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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by DrPureheart(m): 11:11pm On May 22
Put this on your Facebook
Put his Facebook name there and let people know what he did
Call him out to say his reasons
You don’t just have social media to chat only
@Cpossibility
Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by phorget(m): 11:13pm On May 22
You so called friend is heartless but like other comments would read... Perhaps you've done something that did hurt him in the past and he considered his actions a payback.

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by DrPureheart(m): 11:14pm On May 22
Cpossibility:


Not all. There was never a time like that.
Put this on your Facebook
Put his Facebook name there and let people know what he did
Call him out to say his reasons
You don’t just have social media to chat only
Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by Whales001(m): 11:14pm On May 22
Cpossibility:
What a friend did to me last week.

Just like in my case, so many graduates in the country are today, traumatized, depressed or even suicidal. Nothing is more depressing than seeing oneself jobless after several years of graduation. More annoying is when there's no finance to even start a business no matter how brilliant the business idea could be. If I have capital or even a collateral to use and get some money somewhere, I would rest completely from job hunting.

My ordeal.
Few months ago, I stumbled on a friend on Facebook whom we were school mates back in secondary school. His parents resided outside the state which he normally came back on school resumption and would go back during holidays.

On meeting him on Facebook, taking a look at his pictures, he's obviously doing well and claimed he's working with an international NGO. I told him my pains which is unemployment. Immediately, he was happy and telling me not to worry again that with his connections here and there, I'll get a job. His promise was to fix me either in the NGO, an insurance company, factory work or any other place of which he has links and connections.

We talked extensively and negotiated my movement and arrived I should come over last week. The plans was to stay in his 2 bedroom apartment and until 3-4 months when I can rent my own place. So I moved from Rivers state to Lagos Monday last week with just 16k on me. En route Lagos, we were keeping in touch so to know how closer I am and until I got to Lagos (God is Good Motors park) around 8pm. I called him that I have arrived the park and he said he was coming to pick me.

Long story short, that was the last time his number went. Initially, I thought it was network, or may be temporary low battery. I kept dialling the number through out the night but it never went again. Of course I had no choice than to sleep in the park. Woke up the next morning hoping his number would go but still same. I had no body else in Lagos nor knowing any where as that was my first time in Lagos. So I was just roaming around the park the whole day like a lost sheep, hungry, frustrating and pains but still hoping for his call but none came. When I tried reaching via Facebook and realized I was blocked, that was when it dawned on me that I have to start going back immediately. Already, transport fare from PH to Lagos finished about N10,500. So I was left with about 4k on me. At that point in the evening, I knew my best bet as I said earlier was to find my way back immediately but I didn't even have enough cash for my return. I had no option than to start telling people about my predicament and appealed for help to raise fund to return home the next morning. I was mocked and laughed at while some were asking to buy my phone at a very ridiculous amount. But then at that point, I could have sold it at the ridiculous amount but the phone was the only medium of communication with people especially my mum who was already worried over the journey right from the onset. I kept approaching people to help me and until one man graciously completed the money for me and I paid for my return.

On reaching home, I did nothing than thanking God that at least my case wasn't like that of late Iniobong Umoren. At least I came back home alive...which is the most important thing. But what I don't understand is why the guy chose to be that wicked to me forgetting this world is a very small place. I mean if there was never a job, why did he have to put me through that? Anyways, I have since moved on. Not even swearing/cursing him but leave everything for God. Such is life!

Fellow nairalanders, that is the dairy of a Nigerian job seeker. This leave me with the question, "will Nigeria ever be good for ordinary Nigerian?"
What is your qualification and area of specialization.....

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by YungMillionaire: 11:15pm On May 22
pekisdgee:
you are taking about lagos try abuja... dey barley ccommodate... shey make i soro so ke?

soro so ke joor! cheesy

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by Kaypeeboss(m): 11:15pm On May 22
powerbank100:
This story hit home and i can relate so i shed a tear. God dey, the first rule in life is trust NO ONE. you came alone and you will depart alone.

Know this and know peace.

you can hit the ground running with a few tips below I you don't have any profitable venture at the monent, this..can be applied to almost anything if you think critically.


imma keep it real with you like my brother from another mother, The educational system in Nigeria has been watered down a great deal but there are still opportunities for grassroot hustlers, best believe that.

All you need now is a hustler's ambition / mindset, you need to grind like one who has no mother or father, its cold out there.

In Nigeria, there are two classes of people (Living things and non living things)...you need to be amongst the living and stop whinning and complaining about this and that, nobody has it easy. If everyone comes to Nairaland beer parlor with his or her story, you go thank God for your life.

Bum imma share some gems with you real quick and if you are street wise, you will take action immediately.

