He blocked the OP's number and on facebook. He just wanted the op to learn that this life is cold. I once declined to help a fellow stranded friend in lagos. He came from abk, he had a job interview in Abuja and I'd already promised him the money but, didn't give him the money, and I didn't block him, I just blue ticked his messages and declined his calls.
I even posted 3 cups of loud, worth more than the tf he was asking, on my WhatsApp so he could see.
Not that I'm wicked but he has spread gay rumors about me in the past just to get my girl. Thought I forgot. Maybe the guy also wanted to payback the OP for something he did or the guy is just plain wicked.
Do not pay evil with evil. In this life, things go in cycles. You may think you have won by paying him back, but the reality is you have sown evil. You do not have a forgiving heart, it may come back to haunt you.
Just like in my case, so many graduates in the country are today, traumatized, depressed or even suicidal. Nothing is more depressing than seeing oneself jobless after several years of graduation. More annoying is when there's no finance to even start a business no matter how brilliant the business idea could be. If I have capital or even a collateral to use and get some money somewhere, I would rest completely from job hunting.
My ordeal. Few months ago, I stumbled on a friend on Facebook whom we were school mates back in secondary school. His parents resided outside the state which he normally came back on school resumption and would go back during holidays.
On meeting him on Facebook, taking a look at his pictures, he's obviously doing well and claimed he's working with an international NGO. I told him my pains which is unemployment. Immediately, he was happy and telling me not to worry again that with his connections here and there, I'll get a job. His promise was to fix me either in the NGO, an insurance company, factory work or any other place of which he has links and connections.
We talked extensively and negotiated my movement and arrived I should come over last week. The plans was to stay in his 2 bedroom apartment and until 3-4 months when I can rent my own place. So I moved from Rivers state to Lagos Monday last week with just 16k on me. En route Lagos, we were keeping in touch so to know how closer I am and until I got to Lagos (God is Good Motors park) around 8pm. I called him that I have arrived the park and he said he was coming to pick me.
Long story short, that was the last time his number went. Initially, I thought it was network, or may be temporary low battery. I kept dialling the number through out the night but it never went again. Of course I had no choice than to sleep in the park. Woke up the next morning hoping his number would go but still same. I had no body else in Lagos nor knowing any where as that was my first time in Lagos. So I was just roaming around the park the whole day like a lost sheep, hungry, frustrating and pains but still hoping for his call but none came. When I tried reaching via Facebook and realized I was blocked, that was when it dawned on me that I have to start going back immediately. Already, transport fare from PH to Lagos finished about N10,500. So I was left with about 4k on me. At that point in the evening, I knew my best bet as I said earlier was to find my way back immediately but I didn't even have enough cash for my return. I had no option than to start telling people about my predicament and appealed for help to raise fund to return home the next morning. I was mocked and laughed at while some were asking to buy my phone at a very ridiculous amount. But then at that point, I could have sold it at the ridiculous amount but the phone was the only medium of communication with people especially my mum who was already worried over the journey right from the onset. I kept approaching people to help me and until one man graciously completed the money for me and I paid for my return.
On reaching home, I did nothing than thanking God that at least my case wasn't like that of late Iniobong Umoren. At least I came back home alive...which is the most important thing. But what I don't understand is why the guy chose to be that wicked to me forgetting this world is a very small place. I mean if there was never a job, why did he have to put me through that? Anyways, I have since moved on. Not even swearing/cursing him but leave everything for God. Such is life!
Fellow nairalanders, that is the dairy of a Nigerian job seeker. This leave me with the question, "will Nigeria ever be good for ordinary Nigerian?"
