folks4luv:
I think he is proving stubborn cause your friend is not bold about leaving him. L

Rozcol:
My friend isn't a leech and does not demand from him as well but however his stingy habits portrays a red flag, a man who does not priotize your needs will eventually be an irresponsible man in marriage, he will extend such stingy attitude towards his kids

breathelove:
Girls out there, have you ever asked yourselves why men are usually wealthier than us women. We attend the same school, we have the same laptop they use for yahoo and we even collect money from them. We keep listening to the same advice from foolish friends and celebrities. If collecting money for sex or a relationship was the way, half of all Nigerian girls would have been richer than E money.
many girls have been collecting this money since they were teenagers yet their lives remain the same.
My advice, find real value guys, seek mentorship and connection, not money. Learn to give value. Don't bargain with sex. Never make sex a form of exchange or currency. If you do, like it or not, you are a prostitute.
Follow the guy who is stingy with his money but generous with his knowledge. You have been collecting money all your life yet you remain a dependent.

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Rozcol:
We are exhausted, he won't just go,he's somehow annoyingly very smart.My friend just don't want to appear as been materialistic

sun123:


May your source never run dry
Your wisdom is out this world

When will you be free, cos I need take you out for shopping.... Bills on me.

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

Kobicove:
Where did Nigerians get this idea that if you ask someone to help you make some purchases then the person is not entitled to ask for a refund?

The earlier you free the guy the better for him, he does not need an entitled lady around him

Nephilim:
Tell him straight.
"I want a break up, I can't continue with this relationship, I believe you won't be able to take care of me"
If he asks why, then ask him

"Tell me one thing you've ever bought for me, like you've ever given to me"

From there he'll get the gist.

Such situation doesn't need to be padded. If he's stingy, then he's just a foot away from being irresponsible.

candidbabe:



Jeeeeeeeeeeeesus
He stretched his hands and collected money from your friend for an ordinary banana he bought for her after buying for himself?

Who does that?
Your friend should have dumped him right on that spot gosh!!!

She should have created a scene, disgraced him and dump him right there
Nonsense

AFONAMARO:


It appears most Nigerian youths go into relationship to gain favours.

First, a boyfriend owes his girlfriend nothing, just as the girlfriend owes her boyfriend nothing.
A relationship is place to learn values, morals and support each other. Not one party feeling entitled.

Second, relationship is not a poverty alleviation scheme. If you need money, go get a job. And if a guy needs sex, he should go get a wife. Women are not sex machine, neither are men, ATM.

Finally, a man is only responsible for a wife, not girlfriend. Just as a lady is only answerable to a husband, not boyfriend

Kondomatic:
You think some of us care whether a girlfriend leaves or stays?

If you started life on a stony and thorny path and experienced the contemptuous ways women treat poor guys, you will not give a damn about who lives and who stays.

This is how my last relationship ended.


She: I am no longer interested in this relationship.

Me: Alright................... But why though.


She: You don't do this, you don't do that.


Me: Oh, okay.



And that was it.


I no come this life make woman suffer me.

breathelove:
Girls out there, have you ever asked yourselves why men are usually wealthier than us women. We attend the same school, we have the same laptop they use for yahoo and we even collect money from them. We keep listening to the same advice from foolish friends and celebrities. If collecting money for sex or a relationship was the way, half of all Nigerian girls would have been richer than E money.
many girls have been collecting this money since they were teenagers yet their lives remain the same.
My advice, find real value guys, seek mentorship and connection, not money. Learn to give value. Don't bargain with sex. Never make sex a form of exchange or currency. If you do, like it or not, you are a prostitute.
Follow the guy who is stingy with his money but generous with his knowledge. You have been collecting money all your life yet you remain a dependent.

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

bepositive11:


That guy is extreme though. How can he ask his gf to pay him back a few thousands? What will he do if they should get married? Ask her to pay for everything he buys for her? That's madness

Stingy and financially responsible are 2 different things

Simran94:


These are red flags in relationships. This is why a lot of marriages don’t last, they saw signs during their relationships but they felt once they got married things would be different.

ASSUMPTION is bad especially in relationships. That was why I told the OP to tell her friend to talk to the guy first

Rozcol:
You still don't get it,there are certain things any lady should not overlook in a relationship, a man who doesn't priotize your needs clearly shows you are not part of his life and if you eventually marry such man he won't care about your needs and that of the kids and besides my friend is not materialistic but a reasonable man should know what to do.There was a day they went out together and he stopped to buy some banana and my friend wanted some as well,he bought his own and paid and stretch forth his stingy hands to collect money from my friend to pay for her own,who does that?stop taking sides and hit the nail on the head

Kagd10:


They're in a relationship. He's entitled to walk his ass out if he can't do little stuffs for his girlfriend tbh. Relationship isn't by force hence he shouldn't be entitled to the relationship and walk himself out. I would keep saying that the worst thing that can happen to a person is to marry a stingy person. I'm speaking from my aunt's experience. She's the only one who literally takes care of herself and kids FFS.

Ishilove:

Even people that are not intimately involved with me buy me things, not to talk of someone I am dating. How can he be so stupendously stingy?

breathelove:
Girls out there, have you ever asked yourselves why men are usually wealthier than us women. We attend the same school, we have the same laptop they use for yahoo and we even collect money from them. We keep listening to the same advice from foolish friends and celebrities. If collecting money for sex or a relationship was the way, half of all Nigerian girls would have been richer than E money.
many girls have been collecting this money since they were teenagers yet their lives remain the same.
My advice, find real value guys, seek mentorship and connection, not money. Learn to give value. Don't bargain with sex. Never make sex a form of exchange or currency. If you do, like it or not, you are a prostitute.
Follow the guy who is stingy with his money but generous with his knowledge. You have been collecting money all your life yet you remain a dependent.

hardon1:
Forget girls o, I can only advise when I hear from the guy... Why didn't u mention the amount rather than saying a few thousand... Amounts mean different things to different guys depending on their earning

I bet she isn't giving him pussy. And then expects him to be generous. If the guy is rich as she claims is being given pussy, he wouldn't do that. I can bet my neck on this

yusufmurry:



@OP, if you pretend to be asking for your friend. Then, you are a terrible person. Your likes are the type that will damage a home/relationship. You have sat to be analysing every steps your "girlfriend " makes with this guy.

You have technically been dodging certain questions asked here. For emphasis, let me reiterate:
Pad and what did he buy?
What impact has your girlfriend to this "stingy" guy?

You earlier mentioned that the guy is good. But you're leading your friend to a potentially "bad" guy but money spender.

See, you may not know this but many married folks would tell you. Money doesn't keep relationship or marriage; else there would have been no high divorce rate among acclaimed wealthiest men.

Mind your business or straight up tell your friend to let the guy go. Someone is looking a guy like him.

amazingspiderma:
Tell that lady to go and get a job.

You are not his wife, so you are not yet his responsibility.

You are the one with the private part, you are the one to buy the pad.

So you want to assign your monthly menstrual cycle hygiene duties to him.

To you and the person posting this online, how much is the pad in question that you can't afford.

There is something call prudence. Not everyone from a wealthy home was brought up to impress people.
Some people are prudent. And prudence is a virtue.

Any girl can buy her pad without announcing it.
That's is a fact.