband like a house boy or a slave..no difference between the two

You guys always seem to forget the stress men do undergoing or insult they receive at work just to provide for the family without complaining.

But when the woman shoulders the family's responsibility, the man must drop his pride and help her.

Coldie:

She's not even supposed to tell him that, if the man is a reasonable and considerate man he would go and do it himself.

How would u as a man feel if your wife is going tru such stress, despite fending for the family u see her attending to loads of customers then she's attending to them, plates are piling up nobody to wash them, u can't help to attend to the customers and u still cant help to at least wash the plates.

Which kind yeye pride be that

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Hardgun:
That's very bad telling your husband to wash plate

Really? Cooking and washing is not gender based

How could tell ur husband to wash plates in public....you could have gotten the message at first instead of receiving the slap...sorry

DryMouth:

Idiot
I hope ur husband beats the sh*t out of you this night!

BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

You both would have discussed it earlier, or you would have called him in an isolated area before asking in a polite way o. Something like this whispering " petname (honey) please can you assist me with the dishes".

Me, I value respect and love so much.
I can do whatever....