Bro, we live in a wicked world. Trust nobody...the mistake you have done was to solely depend on your friend in Lagos without no plan B... Whenever, I'm traveling out of the reach of my family either for official training, course, visit, etc, I always have a plan B for myself in case there is a disappointment in the process... No matter who is promising me a job or accommodation or anything....always have plan B...Nah only God can not fail you...even parents, brother, pastor, bishop, president, friends can disappoint
JovialJune: Op must have done something terrible to him in the past, cos I don't want to believe that a friend will make Op travel all the way to Lagos, even talk to him en-route assuring him all is well, then ghost him, no way he was just plainly wicked, no way.
No matter what it is, that person is wicked. I'm sure if the OP indeed do something bad to him, it must have been long ago and since he said they were secondary school mates, it most likely happened at that stage of their lives. That reveals how long it must have been.
If he could nurse that alleged offence for so long and waited for an opportunity like this to pay back, then I can only see nothing but wickedness. Time heals people and with time people tend to reap from the bad they do to others, but if anyone decides to take it upon theirself to pay back especially after so long, then he/she definitely has a heart problem.
That guy is plain wicked, nothing can justify what he did.
SanctifiedSista: Don't worry God doesn't want anyone to take the glory.it will be part of ur success story. Go on a fast three days praying and listening to APOSTLE joshua selman messages Congratulations
It is true my sister, perhaps God doesn't want anyone to take the glory as you rightly said. I was once in this situation whereby people promise me heaven on earth after graduation, but nothing manifested. The good God make it happen for me when the time is right, and no one other than him can take the glory. My brother just keep believing, and keep praying to God to give you the best.
powerbank100: This story hit home and i can relate so i shed a tear. God dey, the first rule in life is trust NO ONE. you came alone and you will depart alone.
You might want to listen to BLESSED (schoolboy Q ft Kendrick Lamar) while reading while you light up a blunt, it'd help you a lot
Bro ur the G, � �
Know this and know peace.
you can hit the ground running with a few tips below I you don't have any profitable venture at the monent, this..can be applied to almost anything if you think critically.
imma keep it real with you like my brother from another mother, The educational system in Nigeria has been watered down a great deal but there are still opportunities for grassroot hustlers, best believe that.
All you need now is a hustler's ambition / mindset, you need to grind like one who has no mother or father, its cold out there.
In Nigeria, there are two classes of people (Living things and non living things)...you need to be amongst the living and stop whinning and complaining about this and that, nobody has it easy. If everyone comes to Nairaland beer parlor with his or her story, you go thank God for your life.
Bum imma share some gems with you real quick and if you are street wise, you will take action immediately.
If you must make it in Nigeria, you must think like an OUTLAW. push your fine boy and degree aside, roll up your sleeves and hit the ground running.
however, If you are techy (digital marketing, ecommerce, mini importation)
If you are dead broke don't venture into programming, you cannot effectively learn programming on an empty stomach with lack of data
If you are hands on Plumbing, woodwork, electrical, interior design solar design and installation, phone and laptop repair
Let me give you a brotherly advice, and I hope you work on it... First of all I counsel people and I have done that on nairaland for a while... I have met great and good guys... I dropped a story about my experience teaching in two schools as a corper and would not mind partnering with schools in abuja, but some accused me of looking for teaching job... Never ever mind what people say... Back to the matter... As a graduate, teaching and earning 15k, e no bad... But once you have a good (android) phone, go to any car stand of your choice around your area... Listen well, any good car stand and ask to see the manager... Tell him you want to help him market his cars and get good buyers... 90% of car stand managers will sign u on... Tel him you will be paid a small commission after sales... Pick up your phone, snap as many cars as your phone memory can take, open a dedicated twitter ac, IG ac, Facebook ac, WhatsApp ac, ac etc... Take out time to post this cars, make sure you have the actual prices of this cars... You can add as much as #250k on it... Bring down the negotiations to as low as making #50k if need be just so I can sell. Set your monthly target... I assure you, if you get I client in a month, u make around #100,000k once you start growing, you can get as much as 5-10 client from all over the country and that hits you over #1m for just helping others sell their cars, Note all you invested was your time, energy, phone and data... No big financial capital... Do not restrict yourself to cars, go for industrial machines as well, caterpillars, mikano gens, any thing, then you look for those big companies that need them and try to call their attention to it or market it to them... You may not sell in 3 months but when you manage to get a client to buy just 1 caterpillars, my brother you will instantly forget that u suffered before... A friend of mine was marketing a silo for a local wielder, he received a call all the way from kebbi state, the purchase was made in Ilorin, he made #1.8 mil from buyers and #400k from seller... He still got a referral from that deal. Wake up bro... Within a month or two, come and pay (tite). I drive uber/bolt in abuja, market cars, sell commodities such as beans, maize, wheat, ginger,onions, name it... In bags and tonnes And I make nothing less than half a mil monthly...We all blessed my nigga !
