Good morning nairalader,I am Kz fro the north East part of the country,I am into business and I am doing well financially

I saw a girl I love and want to settle down with her hopefully next year but the challenge is the non of my family members have seen her before because non of my family members base in the state with me,I told her to follow me to my place to know my people but her people insist I must come and do knocking of the door first before they can allow their daughter to follow me to see my people,I thought it was just a small thing until I now understand is introduction which all my brothers disagree that I can't do any introduction without them seeing the lady's first.pls how can I go with this matter.thanks

Well, confirm with other people within your present locality if truly it is the way of the people. Love they say conquers all, if it turns out to be the tradition, you could bring your relatives to understand and they can visit you to meet the girl. They should be more concerned about your happiness in this case.

wale0911:
Well, confirm with other people within your present locality if truly it is the way of the people. Love they say conquers all, if it turns out to be the tradition, you could bring your relatives to understand and they can visit you to meet the girl. They should be more concerned about your happiness in this case.

thank u,u made a valid point

Paramount01:
Good morning nairalader,I am Kz fro the north East part of the country,I am into business and I am doing well financially

I saw a girl I love and want to settle down with her hopefully next year but the challenge is the non of my family members have seen her before because non of my family members base in the state with me,I told her to follow me to my place to know my people but her people insist I must come and do knocking of the door first before they can allow their daughter to follow me to see my people,I thought it was just a small thing until I now understand is introduction which all my brothers disagree that I can't do any introduction without them seeing the lady's first.pls how can I go with this matter.thanks

hi

so that u can access the pussy .

Elope with her.

Put them on video call abeg...

I hope say u go see her people too before you dey quench her for bedroom too ? My guy, the babe no like you, that na the raw truth about this situation. Assuming say na Davido na tell her make she follow am go meet Adeleke, she for cough? Na she for dey disturb the guy sef. Baba, enjoy her kpekus while the offer last sha, I don talk my own finish.
But come to think of it sef, u suppose go show small face for her family too na. What if u be ghost Guy, if her family members know u and she no wan follow u go see ur family, better start getting a plan B. But if the family never know u well, then she's justified with her actions.
I don talk am before and I go talk am again "The day I mistakenly born girl pikin, I go cry like person wey he international passport lost on he way to Airport"

Paramount01:
Good morning nairalader,I am Kz fro the north East part of the country,I am into business and I am doing well financially

I saw a girl I love and want to settle down with her hopefully next year but the challenge is the non of my family members have seen her before because non of my family members base in the state with me,I told her to follow me to my place to know my people but her people insist I must come and do knocking of the door first before they can allow their daughter to follow me to see my people,I thought it was just a small thing until I now understand is introduction which all my brothers disagree that I can't do any introduction without them seeing the lady's first.pls how can I go with this matter.thanks

send them pictures,e no easy o!is ur place far?

I have send them the pics,my parents have no issue ,though my mum is silent on the matter but my sibling insist that they must see her before any introduction

Lalami3232:
I hope say u go see her people too before you dey quench her for bedroom too ? My guy, the babe no like you, that na the raw truth about this situation. Assuming say na Davido na tell her make she follow am go meet Adeleke, she for cough? Na she for dey disturb the guy sef. Baba, enjoy her kpekus while the offer last sha, I don talk my own finish.
But come to think of it sef, u suppose go show small face for her family too na. What if u be ghost Guy, if her family members know u and she no wan follow u go see ur family, better start getting a plan B. But if the family never know u well, then she's justified with her actions.
I don talk am before and I go talk am again "The day I mistakenly born girl pikin, I go cry like person wey he international passport lost on he way to Airport"

I have show in their house, in fact, they know me very well,but they insist their daughter can not go out of their roof to another state except I come and do introduction

Offpoint1:
Put them on video call abeg...

watin concern parents with vedio call?they is nothing as good as they see face to face

Paramount01:
I have send them the pics,my parents have no issue ,though my mum is silent on the matter but my sibling insist that they must see her before any introduction

I support your siblings, they are wise.
So your girlfriend's parents want you to do introduction without your parent knowing/seeing whom you will marry? They must be joking. Bleep any tradition, this isn't tradition. I'm sure if they are your family they will also insist on seeing your girlfriend's family. Her friends should follow her to your family if they are worrying about the country insecurity.



BTW, how old is she?