If you must make it in Nigeria, you must think like an OUTLAW. push your fine boy and degree aside, roll up your sleeves and hit the ground running.

however, If you are techy (digital marketing, ecommerce, mini importation)

If you are dead broke don't venture into programming, you cannot effectively learn programming on an empty stomach with lack of data


If you are hands on Plumbing, woodwork, electrical, interior design solar design and installation, phone and laptop repair


Let me give you a brotherly advice, and I hope you work on it...
First of all I counsel people and I have done that on nairaland for a while... I have met great and good guys...
I dropped a story about my experience teaching in two schools as a corper and would not mind partnering with schools in abuja, but some accused me of looking for teaching job... Never ever mind what people say...
Back to the matter...
As a graduate, teaching and earning 15k, e no bad... But once you have a good (android) phone, go to any car stand of your choice around your area... Listen well, any good car stand and ask to see the manager... Tell him you want to help him market his cars and get good buyers... 90% of car stand managers will sign u on... Tel him you will be paid a small commission after sales...
Pick up your phone, snap as many cars as your phone memory can take, open a dedicated twitter ac, IG ac, Facebook ac, WhatsApp ac, ac etc... Take out time to post this cars, make sure you have the actual prices of this cars... You can add as much as #250k on it... Bring down the negotiations to as low as making #50k if need be just so I can sell. Set your monthly target... I assure you, if you get I client in a month, u make around #100,000k once you start growing, you can get as much as 5-10 client from all over the country and that hits you over #1m for just helping others sell their cars, Note all you invested was your time, energy, phone and data... No big financial capital...
Do not restrict yourself to cars, go for industrial machines as well, caterpillars, mikano gens, any thing, then you look for those big companies that need them and try to call their attention to it or market it to them... You may not sell in 3 months but when you manage to get a client to buy just 1 caterpillars, my brother you will instantly forget that u suffered before...
A friend of mine was marketing a silo for a local wielder, he received a call all the way from kebbi state, the purchase was made in Ilorin, he made #1.8 mil from buyers and #400k from seller... He still got a referral from that deal. Wake up bro...
Within a month or two, come and pay (tite).
I drive uber/bolt in abuja, market cars, sell commodities such as beans, maize, wheat,
ginger,onions, name it... In bags and tonnes
And I make nothing less than half a mil monthly...

Reach me privately if you are interested in gadget importation and sales from US.

Whatsapp - 0.8.1.1.9.7.5.6.1.4.4.
You are a good man...and you are doing well
Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by lichocho(m): 11:15pm On May 22
powerbank100:
This story hit home and i can relate so i shed a tear. God dey, the first rule in life is trust NO ONE. you came alone and you will depart alone.

Know this and know peace.

you can hit the ground running with a few tips below I you don't have any profitable venture at the monent, this..can be applied to almost anything if you think critically.


imma keep it real with you like my brother from another mother, The educational system in Nigeria has been watered down a great deal but there are still opportunities for grassroot hustlers, best believe that.

All you need now is a hustler's ambition / mindset, you need to grind like one who has no mother or father, its cold out there.

In Nigeria, there are two classes of people (Living things and non living things)...you need to be amongst the living and stop whinning and complaining about this and that, nobody has it easy. If everyone comes to Nairaland beer parlor with his or her story, you go thank God for your life.

Bum imma share some gems with you real quick and if you are street wise, you will take action immediately.

If you must make it in Nigeria, you must think like an OUTLAW. push your fine boy and degree aside, roll up your sleeves and hit the ground running.

however, If you are techy (digital marketing, ecommerce, mini importation)

If you are dead broke don't venture into programming, you cannot effectively learn programming on an empty stomach with lack of data


If you are hands on Plumbing, woodwork, electrical, interior design solar design and installation, phone and laptop repair


Let me give you a brotherly advice, and I hope you work on it...
First of all I counsel people and I have done that on nairaland for a while... I have met great and good guys...
I dropped a story about my experience teaching in two schools as a corper and would not mind partnering with schools in abuja, but some accused me of looking for teaching job... Never ever mind what people say...
Back to the matter...
As a graduate, teaching and earning 15k, e no bad... But once you have a good (android) phone, go to any car stand of your choice around your area... Listen well, any good car stand and ask to see the manager... Tell him you want to help him market his cars and get good buyers... 90% of car stand managers will sign u on... Tel him you will be paid a small commission after sales...
Pick up your phone, snap as many cars as your phone memory can take, open a dedicated twitter ac, IG ac, Facebook ac, WhatsApp ac, ac etc... Take out time to post this cars, make sure you have the actual prices of this cars... You can add as much as #250k on it... Bring down the negotiations to as low as making #50k if need be just so I can sell. Set your monthly target... I assure you, if you get I client in a month, u make around #100,000k once you start growing, you can get as much as 5-10 client from all over the country and that hits you over #1m for just helping others sell their cars, Note all you invested was your time, energy, phone and data... No big financial capital...
Do not restrict yourself to cars, go for industrial machines as well, caterpillars, mikano gens, any thing, then you look for those big companies that need them and try to call their attention to it or market it to them... You may not sell in 3 months but when you manage to get a client to buy just 1 caterpillars, my brother you will instantly forget that u suffered before...
A friend of mine was marketing a silo for a local wielder, he received a call all the way from kebbi state, the purchase was made in Ilorin, he made #1.8 mil from buyers and #400k from seller... He still got a referral from that deal. Wake up bro...
Within a month or two, come and pay (tite).
I drive uber/bolt in abuja, market cars, sell commodities such as beans, maize, wheat,
ginger,onions, name it... In bags and tonnes
And I make nothing less than half a mil monthly...

Reach me privately if you are interested in gadget importation and sales from US.