Reach me privately if you are interested in gadget importation and sales from US.
Not judging o but as the mata be like that, u wan say u no get correct padi or relatives wen u for call to rescue u by sending u money instead of begging? Thank God say u jam good samaritan if not, u be don expose urself to some evil heads. But dat ur guy sha,
EjaikreTheViper: Many Warri boys don travel go Ghana base on friends' invites, reach there come dey stranded. Immediately you enter Ghana, your paddy man number nor go dey go through again!
achillesfoot: In simple terms you lost the battle because you couldn't withstand the storm when your faith was tested. You ran back to your comfort zone. Timidity dwells in you yet you are looking for a rich life. let me tell you that God used that guy to remove you from your comfort zone, you should have remained in Lagos and faced the street. There would your glory locate you. You forget Abraham didn't know his destination when he left his father's house. He had a choice of returning but he didn't. As for that one writing textbook dishing advice, where I knew he's a fraud is after saying he makes more than half a million, yet he's still asking for tithe, yes his advice is an eye opener however his claims are false. It's my job to sniff out lies in a perfectly painted truth. No man will ever reveal what he actually makes so I caught him there.. In summary all I have to say is you messed up. You did what you knew best and that's running back to mommy. Enjoy your breast milk.
You cracked me up. You should understand not everyone can live a homeless lifestyle. I had only about 4k with me in a strange land I never been to before.
All those people saying he might have offended his friend in the past please stop thinking in that direction.
Mr. OP was meant to come to Lagos and be a man even though his friend never answered him again, the fear of being stranded made him run back home, I I will not go back if I was in his shoes. That's your own testimony cut short.
Sometimes ago in 2005 a friend of ours found himself in a similar situation he hustled his way out instead of coming home, today he is overseas and doing big Courtsey of his endurance in Lagos.
None of this was your fault. Nothing to worry about.
The only problem is you traveled with insufficient funds. Even if huge money or someone's life was involved, I don't move without having more than double of my transport fare NO MATTER THE EMERGENCY and I always demand full directions to the house in text or I write it down myself. Where to stop the bus, which Keke or bike to enter bla bla.
I'll rather sell my property or borrow at home before travelling than experience the embarrassment of strangers in a strange city who would think I'm a big fool. Plus I don't trust network, phone battery etc. What if one of our phones is snatched while I never know my compass?
What if motor spoil for road or I have to abandon the motor and escape for my life in case of wreckless driving or hoodlums attack on the way?! I'M NOT PARANOID. IT'S JUST LIFE'S PRESENT REALITIES!
So with all the insecurity issues tha abound about town, you want him to sleep under the bridge to prove he is not a cry baby and possibly get himself killed?
Anyone reading this and thinking of taking this risks should better think again..
Thank you for pointing that out. To him, the only way I could prove I'm not timid is by sleeping under the bridge.
The fact is dont believe all what you see on social media,that guy looking rich on Facebook might not even have what to eat that day.He himself might be jobless but just living fake on social media.He is just a fake wicked person
Just like in my case, so many graduates in the country are today, traumatized, depressed or even suicidal. Nothing is more depressing than seeing oneself jobless after several years of graduation. More annoying is when there's no finance to even start a business no matter how brilliant the business idea could be. If I have capital or even a collateral to use and get some money somewhere, I would rest completely from job hunting.