Paramount01:

I have show in their house, in fact, they know me very well,but they insist their daughter can not go out of their roof to another state except I come and do introduction

She is obviously a child, what do you mean that she can not go out of state, if she is an adult?

How do your people take responsibility for her when they have not been given the opportunity to decide if they shall be responsible to her?

Marriage is between adults oh and not for Adult and child!

Legolast:


I support your siblings, they are wise.
So your girlfriend's parents want you to do introduction without your parent knowing/seeing whom you will marry? They must be joking. Bleep any tradition, this isn't tradition. I'm sure if they are your family they will also insist on seeing your girlfriend's family. Her friends should follow her to your family if they are worrying about the country insecurity.



BTW, how old is she?

25 years old

Her parents are just scared about her safety.

Let one of your siblings come around try and do the introduction.

Just humble, follow them for now.

After you marry the gal. You can take her anywhere you like.

Paramount01:
Good morning nairalader,I am Kz fro the north East part of the country,I am into business and I am doing well financially

I saw a girl I love and want to settle down with her hopefully next year but the challenge is the non of my family members have seen her before because non of my family members base in the state with me,I told her to follow me to my place to know my people but her people insist I must come and do knocking of the door first before they can allow their daughter to follow me to see my people,I thought it was just a small thing until I now understand is introduction which all my brothers disagree that I can't do any introduction without them seeing the lady's first.pls how can I go with this matter.thanks

My guy please apply your number 6, it doesn't make any sense at all for you to do introduction before bringing her home, what of if your parents are not in support. including me your friend.

Divoc19:
Her parents are just scared about her safety.

Let one of your siblings come around try and do the introduction.

Just humble, follow them for now.

After you marry the gal. You can take her anywhere you like.

See lady advice, please as a good mother can you allow your son to do introduction before showing you his fiance? I don't see anything bad for the lady parent to allow there daughter to follow him to meet his parent before introduction. As a guy man they don't trust me be that.

It doesn't even make sense. Besides is there anything suspicious about you?

.....From North Red flag[b][/b]

dharamanil:
It doesn't even make sense. Besides is there anything suspicious about you?

the lady is not from his tribe, that's why.

If my son is an adult of course. I will allow him. People do crazy things for love.

What if they were in overseas and decided to wed over there? I will allow o. But only an Adult son of mine.

Oshin56:

See lady advice, please as a good mother can you allow your son to do introduction before showing you his fiance? I don't see anything bad for the lady parent to allow there daughter to follow him to meet his parent before introduction. As a guy man they don't trust me be that.

It is an age-long tradition, oh yes it is..

I do not think you are entirely out of line though but she should've at a time met/interacted with her soon-to-be inlaws atleast once either planned or by coincidence.. I do not know how long you both have been in a relationship but my deductions from this is that you just started seeing her in your future; you've now seen reasons why you should do forever with this person.. Here comes the big question: "Are you very sure about this?" And then "How sure are you?" These are the questions your soon-to-be inlaws want answers to and as they say actions speak louder than voice..

I do not know how you intend to go about this esp as your family do not live in the same state as you; and afaik her parents would never oblige to her going to see your family.. Here's what I'll say: think this through very very well, sleep over it, pray over it.. If you still have that strong conviction deep down, that she is the person you really want to spend the rest of your life with.. You should then call your family together, talk about it, let them hear you out, make your mum understand, go to her room later, sit with her, hold her hands, look into her eyes, tell her how much you need her blessings & support; do not leave without mum's blessings, make sure she's on the same page, your brothers may not really understand but I'm sure your mum will.. She will help talk to your older relatives, as well as talk them into accompanying you to your soon-to-be inlaws house, they'll then decide within themselves who & who would go with you, you will have to keep them informed on the arrangements & date..

It is just an introduction, your soon-to-be inlaws would want to know you in particular, what manner of person is their soon-to-be son-in-law?.. They're not giving out their daughter to you that day lol so don't be scared.. This is just where you & your people will say to them "we're here with our son to ask for your daughter's hand in marriage"(officially).. Remember you'll still have to come back for the list plus there may be other steps to take before that too..

Just ensure you think this through, it's your life and marriage no be beans, are you really ready for this? Do you truly love that lady & wanna do forever with her? Are you sureee? Your genuine answers to these questions will determine the next action to take, you'll be fine.. My 2kobo!