Whatsapp - 0.8.1.1.9.7.5.6.1.4.4.
nice one...abeg d rice Nd beans tins, how u take de sell am cos I get person for north wey go de even supply on a good rate..

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by Originalsly: 11:17pm On May 22
powerbank100:


If you must make it in Nigeria, you must think like an OUTLAW. push your fine boy and degree aside, roll up your sleeves and hit the ground running.


Why would a graduate keep sitting on his degree for yearsss .... jobless ...living existing in frustration and hopelessness ... with tunnel vision ... as in the one and only way to earn a living and be successful in life must be by the power of the degree. If a car ... a ehmmm...... German machine... Mercedes Benz AMG 63 is given to such a graduate in the middle of the forest .... he will be sitting and waiting for roads to open up so he can run Uber to make a living. Powerbank100 hits at the root of joblessness amongst graduates ... pushing pride and the degree aside when it is not helping. The rest of his comment is more than enough to open most closed minds.... and all for free. Gems indeed.

@ topic ..... I agree with SportsHD and Jovialjune .... OP must likely has done the guy wrong in the past and doesn't even know. Like people who keep like a lion as pet.... I had him since he was two days old ... he's now 10 years....I'm like his mother and father! ... next morning he's all laying mauled in the morgue... he didn't and no one will ever know why. Bro.. you did that guy wrong... and this was payback. Regardless... see this as a lesson in life.... the road to anywhere is not without pitfalls.

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by eallstar: 11:18pm On May 22
Nathan2016:
Personally i think this is a handwork of either hacked facebook or you are chatting with someone who is using your friends pics and name.

Op try check well with the facebook link.. Does it correspond with the name on the profile. Also search his number on truecaller. What does it bring out?

Try contacting a mutual friend who might likely be in contact with him.. Try to know whatsup

These yahoo boys are using people profile
The hacker also hack the phone number and speak with him till he reaches park?

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by Nathan2016: 11:20pm On May 22
eallstar:

The hacker also hack the phone number and speak with him till he reaches park?

He first started chatting with him on facebook. They exchanged contact. Probably he was talking with the wrong person all along.

This is just my assumptions. Because i can't wrap my head around how someone can be that wicked.

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by aktolly54(m): 11:21pm On May 22
Cpossibility:
What a friend did to me last week.

Just like in my case, so many graduates in the country are today, traumatized, depressed or even suicidal. Nothing is more depressing than seeing oneself jobless after several years of graduation. More annoying is when there's no finance to even start a business no matter how brilliant the business idea could be. If I have capital or even a collateral to use and get some money somewhere, I would rest completely from job hunting.

My ordeal.
Few months ago, I stumbled on a friend on Facebook whom we were school mates back in secondary school. His parents resided outside the state which he normally came back on school resumption and would go back during holidays.

On meeting him on Facebook, taking a look at his pictures, he's obviously doing well and claimed he's working with an international NGO. I told him my pains which is unemployment. Immediately, he was happy and telling me not to worry again that with his connections here and there, I'll get a job. His promise was to fix me either in the NGO, an insurance company, factory work or any other place of which he has links and connections.

We talked extensively and negotiated my movement and arrived I should come over last week. The plans was to stay in his 2 bedroom apartment and until 3-4 months when I can rent my own place. So I moved from Rivers state to Lagos Monday last week with just 16k on me. En route Lagos, we were keeping in touch so to know how closer I am and until I got to Lagos (God is Good Motors park) around 8pm. I called him that I have arrived the park and he said he was coming to pick me.

Long story short, that was the last time his number went. Initially, I thought it was network, or may be temporary low battery. I kept dialling the number through out the night but it never went again. Of course I had no choice than to sleep in the park. Woke up the next morning hoping his number would go but still same. I had no body else in Lagos nor knowing any where as that was my first time in Lagos. So I was just roaming around the park the whole day like a lost sheep, hungry, frustrating and pains but still hoping for his call but none came. When I tried reaching via Facebook and realized I was blocked, that was when it dawned on me that I have to start going back immediately. Already, transport fare from PH to Lagos finished about N10,500. So I was left with about 4k on me. At that point in the evening, I knew my best bet as I said earlier was to find my way back immediately but I didn't even have enough cash for my return. I had no option than to start telling people about my predicament and appealed for help to raise fund to return home the next morning. I was mocked and laughed at while some were asking to buy my phone at a very ridiculous amount. But then at that point, I could have sold it at the ridiculous amount but the phone was the only medium of communication with people especially my mum who was already worried over the journey right from the onset. I kept approaching people to help me and until one man graciously completed the money for me and I paid for my return.

On reaching home, I did nothing than thanking God that at least my case wasn't like that of late Iniobong Umoren. At least I came back home alive...which is the most important thing. But what I don't understand is why the guy chose to be that wicked to me forgetting this world is a very small place. I mean if there was never a job, why did he have to put me through that? Anyways, I have since moved on. Not even swearing/cursing him but leave everything for God. Such is life!