My ordeal. Few months ago, I stumbled on a friend on Facebook whom we were school mates back in secondary school. His parents resided outside the state which he normally came back on school resumption and would go back during holidays.
On meeting him on Facebook, taking a look at his pictures, he's obviously doing well and claimed he's working with an international NGO. I told him my pains which is unemployment. Immediately, he was happy and telling me not to worry again that with his connections here and there, I'll get a job. His promise was to fix me either in the NGO, an insurance company, factory work or any other place of which he has links and connections.
We talked extensively and negotiated my movement and arrived I should come over last week. The plans was to stay in his 2 bedroom apartment and until 3-4 months when I can rent my own place. So I moved from Rivers state to Lagos Monday last week with just 16k on me. En route Lagos, we were keeping in touch so to know how closer I am and until I got to Lagos (God is Good Motors park) around 8pm. I called him that I have arrived the park and he said he was coming to pick me.
Long story short, that was the last time his number went. Initially, I thought it was network, or may be temporary low battery. I kept dialling the number through out the night but it never went again. Of course I had no choice than to sleep in the park. Woke up the next morning hoping his number would go but still same. I had no body else in Lagos nor knowing any where as that was my first time in Lagos. So I was just roaming around the park the whole day like a lost sheep, hungry, frustrating and pains but still hoping for his call but none came. When I tried reaching via Facebook and realized I was blocked, that was when it dawned on me that I have to start going back immediately. Already, transport fare from PH to Lagos finished about N10,500. So I was left with about 4k on me. At that point in the evening, I knew my best bet as I said earlier was to find my way back immediately but I didn't even have enough cash for my return. I had no option than to start telling people about my predicament and appealed for help to raise fund to return home the next morning. I was mocked and laughed at while some were asking to buy my phone at a very ridiculous amount. But then at that point, I could have sold it at the ridiculous amount but the phone was the only medium of communication with people especially my mum who was already worried over the journey right from the onset. I kept approaching people to help me and until one man graciously completed the money for me and I paid for my return.
On reaching home, I did nothing than thanking God that at least my case wasn't like that of late Iniobong Umoren. At least I came back home alive...which is the most important thing. But what I don't understand is why the guy chose to be that wicked to me forgetting this world is a very small place. I mean if there was never a job, why did he have to put me through that? Anyways, I have since moved on. Not even swearing/cursing him but leave everything for God. Such is life!
Fellow nairalanders, that is the dairy of a Nigerian job seeker. This leave me with the question, "will Nigeria ever be good for ordinary Nigerian?"
it happened to me in 2012 thank God today I can feed the guys entire village.dont give up Broda.stop looking for a job and face yourself.it doesn’t take time to build oneself.
highchief1: it happened to me in 2012 thank God today I can feed the guys entire village.dont give up Broda.stop looking for a job and face yourself.it doesn’t take time to build oneself.
Just give a brief summary of what happened and how you overcame. Let's uplift others.
Just like in my case, so many graduates in the country are today, traumatized, depressed or even suicidal. Nothing is more depressing than seeing oneself jobless after several years of graduation. More annoying is when there's no finance to even start a business no matter how brilliant the business idea could be. If I have capital or even a collateral to use and get some money somewhere, I would rest completely from job hunting.
My ordeal. Few months ago, I stumbled on a friend on Facebook whom we were school mates back in secondary school. His parents resided outside the state which he normally came back on school resumption and would go back during holidays.
On meeting him on Facebook, taking a look at his pictures, he's obviously doing well and claimed he's working with an international NGO. I told him my pains which is unemployment. Immediately, he was happy and telling me not to worry again that with his connections here and there, I'll get a job. His promise was to fix me either in the NGO, an insurance company, factory work or any other place of which he has links and connections.