Fellow nairalanders, that is the dairy of a Nigerian job seeker. This leave me with the question, "will Nigeria ever be good for ordinary Nigerian?"
use another Facebook find the idiot and send the message to him. Just thank him for everything and block him too before he reply

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by Tohsynetita1: 11:22pm On May 22
Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by mmadu4: 11:23pm On May 22
mumu. why didnt you arrange your self before followin your friend . follow follow .
Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by Exodora: 11:23pm On May 22
Cpossibility:


Not all. There was never a time like that.
The truth about your friend is that he was never who he claims to be while you guys where in school , he is scared that you might come to know everything about him that was why he distance himself by not reaching out to you as soon as you arrived in Lagos .
He has been living a fake life not until now you know about him.
My advice stop believing everything that people tell you .

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by Successmind(m): 11:23pm On May 22
I feel your pain....but still smile coz 70% or real Lagos indigenes are living fake life. No go trust person for here oo....


That was a typical example of the explanation of the 3statues @ berger..... only the wise ghetto lagosians can relate.... trust no lagosian coz dema Bleep u up unexpectedly.......

Welcome to Lagos.

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by Exodora: 11:25pm On May 22
SportsHD:

He blocked the OP's number and on facebook.
He just wanted the op to learn that this life is cold.
I once declined to help a fellow stranded friend in lagos. He came from abk, he had a job interview in Abuja and I'd already promised him the money but, didn't give him the money, and I didn't block him, I just blue ticked his messages and declined his calls.

I even posted 3 cups of loud, worth more than the tf he was asking, on my WhatsApp so he could see.

Not that I'm wicked but he has spread gay rumors about me in the past just to get my girl.
Thought I forgot.
Maybe the guy also wanted to payback the OP for something he did or the guy is just plain wicked.
That is so childish of you.

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by frog12: 11:26pm On May 22
lie. unless your burn your home.


juman:
This story similar to many other peoples experience particularly outside nigeria.
A friend of mine got to newyork, called the person that promised to host him.
The person said sorry I cant host you as promised.
He was then forced to think of alternative.

Me I got to europe.
I was immediately thinking of returning back home.
But because nigeria was bad, there was no home to return to.
Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by zolajpower: 11:28pm On May 22
JovialJune:



Send him an SMS, at least he can't block that one and he can't avoid seeing it. tell him in a sincere way if you've ever offended him before, that you've thought about it countless times, and nothing seems to come up, try it and see.
Not all phones does that , if an infinix phone blocks your line your blocker won't receive message from you and if you block him/her he can get across to you with an unknown number on the Same number you blocked him / her with grin

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by nonen(m): 11:28pm On May 22
Cpossibility:
What a friend did to me last week.

Just like in my case, so many graduates in the country are today, traumatized, depressed or even suicidal. Nothing is more depressing than seeing oneself jobless after several years of graduation. More annoying is when there's no finance to even start a business no matter how brilliant the business idea could be. If I have capital or even a collateral to use and get some money somewhere, I would rest completely from job hunting.

My ordeal.
Few months ago, I stumbled on a friend on Facebook whom we were school mates back in secondary school. His parents resided outside the state which he normally came back on school resumption and would go back during holidays.

On meeting him on Facebook, taking a look at his pictures, he's obviously doing well and claimed he's working with an international NGO. I told him my pains which is unemployment. Immediately, he was happy and telling me not to worry again that with his connections here and there, I'll get a job. His promise was to fix me either in the NGO, an insurance company, factory work or any other place of which he has links and connections.

We talked extensively and negotiated my movement and arrived I should come over last week. The plans was to stay in his 2 bedroom apartment and until 3-4 months when I can rent my own place. So I moved from Rivers state to Lagos Monday last week with just 16k on me. En route Lagos, we were keeping in touch so to know how closer I am and until I got to Lagos (God is Good Motors park) around 8pm. I called him that I have arrived the park and he said he was coming to pick me.

Long story short, that was the last time his number went. Initially, I thought it was network, or may be temporary low battery. I kept dialling the number through out the night but it never went again. Of course I had no choice than to sleep in the park. Woke up the next morning hoping his number would go but still same. I had no body else in Lagos nor knowing any where as that was my first time in Lagos. So I was just roaming around the park the whole day like a lost sheep, hungry, frustrating and pains but still hoping for his call but none came. When I tried reaching via Facebook and realized I was blocked, that was when it dawned on me that I have to start going back immediately. Already, transport fare from PH to Lagos finished about N10,500. So I was left with about 4k on me. At that point in the evening, I knew my best bet as I said earlier was to find my way back immediately but I didn't even have enough cash for my return. I had no option than to start telling people about my predicament and appealed for help to raise fund to return home the next morning. I was mocked and laughed at while some were asking to buy my phone at a very ridiculous amount. But then at that point, I could have sold it at the ridiculous amount but the phone was the only medium of communication with people especially my mum who was already worried over the journey right from the onset. I kept approaching people to help me and until one man graciously completed the money for me and I paid for my return.

On reaching home, I did nothing than thanking God that at least my case wasn't like that of late Iniobong Umoren. At least I came back home alive...which is the most important thing. But what I don't understand is why the guy chose to be that wicked to me forgetting this world is a very small place. I mean if there was never a job, why did he have to put me through that? Anyways, I have since moved on. Not even swearing/cursing him but leave everything for God. Such is life!

Fellow nairalanders, that is the dairy of a Nigerian job seeker. This leave me with the question, "will Nigeria ever be good for ordinary Nigerian?"

I felt bad and touched about your story. He’s not your friend anyways. No matter what or how you may have offended him in the past, the worst a wicked person who wants to pay you back in your own coin could do, is to decline to help, rather than bringing you so far and excommunicated you - that was beyond wicked.
Like many persons have already said, take it as blessing in disguise.
Anyone who blames you on this your experience is similar or even worse that your supposed wicked friend.

Send me your bank account details make I mellow your mind small - you need a positive attitude and mind ahead of your new week.

I don wire you 5k make you use relax your mind and try to move on.

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by frog12: 11:28pm On May 22
no I'm not wicked. these types of people that narrate the story are usually selfish. they want too much from people.

then they start to give orders. i want this, I want dat. you have to understand, him friend couldn't say no to him directly.

try to be mature and don't put people in uncomfortable situations !



Nathan2016:



You sound very wicked. Uncomfortable position to allow someone that is broke travel more than 6 hourd journey. Telling him you can help him get a job?

Nigerian like you are just something else sha. I hope not to meet someone with your mentality in this life

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by ShawnT(m): 11:29pm On May 22
So sad
Cpossibility:
What a friend did to me last week.

Just like in my case, so many graduates in the country are today, traumatized, depressed or even suicidal. Nothing is more depressing than seeing oneself jobless after several years of graduation. More annoying is when there's no finance to even start a business no matter how brilliant the business idea could be. If I have capital or even a collateral to use and get some money somewhere, I would rest completely from job hunting.

My ordeal.
Few months ago, I stumbled on a friend on Facebook whom we were school mates back in secondary school. His parents resided outside the state which he normally came back on school resumption and would go back during holidays.

On meeting him on Facebook, taking a look at his pictures, he's obviously doing well and claimed he's working with an international NGO. I told him my pains which is unemployment. Immediately, he was happy and telling me not to worry again that with his connections here and there, I'll get a job. His promise was to fix me either in the NGO, an insurance company, factory work or any other place of which he has links and connections.

We talked extensively and negotiated my movement and arrived I should come over last week. The plans was to stay in his 2 bedroom apartment and until 3-4 months when I can rent my own place. So I moved from Rivers state to Lagos Monday last week with just 16k on me. En route Lagos, we were keeping in touch so to know how closer I am and until I got to Lagos (God is Good Motors park) around 8pm. I called him that I have arrived the park and he said he was coming to pick me.

Long story short, that was the last time his number went. Initially, I thought it was network, or may be temporary low battery. I kept dialling the number through out the night but it never went again. Of course I had no choice than to sleep in the park. Woke up the next morning hoping his number would go but still same. I had no body else in Lagos nor knowing any where as that was my first time in Lagos. So I was just roaming around the park the whole day like a lost sheep, hungry, frustrating and pains but still hoping for his call but none came. When I tried reaching via Facebook and realized I was blocked, that was when it dawned on me that I have to start going back immediately. Already, transport fare from PH to Lagos finished about N10,500. So I was left with about 4k on me. At that point in the evening, I knew my best bet as I said earlier was to find my way back immediately but I didn't even have enough cash for my return. I had no option than to start telling people about my predicament and appealed for help to raise fund to return home the next morning. I was mocked and laughed at while some were asking to buy my phone at a very ridiculous amount. But then at that point, I could have sold it at the ridiculous amount but the phone was the only medium of communication with people especially my mum who was already worried over the journey right from the onset. I kept approaching people to help me and until one man graciously completed the money for me and I paid for my return.

On reaching home, I did nothing than thanking God that at least my case wasn't like that of late Iniobong Umoren. At least I came back home alive...which is the most important thing. But what I don't understand is why the guy chose to be that wicked to me forgetting this world is a very small place. I mean if there was never a job, why did he have to put me through that? Anyways, I have since moved on. Not even swearing/cursing him but leave everything for God. Such is life!

Fellow nairalanders, that is the dairy of a Nigerian job seeker. This leave me with the question, "will Nigeria ever be good for ordinary Nigerian?"
Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by frog12: 11:29pm On May 22
your story is different but always have backup plan if you are on business.

sslcrypt:


4 days exactly
Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by Warlord2014(m): 11:33pm On May 22
I had similar experience some years ago...this guy from my mom's villa I was linked to for temporal accomodation at delta state.
Then I was to go for IT, and because I have never been to delta before, I quested for a relative that stays around warri...on boarding the boss, I called to inform him, while on the way I also kept calling, on getting to warri the whole story changed...dude was like, ' I am not in warri, I traveled to Lagos but I will be giving you my younger brother's number'.

I said okay, I collected the number and dialed... The brother picked up, and after my introduction he told me to call back his elder brother, that he is lying to me that he traveled.I then called him back but his number was switched off, that was when I knew that I am alone... The whole thing seems like a joke to me, i did not freek out, but was laughing inside of me, maybe it was because I had some cash... I had to call my dad to inform him about the situation, and luckily for me help came from his friend who lives around refinery junction. The man drove down to the park and took me to his house (a very nice and comfortable apartment).

It was at this my dad's friends place I started reminiscing about what I would had been in... Guess what, that idiot later called me at pass 9pm, but I ignored it and he never called Even a second time...