We talked extensively and negotiated my movement and arrived I should come over last week. The plans was to stay in his 2 bedroom apartment and until 3-4 months when I can rent my own place. So I moved from Rivers state to Lagos Monday last week with just 16k on me. En route Lagos, we were keeping in touch so to know how closer I am and until I got to Lagos (God is Good Motors park) around 8pm. I called him that I have arrived the park and he said he was coming to pick me.
Long story short, that was the last time his number went. Initially, I thought it was network, or may be temporary low battery. I kept dialling the number through out the night but it never went again. Of course I had no choice than to sleep in the park. Woke up the next morning hoping his number would go but still same. I had no body else in Lagos nor knowing any where as that was my first time in Lagos. So I was just roaming around the park the whole day like a lost sheep, hungry, frustrating and pains but still hoping for his call but none came. When I tried reaching via Facebook and realized I was blocked, that was when it dawned on me that I have to start going back immediately. Already, transport fare from PH to Lagos finished about N10,500. So I was left with about 4k on me. At that point in the evening, I knew my best bet as I said earlier was to find my way back immediately but I didn't even have enough cash for my return. I had no option than to start telling people about my predicament and appealed for help to raise fund to return home the next morning. I was mocked and laughed at while some were asking to buy my phone at a very ridiculous amount. But then at that point, I could have sold it at the ridiculous amount but the phone was the only medium of communication with people especially my mum who was already worried over the journey right from the onset. I kept approaching people to help me and until one man graciously completed the money for me and I paid for my return.
On reaching home, I did nothing than thanking God that at least my case wasn't like that of late Iniobong Umoren. At least I came back home alive...which is the most important thing. But what I don't understand is why the guy chose to be that wicked to me forgetting this world is a very small place. I mean if there was never a job, why did he have to put me through that? Anyways, I have since moved on. Not even swearing/cursing him but leave everything for God. Such is life!
Fellow nairalanders, that is the dairy of a Nigerian job seeker. This leave me with the question, "will Nigeria ever be good for ordinary Nigerian?"
Firstly, stop referring to him as your friend. I won't be surprised if he is not even your classmate from secondary school but an impersonator. Classmate or impersonator, it doesn't really matter though because it was a scam.
Someone got your personal information, made contact with you, telling you how he works with an international company (NGO, Oil&Gas, CBN are the usual suspects).
The scam was supposed to follow the lines of you sending 10-50k to buy job application form/job slot/international passport etc There is usually a deadline close by. You become desperate to send money and other documents to start the application before traveling down.
For some reason, maybe the deadline wasn't too sudden for you, the scam went in the wrong direction because you are willing to travel down, and before he could steer you right, you have purchased a bus ticket and heading to Lagos. At this point, the scam was a bust. It is impossible for your "classmate" to meet you face to face so he blocks you.
powerbank100: This story hit home and i can relate so i shed a tear. God dey, the first rule in life is trust NO ONE. you came alone and you will depart alone.
You might want to listen to BLESSED (schoolboy Q ft Kendrick Lamar) while reading while you light up a blunt, it'd help you a lot
Know this and know peace.
you can hit the ground running with a few tips below I you don't have any profitable venture at the monent, this..can be applied to almost anything if you think critically.
imma keep it real with you like my brother from another mother, The educational system in Nigeria has been watered down a great deal but there are still opportunities for grassroot hustlers, best believe that.
All you need now is a hustler's ambition / mindset, you need to grind like one who has no mother or father, its cold out there.
In Nigeria, there are two classes of people (Living things and non living things)...you need to be amongst the living and stop whinning and complaining about this and that, nobody has it easy. If everyone comes to Nairaland beer parlor with his or her story, you go thank God for your life.
Bum imma share some gems with you real quick and if you are street wise, you will take action immediately.