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by HRSweetness(f): 11:42pm On May 22
powerbank100:
This story hit home and i can relate so i shed a tear. God dey, the first rule in life is trust NO ONE. you came alone and you will depart alone.

Know this and know peace.

you can hit the ground running with a few tips below I you don't have any profitable venture at the monent, this..can be applied to almost anything if you think critically.


imma keep it real with you like my brother from another mother, The educational system in Nigeria has been watered down a great deal but there are still opportunities for grassroot hustlers, best believe that.

All you need now is a hustler's ambition / mindset, you need to grind like one who has no mother or father, its cold out there.

In Nigeria, there are two classes of people (Living things and non living things)...you need to be amongst the living and stop whinning and complaining about this and that, nobody has it easy. If everyone comes to Nairaland beer parlor with his or her story, you go thank God for your life.

Bum imma share some gems with you real quick and if you are street wise, you will take action immediately.

If you must make it in Nigeria, you must think like an OUTLAW. push your fine boy and degree aside, roll up your sleeves and hit the ground running.

however, If you are techy (digital marketing, ecommerce, mini importation)

If you are dead broke don't venture into programming, you cannot effectively learn programming on an empty stomach with lack of data


If you are hands on Plumbing, woodwork, electrical, interior design solar design and installation, phone and laptop repair


Let me give you a brotherly advice, and I hope you work on it...
First of all I counsel people and I have done that on nairaland for a while... I have met great and good guys...
I dropped a story about my experience teaching in two schools as a corper and would not mind partnering with schools in abuja, but some accused me of looking for teaching job... Never ever mind what people say...
Back to the matter...
As a graduate, teaching and earning 15k, e no bad... But once you have a good (android) phone, go to any car stand of your choice around your area... Listen well, any good car stand and ask to see the manager... Tell him you want to help him market his cars and get good buyers... 90% of car stand managers will sign u on... Tel him you will be paid a small commission after sales...
Pick up your phone, snap as many cars as your phone memory can take, open a dedicated twitter ac, IG ac, Facebook ac, WhatsApp ac, ac etc... Take out time to post this cars, make sure you have the actual prices of this cars... You can add as much as #250k on it... Bring down the negotiations to as low as making #50k if need be just so I can sell. Set your monthly target... I assure you, if you get I client in a month, u make around #100,000k once you start growing, you can get as much as 5-10 client from all over the country and that hits you over #1m for just helping others sell their cars, Note all you invested was your time, energy, phone and data... No big financial capital...
Do not restrict yourself to cars, go for industrial machines as well, caterpillars, mikano gens, any thing, then you look for those big companies that need them and try to call their attention to it or market it to them... You may not sell in 3 months but when you manage to get a client to buy just 1 caterpillars, my brother you will instantly forget that u suffered before...
A friend of mine was marketing a silo for a local wielder, he received a call all the way from kebbi state, the purchase was made in Ilorin, he made #1.8 mil from buyers and #400k from seller... He still got a referral from that deal. Wake up bro...
Within a month or two, come and pay (tite).
I drive uber/bolt in abuja, market cars, sell commodities such as beans, maize, wheat,
ginger,onions, name it... In bags and tonnes
And I make nothing less than half a mil monthly...

Reach me privately if you are interested in gadget importation and sales from US.

Whatsapp - 0.8.1.1.9.7.5.6.1.4.4.

Wow! You should write a book!!! Very impressive entrepreneurial spirit. All the best

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by sslcrypt: 11:48pm On May 22
frog12:
your story is different but always have backup plan if you are on business.


Yes that experience made me create back up plan in every aspect of my life..
Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by bunto: 11:50pm On May 22
Nigerians need to stop this attitude of blaming the victim.
So even if he did something to the guy before (I am almost sure he did not), how is what the guy did right?

Please you people should learn to call a spade a spade and stop making excuses for bad behavior.

-A girl is raped..... maybe she was dressed provocatively.
- Someone steals your money.... Maybe you didn't keep it well.
- A friend promised you accomodations and help of you arrive town and then ghosts you..... Maybe you wronged him on the past.

Why are Nigerians so shallow in their thinking? The guy was probably just boasting and kept baiting OP, probably hoping he will never show.

It happens a lot and many people here on must have experienced similar stuff. So why blame the victim?

People can be funny.. shikena!
JovialJune:
Op must have done something terrible to him in the past, cos I don't want to believe that a friend will make Op travel all the way to Lagos, even talk to him en-route assuring him all is well, then ghost him, no way he was just plainly wicked, no way.

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by IkengaRussell(m): 11:50pm On May 22
Cpossibility:
What a friend did to me last week.

Just like in my case, so many graduates in the country are today, traumatized, depressed or even suicidal. Nothing is more depressing than seeing oneself jobless after several years of graduation. More annoying is when there's no finance to even start a business no matter how brilliant the business idea could be. If I have capital or even a collateral to use and get some money somewhere, I would rest completely from job hunting.

My ordeal.
Few months ago, I stumbled on a friend on Facebook whom we were school mates back in secondary school. His parents resided outside the state which he normally came back on school resumption and would go back during holidays.

On meeting him on Facebook, taking a look at his pictures, he's obviously doing well and claimed he's working with an international NGO. I told him my pains which is unemployment. Immediately, he was happy and telling me not to worry again that with his connections here and there, I'll get a job. His promise was to fix me either in the NGO, an insurance company, factory work or any other place of which he has links and connections.

We talked extensively and negotiated my movement and arrived I should come over last week. The plans was to stay in his 2 bedroom apartment and until 3-4 months when I can rent my own place. So I moved from Rivers state to Lagos Monday last week with just 16k on me. En route Lagos, we were keeping in touch so to know how closer I am and until I got to Lagos (God is Good Motors park) around 8pm. I called him that I have arrived the park and he said he was coming to pick me.

Long story short, that was the last time his number went. Initially, I thought it was network, or may be temporary low battery. I kept dialling the number through out the night but it never went again. Of course I had no choice than to sleep in the park. Woke up the next morning hoping his number would go but still same. I had no body else in Lagos nor knowing any where as that was my first time in Lagos. So I was just roaming around the park the whole day like a lost sheep, hungry, frustrating and pains but still hoping for his call but none came. When I tried reaching via Facebook and realized I was blocked, that was when it dawned on me that I have to start going back immediately. Already, transport fare from PH to Lagos finished about N10,500. So I was left with about 4k on me. At that point in the evening, I knew my best bet as I said earlier was to find my way back immediately but I didn't even have enough cash for my return. I had no option than to start telling people about my predicament and appealed for help to raise fund to return home the next morning. I was mocked and laughed at while some were asking to buy my phone at a very ridiculous amount. But then at that point, I could have sold it at the ridiculous amount but the phone was the only medium of communication with people especially my mum who was already worried over the journey right from the onset. I kept approaching people to help me and until one man graciously completed the money for me and I paid for my return.

On reaching home, I did nothing than thanking God that at least my case wasn't like that of late Iniobong Umoren. At least I came back home alive...which is the most important thing. But what I don't understand is why the guy chose to be that wicked to me forgetting this world is a very small place. I mean if there was never a job, why did he have to put me through that? Anyways, I have since moved on. Not even swearing/cursing him but leave everything for God. Such is life!

Fellow nairalanders, that is the dairy of a Nigerian job seeker. This leave me with the question, "will Nigeria ever be good for ordinary Nigerian?"


I'm so sorry for the atrocity that was meted out to you.Your so called "friend" will surely get his comeuppance.People like that always get a taste of their own medicine.God will provide you with the fortitude to endure and persvere,till you get a job..As for me,if i were in your shoes,anyday i come across that guy,i go give am ethical casualty..He's gon bleed profusely.Swears!!! angry angry

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by yesloaded: 11:50pm On May 22
Cpossibility:
What a friend did to me last week.

Just like in my case, so many graduates in the country are today, traumatized, depressed or even suicidal. Nothing is more depressing than seeing oneself jobless after several years of graduation. More annoying is when there's no finance to even start a business no matter how brilliant the business idea could be. If I have capital or even a collateral to use and get some money somewhere, I would rest completely from job hunting.

My ordeal.
Few months ago, I stumbled on a friend on Facebook whom we were school mates back in secondary school. His parents resided outside the state which he normally came back on school resumption and would go back during holidays.

On meeting him on Facebook, taking a look at his pictures, he's obviously doing well and claimed he's working with an international NGO. I told him my pains which is unemployment. Immediately, he was happy and telling me not to worry again that with his connections here and there, I'll get a job. His promise was to fix me either in the NGO, an insurance company, factory work or any other place of which he has links and connections.

We talked extensively and negotiated my movement and arrived I should come over last week. The plans was to stay in his 2 bedroom apartment and until 3-4 months when I can rent my own place. So I moved from Rivers state to Lagos Monday last week with just 16k on me. En route Lagos, we were keeping in touch so to know how closer I am and until I got to Lagos (God is Good Motors park) around 8pm. I called him that I have arrived the park and he said he was coming to pick me.

Long story short, that was the last time his number went. Initially, I thought it was network, or may be temporary low battery. I kept dialling the number through out the night but it never went again. Of course I had no choice than to sleep in the park. Woke up the next morning hoping his number would go but still same. I had no body else in Lagos nor knowing any where as that was my first time in Lagos. So I was just roaming around the park the whole day like a lost sheep, hungry, frustrating and pains but still hoping for his call but none came. When I tried reaching via Facebook and realized I was blocked, that was when it dawned on me that I have to start going back immediately. Already, transport fare from PH to Lagos finished about N10,500. So I was left with about 4k on me. At that point in the evening, I knew my best bet as I said earlier was to find my way back immediately but I didn't even have enough cash for my return. I had no option than to start telling people about my predicament and appealed for help to raise fund to return home the next morning. I was mocked and laughed at while some were asking to buy my phone at a very ridiculous amount. But then at that point, I could have sold it at the ridiculous amount but the phone was the only medium of communication with people especially my mum who was already worried over the journey right from the onset. I kept approaching people to help me and until one man graciously completed the money for me and I paid for my return.