If you must make it in Nigeria, you must think like an OUTLAW. push your fine boy and degree aside, roll up your sleeves and hit the ground running.
however, If you are techy (digital marketing, ecommerce, mini importation)
If you are dead broke don't venture into programming, you cannot effectively learn programming on an empty stomach with lack of data
If you are hands on Plumbing, woodwork, electrical, interior design solar design and installation, phone and laptop repair
Let me give you a brotherly advice, and I hope you work on it... First of all I counsel people and I have done that on nairaland for a while... I have met great and good guys... I dropped a story about my experience teaching in two schools as a corper and would not mind partnering with schools in abuja, but some accused me of looking for teaching job... Never ever mind what people say... Back to the matter... As a graduate, teaching and earning 15k, e no bad... But once you have a good (android) phone, go to any car stand of your choice around your area... Listen well, any good car stand and ask to see the manager... Tell him you want to help him market his cars and get good buyers... 90% of car stand managers will sign u on... Tel him you will be paid a small commission after sales... Pick up your phone, snap as many cars as your phone memory can take, open a dedicated twitter ac, IG ac, Facebook ac, WhatsApp ac, ac etc... Take out time to post this cars, make sure you have the actual prices of this cars... You can add as much as #250k on it... Bring down the negotiations to as low as making #50k if need be just so I can sell. Set your monthly target... I assure you, if you get I client in a month, u make around #100,000k once you start growing, you can get as much as 5-10 client from all over the country and that hits you over #1m for just helping others sell their cars, Note all you invested was your time, energy, phone and data... No big financial capital... Do not restrict yourself to cars, go for industrial machines as well, caterpillars, mikano gens, any thing, then you look for those big companies that need them and try to call their attention to it or market it to them... You may not sell in 3 months but when you manage to get a client to buy just 1 caterpillars, my brother you will instantly forget that u suffered before... A friend of mine was marketing a silo for a local wielder, he received a call all the way from kebbi state, the purchase was made in Ilorin, he made #1.8 mil from buyers and #400k from seller... He still got a referral from that deal. Wake up bro... Within a month or two, come and pay (tite). I drive uber/bolt in abuja, market cars, sell commodities such as beans, maize, wheat, ginger,onions, name it... In bags and tonnes And I make nothing less than half a mil monthly...We all blessed my nigga !
Reach me privately if you are interested in gadget importation and sales from US.
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Nairalanders can't be trusted, know this and save yaself.
But another thing is that, that his facebook account might have been hacked. Possibly maybe you have been chatting with the hacker all this while. The guy is a heartless person that just want to make you pass through tough & hard time. That's how bad the world is.
But trust me, I don't think that ur friend may be as heartless as that. His facebook account was hacked and you have been chatting with scammer ever since.
Just thank God for keeping you safe.
If his Facebook account was hacked, what about his phone number?
You cracked me up. You should understand not everyone can live a homeless lifestyle. I had only about 4k with me in a strange land I never been to before.
Op dont listen to the guy not everyone comes from a rugged background.I think you need to learn some skills to be able to create things with your hands.Search your inner desires on what things you enjoy creating or wish to create.Learn the skills on youtube like 3d painting,join facebook forums,create instagram page of your works etc.
The greatest problem of Nigerian graduate is lack of skills to create something with their hands.
You cracked me up. You should understand not everyone can live a homeless lifestyle. I had only about 4k with me in a strange land I never been to before.
Cream crackers... Continue cracking. No land on the surface of this earth is strange. You're still in Africa, how about people in foreign lands with no single euro? Like I said continue cracking. Cream crackers
DropsMic: You mustav wronged him sometime in the past.. Some people are vindictive like that.. I have a similar story but unlike yours, mine led to a broken thumb and a fractured wrist
Stay your village do farming, a lot of young boys I met in my hometown during a ceremony there have cars, are doing well. Lagos no be heaven, Lagos is for those that can afford it.