On reaching home, I did nothing than thanking God that at least my case wasn't like that of late Iniobong Umoren. At least I came back home alive...which is the most important thing. But what I don't understand is why the guy chose to be that wicked to me forgetting this world is a very small place. I mean if there was never a job, why did he have to put me through that? Anyways, I have since moved on. Not even swearing/cursing him but leave everything for God. Such is life!

Fellow nairalanders, that is the dairy of a Nigerian job seeker. This leave me with the question, "will Nigeria ever be good for ordinary Nigerian?"

Human being can be wicked some times but thank God that you are back home safely

What's your academic qualifications?

What are your work experience?

You can make it wherever you are with hardwork, prayer, & God's favour

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by Asour: 11:53pm On May 22
3lovelyflowers:
Lalasticlala, this is too much for a job seeking Nigerian. Buhari is not the only wicked person after all.

True!

The average Nigerian is unreliable (lacks Integrity & often incompetent). Those are our bane as a country. Not just PMB's leadership.

God help us!

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by Kachikey(m): 11:55pm On May 22
That guy no try at all, he should remember that we rise by helping each other.... The law of karma will sure pay him a visit one day...

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Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by Kachikey(m): 12:00am On May 23
powerbank100:
This story hit home and i can relate so i shed a tear. God dey, the first rule in life is trust NO ONE. you came alone and you will depart alone.

Know this and know peace.

you can hit the ground running with a few tips below I you don't have any profitable venture at the monent, this..can be applied to almost anything if you think critically.


imma keep it real with you like my brother from another mother, The educational system in Nigeria has been watered down a great deal but there are still opportunities for grassroot hustlers, best believe that.

All you need now is a hustler's ambition / mindset, you need to grind like one who has no mother or father, its cold out there.

In Nigeria, there are two classes of people (Living things and non living things)...you need to be amongst the living and stop whinning and complaining about this and that, nobody has it easy. If everyone comes to Nairaland beer parlor with his or her story, you go thank God for your life.

Bum imma share some gems with you real quick and if you are street wise, you will take action immediately.

If you must make it in Nigeria, you must think like an OUTLAW. push your fine boy and degree aside, roll up your sleeves and hit the ground running.

however, If you are techy (digital marketing, ecommerce, mini importation)

If you are dead broke don't venture into programming, you cannot effectively learn programming on an empty stomach with lack of data


If you are hands on Plumbing, woodwork, electrical, interior design solar design and installation, phone and laptop repair


Let me give you a brotherly advice, and I hope you work on it...
First of all I counsel people and I have done that on nairaland for a while... I have met great and good guys...
I dropped a story about my experience teaching in two schools as a corper and would not mind partnering with schools in abuja, but some accused me of looking for teaching job... Never ever mind what people say...
Back to the matter...
As a graduate, teaching and earning 15k, e no bad... But once you have a good (android) phone, go to any car stand of your choice around your area... Listen well, any good car stand and ask to see the manager... Tell him you want to help him market his cars and get good buyers... 90% of car stand managers will sign u on... Tel him you will be paid a small commission after sales...
Pick up your phone, snap as many cars as your phone memory can take, open a dedicated twitter ac, IG ac, Facebook ac, WhatsApp ac, ac etc... Take out time to post this cars, make sure you have the actual prices of this cars... You can add as much as #250k on it... Bring down the negotiations to as low as making #50k if need be just so I can sell. Set your monthly target... I assure you, if you get I client in a month, u make around #100,000k once you start growing, you can get as much as 5-10 client from all over the country and that hits you over #1m for just helping others sell their cars, Note all you invested was your time, energy, phone and data... No big financial capital...
Do not restrict yourself to cars, go for industrial machines as well, caterpillars, mikano gens, any thing, then you look for those big companies that need them and try to call their attention to it or market it to them... You may not sell in 3 months but when you manage to get a client to buy just 1 caterpillars, my brother you will instantly forget that u suffered before...
A friend of mine was marketing a silo for a local wielder, he received a call all the way from kebbi state, the purchase was made in Ilorin, he made #1.8 mil from buyers and #400k from seller... He still got a referral from that deal. Wake up bro...
Within a month or two, come and pay (tite).
I drive uber/bolt in abuja, market cars, sell commodities such as beans, maize, wheat,
ginger,onions, name it... In bags and tonnes
And I make nothing less than half a mil monthly...

Reach me privately if you are interested in gadget importation and sales from US.

Whatsapp - 0.8.1.1.9.7.5.6.1.4.4.
.




Bro hope u don't mind me contacting you, i love your ideal I would love to try it, thing hasn't been easy for me. Thanks
Re: What A Friend Did To Me Last Week. by Originalsly: 12:00am On May 23
juman:


This story similar to many other peoples experience particularly outside nigeria.
A friend of mine got to newyork, called the person that promised to host him.
The person said sorry I cant host you as promised.
He was then forced to think of alternative.


I went to pick up a Nairalander at New York JFK ... she was with two others ... stranded... no phone... broke... I felt bad for them. They gave me two numbers to call... one was out... the other a woman responded and apparently didn't know them very well ... but promised somebody will be coming to pick them up ... all the way from New Jersey?... at night? I always wonder what became of them.... they didn't even have much luggage. Did they just come and hope to find their way?... hit the ground running?... or their host never showed up? Whether local or international... there must be a Plan B and C.

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